The following dirty talk examples are not for the faint of heart and these phrases probably shouldn’t be attempted within the first month of your new relationship (unless you met your partner at an orgy/sex party and that overtly sexual context has already been set between the two of you). As with most things to do with eroticism, it’s often the least politically correct things that are some of the biggest turn ons behind closed bedroom doors.
Help him feel special. One way to charm a guy is by treating him in a manner that makes him feel like he's special to you. When you're talking to him in a group of his pals, pay special attention to him. Make steady eye contact and ask him specific questions. Go out of your way to speak to him when you can and show a strong interest in his life, from his hobbies and his career to his family and friendships.
"For example, leaning down to whisper, ‘I am so wet right now I wish we could fuck,’ in your partner’s ear at a public event. Practice makes perfect in all things, and this does include dirty talk. If a man wants to experiment with what he is comfortable saying aloud to his partner, or wants to gauge his partner’s interest in dirty talk, he can and should do so outside of the bedroom first. Each opportunity offers a different degree of intimacy."
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"I don't have the biggest penis in the world, but the position that makes me feel like I'm breaking my girlfriend (in a good way) is when she's on her back and I throw her ankles over my shoulder and penetrate her. It makes penetration feel deeper for us both, especially if her butt is hanging a little bit off the bed." — John J., 29, Phoenix, Arizona
One of the best ways to feel comfortable about talking dirty is through role play. Find out what scenario arouses both him and you and get to work on setting the fantasy in motion. This could be something like acting out a one night stand. Usually with one night stands, things happen fast and a lot of passion is involved. You can act out this scenario by pretending you and your guy are having a one night stand.
I found this book and thought it would be fun little gift for my girlfriend and I can honestly say that it has improved her dirty talk. I have always liked talking dirty and after getting her this book she is enjoying it too. The book is a pretty quick read but contains a ton of useful tips and tricks to build up her confidence and loads of info on where to get ideas and how to fine tune your dirty talk.
Hey.. I’m in love with this guy for almost 6 months now and we are in a long distance relationship..since from the day we met he treated me like I’m the only girl in the world he respect me like I’m around him always he calls me day and night.. And we hardly see each other because of his work and the distance between us.. Few days back I visited him where he stays and he introduced me to everyone around him and everything was good until I hold his phone while he was asleep.. I found out that his cheating for me which changed everything ..I’m a Moody person.. Then I asked him everything and he answered me some not everything.. Then he apologized about his doings and promise me that he will short everything out soon.. And I did forgiven him but sometimes i feel like I have done a wrong thing it will happen again and we are living miles apart so I’m afraid.. Please I need an advice on what to do!

Drive him wild: "If you're with a man who enjoys this, start by stroking around the aureole and gently tweaking the nipple with your fingers," Cavanah says. "Lick around it and suck on it, increasing pressure and gently biting it. Nipples can be twisted and pulled to great effect, too." She also suggests trying a pair of nipple clamps when he's really turned on. It will keep blood flow in the area, increasing sensitivity and keeping them at attention. Or try sucking on an ice cube and then sucking on his nipples. "The contraction of his nipples due to the cold can heighten the sensations," Michaels says.
In all positions, their pleasure threshold is partially dependent on, simply, what we may be most into. For this one, his ass is accessible to her for full anal and/or prostate play. He gets to enjoy a whole new angle of penetration while also having access to her feet if he's into a little foot/shrimping play. “She lies flat on her back. He mounts her in the reverse and lies flat on top of her with his head at her feet. He inserts his erect penis into her vagina by scooting back towards her,” says Dr. Kat.  


