Got your eye on a guy? Not sure how to approach him, but you’re certain you want him nonetheless? Don’t fret, darling. There are plenty of foolproof ways to get that guy. Playing the field can be hard sometimes –it’s about techniques and patience as much as it’s about timing and confidence. However, no matter how hard you try, or don’t try (because that’s a tactic, too), sometimes the match just isn’t meant to be. When the stars and planets don’t align for the match you thought was made in heaven, don’t get down on yourself.
If your house doesn’t have enough room to make space for a "man cave" then make sure he has a say in how your home is decorated. Maybe there is room for one bookshelf where he can proudly display his collections. Give him time as well as space. Make sure he knows you support him in spending nights out with his guy friends (giving you time for cherished alone time or a night with your girls!).
There's no rule book when it comes to sex—as long as it's consensual and you feel comfortable, that's all that matters. But your first time can be nerve-wracking as HELL. How bad does it hurt? Will it be a life-altering experience? How do you know which hole to put it in?!? Here are 13 things I wish I had known before I lost my virginity, wrapped up and tied with a bow for your educational pleasure.
Consider that little red dress for your next date. In a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers instructed men to rate pictures of women wearing different colored clothing. Guys said the ladies in crimson were most attractive, even more than the exact same women donning other tints! Cultural conditioning, thanks to red-light districts and rosy Valentine's Day hearts, could play a part in the appeal. But biology may be to blame, too: Female humans and other primates go red in the face before ovulating, which attracts males during this most fertile time.
It is known that aggression and arguments can lead to passionate lovemaking which is why everyone is familiar with “make-up sex”. Using crude words can have the same effect as this which is why some couple take pleasure in it but it is certainly not for everyone. Most people want to feel loved when making love which is why using crude words when talking dirty isn’t for everyone.

Drive him wild: Many guys are heavily conditioned to focus solely on the genitals. "If you expand his capacity to have erotic experiences throughout his entire body, you can open up a whole other world of possibility for him," Michaels says. The thumb is actually a sexy spot for a lot of guys. "To suck on a man's thumb evokes sucking on something else, and can help him connect his mind and body during lovemaking. Start off foreplay by gazing into his eyes as you kiss his hands, and then suck on his thumb as a promise for what's to come," Michaels suggests.
For example, many women associate arousal with feelings of being desired. If this is the case, you’ll want to ply her with compliments. “Let her know just how badly you crave her. Tell her that you’ve been thinking of her all day and nothing else will do. Look at her like a ravenous beast…,” says Dr. Jess. If on the other hand, her “F” word is love (she is most turned on when she feels cared for), adjust your words, body language and gestures to show her just how much you care.
Never ever underestimate the power of a see-through teddy to get your guy standing tall. "Anything that makes a woman feel good in her body and sexually confident is very sexy," says sex and relationship therapist Megan Fleming, Ph.D. And nothing is sexier to your guy than confidence. I can personally attest to this fact; my man cannot resist this sexy little (and I emphasize little) red nightie that a nonchalantly stroll around in on occasion. But it's not even just wearing the lingerie. It's the tease, the sexy text you send him letting him know you bought some lingerie but he has to wait until the evening. Take your time and take charge, because the ball is in your court and your man wants it all.
What Real Women Say: "My husband uses dirty talk to give me a preview of what he's going to do to me next," says Isabel, 29. "He'll be fingering me and tell me, as he's doing so, that he can't wait to be inside me like this, or he'll run his tongue along my ear and say that he's going to do that while going down on me. Then he'll take his time getting there – but my mind is already on him following through with those promises, which makes even the smallest thing he's doing to me feel more intense."

I don't know whether I like this guy or not and one of my friend also have crush on him but he doesn't like this girl and he alsof told me notrim to friend with her.Whenever he sees me he tried to smile at me and of course I also smile back at him and sometimes he really feel so shyam that his face turned very red and he looks really cute.Everyday I text with him but not everyday whenever I have free time.
4. Be patient — with yourself and with her. Sex therapists have a saying: "What young men want to do all night takes older men all night to do." Reframe that truism just a bit, however, and you discover a boon to older sex: A perennial complaint of younger women has to do with young men who rush into genital play before the woman feels warmed up and receptive. An older man's slower pace of arousal dovetails nicely with what women prefer, enhancing erotic compatibility. So before either of you reaches for your partner's undercarriage, cuddle and kiss playfully: Use slow, sensual massage to touch each other all over, from scalp to toes. After 30 minutes or so, she's likely to feel sufficiently aroused to enjoy genital play. (And chances are good that you will, too.)

