Talking about specific sexual acts can be uber-intimidating. “It’s oftentimes easier to talk about attributes or objects—how sexy a piece of underwear is, or that you really like his beard stubble,” says Neustifter. So start with descriptive statements of what turns you on about him. Most people like to be complimented. Plus, it’s almost impossible to flop when you’re telling him how much his body excites you.
Have a life. Desperate, dramatic, and clingy relationships are often rooted in a feeling of need and desperation for a man to fill your life. Even if you have low self-esteem, work over time to build it. Pursue your goals and be focused, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things that take you outside your boundaries. Don't put up a tough exterior to get over shyness; gradually learn to build trust with a network of people, so that your boyfriend isn't the only person you open up to and share your life with. Also remember to trust yourself first. If you can't trust yourself, you are likely to not trust your man.

Confront any issues that are holding you back from enjoying oral pleasure and then invite him to go down more often. Guys love seeing women in the throes of pleasure, so it is up to you to discover how you are most able to get aroused and experience climaxes so you can then share that pleasure with him. A fully satisfying sex life is possible for everyone. You just need to take the time and energy to focus on your own pleasure. You are worth it!
Take off your clothes -- and talk about it. Don't just start stripping -- let your lover in on the peep show, button by button. If you're taking off your shirt, let him know that it's sliding over your head. If you're taking off your belt, let your lady know that you're dropping your belt to the floor. Paint a picture of your body that will turn on your lover even more.
Please your man in bed by being romantic and you will enjoy a dream partnership. Being romantic is a lovely way to show your man how much you care about him. He will know that you don't just see him as a partner but as a lover as well. You make him feel like a special human being. A lovely romantic gesture you can try is to put roses on the pillows, this conjures up a very special image of romance indeed. It turns an ordinary bedroom into a romantic haven, somewhere you would expect to find in a posh hotel. The look in your eyes will tell him at a glance that you've thought of everything that will give him the wonderful experience that is yet to come. The anticipation will be a very powerful emotion for both of you.
Please your man in bed with kissing him whenever and wherever you are. When you are out and about, make sure you keep giving him loads of kisses so he knows you find him attractive and you can't keep your hands off him. Any kind of closeness is a good thing and the more you find yourselves kissing will give you both the contact you crave for. Being closer together through kissing will give you both the ultimate aim of being closer together in the bedroom. It will please your man immensely to know that the kissing will continue when you are in bed together. Kissing is the one great pleasure a couple can share together on a daily basis. It is the one thing that you can do in private or public that will be such a great turn on for you both.

Firstly, you must understand that there is no one, perfect technique. There is no magic pill. You won’t reach bedroom Shangri-La through whispering one powerful, filthy line in his ear. The true key to pleasuring your man like he’s never experienced, is understanding that you are relying on a combination of factors in your control and outside your control. I’m talking about what you physically do, how well you communicate with your man, your state of mind, your man’s state of mind, how long since the last time your man ejaculated and so much more.
When you’re having a conversation with his friends, ask about him. But don’t constantly talk about him, it would make you look too easy to get. Just a passing word asking how he is or where he is should do. If his friends tell him that you asked about him, he would be confused and yet, warm and fuzzy knowing that you’ve given him a thought. [Read: 30 super sexy ways to keep a guy really interested in you]
You can tell say something to your man that would in still the same feeling as being in a nightclub even if you’re not in one. You could tell how if you were in a nightclub with him, you would let him put his hands all over you while dancing or that you could build up momentum by having dry sex while dancing in the nightclub. Nobody I the nightclub would notice as they are all too busy dancing themselves to notice the dirty things you are doing to him or he is doing to you.
Walk away from him, Bhavya. Do you really want to plan settling down with a guy who takes you for granted? He’s expecting you to hang around for three years before he makes up his mind. That’s crazy and cruel. Either you’ll find another guy or he’ll chase you because he sees how much he misses you. Either option has got to be better than where you’re at now. If you do nothing, you’re telling him it is okay to treat you badly. Not a good message to send if you’re looking for a long term relationship.