Please your man in bed by being honest and there will never be any doubt in his mind that what you are saying and doing is totally truthful. Your man will want reassurance from you that what he is doing is right for you, if it is then tell him so. If on the other hand what he is doing isn't right for you then you really must tell him. You might feel that you are being critical of him, you are not, you are being incredibly helpful. Your relationship will not work without honesty. You cannot move forward when you are lying to him. You will be doing yourself no favours if you don't let him know what it is that you like or dislike. In the long run he will appreciate your honesty and the trust that comes with it.
Sex is an important part of a marriage. Who does not miss the rush of the early days together? However, with time, it becomes almost clinical. And after having children, it becomes increasingly difficult to find time and energy to have sex. And whenever you do, it ends up being a 10-minute sprint as against the hours spent in exploring each other during the early days.
When you are performing oral, the thing to remember is that there is a lot more to a man's anatomy. There are lots of options, rather than just going up and down. Tip #19: Focus on the balls. That's right ladies. Don't forget that the testicles are part of a man's anatomy as well. Take some time to lick, suck, and rub his testicles as well to provide some extra stimulation. Especially use your hand(s) while you are performing oral with your mouth. If you rub his testicles while you are giving him oral, it will give an even more intense feeling of pleasure. Tip #20: Focus on the tip. The tip (or head) of your man's member is the most sensitive part. This is why using your mouth, tongue, and especially throat are so important. If he feels the tip of his member hitting the back of your throat, it will be much more intense for him. Yes, moving up and down on his shaft provides a lot of stimulation, but focusing on the head is what will make him curl his toes the most.
Sexting is one of the first and most effective ideas that come to mind. There are many directions in which sexting can go. It can vary from subtle vanilla dirty talk to something hardcore. It depends on your preferences, so let that be your guideline. In any case, sexts are bound to blow his mind and make him eager to see you and rip your clothes off of you. One of the great perks of sexting is that you have a lot of time to think about what you are going to say.
Please your man in bed by setting the scene, and you will both enjoy being in the zone when you enter the bedroom together. You can set the scene way before it comes to the time when you go to bed. You can set the scene by building up to the grand finale by having dinner out at a nearby restaurant, or you could go to the cinema and watch a romantic movie, knowing what is coming later all adds to the build up of anticipation. When it comes to the bedroom itself you can have the lights turned down low, you can have new satin sheets to climb into, you can have your favourite album playing in the background. All of these things will set the scene beautifully.
Remember, guys are visual by nature. They get turned on by what they see. So, taking care of how you look is a high priority if you want to turn your man on and arouse him. Think of this as a ‘pre’ foreplay tip to use before you even begin touching him. If you are both going to a party together, dressing up in something sexy and hot is going to start turning your man on hours before you start getting physically intimate. This is great for building sexual tension with him.

And you don’t have to use a deep, throaty voice. “Your tone can be funny and joking. It can be cute or teasing, innocent, or absolutely naughty,” says Neustifter. “I encourage women to think about times when they feel the most confident and carefree.” If you feel your best giving presentations at work, for example, a powerful bedroom vibe may be your go-to; if you love laughing with your friends, a fun approach may be better.


It’s time you start looking in the mirror in a whole different way. If you and your partner decide to have sex in front of the mirror, you will probably do it standing up, with your hands pressed on the wall on both sides of the mirror. You will bend slightly so he can penetrate you. You will hold your head up so he can see your facial expressions and the level of your enjoyment.

I enjoy reading your articles. I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year. We dated before 6 years ago and the reason we stopped dating is because he said I was pushing for something he wasn’t ready for. I didn’t realize I was pushing. He’s saying now like he said before, he doesn’t want a girlfriend right now, he’s too busy. But yet he’s still interested. He has said things to me like, “I’ve been thinking about you a lot and there’s nothing I can do about”, “We are more than just friends”, and then he pulls away again. It’s been an emotional roller coaster ride with him. He lives an hour away, we only text once a week or so, and only see each other every 2 or 3 months. We get frustrated with each and have arguments but still want to see each other so there’s something there. We are both Scorpios so I’ve been reading articles about 2 Scorpios being in a relationship and reading your articles. I’ve tried very hard not to seem “pushy” and realize the relationship is what it currently is. But how long do I have to wait for him to want to see me more? What should I say to him?


I refuse to admit my own feelings till I know he's completely done with her. My biggest fear is what to do once he is done, if that happens. I've been in plenty of relationships, but I wouldn't know how to be in one with him because he's the longest, closest, male friendship I've ever had and at the same time, and we're deeply attracted to each other.
To test whether he takes pleasure from crude words, use it the next time you dirty talks and watch his reaction closely. If your man reciprocates and calls you something crude then you know he is not comfortable but enjoys it equally as much as you do. If however he is surprised at what you have just said or doesn’t say anything at all, he may not be as comfortable with it and so I would suggest stop using crude words when talking dirty.

