I don't know whether I like this guy or not and one of my friend also have crush on him but he doesn't like this girl and he alsof told me notrim to friend with her.Whenever he sees me he tried to smile at me and of course I also smile back at him and sometimes he really feel so shyam that his face turned very red and he looks really cute.Everyday I text with him but not everyday whenever I have free time.
The Language of Desire was created through hours of research by Felicity Keith in order to be able to understand the sexual psychology of men and unlock the secret erotic language of the masculine mind. Felicity found that once she was able to do this she could give her man a more intense, connected and erotic experience, which would not only drive him crazy for her, but would also put her at the center of his erotic obsessions.

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Please your man in bed by taking the initiative because you know it's what he wants. He won't ask you to take the initiative because he won't want you to feel pressured. But deep down he would love it if you would take the initiative. Taking the initiative will show him that you want sex which means he hasn't got to second guess what mood you are in. Taking the initiative will show him that you care for him and want him to enjoy himself. Taking the initiative will show him that you have got a mind of your own and he will love you for this. Your relationship will feel like it's on an equal footing and you will both know where you stand with each other. When one of you suggests in the future something new to try you will both respond with gusto knowing or guessing who is going to take the initiative.

“Dirty talk” is perhaps a misnomer, because bedroom banter doesn’t have to be crude to be a turn-on. “Some people find cursing to be completely un-arousing,” says Neustifter. “The words that turn him on might be tender and loving—that can be just as highly arousing,” Jaiya adds. If you’re not sure which he prefers, try alternating sweet phrases (e.g. “I love it when you kiss me”) with more risqué ones (e.g. “I want your [word for penis] inside me.”), and see what revs him up the most. 

You haven’t done this before, so it’s best if you not rush into it. If you move too fast, you may scare yourself and lose confidence in dirty talking. You need to build your confidence around it and feel comfortable. When you want to turn a guy on, you need to be confident. So, you don’t have to start dirty talking by going all out and feeling disappointed if it doesn’t go as smoothly. Instead, start off just by feeling comfortable with moaning or groaning while having sex. Then, in between your moans and groans, throw in an “oh yes” or “right there.” This is very soft and subtle but will give you a chance to test it out without feeling uncomfortable.
I refuse to admit my own feelings till I know he's completely done with her. My biggest fear is what to do once he is done, if that happens. I've been in plenty of relationships, but I wouldn't know how to be in one with him because he's the longest, closest, male friendship I've ever had and at the same time, and we're deeply attracted to each other.
Dirty talk doesn't need to be restricted to just the bedroom. In fact, Manta says leveraging virtual opportunities to practice your dirty talk can help you get more comfortable with doing so in real life. "Phone sex and sexting are often the best ways to practice for in-person dirty talk, because you don't have to worry about saying the things out loud in front of your partner," she explains.
How you feel with the person you’re with is the best indication of whether you’re with someone who’s compatible or not. How much you want it to work is the worst indicator of a good relationship (in fact, usually the people who tell me how desperately they want something to work are highlighting how incompatible they really are from their partner).
Please your man in bed by being sensual because sensuality creates an atmosphere all of its own in the bedroom. I have a friend called Patricia, she is a girly girl and loves everything that sparkles and glitters. Her advice to you is that whilst sensuality can enhance things sexually, it can also enhance your relationship in other ways as well. Patricia says feeding each other strawberries dipped in chocolate can be a very sensual thing to try, she also however says that being sensual in your everyday life and enjoying the world around you, is a sure fire way to enhance the sensuality you will both feel in the bedroom whenever you are in each other's arms.

I did find one major irritant in this book. His advice to "ladies" on the subject of declining an offer included the words "Couch the refusal so as to make it clear the lack is in you rather than him". Perhaps the author and I have differing views on consent, but if I don't want to do something it does not necessarily mean there is a lack in me OR my partner - it just means I have no interest in a particular act. One can graciously refuse a gentleman's request without making either party feel "lacking", thankyouverymuch.

