Run into him "by accident." Make him feel like your connection is kismet. It is no secret that men enjoy the thrill of the chase, so instead of making it obvious that you are pursuing him, find ways to bump into him "by chance." For instance, if you know he likes to spend his weekday afternoons studying at the local coffee shop, consider stopping by there yourself. When you see him, feign genuine surprise and see if you can strike up a conversation.
Hi Eric,i really need ur advice thrs a guy whom i love i ve alrdy askd him out we’ve meet twice bt iam very serious about him..he said he does not want to b in a relationship..as he just had a break up wth smbdy…bt he also sayss that he will never let me go things would be the same as wen ur in relationship just it wont be official..but niwdays i feel he gets irritated while speakn online…i want him to be mine forevr…wat should i do to get him commit nd love me….
Have a life. Desperate, dramatic, and clingy relationships are often rooted in a feeling of need and desperation for a man to fill your life. Even if you have low self-esteem, work over time to build it. Pursue your goals and be focused, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things that take you outside your boundaries. Don't put up a tough exterior to get over shyness; gradually learn to build trust with a network of people, so that your boyfriend isn't the only person you open up to and share your life with. Also remember to trust yourself first. If you can't trust yourself, you are likely to not trust your man.
Next step - appeal to the vision. If you are self-conscious about your body and love to switch off the lights, you are depriving your man one of his senses. Guys are simple. Lace and shiny things are appealing. If you have not yet lost all the post-partum weight, choose darker colours. If you are a petite person, use lighter colours. Dress in layers, and undress as you proceed like you have all the time in the world.

Also a final word of warning because this will destroy even the strongest relationship if you’re not careful: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
Of course, it won’t hurt you to know how to dirty talk whether your man likes it or not. But, you’re not going to be using this much if your man isn’t into it. IT could be that your man likes vulgar dirty talking or it could be that he prefers more subtle dirty talk. But, the point is, you won’t know if he likes it or not unless you either ask him or test it out during sex. In all honesty, it’s better you ask him straight up whether or not he likes dirty talking and if so, what type of dirty talking he prefers. Now, if you’re shy to ask him, then why not suggest he talks dirty to you? That way, you see the way he dirty talks and are able to understand the level of dirty talking he feels comfortable with.
Oh yeah, like that baby, don’t stop – Whether it is work or sex, everyone loves motivation. So make sure that you motivate your guy by using dirty sentences that make him want more. While sex, keep telling him that he is doing good and you are enjoying sex with him. This is one of those dirty things to say to boyfriend that will arouse him even more. 
Eye contact is the most powerful of all the signals. It is the universal sign to any man that you have noticed him and are possibly (there are a few accompanying signals that will be looked to for further evidence) open to an introduction. Healthy (read: non-predatory) men will interpret the cold shoulder or avoidance as a sign you are not interested and therefore will not approach. Like it or not, this is a fact.
Now that you have plenty of dirty lines to use on your guy and get you started, it is time to understand how to say those dirty talking lines. What you shouldn’t do is turn to him with a silly grin and holding in a laugh while saying “I want you right now”… this isn’t going to turn anyone on. Instead turn to your man slowly, put your hand on his chest, gaze into his eyes and softly say “I want you soooo bad”… channel your inner Samantha.
Meet my friend Michelle — a beautiful, sophisticated and exceptionally intelligent 30-year-old woman in New York City. Men are falling all over her left and right, but not too many of them can go toe-to-toe with her. Every once in a while, though, a keeper comes along. That’s when she gets all excited, instantly loses her bearings and calls me to ask in an endearingly helpless tone: “Ali — how do you make a man fall in love with you?”
Taking on a new identity in the bedroom is something that adds to the freshness and fun of your intimate life. Some roles that couples usually like to act out are: professor&student, repairman&homeowner, strangers in a bar, porn stars, cheerleader&football player, domina&submissive and the list goes on. The important thing is to choose something you are both comfortable with.
Do not lose sight of yourself. Having a life of your own doesn’t just mean independence –it means integrity. You need to stay true to the vision you have for yourself. Have hobbies, take trips, and be alone. Whatever you do –don’t put your life on hold waiting around for him. That’s a huge mistake. Do your life as you wish and you’ll soon see how much you attract him. As humans, we require quiet time alone. Despite being social, having space for self-exploration is key to being the best you. And when you’re the best you, you have magic powers. No questions asked. Put your magic to work for you by putting yourself first. And the right one will come alone.
Meet my friend Michelle — a beautiful, sophisticated and exceptionally intelligent 30-year-old woman in New York City. Men are falling all over her left and right, but not too many of them can go toe-to-toe with her. Every once in a while, though, a keeper comes along. That’s when she gets all excited, instantly loses her bearings and calls me to ask in an endearingly helpless tone: “Ali — how do you make a man fall in love with you?”
Set the mood. Would you have sex with your dirty laundry all over your room and empty takeout containers all over your desk? Hopefully not. You shouldn't talk dirty until you're in a romantic atmosphere either. Just clean up your space, dim the lights and light some candles, and lie in your clean, welcoming bed. Do whatever you would do to prepare to get it on for real.
I met a guy on a dating website. We went on a date which I thought, went really well. But he didn’t try to kiss me or anything, but said he’d like to see me again. We have been texting multiple times a day, and he has called me a few times. But the conversations feel like those in a friendship, and he has made no attempt to set a date to meet again. I proposed 2 dates, but he had family commitments on both, and now he is away on business for a week. It feels like very mixed signals from him. How do I know if he likes me?
Let her be your teacher and the tour guide of her body. “Many men assume they know exactly how a woman likes it based on past experiences or what he has seen performed in films, but every woman is different and is aroused by various sets of sexual triggers,” says Morgan. Have a conversation with her before entering into any sexual activity to give her the opportunity to tell you what does it for her. Not only does this place her pleasure first, but it also makes her feel comfortable in knowing that you care about her satisfaction as much as you care about yours. And that is the ultimate turn on.

