"It doesn't matter what position we're in because all positions have pros and cons (mostly pros!), but when my girlfriend starts to tell me about this fantasy she has where she comes home and finds her best friend giving me a blowjob and then joins in, I have to stop myself from having an orgasm in seconds. She describes every detail and looks me in the eye while she's doing it — it just makes me want to thrust harder or do whatever I have to do to make her come. It took her a long time to add her friend into the fantasy (she used to leave out the person's identity), but I told her men are visual and instead of being intimidated by that, she went with it. And that makes her and the sex even hotter." — Justin R., 29, Raleigh, North Carolina
#4 Give head. This is something that, for some reason, a lot of women don’t prefer to do. However, men really, really enjoy receiving oral sex. You’ll know this if you go down on him and do it. Just make sure you’re being enthusiastic about it. He’ll be super pleased if you actually want to make him feel good. [Read: 15 blowjob moves that’ll blow his mind]
6. Don’t Mistake Dirty Talk for Aggressive Sexuality. You don’t have to ram sexuality down his throat with your dirty talk. There is a misconception among women that they can’t be feminine, or that they need to be sexually aggressive to turn a man on. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. A man will respond to real, authentic, and even shy dirty phrases more so than explicit and aggressive sexual remarks in many cases. This doesn’t mean that some men don’t prefer really bawdy women, but don’t think that you have to be really outlandish to get his attention. Just whispering something fairly innocent in his ear like, “when we are alone, you have no idea the things I’m going to do to you,” is often sufficient. Then smile and look into his eyes, and he’ll know your sincere, but also incredibly desirable.
If you’re a little shy, then you might have to get over it if you’re really gunning for the guy of your dreams. Eye contact is huge. It's a game changer. Letting him gaze into your eyes, even if for a second or two, will let him see that you want to be seen by him. That’s intimacy without taking off your clothes. And sometimes those intimate moments that rest on our emotions and pull on our heart strings are the ones we hold onto the strongest. Eye contact also reveals a lot about your level of confidence. Guys don’t just like the batting of the eyelashes, but also what’s behind them –a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to show it.
"I mentioned to a girl that I had been hooking up with that when she wore strappy heels it drove me crazy. She immediately picked up on the fact that it was something I was into. The next time we were in bed, missionary position, nothing crazy, she wrapped her legs around me in such a way that the arches of her soles were pressed against my hips/butt, almost pulling me toward her, and when she was close to orgasm I could feel her toes clenching … my body temp just rose 5 degrees thinking about it." — Kenneth M., 36, Hoboken, New Jersey
Massaging your man’s scalp is one of those forgotten foreplay tips that feels wonderful for your man (and when your man does it to you, too!). You can do it while you are just sitting down beside each other, when you are lying in bed, when you are kissing each other or even while making love, too. But don’t just scrape his head with your nails! To massage his scalp, start from the bottom near the back of his neck or just above his ear.
Please your man in bed by being sensual because sensuality creates an atmosphere all of its own in the bedroom. I have a friend called Patricia, she is a girly girl and loves everything that sparkles and glitters. Her advice to you is that whilst sensuality can enhance things sexually, it can also enhance your relationship in other ways as well. Patricia says feeding each other strawberries dipped in chocolate can be a very sensual thing to try, she also however says that being sensual in your everyday life and enjoying the world around you, is a sure fire way to enhance the sensuality you will both feel in the bedroom whenever you are in each other's arms.
So, your special night of you-fun may mean an extra-special blowjob — and there’s no doubt that’s special! — or that being the night you try something kinkier, like role-play, for the first time. That’s great. It may also be the time you go for anal sex, or try sex in the shower or car sex, or somewhere more adventurous. That can be super fun as well. But it doesn’t end there.
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Hello. How can I arrange a phone consultation with you, Eric? Your straight-forward advice sounds reasonable and sound to me. I am in a 4-month old relationship with my boyfriend. I love him and he says he loves me, but he says he is afraid of hurting me. He confessed that he loves the excitement and euphoria when a relationship is new but gets bored and dissatisfied when the newness wears off. He is afraid that this will happen again and he will hurt me. He said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him, that I treat him better than any other woman he’s ever been with and that he wants me in his life forever, even if that mean just being friends later. He hasn’t asked me to move in, hasn’t discussed marriage, but says he wants a future a with me. I don’t get this at all. My gut tells me he loves me but not enough. I want a future with him, including the whole ball of wax of marriage, but he says he doesn’t know if he wants to marry me or not, that we should just enjoy each other and live day to day. Sounds like bs to me. But I find it hard to be objective. He has been hurt deeply by past women who have betrayed and used him. I need help figuring this all out. Thank you very much.
You may want to give your gams a break and focus on toning your arms instead. Researchers at the University of New South Wales in Sydney, Australia, showed male volunteers videos of women. Men consistently rated those with long armsamong the most attractive, whereas ladies with lengthy legs didn't even make the list. The theory behind the results: Long arms may make a woman look slimmer, indicate that she's highly functional or suggest she gives great hugs.
Terror as a turn-on? It seems that way! University of British Columbia researchers dispatched two sets of men to stand on two separate bridges—one reassuringly sturdy and another that was long, shaky and suspended 230 feet in the air. Next, they sent a beautiful female assistant to ask the two groups to fill out a survey. Those on the precarious bridge gave more risqué answers to her questions. Feeling threatened is linked to arousal in the brain, which may have spurred those men to open up. Who knew anxiety could be such effective foreplay?
Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around someone who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a person. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.
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