Wallah awesome advices I’ve been with my guy more than a year now even f we r in different culture he always telling me it doesn’t matter and when I answered ur quizzes it just like a test paper also been told by my guy for me ur ryt it’s about inner self must know not just bcz d eyes want to see…and I’m satisfied and happy with my friends guy bcz he is God fearing and teach me lot more of faith values which really was a different from my culture..ALLAH bless U Eric may U continue help people who r in need of advices regarding love and the likes….
4. Be Yourself. Don’t say something to him that you don’t actually feel or you would never actually say. He will sense the inauthenticity and be turned off. When you talk dirty to him you should be having fun too! What you say should be a natural expression of your most free, and confident sexual self. If you don’t feel comfortable saying, “I want to fuck you so hard,” don’t say it. Maybe saying something like, “Your big biceps make me want to take off your shirt and blindfold you with it.” That Might be more your style. Just go with what feels natural, and comfortable. You might also start off with a phrase that is more timid and build his and your confidence to talk dirty over time. What feels comfortable today may change as you become more accustomed to talking dirty.
Tip #3: The Vibrant Vibe. According to Adam, the law of attraction is that like attracts like. By this he means if you want to attract fun and exciting guys, you've got to be fun and exciting yourself. He says, "if you have the stink face' look all night and appear miserable, guess who you'll be attracting? You guessed it, the creepers." Ugh, we all know the ones right? The ones who are all, "I bet I could make you smile, girl." Ew. On the other hand, if you're enjoying yourself, you're more likely to attract great guys. According to Adam, "women who get approached by quality guys always have the vibe that projects I'm loving my night regardless!'" On a non-guy-related note, having fun is always superior to not having fun.
I really like this guy in my grade. And I don’t think he likes me back, but we do hold eye contact, and he does laugh with me, and has touched me before, but also he’s very popular and I feel like I cannot speak to him, outside of SS. He started a band not to long ago and told me that it would be great if I could write songs for him but..... I’m not sure if I should bc I dunno what to write bc I’m only good at love songs and that would be so awkward!!!!
But not for the reason you think! Studies have shown that boys are more affectionate, even more expressive, than girls until they reach school age. At that time, social repression begins — of words, thoughts, feelings — and the desire for human connection goes underground. So taboo is this desire for intimacy that its possibility can terrify men; not because it's smothering, but because they realize how desperate they are for it.

This is a great book! It gives some basic tips as well as some creative ideas to make him moan and beg you for more. Whether you want to take charge of the bedroom for awhile, initiate things for a change, or just be able to give him a better handjob - it is in there. I tried some of the tips already, and they met with very favorable results. *big grin* I look forward to "testing" more of them, as does my boyfriend. For those who haven't had much experience, or worry that he might be a little bored with the same-old-same-old (and don't know how to change that), this book is a treasure chest of ideas and information. Whether your man just isn't the type to try and tell you what to do OR doesn't know the possibilities out there, he will most likely be thrilled with many of the tricks Mr. Wiseman provides.
There are multiple ways that you can position your body in order to perform the best oral sex. Tip #11: The way that most people envision giving oral is with the woman on her knees. This allows for your man to use his lower body to push and pull while you use your mouth. The longer that you do it, the more tired your knees are going to get, and your neck will tire also if you are on the shorter side. Tip #12: Let him be on top. You know when you sixty-nine? Most women are on top, allowing for them to control the oral sex being performed on the man. Feeling a little more daring? Let him be on top. Remember when I said to make sure that you get your throat in shape? This is a really good position to allow him to slide all the way down. Make sure you have some way of letting him know (other than biting him of course) if you can't breathe or need to take a break. Allowing him to be on top gives him the feeling it would if you were having sex, but it is a lot more sensual and kinky. If you allow him to control the speed and the depth, it may be hard on you if you are not used to it, but boy-oh-boy does it give him the best oral sex ever! Tip #13: Lay on the bed while he is standing at the end of the bed. This is a little hard on his end because he will need to bend his knees or lean into the bed, but it gives the same effect as if he was on top while performing oral. This position allows him a sense of control (many men totally dig that) and allows him to slide down your throat a lot more easily. Tip #14: The old-fashioned way of performing oral is with your man laying down while you are straddling him and conducting business. There are pros and cons to this method. The pro to this position is that you have the control and can use all of the tips (yes, pun intended) you want to. The downside is that you can't quite get the depth. This is a great position if you have a bad gag reflex because you can control how far your head goes down. The other downside is if he is getting ready to climax, you are more likely to pull away and he will not get the full effect of good oral sex.
At the tender age of 24 I’ve met 2 10/10 kinda guys, they had the looks, the charm, the intelligence, etc, they were a “catch”. However, long story short, the sad fact is that neither of them wanted me. The point is that no matter how much of a catch a guy can be, if he doesn’t want you move on. Like I’ve said in a previous comment, if he’s not giving you a “hell yeah!” vibe, you best be moving onto the guy who will want you. You can never trick or convince a guy to fall for you. And usually you only find this out after seriously losing yourself in the chase.
Ladies, before you become an expert, you need to practice. People laugh when the thought of giving a banana, Popsicle, or sex toy oral pleasure comes to mind, but if you don't get your throat in shape, you may be in for an awful surprise. Tip #6: Practice. Practice. Practice. His member is going to hit the back of your throat. Either your gag reflex is going to act up, or you will have no problems. Gag reflex can lead to vomiting, so practicing can help train your throat to tolerate the intrusion. Tip #7: Go deep. There is nothing better for a guy (be careful of the teeth) than when you go deep. When I say deep...I mean all the way down your throat. Sounds like it hurts, right? Again, that is where practice comes in handy. Tip #8: Go deep and then rock it from there. Just like when it feels like it is all the way down your throat, bob your head from there. There is something about the tip of your man's member hitting that stopping point and knocking against it that will drive him crazy.
Even if you completely trust your partner and believe that you will never break up, understand that if something goes wrong in the relationship, you might not be able to get those pictures back, and you won’t have control over who sees them — it’s possible that he could share them with others. It’s not fair, and ultimately it’s not your fault, but it’s a reality that you need to acknowledge.
At some point, he will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit myself to? The answer will determine whether the relationship deepens or ends. Do you know how a man decides a woman is girlfriend or wife material? Do you know what inspires a man to want to commit? If not, you need to read this article next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, unbridled passion, the pressure of jobs, children, and managing domestic chores leaves us with no time for sex. Try to give him hints that you are looking forward to a romp. Send suggestive and naughty texts and emails throughout the day. Spontaneity is a great mood builder and the anticipation and build up of something planned can be lots of fun.