I’m sure you agree then during sex, many naughty things pass through your mind but many of you don’t voice what you’re thinking. What better time to talk dirty when you are doing the dirty and you’re already naturally thinking of dirty thoughts. This is the most natural time to talk dirty so next time you are doing the dirty with your man, say what is on your mind.

#7 Let him take charge. Now it’s time for you to let go of some control. Let him do what he wants to you in bed, so long as you’re okay with it, of course. If he wants to feel like he’s dominant, let him be. It’ll please him a lot to know how much you trust him and want him to lead your sexcapades. [Read: 15 moves to turn a guy on and make him want you]
Please your man in bed by setting the scene, and you will both enjoy being in the zone when you enter the bedroom together. You can set the scene way before it comes to the time when you go to bed. You can set the scene by building up to the grand finale by having dinner out at a nearby restaurant, or you could go to the cinema and watch a romantic movie, knowing what is coming later all adds to the build up of anticipation. When it comes to the bedroom itself you can have the lights turned down low, you can have new satin sheets to climb into, you can have your favourite album playing in the background. All of these things will set the scene beautifully.
Not only does talking dirty to your husband (or boyfriend) keep your partner thinking about you, but it also makes sex more enjoyable and hotter. More than anything, it is fun to learn and use dirty talk in bed. You can say dirty sentences while making out with your partner in bed, via texts, or via indulging in a phone sex (use telephone sex words), the choice is all yours. And there are plenty of dirty things to text your boyfriend or whisper in his ear. This might surprise you, but dirty sex talk works best in boosting a man’s ego in bed. If you were wondering what men want in bed, well dirty talking is one of those things.
Tip #3: The Vibrant Vibe. According to Adam, the law of attraction is that like attracts like. By this he means if you want to attract fun and exciting guys, you've got to be fun and exciting yourself. He says, "if you have the stink face' look all night and appear miserable, guess who you'll be attracting? You guessed it, the creepers." Ugh, we all know the ones right? The ones who are all, "I bet I could make you smile, girl." Ew. On the other hand, if you're enjoying yourself, you're more likely to attract great guys. According to Adam, "women who get approached by quality guys always have the vibe that projects I'm loving my night regardless!'" On a non-guy-related note, having fun is always superior to not having fun.
Please your man in bed with your sexy presence and he will truly enjoy the experience of being in bed with you. I have a friend called Thelma, she's 34 years old. She used to be quiet and shy and would never have dreamed of acting sexily. She used to think that she couldn't act sexily because her upbringing had been quite strict and sex was never discussed in the home. Then she met Peter and he was able to offer her the encouragement she needed to feel more sexy. Thelma says it is never to late to tap into your inner sexiness so that you too can bring your sexy side to the forefront when you are in the bedroom.
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Why are you supposed to be moving in with your crush, Miss 12? Are you a foster kid moving in with his family? You know you're going to have to wait for at least four years before making any kind of move on him, don't you? If you do anything stupid like sneaking into his room, you could both end up in a heap of trouble. He could be charged if he's intimate with you in any way before you're 16 ... and you'll be ruining your own chance at having happy teenage years. So please, either accept that nothing should be happening with him for a long time yet, or ask to be placed with a different family.
The only part I disagree with is sex, I would NEVER advocate with holding sex, but I do think a woman should wait until she knows the man well enough to want to be intimate with him. If he is truly interested he WILL wait a reasonable amount of time. If you’re the type of woman who says I have to wait until date 10, he will never take you seriously. I believe strongly in the mystery and clarity that a woman has in the early days. For it is then that she makes better choices about compatibility.

