When you put all your energy into hearing what he’s saying, you are actually listening on two levels: on the first, you’re hearing his words, but you’re also taking in what he’s communicating nonverbally. And since 60-80% of our communication is nonverbal,  this is incredibly important to pick up on, especially if you want to learn how to make a man fall in love with you madly.
Tip #4: Be easy to approach, hard to obtain. Although we're torn on whether playing hard to get is a good thing or not—for the record, Adam says that men DO want a challenge when it comes to winning you over—it's common sense that most men are terrified to make the move. So save the challenge for later, Adam advises: "Make it easy for them, open up your body, make eye contact and give them the clear signal that it's cool to break the ice. One the ice is broken, now you can tease him, test him and make him work for it...just the way he likes it."

Of course, these are all just examples. You could take dirty talking in infinite directions. As long as you are true to your own sexuality, you’ll never do it “wrong.” The trick is to switch on that part of his brain that is hard-wired to think of sex, but to put your face and body, your voice and personality into those neuronal connections he’s making that translate to: hot sex = this woman. This will make him yearn for you even when you aren’t together, and ramp up your sex life by creating sexual tension.
You have a serious problem if he is too shy to talk with you. How will you ever communicate about all the important issues you are likely to face in a long-term relationship? I'm not sure what kind of a relationship you're in or how long you've been together, but if you can't convince him to trust you enough to open up and communicate with you, I genuinely believe you'd be better off with someone else. And I suspect he'd be happier if he waits until he finds a partner better suited to him. Either someone who is happy and comfortable with the silence or someone who has the unique qualities he needs to allow him to feel comfortable enough to be open and communicative.

Once you're in the bedroom (and aware of his insecurities), remind him of how much you enjoy being intimate. For example, if he's worried about his weight, maybe give him a sexy once-over and tell him how how buff he looks naked. Other key areas to compliment: His gut, as men often worry about the size of it (and other measurable parts), and their hair, as guys tend to feel self-conscious once they start losing it.


Drop the games. Nobody likes a partner who plays "head games". This is deceptive, and will hurt anybody who trusts you. Be real, don't play games, and good men will respect you and may even pursue you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the communication thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don't push him away and act like you don't like him. Tell him. Yes, there are some men who do like the thrill of the chase, but all good men genuinely want to respect you and your wishes, and will leave you alone if you insist on it. Remember, men communicate directly; if you act like you don't want him, he'll think you don't want him.
Important Note: While I do believe – and have seen proof – that the advice and programs I provide can help you improve your love life , please understand that not everyone will experience the exact same results. To get the best results, you must use the advice I give you. Every person is an individual and every situation is unique so no single piece of advice will work for everyone at every time. But I can tell you that if you read the advice and continually apply it in your life, your chances of success increase dramatically. And I’m here to help you every step of the way. Let’s get started!
#8 You can start by texting. Texting is usually the easiest way to get into dirty talking if you’re not used to doing it. Plus, you have more time to think about what you want to say and reply back to them, so, overall, it’s a less stressful situation. And, you can test the waters by doing it via text. Make a comment about having a shower, or how you can’t stop thinking about them. Curving into the dirty talk from there. [Read: How to learn to send your boyfriend steamy texts]
Hey.. I’m in love with this guy for almost 6 months now and we are in a long distance relationship..since from the day we met he treated me like I’m the only girl in the world he respect me like I’m around him always he calls me day and night.. And we hardly see each other because of his work and the distance between us.. Few days back I visited him where he stays and he introduced me to everyone around him and everything was good until I hold his phone while he was asleep.. I found out that his cheating for me which changed everything ..I’m a Moody person.. Then I asked him everything and he answered me some not everything.. Then he apologized about his doings and promise me that he will short everything out soon.. And I did forgiven him but sometimes i feel like I have done a wrong thing it will happen again and we are living miles apart so I’m afraid.. Please I need an advice on what to do!
By now, you see how deeply devious and manipulative this is. You may also realize unwittingly having done something like this to some poor sap at some point in your life (twenties?). You were initially interested, gave him your number, went out with him once or twice. But then you got busy — exams, big project at work — and he got relegated to the back of your mind. Then you thought about him again and responded to him positively, only to withdraw for some reason. That’s when he started acting clingy and weird, so you decided to ignore him, which whetted his appetite even more, much to your annoyance and confusion.

