Plus, nothing makes a man feel worse than to feel stuck in a problem he just can't solve so if you're unhappy too often, at some level, he's failed and he will try to distance himself from feeling like a failure. By contrast, nothing makes a man feel successful like you when you are happy — which is why a positive, happy and radiant woman is so appealing.

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5. Embrace the new. What makes the early months of a love affair so passionate? Dopamine. This brain chemical, a neurotransmitter, spikes when people fall in love. But your dopamine levels return to normal after a year or so; this may make arousal problematic for an older man. To reclaim the ever-ready excitability of early romance, use novelty to boost your dopamine levels (and thus enhance arousal). This is why sex therapists urge couples to add new elements to their sex lives, such as making love in a new way, or at a different time, or in a different place. A romantic weekend getaway might present the perfect opportunity to achieve all three.
So, I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. we have known eachother for awhile though but never talked to each other till recently. He was dating this girl for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago , he messgaed me on instagram asking if i wanted to hangout sometime so i gave him my number! well we started texting for awhile but he isn't very consistent with texting and when we finally hung out i brought up how i always tect him for and he leaves me on read but then reply's to what i said couple days later. his reason was with school and work he has to work off his phone and my messages get pushed back and he would forget to reply, when he realized he forgot he had said it was too late to respond so i wouldnt bother. the next week he didnt talk much saying he had been, which i new he would be with what he had going on and moving out of his apartment that week. well he was active on snapchat at some concert so i thought i text him again and he never replied but still active on social media. i don't know if i shouldn't worry about it and text him again or just forget about it, maybe he isn't interested. i need help everyone i ask doesn't carer they just tell me i don't know. and i really need help figuring out what should i do.
there is this guy that i like and hes a twin. i really like him a lot. everyone tells me that it looks like he likes me but when we talk about it he says that hes still not over his ex. he compliments me in every way possible but this girl told me that he said he only liked me as a friend and that it looked like his brother was the one that liked me. what can i do to find out if he likes me even if hes still not over his ex. And what can i do to make him like me? thanks for reading
I’m sure you agree then during sex, many naughty things pass through your mind but many of you don’t voice what you’re thinking. What better time to talk dirty when you are doing the dirty and you’re already naturally thinking of dirty thoughts. This is the most natural time to talk dirty so next time you are doing the dirty with your man, say what is on your mind.
You only just met this guy, and he made it clear he wasn’t leaving. You were still in the honeymoon/ infatuation phase when you left. He sounds like he really liked you, but he was right o keep it light when that’s where you two were when you left. Had you stayed and got to know each other better, you would have found out whether you two were really compatible/ on the same level, etc.
I’ve heard some so-called dating gurus tell women to dumb down their intellect or put a damper on their exuberant personalities. This is utter crap. If you do that, then the guy has one impression of who you are that is entirely inaccurate. Once you get to know each other and you start being real, he might be thrown off when he discovers that, whoa, you’re actually intelligent or opinionated.
Hello well .. This guy has Been pursuing me for almost 3yrs. We were intimate, spent all of our time together. He does for me, we go out in public. We talked about marriage and kids together everthing.. He knew that i wasnt emotionally ready at the time yet he assured me it was safe to open up and be kind…Then when i finally do and say lets do this he tells me no and starts to pull away… Now he says he not ready and not intrested anymore…what happened?
Please your man in bed by being sensual because sensuality creates an atmosphere all of its own in the bedroom. I have a friend called Patricia, she is a girly girl and loves everything that sparkles and glitters. Her advice to you is that whilst sensuality can enhance things sexually, it can also enhance your relationship in other ways as well. Patricia says feeding each other strawberries dipped in chocolate can be a very sensual thing to try, she also however says that being sensual in your everyday life and enjoying the world around you, is a sure fire way to enhance the sensuality you will both feel in the bedroom whenever you are in each other's arms.
Contrary to popular belief, foreplay isn’t just some kind of optional warm up. It’s one way for couples to really feel each other out; to gauge what kind of moods or mindsets they’re in during that particular time. It’s always a different experience every time and so foreplay can become a kind of self-discovery for both people in the relationship – regardless if you’re male or female. The more effective your foreplay is, then the better sex you’re going to have. It’s just that simple.
Please your man in bed by making him feel desirable because feeling desired will give him a brilliant feeling of wellbeing. He will feel wonderfully happy and content, the atmosphere in the bedroom will be supercharged with passion. He will feel that you give him a lot of love and affection because you find him so desirable. By him having the knowledge that he is desirable to you will give him the boost he needs to be able to make love to you in a loving and sensual way. You will both benefit from your experience in bed together because you will have created a very intimate partnership. Make him feel desirable by telling him how handsome he is, or how strong his muscles look. Make him feel desirable by telling him what a good kisser he is.