It's no secret that women have some very specific pleasure points on their body, and hopefully, your guy is no stranger to the clitoris and G-spot. Yet you might be surprised to know that the male body also has particular erogenous zones, or trigger spots, that—when stimulated—will make his orgasms more powerful and your sex life better than ever. "Orgasm is the release of sexual tension, and tension is created through gradually increasing and varying touch and pressure on his passion points," says Claire Cavanah, cofounder of Babeland, a national chain of women-owned sex shops, and coauthor of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex and Sex Toys 101. "Licking and biting with your mouth, then adding in heat or cold sensations by sucking on an ice cube or drinking hot tea will drive him wild." To find out where to touch him to make his toes curl, click through our hot list. (Related: The 4 Simple Things You Need for Amazing Sex) 


Men highly underestimate the power of a woman's mind over her body. “If her mind isn't present within the sexual experience then her ability to become aroused will be difficult,” says Tyomi Morgan, sex educator/sexuality coach. The brain is the largest sex organ there is so stimulate her mind first before moving to the erogenous zones of her body. Making her feel safe and comfortable is the first step to arousing the mind and then securing her trust. “Once safety and trust are established it's a matter of helping her unwind from the stresses of the day and drawing into her emotionally. Allow her to vent her frustrations, be empathetic and then move into giving her a back rub. Show her you are interested in more than just getting into her vagina before you move into intercourse,” says Morgan. When her mind is relaxed and free of stress her body will follow.

"There are at least four major nerve complexes and six or more physiological pathways to drive her to orgasm. Most of these brain pathways can trigger a 'mindgasm' completely on their own. When you stimulate more than one orgasm trigger area at the same time (within the mind and the body), they magnify each other's’ effect and the threshold for orgasm is lowered. When enough of this input reaches the brain, the orgasm reflex is triggered. A good lover will provide several different types of orgasmic stimulation at the same time."
I’ve been dating this guy for about 6 weeks or so. Yes, early days I know, but we have passed a lot of these things. I’ve met his brother, his casual friends and a lot of his close friends. Natural since we’ve known each other for 8 years really. Anyway I feel like I’ve ruined something great. We try and have a date a week, very casual ones though, we feel good around each other, talk is easy, we support each other, have some similar interests and hobbies, and the sex is great. It was only how one date night he was sick and I organised an easy night at his where I would bring over dinner, watch a movie and just hang out. He told me he wasn’t up to it and wanted some alone time. I get that. I have those days too. I also get that plans come up and that if there is a friend you can only see once in a blue moon then you take it. But, does it have to be the same night? Do I have to find out through a third person that he went to a party while sick on the night he wanted to be alone? Now in past relationships I’ve done the bad thing, let these things slide, hurt me and reward them for it; but I didn’t want to do that. I messaged him today – not trusting my voice – with something along the lines of ‘since you believe in honesty is the best policy, next time tell me alone time just means time with anyone but me.’ I told him I’ve been in that type of relationship before and I was really hurt by it. He said he understood and it was inconsiderate before slipping in the whole thing of ‘personally, i’m not looking for a serious relationship right now.’. Ok, I get that. Just shy of two months dating (even though we’ve known each other for 8 years) and we are young! We are only 22. I agreed with him but he also knows that down the line those feelings on my end might change. I also said that if they change for him to let me know since I don’t want to get hurt and I don’t want him to be either. I’ve been in the whole one sided relationship before and the guy really hurt me in that situation. I feel like I’ve ruined it by telling him how I feel since he just slipped in that line and it just felt like another blow. I like this guy, I could see a potential relationship in the future but I’m just scared that even though I said I don’t want a label that he thinks that since i added that months down the line that could change. When that time comes I’m just wondering how to reach him to move from just casual dating to a proper relationship.
Sure, guys have a reputation for wanting to get it on within seconds, but don't get forget that the buildup can be just as hot. Whether it's a sexy text you send to get him excited or slowly disrobing for an impromptu a striptease, try getting him revved up before you even start. Why rush to the main event when you can build up to something even hotter?
As with any sexual fantasy, it’s best to discuss details beforehand. Open up the dialogue by discussing one of your fantasies first. This makes it more comfortable for him to talk about his own fantasies, and will establish a baseline trust and safe space. Overstreet says this also can help the two of you discover which fantasies you may have in common, and if so, which would be easiest to turn into reality.

