Believe it or not, sex can be more amazing for you just by slowing down. Amp up your orgasm by letting yourself get to the edge, slowing down and pausing, and then starting up again. And don’ t forget to breathe. Breathing naturally will speed up when we are about to orgasm. By letting yourself slow down and just simply breathe, you’ll control our orgasm. That’ll ultimately make it even stronger. 

So what's a woman to do? First, understand that your guy's hasty retreat post-sex may be because he doesn't understand how much he craves a connection with you. Then, it's time for another kitchen table sex talk, Mintz says. "If he's been jumping in the shower right after sex for the last 10 years, he's going to be really taken off guard if, the next time he goes into the shower, you all of a sudden say it upsets you," she explains. "Instead, set aside a time to talk when the situation has passed."
Sure, binging Planet Earth might not be the hottest thing around, but there’s something to be said about looking to the animal kingdom for a little #inspo. Dave, 24, was totally psyched when a woman he was seeing asked to get a little wild. "An ex-girlfriend lay down on the bed and begged me to rip off her clothes, which I did. The sex was great, but letting me tear her shirt in half was the best part because it was passionate and intense."

Three rounds of give and withdraw should reduce any man to putty — assuming putty is what you’re looking for. The key to making this work is to give genuinely when you’re giving. You really are into him. It’s just that something unexpected comes up every time he’s on the brink of being on solid ground with you, and you withdraw completely, yanking the rug out from under him decisively, only to restore it later.
Talking dirty to your man doesn't just have the sole purpose of making him feel aroused. One of the main benefits is that it keeps him thinking of you and keeps him interested in you; especially if you indulge in role play. By using different dirty talking lines and scenarios,it will keep him on his toe sand will have him constantly thinking about what you said and how you made him felt. Having this level of interest will keep him attracted to you.

"Women are often uncomfortable using a vibrator in front of their partners for fear he will feel extraneous or offended," says Sue W. Goldstein, health educator and program coordinator for San Diego Sexual Medicine, a healthcare facility. But many men find it incredibly arousing to watch their partner use sexual enhancement products. Men operate visually, so watching you please yourself is a turn-on, whether he's involved or not. So don't feel shy bringing props into the bedroom.


There’s nothing quite like kissing when engaging in foreplay. Starting with the lips is a choice where you can’t go wrong. Making out increases sexual desire. Redirect your kisses to his neck and stay there for a while. Then slowly nibble his ear, going back to the neck and finding your way down. Kiss every inch of his body. The anticipation of a blow job will be something that will make his manhood hard as wood.
Tip #1: Show them pearly whites. Adam's first tip is a simple and easy one--smile at the guy you're hoping will approach you. He say, "Men are total wusses when it comes to approaching women. If they don't feel confident that you want them to come over, then they'll almost never make the move." Evidently, male clients are always asking how to be sure that a woman actually wants them to come over, and Adam advises that a smile gives them "a solid 80% chance" since "there is no 100% certainty when it comes to dating". If you take the tiny little initiative to smile his way, it will encourage him to make a move.
Still, it's tough not to take it personally when he's getting off by looking at another woman. To help tamper that, Dr. Kort recommends taking the secrecy out of pornography and discussing it. "Ask him what about it turns him on, and [express without anger] what turns you off," he says. That way, a dialogue is created that allows for honesty, dignity, and closeness without him feeling like he's doing something shameful, while you can figure out what you're OK with accepting and what you're not.

If there is one area I see women mess up time and again, it's in trying to define a relationship or tie a man down too soon. That's because her need to feel "safe" is in direct contrast to his innate desire for freedom and not being tied down. If you think about it, every soldier anywhere who has ever been killed in action has died trying to defend their idea of freedom.


