A close second, highly powerful, signal that a guy should make a move is a smile. A smile tells a wary man you like him and, more importantly, you aren’t going to humiliate him by shutting him down if he risks approaching you. It’s not that you need to go around smiling all the time, but when you make eye contact, flash him a smile too, and he should get the message. The message is nicely delivered with very little effort on your part—there doesn’t even have to be a break in the friendly banter you were engaging in. Which brings me to our third signal.
Drive him wild: Have your man lie on his stomach and give him a massage by doing light, karate-chop type movements along his sacrum. "Doing this not only stimulates those sacral nerves, but also triggers the parasympathetic nervous system which is key for relaxing, letting go, and having an orgasm," Michaels says. (Related: 7 Tips for a Better Orgasm)

The goal of talking dirty is to enhance the pleasure for both of you, so relax, be real, and leave it for another time if it feels contrived or you’re self-conscious in the moment. Moans of appreciation can be good to hear, but screaming isn’t so great. And remember, you don’t have to use any words you wouldn’t normally use to infuse a shot of passion and excitement during sex.

Men want to be the hunter. That’s why flirting and using dirty talk sayings can work so well. It lets a man know you’re interested and attracted to him. It teases him in a way that makes him want to chase you. And, best of all, you can do it in a way that makes him think that he is the one responsible for your sexual advances, when in reality you are in complete control of the situation.


Talking dirty is another one of my pre-foreplay tips to use on your man throughout the day, before you are both alone together, as well as during foreplay itself. This is to build the sexual tension and have your man salivating for you. Many people believe that talking dirty involves you using various expletives and bad language on your partner. They believe that the crazier they sound, the better. This, thankfully, isn’t true. It’s much easier than that!

Sounds great...but what should you say that won't seem ridiculous? (Unless you're a porn star, "Do me hard, bad boy!" probably doesn't roll off the tongue.) "Most women aren't sure what sounds sexy, so they don't say anything," says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a sexologist in New York City. As a result, you're missing out on pleasure — which is so not right.

"My girlfriend and I like it when she's submissive so the move that always gets me is her laying flat on her belly and me on top of her from behind. It feels more intimate than doggy because I can wrap my hands around her breasts or rub her clit at the same time. I also like being able to cover her body with mine and holding her hands down. It always feels like my penis is as deep inside of her as possible in this position." — Stefan, 31, Hawthorne, New Jersey