Just like women, men have their sweet spots, and stimulating them manually or orally will make your guy writhe with pleasure. The frenulum (the ridge right under the tip of the penis), base (right above the testicles), and perineum (right under the testicles) are all incredibly sensitive and feel really, really, really good when you touch them with your tongue or fingers. Every man is different, so make sure you talk to your man openly about what he likes, but you generally want to pay some very special attention to these important areas.
A good way to meet someone is through other people, or activities you enjoy. Some advice about being genuine: Don't take up hobbies or habits just to meet someone. If you meet him in a bar, he's liable to be a drinker. If you meet him in a house of worship, he's likely to be religious. First impressions are important, so if his first impression of you is "party person", it will be difficult to change. The same thing goes for if his first impression of you is "uptight person" or "mind-game person".
First thing you need to work on is your tone of voice. You can use a deep and soft tone of voice to start building up the sexual tension prior to sex, or a more excited tone when you want to instigate a quickie let’s rip each other’s clothes off sex. As well as your tone of voice, you also need to work on the speed in which you are talking. I always recommend speaking more slowly than normal and even sound breathless (but not so obvious) when talking dirty, it is far more seductive than talking quickly.
Don't force issues, feelings or sex ever. Roll with it. Read her energy. “Learn how to communicate with and read body language. Don't ever plan on having sex. If it happens on the first night, it's totally fine but it is usually better to wait until you're both sure about the situation. Your goals should be to earn her trust and respect instead of thinking what's the next move to get into her bed. It will be different with all women,” says Hawk. Desperation and neediness are major turn-offs.
The sexual parts of a woman's body are obvious (breasts, butt, vulva, lips) but there are other erogenous zones that are non-assuming yet effective in stimulating arousal when they are stimulated. “The backs of the thighs, the palms of the hands, behind the knee, the abdomen and the bottoms of the feet are pleasure zones that can be rubbed, caressed, lightly brushed or even blown on to generate a sexual response,” says Morgan. Take the time to explore a woman's body before sex by offering a sensual rubdown beginning at the feet and then working your way up to the backs of the thighs and eventually the abdomen. Avoid the most obvious zones to create a level of anticipation for what is to come next. Create ambiance with candles and soft music and make sure the room is warm. You don't have to be a professional masseuse to do this. Use light strokes first and increase the pressure as you go along, but always check in with your partner to make sure she is comfortable.
I recognize that as a man, I set the tone for the quality of the relationship by the way I carry myself. When I don’t find the right kind of woman, I am tempted to settle for less. I don’t want that either. And although it may feel like we are rare and hard to find, truth is, we are here, and when I meet a woman who poses Poise, Feminine Grace, Self-Respect and Playfulness — I absolutely want to win her for life.
So, you have just started giving him the best oral sex ever. Now what? There are three types of men. Some men will get quickly excited when you perform oral and will climax quickly. Some men will take forever to climax and you may end up getting tired or frustrated, jumping into intercourse to get him off. Or, you have the perfect in-between when he will climax before your mouth, neck, throat, and hands tire. Regardless of the time it takes, he may eventually climax. The question is...do you spit or swallow when he finally reaches that point? Tip #15: Be prepared for a variety of outcomes. He may climax, he may not. He may stay hard, he may not. Despite the number of possibilities, you need to be prepared. There is nothing worse than if your man starts to lose his mojo and you react with frustration. He'll be frustrated and there is nothing worse for a man's ego than seeing a negative emotion on your face. Have a game plan. If he goes soft, start using your hands more, or explore other options (or blame it on yourself that your mouth or other areas of your body hurt). Sometimes taking the blame will ease the tension. Tip #16: If your man is about to climax, know the signs. This may be difficult if this is the first time you have ever performed oral, or if this is the first time that you have performed oral on this particular person. Most men will get extremely hard just before they are about to climax. Some will ejaculate with pre-cum just before they are ready to let loose. Their bodies will tense up. No matter what, don't stop! If he is about to get off from your amazing oral sex, don't drop the ball no matter what! Tip #17: Spit it out. If the option presents itself to spit or swallow, many women will opt to spit. This doesn't mean you have to be insanely gross about it. There are many women who do not particularly like the taste of ejaculation. Let it run down his member while you finish him off. This is particularly sexy to men, seeing it drip from your lips and tongue. Tip #18: Gobble gobble and swallow it up! This is for you girls who are a little more experienced. The more versed you are in the art of oral, the more you will tolerate or even enjoy swallowing at this point of performing. You can either swallow a little at a time or keep going and swallow it all at once. Again, the main thing to remember is not to stop. Use your hand to help get him completely off. It will only be like a tablespoon, so when it starts to hit your mouth, don't stop to swallow. Use your hands to keep the motion going so that he can climax completely.
Try this: Have your partner take his shirt off and lay on his stomach with his arms by his side. Hot tip: keep his pants on, but pull them down a few inches for a tantalizing never-nude experience ;). Lightly run your fingers and or anxiety-ravaged cuticles down across his lower back, stopping before you hit ass cheek. Do not pass ‘Go’, collect $200, or go past his crack.
If there is a particular raunchy memory you remember such as doing the dirty in the car or giving him oral while he is driving then whisper in his ear “I’m getting turned on just thinking about when we…”. This will get starting to think of the same thing which will lead to him also being aroused. You could even suggest living out the memory again to give your relationship a bit of a boost in the bedroom department if you’ve been together a long time.