This isn’t a staring contest. In fact, according to research, looking away and then briefly glancing back a few times is another signal that lets a guy know you want him to approach. (Ashley Fox explains the process really well here.) You don’t have to overthink it or be weird about it. When you see a cute guy and wish he would come say hi, make eye contact with him, smile, look back at the person you were talking to, and then glance back at him. Repeat one or two times. If you are worried it will be creepy, don’t. When we interviewed guys on how they know a woman likes them, Charles said, “Things like [when] eye contact is made and then avoided and then made again.”
Please your man in bed with your sexy presence and he will truly enjoy the experience of being in bed with you. I have a friend called Thelma, she's 34 years old. She used to be quiet and shy and would never have dreamed of acting sexily. She used to think that she couldn't act sexily because her upbringing had been quite strict and sex was never discussed in the home. Then she met Peter and he was able to offer her the encouragement she needed to feel more sexy. Thelma says it is never to late to tap into your inner sexiness so that you too can bring your sexy side to the forefront when you are in the bedroom.
You can worry that sometime your husband will find you less attractive because your looks have changed since your marriage day. Still men don’t pay much attention to your self-conceived defects but begin to notice them only if you highlight them or do an extreme cover up. Their only concern is on how joyous they can keep you in bed and not on your alterations. So let him view you completely.
Please your man in bed with new tricks and enjoy the praise you will receive each and every day for keeping your man entertained. Adding a new dimension to your bedroom escapades will give you the opportunity to express yourself in an entirely individual way. Enjoy each other's company a lot more by talking about what new tricks you will get up to together. You will find that you will be giving one another secret looks that mean something very special is going to happen when you are in the bedroom together later. Only the two of you will understand what is to come and this knowledge will give you a powerful and trusting bond.
So what's a woman to do? First, understand that your guy's hasty retreat post-sex may be because he doesn't understand how much he craves a connection with you. Then, it's time for another kitchen table sex talk, Mintz says. "If he's been jumping in the shower right after sex for the last 10 years, he's going to be really taken off guard if, the next time he goes into the shower, you all of a sudden say it upsets you," she explains. "Instead, set aside a time to talk when the situation has passed."
Hey I'm maddly in love with a guy and I decide to settle with him in future. But the thing is before we could get into dating, we agreed we wouldn't fall for each other (without even knowing how dating is really like since it's my first time). The guy had a break up as his ex left him that has left an effect on him that he wouldn't want to commit in the next 3 years. This guy and me know each other well, our compatibility of perfect. But I don't know please help me I've fallen for him , he says I made up my mind in advance we wouldn't fall for each other.It's 6 months past we've been together. Please help me, I'm hurt and lost!
Please your man in bed by being naughty in the bedroom (or by talking dirty to him) and watch his eyes widen In amazement when you show him a part of your personality that he never knew you had. Being naughty in the bedroom with your man is an entirely individual thing. You will come to learn what it is that turns you on the most. In a loving partnership you should be able to tell one another what particular naughty role play appealed to you the most. Once you are successful at being naughty in the bedroom, you can enjoy lots of romantic encounters with your partner. You will get that glint in your eye which lets him know you want him. He will recognise the look and be turned on instantly just by knowing what is to come later on in the bedroom.
26. Not sure I totally agree. However, if you give too much, he will become lazy. I love when a woman indicators of interest are clear. It shows confidence and someone I would enjoy bing around (I personally absolutely love playfulness in a woman). But Bryans is completely correct when he wrote: “In the beginning stages, men are more likely to respond to you on deep, primal level if you are warm, friendly, easy-to-please, kind, deferential to his leadership, and even hesitant to commit.”
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Hi, He sounds as if he has a lot of his own insecurities and is deflecting them onto you. He is constantly trying to change you, and tell you that you aren’t enough. You sound to me as if you are not comfortable in being yourself around him. You can’t petend to be someone else to please jom forever, so picture this you are trying to adapt yourself to who he wanrlts and he is still finding flaws. Aren’t you tired already,? he is damaging your self-esteem. There is someone out there , who you may or may not have met, that will adore you flaws and all, bit you have to love yourself enough to know when you are being tolerated , and ” handled”, not loved. This guy you are with, needs you a lot more than you need him, be careful not to allow him to force you to change into someone nobody wants, so thy he can keep you all to himself, while he used you. By that, I mean an insecure, unhappy person that doesn’t feel worthy of anything.
Reveal your greatest fantasies. Once you're really excited, share your fantasy with your lover, no matter how dirty it may be. He'll play along and talk about it with you, helping you get more turned on as you picture yourselves enacting the fantasy together. Don't be afraid to put it all out on the phone line -- just close your eyes and start talking.
Despite popular advice telling women to take charge and ask a guy out, there are a lot of women who don’t feel empowered by making the first move. I know I don't. Most women I know want to feel desired and pursued, not just from the very beginning of the relationship, but throughout their entire love story. The trouble is, women who feel this way too often get caught in the trap of waiting for a guy to make the first move, which is both disempowering and really not the way the old-school courtship process even works.
This is Dana I just want you to help with my issue. I met a guy I obsorved his character he is genuine, and kind to everyone. The thing is that he is making me to feel that he likes me but when I started to talk him as a friend, he just telling me tat he got crush on some one else & her age is 22 and few days after he Says tat he is loving a girl from the same premises and she is 24. I didn’t understand what he is trying to tell. My question for you is did he making to jealous or he just wants avoid me.
You are very welcome, credit where credit is due. I understand the dilemma you face (I am in a similar line of work as you) marketing is a way to reach a larger audience and spread your authentic message to women who need it most. These gimmicky writers end up sent to spam when they are always trying to “trick” women in to buying the latest ground breaker (which often it isn’t) there are many cowboys out there, and what I observe so often, sadly…is that many women BELIEVE it has to be difficult, perhaps even that there is something wrong with men and they must be tricked! the beauty of what you write is that you keep it simple and you speak in a way that reaches out to people, the great tragedy is that despite it being an uncomplicated and heartfelt message that truly works when actioned, it takes time and effort and a commitment to self growth to actually become this woman you describe. One who is happy, healthy and balanced…
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There’s lots of ways to make always-great sex even greater, and there are some specific sex positions that, when explored, can lead to extra excitement. There are various ways to look at what a specifically male pleasure position may mean to you — for starters, though, it should be one that gives greater than average physical pleasure or one that’s especially exciting. From there, the possibilities are endless, but here are some great ways to get started! 