Now that you have plenty of dirty lines to use on your guy and get you started, it is time to understand how to say those dirty talking lines. What you shouldn’t do is turn to him with a silly grin and holding in a laugh while saying “I want you right now”… this isn’t going to turn anyone on. Instead turn to your man slowly, put your hand on his chest, gaze into his eyes and softly say “I want you soooo bad”… channel your inner Samantha.


My bf an I have been dating for the past year an a half we don’t live together nor live in the same city, we only really see each other on weekends, it was amazing at first for the first part of the year of being together then all of a sudden he started accusing me of cheating on him with others guys let alone my daughter’s dad that I haven’t been with for 6 plus years, that im using drugs.. so tired of being accused of stupid things I’m ready to start doing them.. do you have any advice?

#3 Be you. When it comes to learning how to talk dirty to your man, please don’t make the mistake of trying to act like you like certain things because they like it. No, no, no. You need to be you and when you’re dirty talking your man, if you aren’t vibing with what they’re saying, then don’t go along with it. Make sure you speak your mind because they do not read minds. [Read: How to unfake your life and embrace you]


Talking about specific sexual acts can be uber-intimidating. “It’s oftentimes easier to talk about attributes or objects—how sexy a piece of underwear is, or that you really like his beard stubble,” says Neustifter. So start with descriptive statements of what turns you on about him. Most people like to be complimented. Plus, it’s almost impossible to flop when you’re telling him how much his body excites you.
Pick the right time to talk dirty. If you want to have a flawless dirty talk phone date, then you have to make sure that both you and your partner are alone and ready to start having a sexy conversation. Your dirty talk won't go very far if you're ready in bed while your partner is having dinner with his mom. Plan your dirty talk date in advance so both of you are free and alone at home or in your rooms.
In the past few weeks, we're not as flirty as we used to be and we still do not talk outside of work. I have texted him a few times and he has replied but it never really turned into a conversation as I felt like I was becoming too pushy. He has said to me that he's "not in any rush" but he seems to be stalling. During the drinks, he seemed very interested, back at work he has become distant.
What Real Women Say: "I was seeing my now boyfriend for a few months, and we already had sex a decent amount of times," says Lisa, 25. "One night when we were starting to fool around he stopped in the middle of it and whispered, 'What's off limits?' It was really intimate and made me feel comfortable being open with him about what I liked and what I didn't. As far as dirty talk specifically, I don't like the name calling that goes on in porn so I told him that, so he's stayed away from that which I think helped me be more open to it."