4. Be patient — with yourself and with her. Sex therapists have a saying: "What young men want to do all night takes older men all night to do." Reframe that truism just a bit, however, and you discover a boon to older sex: A perennial complaint of younger women has to do with young men who rush into genital play before the woman feels warmed up and receptive. An older man's slower pace of arousal dovetails nicely with what women prefer, enhancing erotic compatibility. So before either of you reaches for your partner's undercarriage, cuddle and kiss playfully: Use slow, sensual massage to touch each other all over, from scalp to toes. After 30 minutes or so, she's likely to feel sufficiently aroused to enjoy genital play. (And chances are good that you will, too.)


I suggest that you should be pickier, less accepting and more committed to the "bad attitude" that will make you seek people who are extraordinary in the same way you are. Be courteous to men who don't appeal to you, but for God's sake, don't waste your evenings—let alone your nights—with them. "Oh," conventional rule-keepers might exclaim, "you'll have to spend some nights alone!" Yes, indeed. Your pool of candidates is much smaller at the high-quality end of the bell curve, your chances of having no date on Saturday much larger if you refuse to go out with men who bore or repulse you. But if memory serves, the boredom and/or repulsion of bad dating is much worse than spending a few hours on your own.

I refuse to admit my own feelings till I know he's completely done with her. My biggest fear is what to do once he is done, if that happens. I've been in plenty of relationships, but I wouldn't know how to be in one with him because he's the longest, closest, male friendship I've ever had and at the same time, and we're deeply attracted to each other.

3. Tailor Your Dirty Talk to His Preferences. Some guys will be turned on if your dirty talk has an air of innocence to it. If you say, for instance, “I really want to taste you, but I’m embarrassed to tell you.” Other guys are good with you being as explicit and raunchy as you could possibly be. They might be about to explode if you say, “I’ve been dreaming of your thick cock oozing in my mouth all day.” Just be sure to tailor your dirty talk to his particular desires. He may also respond better to simple dirty talk questions like, “Do you like it when I lick your balls, lover?”

Unrequited love can be frustrating and stressful. Most people have experienced this feeling at some time. If you have encountered a guy that you envision being with but are not sure if he feels the same way about you, it can keep you up all night feeling lovelorn and lost. Take matters into your own hands to become the recipient of the affections of your number one guy.

Hello well .. This guy has Been pursuing me for almost 3yrs. We were intimate, spent all of our time together. He does for me, we go out in public. We talked about marriage and kids together everthing.. He knew that i wasnt emotionally ready at the time yet he assured me it was safe to open up and be kind…Then when i finally do and say lets do this he tells me no and starts to pull away… Now he says he not ready and not intrested anymore…what happened?


It doesn’t even have to be a risqué moment that you can bring up, it could be the first time you even done it and how you felt when he first touched you or when you first seen every inch of him… literally. While this is dirty talk, it can also have many benefits to your relationship such as bring you closer together and keeping the excitement and interest in the relationship.
Not only does talking dirty to your husband (or boyfriend) keep your partner thinking about you, but it also makes sex more enjoyable and hotter. More than anything, it is fun to learn and use dirty talk in bed. You can say dirty sentences while making out with your partner in bed, via texts, or via indulging in a phone sex (use telephone sex words), the choice is all yours. And there are plenty of dirty things to text your boyfriend or whisper in his ear. This might surprise you, but dirty sex talk works best in boosting a man’s ego in bed. If you were wondering what men want in bed, well dirty talking is one of those things.
Sure, binging Planet Earth might not be the hottest thing around, but there’s something to be said about looking to the animal kingdom for a little #inspo. Dave, 24, was totally psyched when a woman he was seeing asked to get a little wild. "An ex-girlfriend lay down on the bed and begged me to rip off her clothes, which I did. The sex was great, but letting me tear her shirt in half was the best part because it was passionate and intense."
"I know, it sounds scary and awkward and not at all sexy, but trust me, if you can't talk about talking dirty, then actually talking dirty will be impossibly challenging. The last thing you want to do is to be going along doing your typical sexual interaction and then suddenly throw in 'Spank me, Mommy!' unexpectedly. There's nothing wrong with wanting to say that, but it's nice to give your partner a heads up as to what you're interested in and what turns you on. Make sure they're on board too! Dirty talk is a team sport."