You can tell say something to your man that would in still the same feeling as being in a nightclub even if you’re not in one. You could tell how if you were in a nightclub with him, you would let him put his hands all over you while dancing or that you could build up momentum by having dry sex while dancing in the nightclub. Nobody I the nightclub would notice as they are all too busy dancing themselves to notice the dirty things you are doing to him or he is doing to you.
Please your man in bed with kissing him whenever and wherever you are. When you are out and about, make sure you keep giving him loads of kisses so he knows you find him attractive and you can't keep your hands off him. Any kind of closeness is a good thing and the more you find yourselves kissing will give you both the contact you crave for. Being closer together through kissing will give you both the ultimate aim of being closer together in the bedroom. It will please your man immensely to know that the kissing will continue when you are in bed together. Kissing is the one great pleasure a couple can share together on a daily basis. It is the one thing that you can do in private or public that will be such a great turn on for you both.
Surprise him with a kiss. Not the standard peck on the lips you duly provide when he gets home from work, but a real, lingering, passionate, 15-second kiss. The trick here is to take him by surprise. Pull him aside when you're in line at the movies, plant one on him before he leaves for work or deliver that luscious lip-lock during a commercial break in front of the tube. A hot make-out session when he's expecting a cheek kiss will get his mojo going in a way scheduled sex just can't touch.
Sounds great...but what should you say that won't seem ridiculous? (Unless you're a porn star, "Do me hard, bad boy!" probably doesn't roll off the tongue.) "Most women aren't sure what sounds sexy, so they don't say anything," says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a sexologist in New York City. As a result, you're missing out on pleasure — which is so not right.
If you're young, Tori, I think you're best to just keep being special friends as you are now. Wait and see what happens in the future. You don't want to make him feel awkward and under pressure. Besides, both you and him are going to change as you get older. I think you should wait and see if you still find him interesting and attractive when he's a bit older.

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