There are multiple ways that you can position your body in order to perform the best oral sex. Tip #11: The way that most people envision giving oral is with the woman on her knees. This allows for your man to use his lower body to push and pull while you use your mouth. The longer that you do it, the more tired your knees are going to get, and your neck will tire also if you are on the shorter side. Tip #12: Let him be on top. You know when you sixty-nine? Most women are on top, allowing for them to control the oral sex being performed on the man. Feeling a little more daring? Let him be on top. Remember when I said to make sure that you get your throat in shape? This is a really good position to allow him to slide all the way down. Make sure you have some way of letting him know (other than biting him of course) if you can't breathe or need to take a break. Allowing him to be on top gives him the feeling it would if you were having sex, but it is a lot more sensual and kinky. If you allow him to control the speed and the depth, it may be hard on you if you are not used to it, but boy-oh-boy does it give him the best oral sex ever! Tip #13: Lay on the bed while he is standing at the end of the bed. This is a little hard on his end because he will need to bend his knees or lean into the bed, but it gives the same effect as if he was on top while performing oral. This position allows him a sense of control (many men totally dig that) and allows him to slide down your throat a lot more easily. Tip #14: The old-fashioned way of performing oral is with your man laying down while you are straddling him and conducting business. There are pros and cons to this method. The pro to this position is that you have the control and can use all of the tips (yes, pun intended) you want to. The downside is that you can't quite get the depth. This is a great position if you have a bad gag reflex because you can control how far your head goes down. The other downside is if he is getting ready to climax, you are more likely to pull away and he will not get the full effect of good oral sex.


I want to start off by saying thank you for adding a guys input Eric! My question is how do know if your inspiring him to be his best self and inspire him in his lifes mission if you dont know what that is? The guy im kind of seeing has only initiated deep conversation once and it was to ask what i thought about us. Am i supposed to ask him out right or am i supposed to try and figure it out all on my own?
Ladies…all I can say is if you feel insecure about your looks then make yourself more attractive for YOU! Not for a man. There’s nothing that increases a woman’s feelings of insecurity more than doing something to herself FOR a man, or for the purpose of attracting men. It may make you feel confident and powerful in the short term, but that feeling doesn’t last if your focus is on doing it for him. Your purpose should be feeling better about yourself and increasing your own confidence regardless of men. What men seem to forget is that women are not on this earth solely for their pleasure. How you feel about yourself should be totally independent of what men think.
I was in a fwb relationship with a man that I’m compatible with. But his ex wife and ex gf of 14 years both cheated on him. He never wants to date or have a relationship again. He says he’s un loveable too. It breaks my heart because I’m very much in love with him. He brok up with me 2 years ago because he knew I was in love with him without saying. We hadn’t talked again til last week. We had wonderful exciting sex. He said he hadn’t been with anyone in a long time.
"This leaves them with a terribly limited repertoire that often excludes the highly personal element of individual fantasy. The content of mainstream porn also suggests that all dirty talk must be raunchy, hard core, and deeply rooted in gendered stereotypes of sexual experience. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. Dirty talk does not need to be rough, naughty, or even sexual to be erotic. The most enticing chatter can be romantic, teasing, alluring, and flirtatious according to your personal preferences."
The energy you put into the relationship is the only thing that matters. Putting in energy doesn’t come from a self-absorbed place, it isn’t attached to feelings of anxiety, fear, worry, anger, rage, resentment. You are outside of yourself and putting energy into giving him that “extra something” that makes you valuable, rare, and inspirational to the guy.
I, ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for quite sometime,,,,the problem with him is that he replies to my texts whenever he feels like,,,he doesn't pick my calls,,,,when he finds missed calls he doesn't call back,,,,we had an argument the other day and i went as far as abusing him,,,then it was yesterday when i apologised to him and he forgave me but he hasn,t change,,,,he still ignores my texts and doesn't pick my calls,,,,what should i do,,,i love him so much,,,,i Don,t want to loose him,,,,,

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