Have a sexy goodbye. Don't start transitioning into talking about how your days went; don't start telling goofy jokes, either. Just as you would cuddle after real sex, say some sweet, soft words to your lover and let him know how amazing he makes you feel. Get off the phone after a little while -- if you want to have a normal conversation with your lover, do it a bit later, so you can enjoy the sexy feeling after your dirty talk date.


With men, everything is obvious, including the arousal. However, there are arousals and then, there are arousals. You will be surprised that just like you, even your partner has varying degrees of arousals. It is not just an on-off switch. Granted, an erection is an indicator of arousal. However, that does not mean that your man is fully aroused. In fact, in the seven levels of arousal, erection would just indicate the second. 

I have a bone to pick with you ladies. Guys, at least a considerable majority, end up literally 'studying' the female anatomy and physiology in order to get you that elusive orgasms. We try to hunt for the G spot, many times, unsuccessfully. However, We do not give up. How many of you can claim of doing the same - trying to find out what works for your man? I do not blame you though - showing up naked works out pretty well. 

Try this: Britton suggests having him lie on his back and slowly licking from his areola inwards, like an ice cream cone, but never touching tongue to nip. Get closer and closer until you flick his nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it. Britton says, “Men love when you slowly build up the pressure like that, so don’t be afraid to nip him harder than you would like to be,” If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.
#4 Ease into it. Don’t just all of a sudden start with dirty talking, especially if it’s your first time doing it with your partner. Start by flirting and then slowly building up the intensity. For example, if he says he’s in bed, you can reply by saying, “You know what I’d do if I was there beside you?” This alerts him what he’s in for, so he has a moment to prepare. It’ll catch him off guard, but he’ll get into the mood.
Try this: Suck his lower lip into your mouth the next time you’re making out and use the tip of your tongue to stroke this under-lip area. "That motion stimulates the whole erogenous zone in a teasing way, which will put him on the erotic edge," says Paget. "And by keeping his lower lip inside yours, you magnify the sensation. It'll feel as if electric currents are shooting from his mouth straight to his member."
If you’re a little shy, then you might have to get over it if you’re really gunning for the guy of your dreams. Eye contact is huge. It's a game changer. Letting him gaze into your eyes, even if for a second or two, will let him see that you want to be seen by him. That’s intimacy without taking off your clothes. And sometimes those intimate moments that rest on our emotions and pull on our heart strings are the ones we hold onto the strongest. Eye contact also reveals a lot about your level of confidence. Guys don’t just like the batting of the eyelashes, but also what’s behind them –a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to show it.
This article will outline all the important points of talking dirty to a guy. However, if you really want to learn this art of naughty seduction properly and completely avoid any risk of embarrassment in front of him, but instead, be able to turn any man on as and when you choose, or to spice up your relationship with your boyfriend or husband to the point where you can get him wanting you like crazy, then click here now.

I’m including it because I don’t believe any woman in her right mind would use this procedure consciously. However, through circumstance and sheer cluelessness, a woman could end up using this procedure unconsciously (also known as ‘being in your twenties’). And then she’s got a man who’s borderline stalking her, and she doesn’t understand why. Now that you know how this works, it’s more likely that you can prevent this inconvenience (which is also true for the men who are reading this).