"Most guys have 'things' that they are into, but almost all of us have an overwhelming desire to please — if we know you're into it, we're into it. I was talking to a woman once and casually/sarcastically mentioned that people looking at their phone during conversation made me want to choke them; her response was to immediately take out her phone, and whisper, 'Promises, promises.'" — Greg O., 34, Chicago, Illinois
I want to give you the best Oral SEX, you’ve ever had – You wanted some dirty things to tell your boyfriend? Well, this is it. It is undoubtedly the thing that all men want to hear from you. Guys love oral sex and if you are good at it, then there is nothing else you need to drive him crazy. Just give him a good oral sex and he will devote himself to you no matter what. Try it and don’t forget to thank us later.
How to find it: The sacrum is the triangular bone located at the base of his spine in between his hips (think: the small of his back). There are nerves in the sacrum that are linked to the genitals, so stimulating these nerves can send sensations to his manly parts. In fact, some studies show that electrical stimulation of these nerves can trigger orgasm.
Talking dirty to your man doesn't just have the sole purpose of making him feel aroused. One of the main benefits is that it keeps him thinking of you and keeps him interested in you; especially if you indulge in role play. By using different dirty talking lines and scenarios,it will keep him on his toe sand will have him constantly thinking about what you said and how you made him felt. Having this level of interest will keep him attracted to you.

This is Dana I just want you to help with my issue. I met a guy I obsorved his character he is genuine, and kind to everyone. The thing is that he is making me to feel that he likes me but when I started to talk him as a friend, he just telling me tat he got crush on some one else & her age is 22 and few days after he Says tat he is loving a girl from the same premises and she is 24. I didn’t understand what he is trying to tell. My question for you is did he making to jealous or he just wants avoid me.
You can tell say something to your man that would in still the same feeling as being in a nightclub even if you’re not in one. You could tell how if you were in a nightclub with him, you would let him put his hands all over you while dancing or that you could build up momentum by having dry sex while dancing in the nightclub. Nobody I the nightclub would notice as they are all too busy dancing themselves to notice the dirty things you are doing to him or he is doing to you.

If there is one area I see women mess up time and again, it's in trying to define a relationship or tie a man down too soon. That's because her need to feel "safe" is in direct contrast to his innate desire for freedom and not being tied down. If you think about it, every soldier anywhere who has ever been killed in action has died trying to defend their idea of freedom.
"Many married men worry they're going to get bored of having sex with just one woman," says Haltzman. That's why role-playing is so effective. In addition to having you — his fabulous wife —your husband can also get feisty with the "barista" or "maid." "Entering into fantasy-mode automatically increases levels of dopamine, the arousal hormone, and elevates your sense of attachment," adds Haltzman. So even after you're through getting down with the "cop" or "pirate," you'll feel closer to each other for having done something novel together.

Learning how to talk dirty can actually be one of the easiest things to once you have read through my helpful tips and some dirty lines to get you started. One of the biggest things that stop women from talking dirty to their men is because they quite simply don't know what to say. I have listed many lines for you to try out on your man and from there you can go your own way once you know what he likes.


And you don’t have to use a deep, throaty voice. “Your tone can be funny and joking. It can be cute or teasing, innocent, or absolutely naughty,” says Neustifter. “I encourage women to think about times when they feel the most confident and carefree.” If you feel your best giving presentations at work, for example, a powerful bedroom vibe may be your go-to; if you love laughing with your friends, a fun approach may be better.
The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derrière. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," says Fleming.
The sexy views of doggy style and (especially) reverse cowgirl can be great for ass men, who get to view (and touch) the ass as much as they like.  “When physical limitations do not intrude, there’s also a lot to be said for the excitement of lifting his partner up (legs around his waist for stability, and up against a wall for even more stability),” says Queen. 

So Eric I’ve been talking to this guy almost 2 years. He says he likes me a lot but does not know what he wants we not in a relationship he enjoys my company a lot I like him too but need more.I think he’s confused some times it feels like he wants to and then next time he pulls away say he been hurt so much he’s not ready .Do u think it’s an excuse or what .I know he seeing other people but denies it .Please give me your opinion
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.

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