And no, it doesn’t take away from the sexiness of your dirty talk if you check in with them. It’s a sign of respect. It’s the same well-spring of respect that makes you think to ask your partner if their penis/clitoris prefers softer or firmer stimulation. It doesn’t ruin the mood to check in… it enhances the feelings of safety, comfort, and connection.


Please your man in bed with passion because without passion you can't have a meaningful and loving relationship. Passion is what lights up your day, it's what makes you walk through life with a spring in your step. It's a lovely feeling when you can look into each other's eyes and see the passion reflected back. A million words could not be said, that would mean as much as that one passionate glance toward each other. You will both know in an instant that the passion you both share is there all the time when you look into each other's eyes.


If you’re not comfortable with vulgar dirty talk, then don’t do it. If you’re forcing something that doesn’t feel comfortable for you, then it’s not going to come off as sexy. If anything, he’s going to feel the awkwardness and it’ll ruin the moment for the both of you. In other words, test out dirty talking with your man and see what makes you feel sexy and what crosses your own personal boundaries.
I bet you’ve never thought about your dude’s Adam’s apple as an erogenous zone, huh? If you have, congrats, you should probably be writing this instead of me. But for the normies out there, the thought behind this stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is “closely linked to the sex organs, according to ancient Chinese medicine,” according to reflexologist Mantak Chia, author of Sexual Reflexology.
I could list hundreds different sex tips, techniques and positions that you could try on your man, whether that’s a particular position helps you orgasm, a certain technique for giving your man a good blow job, or a new way to stimulate his prostate. Most of these techniques will work fine, some will not work at all and only a few will truly please your man so much so, that he’ll be fantasizing about it for years to come.
A lot of women worry that they are not attractive to men. Some of them are looking for their partners for their entire life and fail. The reason is poor self-presentation since they need to give pleasure, not just get it. Kisses, embraces, caress, and walks give women a lot of pleasure and positive emotions. This article will tell how to arouse a guy while kissing.
So Eric I’ve been talking to this guy almost 2 years. He says he likes me a lot but does not know what he wants we not in a relationship he enjoys my company a lot I like him too but need more.I think he’s confused some times it feels like he wants to and then next time he pulls away say he been hurt so much he’s not ready .Do u think it’s an excuse or what .I know he seeing other people but denies it .Please give me your opinion
Of course, these are all just examples. You could take dirty talking in infinite directions. As long as you are true to your own sexuality, you’ll never do it “wrong.” The trick is to switch on that part of his brain that is hard-wired to think of sex, but to put your face and body, your voice and personality into those neuronal connections he’s making that translate to: hot sex = this woman. This will make him yearn for you even when you aren’t together, and ramp up your sex life by creating sexual tension.
This is Dana I just want you to help with my issue. I met a guy I obsorved his character he is genuine, and kind to everyone. The thing is that he is making me to feel that he likes me but when I started to talk him as a friend, he just telling me tat he got crush on some one else & her age is 22 and few days after he Says tat he is loving a girl from the same premises and she is 24. I didn’t understand what he is trying to tell. My question for you is did he making to jealous or he just wants avoid me.

People who have affairs do a lot of risqué things such as doing the dirty in the office, at a hotel or in the car. You can use this scenario by suggesting risqué places to have sex to your partner. To get him to join you in this fantasy, you could say something like “if I was having an affair with you, I’d pull you in there and…” This will get his mind racing at thought of whisking into the nearby cubicle or room.