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Please your man in bed by being playful because he will enjoy the fun side of your nature. I have a friend called Janet, she is 52 years old and she is still as playful in the bedroom with her partner as she was when they first met in 1992. Her advice for you is to do what she does and be playful in the bedroom. Dressing up is one way to be playful. Acting out roles is another way to be playful. Playing strip poker is another way to be playful. Whatever it is that you decide to do to be playful in the bedroom, make sure you are comfortable doing it. It won't please either of you if you are not comfortable with what you are doing.
When you do talk, Mintz suggests using the sandwich technique: Give him a compliment, tell him your problem, then follow it up with another compliment. Example: "I really love having sex with you, and after we have sex I feel really close and connected. I know you really want to shower, but I really want to cuddle. Is there a compromise that will work for both of us?"
Before I found a loving and patient partner to explain exactly how his equipment works, I was scared to touch men the wrong way. The penis hangs out there so uncovered and vulnerable, I thought. What if I hurt it? This is another situation in which communication is key. Like a skilled masseuse, you want to make sure the pressure’s right; you want a grip that is tight, but not overly so. And once you get comfortable, don’t be afraid to take charge.
Julie, i’m glad you responded to my comment. Thank you! i needed a perspective of a third person, which you did n i really appreciate it. What you said does make sense, we had indeed just met. i only wished i had stayed longer to get to know him better. but my family said they needed me and I moved without even thinking twice. Funny thing is, after i did move, my mom was like she felt sad for me that i moved quitting my job and all and that i should’ve stayed back if i wanted to. i was like in my mind, are you serious?! lol
And not because men are picky about colors or fabrics. Rather, guys prefer coordinating lingerie because it shows the woman put extra money and energy into clothes no one gets to see but him, says relationship expert April Masini, author of Think & Date Like a Man. So consider springing for a new set of matching unmentionables next time you want to give your spouse a sexy surprise. For a double dose of allure? Choose a pair in red.
Well, the truth is, talking dirty to your man is a way to use your “feminine powers” for good: you’re going to make a man feel so desired, wanted, and lusted after, that the fact he is also with you makes him feel like he just won the lottery. A big part of the “art” of seduction is how you make others feel, and the other half is about how you feel about yourself.
Most of the men we spoke with confided that they're interested in trying — or having more — anal sex. "The almost forbidden nature of this act and the vulnerability it requires from you make it something men really want to experience, but don't want to suggest out of fear of offending you," says Mendez. If you'd be up for experimenting with anal and suspect your husband would enjoy it, initiate a conversation. Not quite ready for anal just yet? Try these almost-anal positions.
The nice thing about this guide is that it understands the secret to talking dirty is to have confidence. So it gives advice that is, for the most part, centered around building up your confidence in order to talk dirty. It provides you with tons of ideas and tips on how to do it better for once you have acquired the confidence to do it in the first place.
Believe it or not, every guy loves to be with confident, independent and passionate women. They want a woman who can drive them crazy with their hot dirty talk, looks and style. And the best way to attract your partner and to intensify your sex life is to learn some dirty things to whisper in his ear. Filthy talk seems fun to some whereas a daunting task to other people, but with a little practice, you can surely master the art of talking dirty to your boyfriend. Trust me, adding a bit of spice and Vavoom to your partner’s day with dirty talks will make him go crazy for you. He will think of nothing but you. Use these 20 hot dirty talk phases to make him crazy over you.
Hi Eric,i really need ur advice thrs a guy whom i love i ve alrdy askd him out we’ve meet twice bt iam very serious about him..he said he does not want to b in a relationship..as he just had a break up wth smbdy…bt he also sayss that he will never let me go things would be the same as wen ur in relationship just it wont be official..but niwdays i feel he gets irritated while speakn online…i want him to be mine forevr…wat should i do to get him commit nd love me….
If you try dirty talking with your partner and you turn out to be a natural at it, that’s great. But for some of us, it’ll take a little bit longer to get comfortable with it. It’s not a race so don’t feel bad, this just means you’ll have to practice. It may sound weird at first, plus, you’ll probably want to play around with your tones and words you use. So, don’t be shy about it, just practice. You and your man will have a couple of laughs until you find the right feeling and style for you.
