The key with all of this is figuring out what method works best for you and your man. It will take a lot of experimentation and a little bit of frustration, but if you keep going, you’ll eventually arrive at a point where you know his every kink, turn on and fantasy. This way you will always know how to totally and completely pleasure your man every time.
Seriously, one of the most attractive things about any human is a level of pure confidence. This can get tricky. The line between confidence and arrogance is often skewed. With a little knowledge, you can apply your own sense of confidence with success. Don’t brag, but talk passionately about your qualities or achievements. Be sure you don’t only talk about yourself either. A good, healthy sense of confidence also lies in wanting to know others. Don’t act like the world revolves around you. The last thing a guy wants is a princess who feels entitled or someone high maintenance. Be proud, but humble. Listen closely and be attentive. Confidence is an attitude that’s best worn with discretion. A little goes a long way, use sparingly, but apply to your best parts.
To dip your toe into Fifty Shades for Beginners territory, Dr. Kristie Overstreet PhD suggests telling your partner that he can’t talk, touch, or even move unless he’s told to. Tell him if he disobeys you or doesn’t follow your directions, he’ll be punished. Boss him around a little, and tell him how you want him to touch you, what to say, and direct his every move. Watch him squirm and remind him from time to time that you’re in control.
There’s nothing quite like kissing when engaging in foreplay. Starting with the lips is a choice where you can’t go wrong. Making out increases sexual desire. Redirect your kisses to his neck and stay there for a while. Then slowly nibble his ear, going back to the neck and finding your way down. Kiss every inch of his body. The anticipation of a blow job will be something that will make his manhood hard as wood.
When you do talk, Mintz suggests using the sandwich technique: Give him a compliment, tell him your problem, then follow it up with another compliment. Example: "I really love having sex with you, and after we have sex I feel really close and connected. I know you really want to shower, but I really want to cuddle. Is there a compromise that will work for both of us?"
Ladies…all I can say is if you feel insecure about your looks then make yourself more attractive for YOU! Not for a man. There’s nothing that increases a woman’s feelings of insecurity more than doing something to herself FOR a man, or for the purpose of attracting men. It may make you feel confident and powerful in the short term, but that feeling doesn’t last if your focus is on doing it for him. Your purpose should be feeling better about yourself and increasing your own confidence regardless of men. What men seem to forget is that women are not on this earth solely for their pleasure. How you feel about yourself should be totally independent of what men think.
"Hey, honey, do you want me to help you with something? What would you like me to do? Do you want to hang out, just the two of us? I want to buy you something for Christmas/Valentine's Day - could you tell me exactly what you would like? I see you're hanging out with your friends today, but I'd like to get to know them better - can I hang out with you all today, or not? I really like that shirt/necklace/purse - could you buy it for me, please? I'm going to be hanging out with my friends this afternoon - would you rather I not discuss you?"
Men highly underestimate the power of a woman's mind over her body. “If her mind isn't present within the sexual experience then her ability to become aroused will be difficult,” says Tyomi Morgan, sex educator/sexuality coach. The brain is the largest sex organ there is so stimulate her mind first before moving to the erogenous zones of her body. Making her feel safe and comfortable is the first step to arousing the mind and then securing her trust. “Once safety and trust are established it's a matter of helping her unwind from the stresses of the day and drawing into her emotionally. Allow her to vent her frustrations, be empathetic and then move into giving her a back rub. Show her you are interested in more than just getting into her vagina before you move into intercourse,” says Morgan. When her mind is relaxed and free of stress her body will follow.
Hi, He sounds as if he has a lot of his own insecurities and is deflecting them onto you. He is constantly trying to change you, and tell you that you aren’t enough. You sound to me as if you are not comfortable in being yourself around him. You can’t petend to be someone else to please jom forever, so picture this you are trying to adapt yourself to who he wanrlts and he is still finding flaws. Aren’t you tired already,? he is damaging your self-esteem. There is someone out there , who you may or may not have met, that will adore you flaws and all, bit you have to love yourself enough to know when you are being tolerated , and ” handled”, not loved. This guy you are with, needs you a lot more than you need him, be careful not to allow him to force you to change into someone nobody wants, so thy he can keep you all to himself, while he used you. By that, I mean an insecure, unhappy person that doesn’t feel worthy of anything.
When you do talk, Mintz suggests using the sandwich technique: Give him a compliment, tell him your problem, then follow it up with another compliment. Example: "I really love having sex with you, and after we have sex I feel really close and connected. I know you really want to shower, but I really want to cuddle. Is there a compromise that will work for both of us?"
Before you dive straight into it and start writing down all the naughty things you want to say to your man, try and find out whether this is actually something that would arouse him. Not all men are the same and so some will like dirty talking and some will cringe and could possibly even turn them off. Don’t let this scare you though and put you off; you just need to test the waters a little before diving right in.
One thing about getting what you want is acting like it’s already yours. It’s a headspace and an attitude. It’s about convincing yourself of something and believing that you have the capacity to obtain that which your heart desires. Addressing things like the law of attraction and universal timing come into play here. Do some online investigation to learn more. The main point is that attention goes where energy flows. So if you put out good vibes for the guy you want, then he’ll come to you. You can apply this theory with a specific guy in mind or in general. Manifestation takes place in the mind, the spiritual realm, before it touches the physical world. Start thinking he’s yours and soon enough he will be –guaranteed. That is, if universe sees it fit for you.
If you’ve ever fallen hard for someone in the early stages of crushes and dating, you know the most frustrating — and the greatest — thing about it can be trying to gain their attention and earn their returned love. You want to prove yourself as someone worthy of their time and affection, but it’s never just as easy as casting a magic spell to make it all go well, is it?
I don’t care if you like it.  I don’t care if you think it’s fair or unfair. It is a simple truth that people value those who bring a unique, special, meaningful value to the table.   If you honestly think that you can have a man want to choose you and only you forever without bringing something deeply valuable to him… then you’re either choosing very low -quality men or you just haven’t thought through reality yet.
Have a life. Desperate, dramatic, and clingy relationships are often rooted in a feeling of need and desperation for a man to fill your life. Even if you have low self-esteem, work over time to build it. Pursue your goals and be focused, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things that take you outside your boundaries. Don't put up a tough exterior to get over shyness; gradually learn to build trust with a network of people, so that your boyfriend isn't the only person you open up to and share your life with. Also remember to trust yourself first. If you can't trust yourself, you are likely to not trust your man.

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