Of course, these are all just examples. You could take dirty talking in infinite directions. As long as you are true to your own sexuality, you’ll never do it “wrong.” The trick is to switch on that part of his brain that is hard-wired to think of sex, but to put your face and body, your voice and personality into those neuronal connections he’s making that translate to: hot sex = this woman. This will make him yearn for you even when you aren’t together, and ramp up your sex life by creating sexual tension.
He preceded to tell me about how she kept going for a few minutes without even realizing that she was actually having the opposite effect. Before long, he was totally cold to the idea of having sex with her, so the rest of the evening was just spent in a mediocre cuddle on the sofa while they watched a movie. They didn’t last very long as he just didn’t find her very attractive after that, despite her actually being what I would call quite a hot young lady. I’m sure that he probably had a few other reasons for not wanting to continue seeing her besides this, but her attempt at dirty talk certainly didn’t help!
Seems like a no-brainer, right? Unfortunately, not all women realize how sensitive this area of the body is on a man. If you just happen to scrape your teeth across the head or shaft...the pleasure may be gone right then and there. Tip #4: Your jaw may get tired. Pay attention to how wide your mouth is. Surround his member, but give some room in case your jaw starts to close out of exhaustion. Practice and experience will help you to develop your jaw muscles so that they won't get tired as quickly. If you accidentally scrape your man with your teeth, he will be sure to let you know. Whatever you do, don't bite him. It is not erotic, and it will hurt him. Use your tongue and some spit to help relieve the sting if you happen to nibble by accident. Tip #5: If you have dentures...take them out. Yes, older women and women with dentures have this advantage. It can really make a difference. Self-conscious or not, your husband or boyfriend will truly appreciate the gesture. Oral is meant to feel good, not hurt.
Nothing in the world is new. Alot of the ideas in here I've found in other places, but really for the price, even 3 or 4 new discoveries would have made my day. Many of his tricks are subtle. (not holding back on vocalizing being a simple example that helped our love life dramaticly. not faking, but just not restraining myself) Others are a bit more involved (various substances to be aquired beforehand etc)
Find your "dirty talk" voice. It should still sound like you -- but like a sexier, slower-talking version of you. Don't use the same voice you would use to ask your honey how his day went. Instead, talk a bit lower and more slowly -- you can even lower your voice to a near-whisper if you want to. Just make sure it still sounds like you to an extent.

There are multiple ways that you can position your body in order to perform the best oral sex. Tip #11: The way that most people envision giving oral is with the woman on her knees. This allows for your man to use his lower body to push and pull while you use your mouth. The longer that you do it, the more tired your knees are going to get, and your neck will tire also if you are on the shorter side. Tip #12: Let him be on top. You know when you sixty-nine? Most women are on top, allowing for them to control the oral sex being performed on the man. Feeling a little more daring? Let him be on top. Remember when I said to make sure that you get your throat in shape? This is a really good position to allow him to slide all the way down. Make sure you have some way of letting him know (other than biting him of course) if you can't breathe or need to take a break. Allowing him to be on top gives him the feeling it would if you were having sex, but it is a lot more sensual and kinky. If you allow him to control the speed and the depth, it may be hard on you if you are not used to it, but boy-oh-boy does it give him the best oral sex ever! Tip #13: Lay on the bed while he is standing at the end of the bed. This is a little hard on his end because he will need to bend his knees or lean into the bed, but it gives the same effect as if he was on top while performing oral. This position allows him a sense of control (many men totally dig that) and allows him to slide down your throat a lot more easily. Tip #14: The old-fashioned way of performing oral is with your man laying down while you are straddling him and conducting business. There are pros and cons to this method. The pro to this position is that you have the control and can use all of the tips (yes, pun intended) you want to. The downside is that you can't quite get the depth. This is a great position if you have a bad gag reflex because you can control how far your head goes down. The other downside is if he is getting ready to climax, you are more likely to pull away and he will not get the full effect of good oral sex.


So what's a woman to do? First, understand that your guy's hasty retreat post-sex may be because he doesn't understand how much he craves a connection with you. Then, it's time for another kitchen table sex talk, Mintz says. "If he's been jumping in the shower right after sex for the last 10 years, he's going to be really taken off guard if, the next time he goes into the shower, you all of a sudden say it upsets you," she explains. "Instead, set aside a time to talk when the situation has passed."

At the tender age of 24 I’ve met 2 10/10 kinda guys, they had the looks, the charm, the intelligence, etc, they were a “catch”. However, long story short, the sad fact is that neither of them wanted me. The point is that no matter how much of a catch a guy can be, if he doesn’t want you move on. Like I’ve said in a previous comment, if he’s not giving you a “hell yeah!” vibe, you best be moving onto the guy who will want you. You can never trick or convince a guy to fall for you. And usually you only find this out after seriously losing yourself in the chase.