4. Be patient — with yourself and with her. Sex therapists have a saying: "What young men want to do all night takes older men all night to do." Reframe that truism just a bit, however, and you discover a boon to older sex: A perennial complaint of younger women has to do with young men who rush into genital play before the woman feels warmed up and receptive. An older man's slower pace of arousal dovetails nicely with what women prefer, enhancing erotic compatibility. So before either of you reaches for your partner's undercarriage, cuddle and kiss playfully: Use slow, sensual massage to touch each other all over, from scalp to toes. After 30 minutes or so, she's likely to feel sufficiently aroused to enjoy genital play. (And chances are good that you will, too.)
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"My girlfriend and I like it when she's submissive so the move that always gets me is her laying flat on her belly and me on top of her from behind. It feels more intimate than doggy because I can wrap my hands around her breasts or rub her clit at the same time. I also like being able to cover her body with mine and holding her hands down. It always feels like my penis is as deep inside of her as possible in this position." — Stefan, 31, Hawthorne, New Jersey
A great way to talk dirty to your man is by remembering the naughty things you have done in the past. I know me and my man when we first met were a lot more risqué than we are now that we are married and live together. However we haven’t forgotten about these naughty nights and we sometimes reminisce which usually ends up in us heading up to bed rather early.
One of the most common erotic fantasies is having sex with someone who is not your regular partner. Some women condemn such "mental unfaithfulness," but if visions of an old flame heat your blood, there's no harm in daydreaming. Many men — including older guys struggling with arousal — get turned on by pornography (men over 45 constitute 41 percent of the Internet porn audience). Again, no harm in that, as far as I'm concerned — so long as your viewing of X-rated material to get aroused doesn't grow compulsive.
Couples so often get into a sex routine — same time of night, same place, same position. And while your husband may not make an active move to change things, men want to have the power to switch up patterns and take total control, says Haltzman. Get out one of his silk ties, have him bind your hands together, and let him take it from there. We suspect you won't regret it.
That's when it can be helpful for him to hear compliments both in and out of the bedroom. Mintz suggests starting outside the bedroom, when you can have what she calls a "kitchen table sex talk" — AKA a lower-stakes time to discuss things that are bothering you in the bedroom without having to be "in the moment" of, well, having sex. That's when your partner can talk about what pressures he's feeling, or what he's self-conscious about. Then, you can boost his confidence.
Out of all other advice out there that I was reading, your information is the most that made perfect sense to me, you, at your young age, you have a lot of experience that you were able to collect, organize perfectly and,…help people! It’s an incredible collection that is easy to read, relate and understand, material, which is fun, no BS:), freely given, not always trying to sell another product, deep, personal, open, detailed, incredibly valuable, abundant and helpful not only in relationships between man and woman, but in life in general. When you write about having a particular mindset, you talk about things that was a missing ingredient for me when it came to decide that you really are above a lot of other so called relationship gurus!
4. Be Yourself. Don’t say something to him that you don’t actually feel or you would never actually say. He will sense the inauthenticity and be turned off. When you talk dirty to him you should be having fun too! What you say should be a natural expression of your most free, and confident sexual self. If you don’t feel comfortable saying, “I want to fuck you so hard,” don’t say it. Maybe saying something like, “Your big biceps make me want to take off your shirt and blindfold you with it.” That Might be more your style. Just go with what feels natural, and comfortable. You might also start off with a phrase that is more timid and build his and your confidence to talk dirty over time. What feels comfortable today may change as you become more accustomed to talking dirty.
I know this may seem like an odd thing to read right now, considering you want to learn how to dirty talk but the thing is, you don’t need to actually say anything dirty in order to turn him on. I know, I know, this whole time you thought you had to say some overly graphic and vulgar things, but you don’t have to. Dirty talking isn’t necessarily about saying vulgar and graphic words, of course, you can say these things, but it’s important to know that you don’t have to. Dirty talking can be as subtle as “I love when you touch me.” It’s soft, it’s sweet, and it’s gentle, yet, it’s a little spicey at the same time.
8. ABSOLUTELY: This is the kind of woman I crave. A high-quality woman can influence a man without words. As Bryans writes in Attract the Right Girl: “When a graceful woman enters the room, we simply know. She doesn’t need to say anything or even reveal her presence with words. Her very essence is magnetic. She communicates with her body language in a way that says that she is comfortable with her sexuality, and that she expects to be appreciated and adored. She appreciates the fact that she is the fairer of the sexes, and she lives passionately. . . The graceful woman wants freedom from masculine responsibilities and masculine expectations. She desires freedom to display her emotions as they come to her, and the freedom to express her sexuality in her own unique way with modesty and enthusiasm.