Most men love when women initiate sex. But at the same time, be aware that he might not always be in the mood. So pay attention to his cues and when you sense he might be in the mood, seize the moment and initiate intimacy. It takes a lot of courage to initiate sex, but if your relationship is strong enough, you can get vulnerable and choose not to take it personally if he isn’t up for sex when you are.
The energy you put into the relationship is the only thing that matters. Putting in energy doesn’t come from a self-absorbed place, it isn’t attached to feelings of anxiety, fear, worry, anger, rage, resentment. You are outside of yourself and putting energy into giving him that “extra something” that makes you valuable, rare, and inspirational to the guy.
"The reality of the situation is that dirty talk never seems as hot to us as it does in the heat of the moment. In order to capitalize on those feelings, men should speak their mind about dirty talk with their partner while the juices are flowing. It will allow the partner to see where the man is coming from in a sexual and safe way. By introducing dirty talk during a mundane exchange, men risk coming off as weird or too strong."
Take off your clothes -- and talk about it. Don't just start stripping -- let your lover in on the peep show, button by button. If you're taking off your shirt, let him know that it's sliding over your head. If you're taking off your belt, let your lady know that you're dropping your belt to the floor. Paint a picture of your body that will turn on your lover even more.
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well, i agreed (how could i not, he’s cute ;) ). i wasn’t sure if he’d show up. but he did. he did cook n it was awesome. during the party he asked me not to leave the city. when i told him i had no reason to stay back. he said there may be now. so we saw each other everyday after that. went out . he really took care of me, shared about his family. we really like each other. he even said lotta times he really liked me and that he was sad i was leaving. asked me to stay, coupla times. but i really needed to leave. he even came to see me off. things changed totally after i left. he did not call. when i did, he spoke normally and said he had been caught up. later after a week or two, he did nt show any interest to call. so i stopped calling too. once i called him n asked what was goin on. to my surprise he said we enjoyed together. but he cant do long distance. I’m flabbergasted how can anyone just shut off things just like that. was he pretending all the while?
The power of words and how you say those words work to heighten each of his senses and will drive him to perform at his best. Couples and lovers use dirty talking mostly during sex when they can tell each other what they want while in the heat of the moment. However dirty talk can also be used prior to sex to build sexual tension which will then explode once your man gets you in the bedroom...or whatever room.
Confront any issues that are holding you back from enjoying oral pleasure and then invite him to go down more often. Guys love seeing women in the throes of pleasure, so it is up to you to discover how you are most able to get aroused and experience climaxes so you can then share that pleasure with him. A fully satisfying sex life is possible for everyone. You just need to take the time and energy to focus on your own pleasure. You are worth it!
Asking your partner's consent for dirty talk in the heat of the moment is probably not the best game plan – but Backe points out that doing so while things are still semi hot can help make the conversation run more smoothly. "Men should bring up dirty talk before or after a sexual encounter so that a sense of arousal is still felt by their partner," he explains.
This isn’t a staring contest. In fact, according to research, looking away and then briefly glancing back a few times is another signal that lets a guy know you want him to approach. (Ashley Fox explains the process really well here.) You don’t have to overthink it or be weird about it. When you see a cute guy and wish he would come say hi, make eye contact with him, smile, look back at the person you were talking to, and then glance back at him. Repeat one or two times. If you are worried it will be creepy, don’t. When we interviewed guys on how they know a woman likes them, Charles said, “Things like [when] eye contact is made and then avoided and then made again.”
If you’re a little shy, then you might have to get over it if you’re really gunning for the guy of your dreams. Eye contact is huge. It's a game changer. Letting him gaze into your eyes, even if for a second or two, will let him see that you want to be seen by him. That’s intimacy without taking off your clothes. And sometimes those intimate moments that rest on our emotions and pull on our heart strings are the ones we hold onto the strongest. Eye contact also reveals a lot about your level of confidence. Guys don’t just like the batting of the eyelashes, but also what’s behind them –a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to show it.