Look your best. That doesn't mean changing yourself to impress another person. Take pride into your appearance to give yourself an aura of confidence that can be highly attractive to someone you want to attract. Make a point to always be well-groomed and clean, from your hair to your teeth. Dress and accessorize to accentuate your finest feature, whether it's your hair or your height.
Drive him wild: Ease into it slowly. "Use your hand to stroke him, run your fingernails over the area, then build up to a gentle slap," Cavanah says. Or, when he is lying on his stomach, try kissing a trail down his back, over his buttocks, and then gently nibbling along this fold and flicking it with your tongue before moving on to his inner thighs.
When it comes to true demonstrations of masculine energy and the code it lives by, the concept of honor is practically inseparable from the ideal. Whether it's warriors on the battlefield or symbolic "warriors" on the playing field, having your partner's back is the difference between winning and losing or even life and death. A man has got to trust that you're on his team and have his back, otherwise, he will never commit.
"My girlfriend is uninhibited in the bedroom and one of the things she does that makes me crazy is, instead of asking for oral sex or dropping hints, she'll come up to me when I'm sitting on the couch, lift up her nightgown, and sit on my face and force me to start licking her. I mean, she isn't really 'forcing' me because I love it, but you get the point." — Jeff J., 37, Hudson Valley, NY
Like myself, most of us learn how to dirty talk through trial and error. Listening to our friends talk to guys, watching movies, and testing the limits ourselves. Let me tell ya, I wish I had an article to read when I was younger, that would have saved me from so much humiliation. [Read: A naughty guide to sext your boyfriend and leave him yearning]
Next step - appeal to the vision. If you are self-conscious about your body and love to switch off the lights, you are depriving your man one of his senses. Guys are simple. Lace and shiny things are appealing. If you have not yet lost all the post-partum weight, choose darker colours. If you are a petite person, use lighter colours. Dress in layers, and undress as you proceed like you have all the time in the world.

The energy you put into the relationship is the only thing that matters. Putting in energy doesn’t come from a self-absorbed place, it isn’t attached to feelings of anxiety, fear, worry, anger, rage, resentment. You are outside of yourself and putting energy into giving him that “extra something” that makes you valuable, rare, and inspirational to the guy.


Thank u so much your email and articles I have been reading are great.! That are helping me realize that the relationship I’m in is not healthy. I meet this guy from a really good friend of mine.! He is a retired marine he is very different from the guys I’ve dated. Which is very different me, my parents like him a lot. But we argue alott. He says I have no discipline in my life he blames me for all the arguments we have, and its always my fault. I feel happy at moments but it seems I have to be very careful of what I say and do or how I act when I’m with him. He has left the house like 6 times.He says he really loves me but I don’t think he does. Or maybe I’m just trying to hard for this relationship to work which is not going to go anywere! Any advice will be greatly appreciated thank u very much.:)
Try this: Give him a lipstick blowjob — AKA where you brush your closed but relaxed lips against the head of his penis, like you’re applying lipstick. Hold his shaft with your fingers, but not in a fist (avoid holding his penis like a microphone, but do approach it with the same blind confidence of a mediocre stand up act). Keesling suggests varying the sensations by opening your mouth a bit and rubbing his head between them.
Jay has written a number of "tricks" books over the years and as he would say "they have taken on a life of their own." This book which if you read it cover to cover takes maybe an hour has 125 such tricks, with names like the "climbing the mountain" trick, "do the twist," "a fistful of fun," and "don't choke in the clutch." The book's tricks are divided into five main sections: basic tricks, manual tricks, oral tricks, enhanced tricks, and anal tricks. So depending on your mood, there's a variety here to choose from.

Once you're in the bedroom (and aware of his insecurities), remind him of how much you enjoy being intimate. For example, if he's worried about his weight, maybe give him a sexy once-over and tell him how how buff he looks naked. Other key areas to compliment: His gut, as men often worry about the size of it (and other measurable parts), and their hair, as guys tend to feel self-conscious once they start losing it.

A scientific study showed that people like people who ask questions, particularly followup questions. Followup questions show that you’re paying attention and that you’re genuinely interested. So don’t stop with simply asking him how that fishing trip went. If he tells you that he caught a tuna, ask him what fresh tuna tastes like. Ask who he went fishing with. Ask what kind of bait he uses. Especially if you don’t know a lot about his hobby, he’d be happy to teach you if you’re express curiosity.

We also know that there are exceptions. There are relationships that probably should not stay together, such as those with physical violence, cruel and ongoing verbal abuse, extreme anger management issues, or long-term unaddressed substance abuse, for example. If you're in a situation like that, please eek the help of your local crisis management center.