3. Tailor Your Dirty Talk to His Preferences. Some guys will be turned on if your dirty talk has an air of innocence to it. If you say, for instance, “I really want to taste you, but I’m embarrassed to tell you.” Other guys are good with you being as explicit and raunchy as you could possibly be. They might be about to explode if you say, “I’ve been dreaming of your thick cock oozing in my mouth all day.” Just be sure to tailor your dirty talk to his particular desires. He may also respond better to simple dirty talk questions like, “Do you like it when I lick your balls, lover?”
It will both surprise and amaze him. He will probably not expect it and maybe he never had anybody touch his manhood from that position—except himself obviously. The rest of the shower activities will evolve on their own. Let him make the next move. You will probably have sex standing up while not just parts of your body are wet but your entire body, too.

When you’re having a conversation with his friends, ask about him. But don’t constantly talk about him, it would make you look too easy to get. Just a passing word asking how he is or where he is should do. If his friends tell him that you asked about him, he would be confused and yet, warm and fuzzy knowing that you’ve given him a thought. [Read: 30 super sexy ways to keep a guy really interested in you]


Please your man in bed by being honest and there will never be any doubt in his mind that what you are saying and doing is totally truthful. Your man will want reassurance from you that what he is doing is right for you, if it is then tell him so. If on the other hand what he is doing isn't right for you then you really must tell him. You might feel that you are being critical of him, you are not, you are being incredibly helpful. Your relationship will not work without honesty. You cannot move forward when you are lying to him. You will be doing yourself no favours if you don't let him know what it is that you like or dislike. In the long run he will appreciate your honesty and the trust that comes with it.
Please your man in bed by being playful because he will enjoy the fun side of your nature. I have a friend called Janet, she is 52 years old and she is still as playful in the bedroom with her partner as she was when they first met in 1992. Her advice for you is to do what she does and be playful in the bedroom. Dressing up is one way to be playful. Acting out roles is another way to be playful. Playing strip poker is another way to be playful. Whatever it is that you decide to do to be playful in the bedroom, make sure you are comfortable doing it. It won't please either of you if you are not comfortable with what you are doing.
If you think to get him it has to be about you and what you do, then you’d be right. But that doesn’t mean everything has to center around you. Another way to get the guy you want is to show genuine interest in him. Ask him questions about himself and show interest in what he says. Ask follow-up questions and lean into the conversation. If you’re not sure what questions to ask, think about which questions you might like to answer about yourself. Or focus on areas of interest. Not sure what those are? Then just ask him. Don’t be shy. Getting to know him will show him that you see him as more than just another love interest. And no matter gender, we all want to feel wanted.
Making the first move is sexy, but extend the time from your initial contact to the first kiss. Even if you are certain he wants you and the signals are clear, don’t chase him. The minute you go after him, the minute he’s likely lose interest. This does not mean you have to wait for him. On the contrary, let him know that you’ve interested in small ways. Give out hints when you can and leave him little messages that make him come after you. But not too many. There’s no rule of thumb here, but be prudent with the amount of messages or calls you make. And don’t just send him sexy ideas, either. If you want to reach out to him, let him see another side of you.
This article will outline all the important points of talking dirty to a guy. However, if you really want to learn this art of naughty seduction properly and completely avoid any risk of embarrassment in front of him, but instead, be able to turn any man on as and when you choose, or to spice up your relationship with your boyfriend or husband to the point where you can get him wanting you like crazy, then click here now.
Copying porn because you think he’ll like it: we all know how influential porn is to our sex lives. Most of us have watched porn since our teenage years and have a large understanding of sex because of porn. But porn isn’t sex. Okay, physically, it’s sex, however, it’s not what actually happens between couples on a daily basis. Porn is acting. If you’re watching porn and copying how they dirty talk to each other, well, most people won’t feel comfortable because it’s not natural. Instead, focus on what feels natural to you.
Please your man in bed by being playful because he will enjoy the fun side of your nature. I have a friend called Janet, she is 52 years old and she is still as playful in the bedroom with her partner as she was when they first met in 1992. Her advice for you is to do what she does and be playful in the bedroom. Dressing up is one way to be playful. Acting out roles is another way to be playful. Playing strip poker is another way to be playful. Whatever it is that you decide to do to be playful in the bedroom, make sure you are comfortable doing it. It won't please either of you if you are not comfortable with what you are doing.

"Anything in front of a mirror — literally — anything in front of a mirror is 100,000 times better than without a mirror. Watching my girlfriend give me a blow job on her knees in front of a mirror is the hottest thing I've ever seen, but so is looking over and watching her ride me. Mirrors give us a chance to go where our eyes can't and it's the closest analog to both acting in and watching a dirty movie." — Andrew A., 37, New York, New York
Communication is the most important thing in any relationship, especially when you want your relationship to go smooth and filled with passion. This might surprise you, but erotic talks are equally important for any relationship to not only strengthen the bond but to make things get better in the bedroom as well. Talking erotic to your partner can also grow your bond with your partner and can add emotional closeness and increased communication in your relationship. Isn’t it amazing? Talking dirty to your man will improve your whole relationship not just your sex life. Dirty sex talk works!
A close second, highly powerful, signal that a guy should make a move is a smile. A smile tells a wary man you like him and, more importantly, you aren’t going to humiliate him by shutting him down if he risks approaching you. It’s not that you need to go around smiling all the time, but when you make eye contact, flash him a smile too, and he should get the message. The message is nicely delivered with very little effort on your part—there doesn’t even have to be a break in the friendly banter you were engaging in. Which brings me to our third signal.
I have had a lot of female relationship coaching clients who, in their 20s and in their first serious relationship, pretty much gave up all friendships and interests for a guy. It wasn’t like he asked her to do it, but it’s a common thing. And when you get older, this pattern continues. If this describes you, it’s important to understand that one of the best ways to discover how to make a man fall in love with you is to be independent and keep on doing the things you love with the people you care about.
If you’re worried about offending him (trust, you're not), just focus on the positives to tell him what you are and aren’t into. Don't be afraid of telling him, “Ehh that’s not doing anything for me,” but also “I really liked it when you were doing this before,” will help send a message, too. Positive reinforcement always works wonders. "Tell him how good it feels when he does something right, or remind him of a technique that always gets you off," suggests says Georgia sex therapist Gloria Brame, Ph.D. "If he's not giving you enough foreplay, ask him to use his hand or mouth to warm you up, saying that you want to draw out the experience."
Something I wondered about until it was finally explained to me is how pee and semen can come out of the same hole. The answer proves that men’s equipment is biologically sophisticated and just plain awesome. The penis actually knows when to switch pipes between urine and semen when a man is aroused. After ejaculation, it switches back, but sometimes the transition isn’t seamless. That’s why men often have trouble aiming after sex and may choose to sit down and pee instead.
Oh yeah, like that baby, don’t stop – Whether it is work or sex, everyone loves motivation. So make sure that you motivate your guy by using dirty sentences that make him want more. While sex, keep telling him that he is doing good and you are enjoying sex with him. This is one of those dirty things to say to boyfriend that will arouse him even more. 
Believe it or not, sex can be more amazing for you just by slowing down. Amp up your orgasm by letting yourself get to the edge, slowing down and pausing, and then starting up again. And don’ t forget to breathe. Breathing naturally will speed up when we are about to orgasm. By letting yourself slow down and just simply breathe, you’ll control our orgasm. That’ll ultimately make it even stronger. 