Finding a spouse using pornography is a top reason couples seek counsel, but it shouldn't be overreacted to or pathologized, Dr. Kort says. First of all, sex addicts only represent 3-6% of the population, so it's unlikely your man is one. Plus, because childhood experiences influence sexuality as an adult, people are very idiosyncratic about what turns them on, Dr. Kort says. "So no woman can, nor should be, everything to a man."

The first step in being someone she’s going to want to get naked with is to take care of yourself. Put some good healthy creative thought into determining your style and what brings out the best you. “Groom and dress yourself like you care. Obviously the healthier you eat and the more you workout plays directly into this as well. You really are what you eat,” says Nick Hawk, star of Showtime’s reality show Gigolos.


I want to give you the best Oral SEX, you’ve ever had – You wanted some dirty things to tell your boyfriend? Well, this is it. It is undoubtedly the thing that all men want to hear from you. Guys love oral sex and if you are good at it, then there is nothing else you need to drive him crazy. Just give him a good oral sex and he will devote himself to you no matter what. Try it and don’t forget to thank us later.
Sex is an important part of a marriage. Who does not miss the rush of the early days together? However, with time, it becomes almost clinical. And after having children, it becomes increasingly difficult to find time and energy to have sex. And whenever you do, it ends up being a 10-minute sprint as against the hours spent in exploring each other during the early days.
#4 Ease into it. Don’t just all of a sudden start with dirty talking, especially if it’s your first time doing it with your partner. Start by flirting and then slowly building up the intensity. For example, if he says he’s in bed, you can reply by saying, “You know what I’d do if I was there beside you?” This alerts him what he’s in for, so he has a moment to prepare. It’ll catch him off guard, but he’ll get into the mood.
#1 Figure out his fantasies. Most guys, just like women, have fantasies they’d love to try in the bedroom. You can usually just ask your man what he thinks about, but some guys can be sensitive about it. Meaning, you may have to weasel your way into his fantasies by trying things and seeing what he likes best. [Read: The black book of top male fantasies]
What impresses a guy most in bed? Surprisingly (or maybe not so, guys do have a reputation for being lazy), most confessed that they're not all that interested in theatrics or trapeze acts. In fact, many men told us that they're simple creatures who basically just want their wives to show up. But if you're looking to give him something extra-special, they'd love a little bit of this.
Please your man in bed by being feminine and your femininity will capture his heart forever. Being feminine is loving every inch of your body. Your body is what makes you female. Don't dismiss your curves, your curves are feminine, they make you the woman you are, they make you the woman he first felt attracted to. Your man will be happy for you that you are happy in your own skin. He will respect you for embracing your figure and being yourself rather than what somebody else expects you to be. Being graceful and having good manners will also enhance your femininity. Your man will be proud to be seen with you and he will love the fact that when you are alone together in the bedroom he's the one that will be enjoying all of your feminine charms.

The sexual parts of a woman's body are obvious (breasts, butt, vulva, lips) but there are other erogenous zones that are non-assuming yet effective in stimulating arousal when they are stimulated. “The backs of the thighs, the palms of the hands, behind the knee, the abdomen and the bottoms of the feet are pleasure zones that can be rubbed, caressed, lightly brushed or even blown on to generate a sexual response,” says Morgan. Take the time to explore a woman's body before sex by offering a sensual rubdown beginning at the feet and then working your way up to the backs of the thighs and eventually the abdomen. Avoid the most obvious zones to create a level of anticipation for what is to come next. Create ambiance with candles and soft music and make sure the room is warm. You don't have to be a professional masseuse to do this. Use light strokes first and increase the pressure as you go along, but always check in with your partner to make sure she is comfortable.
Tip #1: Show them pearly whites. Adam's first tip is a simple and easy one--smile at the guy you're hoping will approach you. He say, "Men are total wusses when it comes to approaching women. If they don't feel confident that you want them to come over, then they'll almost never make the move." Evidently, male clients are always asking how to be sure that a woman actually wants them to come over, and Adam advises that a smile gives them "a solid 80% chance" since "there is no 100% certainty when it comes to dating". If you take the tiny little initiative to smile his way, it will encourage him to make a move.

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