As far as sex is concerned, my concise comment on the matter has always been that a woman knows best when to sleep with a guy — it’s her choice and nobody has a place to judge or shame that. At the same time, she would do best to make sure that she’s doing it because she wants to and never, ever from a place of fear (fear that he won’t stick around if she doesn’t, fear of him losing interest if she doesn’t, fear that’s she’s not enough without having sex with him, etc.)
Please your man in bed by being playful because he will enjoy the fun side of your nature. I have a friend called Janet, she is 52 years old and she is still as playful in the bedroom with her partner as she was when they first met in 1992. Her advice for you is to do what she does and be playful in the bedroom. Dressing up is one way to be playful. Acting out roles is another way to be playful. Playing strip poker is another way to be playful. Whatever it is that you decide to do to be playful in the bedroom, make sure you are comfortable doing it. It won't please either of you if you are not comfortable with what you are doing.
While I have given you plenty of different scenarios and tips on how to talk dirty to your man, sometimes it just helps to have a few lines to get you started. I have listed 50 lines that you can use and mix up. Remember though that it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it that will turn him on so follow up each dirty line with how you feel rather than just saying a bunch of random dirty lines. Here is my list of dirty lines:
Please your man in bed by teasing him with your sexiness. I have a friend called Wendy, she is a hairdresser and she works in the local village salon. She is a minefield of information because she listens to her customers’ tales whilst she is doing their hair. One of the tips she heard from one of her customers has helped her greatly in the bedroom. That tip was to tease. Teasing your man in the bedroom will bring out in him an animal passion that even he didn't know he had. Let him know you want him by teasing him and Wendy guarantees that he will want you forever more. She says that by teasing him you are letting him know you want to play sexy games, and knowing that you want to play sexy games will be very exciting for him.
#1 Figure out his fantasies. Most guys, just like women, have fantasies they’d love to try in the bedroom. You can usually just ask your man what he thinks about, but some guys can be sensitive about it. Meaning, you may have to weasel your way into his fantasies by trying things and seeing what he likes best. [Read: The black book of top male fantasies]
I was in a fwb relationship with a man that I’m compatible with. But his ex wife and ex gf of 14 years both cheated on him. He never wants to date or have a relationship again. He says he’s un loveable too. It breaks my heart because I’m very much in love with him. He brok up with me 2 years ago because he knew I was in love with him without saying. We hadn’t talked again til last week. We had wonderful exciting sex. He said he hadn’t been with anyone in a long time.
Even if you’re not into bondage, when it comes to roll play, it may be a good idea to briefly discuss an emergency plan together before you start exploring your fantasies. Have a clear, decidedly non-sexy phrase you can both use if things are getting out of control. It’s not a fun way to end a session of dirty pillow talk, but it’s infinitely preferable to causing permanent disgust or offence.
Hi Deborah. I think you should respect his commitment to his long term relationship. His integrity is obviously one of the things you like about him. I think you should ask him if he’ll help you find a nice man like him. Maybe one of his friends might be perfect for you. From day one don’t let them take you for granted. And if your friend is their friend, he’ll be setting them a good example.
Meet my friend Michelle — a beautiful, sophisticated and exceptionally intelligent 30-year-old woman in New York City. Men are falling all over her left and right, but not too many of them can go toe-to-toe with her. Every once in a while, though, a keeper comes along. That’s when she gets all excited, instantly loses her bearings and calls me to ask in an endearingly helpless tone: “Ali — how do you make a man fall in love with you?”
Throw this line out there and a man will bite, so to speak (though you could also be into the actual biting part). Sure, it feels a bit rudimentary, and maybe it’s even a bit mundane and overdone, but it’s also a classic. Some extra advice? Steer clear of substituting with a PG-version, like Do me!” or, “Give it to me!” Censorship is lame. Part of what makes this great dirty talk is that it’s dirty.
It’s often believed that men are so consumed by their libido that they have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered before reaching the bedroom (give them the once-over and tell them how manly they look), as well as after (give them the once-over and tell them how manly they look naked!). Along those lines, men worry about the size of their guts (and other more measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Just like women, men need to be told they are appreciated, sexy, desirable….and really good at what they are doing. Try to be extra affirming about those sensitivities.
Why are you supposed to be moving in with your crush, Miss 12? Are you a foster kid moving in with his family? You know you're going to have to wait for at least four years before making any kind of move on him, don't you? If you do anything stupid like sneaking into his room, you could both end up in a heap of trouble. He could be charged if he's intimate with you in any way before you're 16 ... and you'll be ruining your own chance at having happy teenage years. So please, either accept that nothing should be happening with him for a long time yet, or ask to be placed with a different family.

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