Always, ask the guy questions about himself. This always lets the guy know that you are interested in him and not just worried about yourself. Every time I speak with a woman who engages me with questions relative to my life, I can tell that she is interested in learning more and for good reason. If the girl looks put together and attractive then she is always worth engaging, I speak more about engaging men here and discuss other tactics for attracting men that most ladies will find beneficial. Attracting men
Trying to string together a full, filthy sentence can actually tamp down your desire, since you’re inside your head, says Jaiya. “When I do sexuality workshops, the word ‘yes’ is consistently one of people’s favorite words,” says Neustifter. Other sexy words that can stand alone: "faster," "harder," and "more." One-word directives let him know he’s doing a great job, says Jaiya. They're the verbal equivalent of a moan.
I was in a situation that still confuses me. Maybe you can help. I know long distance is hard, but I was in one for 4 months. I showed up great – warm, joyous, playful. We had seen each other 3 times and were planning on a visit at the holidays. Due to previous things that were planned for both of us – international travel and grad school exams, we knew it would be 8 weeks to see each other. He travelled and we spoke 4 times over 12 days for 2-3 hours, just having fun. When he got back, he called 10 times in 6 days, emailed, texted, and wrote me a letter about what an amazing influence I was and how we had this great chemistry. He started saying “love you” at the end of a few calls, and I said “love you too”, but never initiated it as I knew we were falling and needed to see each other. I went on an international vacation for 2 weeks and common times to talk were difficult (and I was having fun). We spoke twice by Skype with him asking when we could speak again. We scheduled a third and I emailed him once or twice telling him what fun stuff was happening and wishing him well on his studying. The last call he was late for, which it felt dispointed as I had asked if he just wanted to talk when I was home and he insisted we set up a time. I only said it once, he apologized and we let it go.
This isn’t a staring contest. In fact, according to research, looking away and then briefly glancing back a few times is another signal that lets a guy know you want him to approach. (Ashley Fox explains the process really well here.) You don’t have to overthink it or be weird about it. When you see a cute guy and wish he would come say hi, make eye contact with him, smile, look back at the person you were talking to, and then glance back at him. Repeat one or two times. If you are worried it will be creepy, don’t. When we interviewed guys on how they know a woman likes them, Charles said, “Things like [when] eye contact is made and then avoided and then made again.”
Sometimes words don’t even have to be said in order to talk dirty. Being vocal, by moaning while making love, will be a massive turn on for your man. If he knows you are enjoying it, then he will enjoy it. If you’re silent, he won’t know what you’re thinking or whether you are enjoying it which will make him over think and under perform. Massage his ego a little bit but don’t go as far as to moan so loudly and ridiculously that you’re putting it on as this will also make him think that you aren't enjoying it.
Talking dirty to your man doesn't just have the sole purpose of making him feel aroused. One of the main benefits is that it keeps him thinking of you and keeps him interested in you; especially if you indulge in role play. By using different dirty talking lines and scenarios,it will keep him on his toe sand will have him constantly thinking about what you said and how you made him felt. Having this level of interest will keep him attracted to you.
Believe it or not, sex can be more amazing for you just by slowing down. Amp up your orgasm by letting yourself get to the edge, slowing down and pausing, and then starting up again. And don’ t forget to breathe. Breathing naturally will speed up when we are about to orgasm. By letting yourself slow down and just simply breathe, you’ll control our orgasm. That’ll ultimately make it even stronger. 

In order to figure out how to make things happen off the Internet, I spoke to expert Adam LoDolce, who gives advice to both men and women as "The Dating Confidence Coach". His new e-book, *The Top 5 Reasons Why Quality Guys Are NOT Approaching You (and How to Change That) *) deals with the subject (and can be downloaded for free!) and he agreed to give us his best tips for how get the guys to approach.

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