What Real Women Say: "I was seeing my now boyfriend for a few months, and we already had sex a decent amount of times," says Lisa, 25. "One night when we were starting to fool around he stopped in the middle of it and whispered, 'What's off limits?' It was really intimate and made me feel comfortable being open with him about what I liked and what I didn't. As far as dirty talk specifically, I don't like the name calling that goes on in porn so I told him that, so he's stayed away from that which I think helped me be more open to it."
While there are obvious exceptions—like the dinner table rules of never mentioning family, politics or religion—it’s actually kind of tough to say the wrong thing when talk turns dirty in bed. But, in the throes of passion, mental hang-ups happen. No one who’s kind will blame you for saying something offbeat in the heat of the moment. You’re only human. It happens to everyone. And the worst case scenario is that you and your partner laugh it off together.
I was staggered by my first encounter with an uncircumcised penis. All the parts I knew what to do with were hiding from me. Turns out it’s not that hard. You just tug the skin back a little and you’re good to go. Circumcised penises are actually a little more complex. Not every man is cut the same way, and if your guy doesn’t have enough of his foreskin left to move around, you’ll have to use lube when stroking him to replace the natural lubricant the foreskin provides.
i have been dating this guy for almost six months now, we have not started having sex, because i told him i am not ready we have talked about it and he agreed. But of late i feel he is pulling away, sometimes he will not call or text me unless if i call him or text him first, he is always postponing our dates and its like he does not want to see me, when i ask him he says he is just busy with work or he could not call me because he had no credit in his phone, i don’t really know what to do? should i just leave him alone or i continue calling or texting him first all the time…, does it mean he has lost interest in me? please help ,
Before I found a loving and patient partner to explain exactly how his equipment works, I was scared to touch men the wrong way. The penis hangs out there so uncovered and vulnerable, I thought. What if I hurt it? This is another situation in which communication is key. Like a skilled masseuse, you want to make sure the pressure’s right; you want a grip that is tight, but not overly so. And once you get comfortable, don’t be afraid to take charge.
4. Be Yourself. Don’t say something to him that you don’t actually feel or you would never actually say. He will sense the inauthenticity and be turned off. When you talk dirty to him you should be having fun too! What you say should be a natural expression of your most free, and confident sexual self. If you don’t feel comfortable saying, “I want to fuck you so hard,” don’t say it. Maybe saying something like, “Your big biceps make me want to take off your shirt and blindfold you with it.” That Might be more your style. Just go with what feels natural, and comfortable. You might also start off with a phrase that is more timid and build his and your confidence to talk dirty over time. What feels comfortable today may change as you become more accustomed to talking dirty.
Freud once called female sexuality "the dark continent," and if that's true, then male sexuality might as well be the dark planet. Because when it comes to sex, men are far from simple. (As much as they may try to convince us otherwise.) The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, so what you see on TV is typically far from what can (and should) be delivered in reality. That's why sex experts chimed in with more accurate insight about what guys really want you to know when the two of you climb into bed.
There’s nothing quite like kissing when engaging in foreplay. Starting with the lips is a choice where you can’t go wrong. Making out increases sexual desire. Redirect your kisses to his neck and stay there for a while. Then slowly nibble his ear, going back to the neck and finding your way down. Kiss every inch of his body. The anticipation of a blow job will be something that will make his manhood hard as wood.
#16 A tease. Every guy is turned on by a tease. Walk right up to the guy while staring at him, but instead of talking to him, just say ‘excuse me’ and walk right past him with a teasing smile. And as you pass him, stare into his eyes, smile and say ‘thank you’. It’ll boost his ego, and make you irresistible to him! [Read: 16 lusty signs of sexual attraction between a guy and a girl]

When you do talk, Mintz suggests using the sandwich technique: Give him a compliment, tell him your problem, then follow it up with another compliment. Example: "I really love having sex with you, and after we have sex I feel really close and connected. I know you really want to shower, but I really want to cuddle. Is there a compromise that will work for both of us?"