To dip your toe into Fifty Shades for Beginners territory, Dr. Kristie Overstreet PhD suggests telling your partner that he can’t talk, touch, or even move unless he’s told to. Tell him if he disobeys you or doesn’t follow your directions, he’ll be punished. Boss him around a little, and tell him how you want him to touch you, what to say, and direct his every move. Watch him squirm and remind him from time to time that you’re in control.
Women, on the other hand, want something less basic than bacon. What Kerner suggests: "I love it when you [verb] my [body part]," such as "I love it when you rub my thigh/kiss my neck/lick my breasts." He explains, "Verbalizing the sensation brings your attention to it, which reinforces the pleasure you're experiencing." It's like eating a yummy meal — talking about how delicious it is can make it even tastier.
Really, this should all happen rather naturally, but sometimes when a guy makes you nervous, it can be easy to clam up. If this sounds like you, pay special attention to your posture. How are you seated or standing? If your hips, feet, and shoulders are 100 percent aligned with your girlfriend at the bar, and the cute guy who caught your eye is to the left, right, or behind you, you are sending him the wrong signals. According to research, women who face their chairs out toward the man they are interested in or open their stance when standing have the most success signaling men to approach. Don’t just take it from me. We also talked to real guys who say they notice this, among other things.
I’m sure you’re aware by now, that most women do not have this skill, no, far from it. I remember a story one of my guy friends told me about a girl he was dating way back in college. They had only gone out a few times and were in that, getting to know you stage. He was actually quite into her, that is, until she tried talking dirty to him. Tried and failed, poor lass!

Please your man in bed by setting the scene, and you will both enjoy being in the zone when you enter the bedroom together. You can set the scene way before it comes to the time when you go to bed. You can set the scene by building up to the grand finale by having dinner out at a nearby restaurant, or you could go to the cinema and watch a romantic movie, knowing what is coming later all adds to the build up of anticipation. When it comes to the bedroom itself you can have the lights turned down low, you can have new satin sheets to climb into, you can have your favourite album playing in the background. All of these things will set the scene beautifully.


There is more than one good news here. To start with, your man is probably unaware/has never experienced levels 2 onwards. And secondly, he needs you to reach that level, unless he is planning to go to the Himalayas and practice the art of self-discovery. What that means is, suddenly, you have a chance to be the goddess he will worship for all eternity, and not just because you chose to be with him. 
If you try dirty talking with your partner and you turn out to be a natural at it, that’s great. But for some of us, it’ll take a little bit longer to get comfortable with it. It’s not a race so don’t feel bad, this just means you’ll have to practice. It may sound weird at first, plus, you’ll probably want to play around with your tones and words you use. So, don’t be shy about it, just practice. You and your man will have a couple of laughs until you find the right feeling and style for you.
I suggest that you should be pickier, less accepting and more committed to the "bad attitude" that will make you seek people who are extraordinary in the same way you are. Be courteous to men who don't appeal to you, but for God's sake, don't waste your evenings—let alone your nights—with them. "Oh," conventional rule-keepers might exclaim, "you'll have to spend some nights alone!" Yes, indeed. Your pool of candidates is much smaller at the high-quality end of the bell curve, your chances of having no date on Saturday much larger if you refuse to go out with men who bore or repulse you. But if memory serves, the boredom and/or repulsion of bad dating is much worse than spending a few hours on your own.
there is this guy that i like and hes a twin. i really like him a lot. everyone tells me that it looks like he likes me but when we talk about it he says that hes still not over his ex. he compliments me in every way possible but this girl told me that he said he only liked me as a friend and that it looked like his brother was the one that liked me. what can i do to find out if he likes me even if hes still not over his ex. And what can i do to make him like me? thanks for reading

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