Most of the time it’s not actually what you say that turns a man on, it’s how you say it. Whatever dirty thing you have on your mind that you want to tell your man, make sure you breathlessly whisper it in his ear. Dirty talk will only become dirty talk if you are confident in what you are saying and have a seductive manner. You can practice dirty talking in the mirror before trying it on your man to make sure your body language and voice all suggest you are ready to be seduced or you are ready to seduce him.
Julie, i’m glad you responded to my comment. Thank you! i needed a perspective of a third person, which you did n i really appreciate it. What you said does make sense, we had indeed just met. i only wished i had stayed longer to get to know him better. but my family said they needed me and I moved without even thinking twice. Funny thing is, after i did move, my mom was like she felt sad for me that i moved quitting my job and all and that i should’ve stayed back if i wanted to. i was like in my mind, are you serious?! lol
Help him feel special. One way to charm a guy is by treating him in a manner that makes him feel like he's special to you. When you're talking to him in a group of his pals, pay special attention to him. Make steady eye contact and ask him specific questions. Go out of your way to speak to him when you can and show a strong interest in his life, from his hobbies and his career to his family and friendships.
The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derrière. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," says Fleming.
"Doggy, all the way. I'm an ass man so, for me, there's nothing better than watching her ass come straight at me. My current girlfriend isn't into anal sex, which is fine, but doggy makes me feel like we're having anal, but better: there's no chance I'll wind up with an strange 'surprise' on my penis when we're finished." — Brian S., 27, Richmond, Virginia
If you're young, Tori, I think you're best to just keep being special friends as you are now. Wait and see what happens in the future. You don't want to make him feel awkward and under pressure. Besides, both you and him are going to change as you get older. I think you should wait and see if you still find him interesting and attractive when he's a bit older.
There are so many humans on this planet that one who might not be interested only means it’s his loss. Remind yourself that the guy you want might not want you and that’s fine –it’s how the law of attraction works and it’s how the universe protects us, too. Closing a door on one guy only means another door will open up, one that’s more suited to your needs and one that will be much better for you in the long run. Take a look at a few ways to help you score points with that coveted boy toy. And remember, if it doesn’t work out, you can try these tricks on the next one because there’s always a next one.

Please your man in bed with your sexy presence and he will truly enjoy the experience of being in bed with you. I have a friend called Thelma, she's 34 years old. She used to be quiet and shy and would never have dreamed of acting sexily. She used to think that she couldn't act sexily because her upbringing had been quite strict and sex was never discussed in the home. Then she met Peter and he was able to offer her the encouragement she needed to feel more sexy. Thelma says it is never to late to tap into your inner sexiness so that you too can bring your sexy side to the forefront when you are in the bedroom.


I used to keep my mouth firmly close during intimate times but with time and once I felt comfortable enough, I practiced what I preached and started to say out loud the naughty thoughts that were passing through my mind such as what I wanted him to do more off or how aroused I was feeling. I quickly realized how much more thrilling this made our sex life.

You have given the best advice that I have ever read from any article or book out there and trust I have read MANY. I see where I have been going wrong with my relationships and I see that I am putting too much of what I want them to be for me in it. I see where my negative thoughts have failed me and how I can go about changing me to be a better me for a relationship. Your views are so on point and I completely understand exactly where you are coming from. I will continue to read and reread your advice until I get myself where I need to be physically and emotionally. I definitely dont live in the moment with the man I have been with and I have gotten the I dont want a relationship thing from him but I definitely see where I went wrong because this man was interested in me from the beginning and he is still here. So I see where I went wrong. I see where I need to change just from reading your articles. I am seeing clearly. Now just to adjust my behavior and actions. I believe I will see a change in him. You cant expect people to change if you dont change yourself first… Thanks for all the great advice :)


If there is one area I see women mess up time and again, it's in trying to define a relationship or tie a man down too soon. That's because her need to feel "safe" is in direct contrast to his innate desire for freedom and not being tied down. If you think about it, every soldier anywhere who has ever been killed in action has died trying to defend their idea of freedom.
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If you think to get him it has to be about you and what you do, then you’d be right. But that doesn’t mean everything has to center around you. Another way to get the guy you want is to show genuine interest in him. Ask him questions about himself and show interest in what he says. Ask follow-up questions and lean into the conversation. If you’re not sure what questions to ask, think about which questions you might like to answer about yourself. Or focus on areas of interest. Not sure what those are? Then just ask him. Don’t be shy. Getting to know him will show him that you see him as more than just another love interest. And no matter gender, we all want to feel wanted.
Dirty talk is a great way to enhance good sex, and to turn it into ecstatic sex. When you talk to him like a wild banshee, completely unabashed, he’ll go crazy for you. Screaming profanities like, “fuck me harder,” or “I want to watch you cum all over me,” or “you’re cock is throbbing, baby” takes the sexual experience from one level (a decent one) to the next level (the toe-curling, I can’t wait to fuck you again level).
Tip #4: Be easy to approach, hard to obtain. Although we're torn on whether playing hard to get is a good thing or not—for the record, Adam says that men DO want a challenge when it comes to winning you over—it's common sense that most men are terrified to make the move. So save the challenge for later, Adam advises: "Make it easy for them, open up your body, make eye contact and give them the clear signal that it's cool to break the ice. One the ice is broken, now you can tease him, test him and make him work for it...just the way he likes it."

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