Men want a woman that makes him feel good about himself. Make him feel like a stud and he will come running back for more. This article has quite a few good flirting techniques but these techniques only succeed to the extent that they make a guy feel desirable. Ladies, I see guys leave 10s for 5s who realize the key to a mans heart is through his ego…GL
Hi Deborah. I think you should respect his commitment to his long term relationship. His integrity is obviously one of the things you like about him. I think you should ask him if he’ll help you find a nice man like him. Maybe one of his friends might be perfect for you. From day one don’t let them take you for granted. And if your friend is their friend, he’ll be setting them a good example.
Confront any issues that are holding you back from enjoying oral pleasure and then invite him to go down more often. Guys love seeing women in the throes of pleasure, so it is up to you to discover how you are most able to get aroused and experience climaxes so you can then share that pleasure with him. A fully satisfying sex life is possible for everyone. You just need to take the time and energy to focus on your own pleasure. You are worth it!
Don't force issues, feelings or sex ever. Roll with it. Read her energy. “Learn how to communicate with and read body language. Don't ever plan on having sex. If it happens on the first night, it's totally fine but it is usually better to wait until you're both sure about the situation. Your goals should be to earn her trust and respect instead of thinking what's the next move to get into her bed. It will be different with all women,” says Hawk. Desperation and neediness are major turn-offs.
"Hey, honey, do you want me to help you with something? What would you like me to do? Do you want to hang out, just the two of us? I want to buy you something for Christmas/Valentine's Day - could you tell me exactly what you would like? I see you're hanging out with your friends today, but I'd like to get to know them better - can I hang out with you all today, or not? I really like that shirt/necklace/purse - could you buy it for me, please? I'm going to be hanging out with my friends this afternoon - would you rather I not discuss you?"
When going down on a man, remember that his penis shouldn’t. If a man is erect, it’s incredibly painful for him to point his penis in any other direction than out or up. And don’t ever try to bend it! You can actually break a penis the same way you would break the cartilage in your nose. (I’m crossing my legs in sympathy pains just thinking about it!)

Wow!! All I can say is thank you for writing. You have an awesome way of saying things, straight to the point no BS. This is what people need I tell all my friends about anew mode, lol I even quote some things you say on Facebook. I’ve been married for twelve years and I love reading your articles because it makes me a better person, wife lover!! Thanks again!

If you've had a woman say something filthy during sex, you've probably noticed that it made whatever it was that you were doing feel even better. But why is that? According to Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist at Doctor On Demand, there's science behind why talking dirty feels good. "It taps into one of my favorite parts of the brain and psychology, our perceptual system," he explains.


"Doggy, all the way. I'm an ass man so, for me, there's nothing better than watching her ass come straight at me. My current girlfriend isn't into anal sex, which is fine, but doggy makes me feel like we're having anal, but better: there's no chance I'll wind up with an strange 'surprise' on my penis when we're finished." — Brian S., 27, Richmond, Virginia
If you see foreplay as something that the both of you just need to get over with, then you’re definitely doing it wrong. Foreplay is a fantastic tool that the two of you can use to really build up the romantic energy and passion that you have just before you engage in sex. In fact, foreplay can do wonders for your sex life if you just know how to make the most out of it. Remember that the strongest and happiest couples are always capitalizing on opportunities to get intimate with one another. And if you’re not one of those couples, then you should be ashamed of yourselves.

I enjoy reading your articles. I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year. We dated before 6 years ago and the reason we stopped dating is because he said I was pushing for something he wasn’t ready for. I didn’t realize I was pushing. He’s saying now like he said before, he doesn’t want a girlfriend right now, he’s too busy. But yet he’s still interested. He has said things to me like, “I’ve been thinking about you a lot and there’s nothing I can do about”, “We are more than just friends”, and then he pulls away again. It’s been an emotional roller coaster ride with him. He lives an hour away, we only text once a week or so, and only see each other every 2 or 3 months. We get frustrated with each and have arguments but still want to see each other so there’s something there. We are both Scorpios so I’ve been reading articles about 2 Scorpios being in a relationship and reading your articles. I’ve tried very hard not to seem “pushy” and realize the relationship is what it currently is. But how long do I have to wait for him to want to see me more? What should I say to him?
This takes a certain level of trust, so a few questions to ask yourself before throwing it out there: How well do you know this guy? Is he the sort of person who’s going to be baffled by too many options? Can you confirm just how far “whatever you want” might go? Are you cool with that? If he checks all the good boxes, let the show go on. Just proceed with caution, and know that firm directions (like: “I want you to do X to Y”) are a solid backup.

Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around someone who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a person. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.

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