The following dirty talk examples are not for the faint of heart and these phrases probably shouldn’t be attempted within the first month of your new relationship (unless you met your partner at an orgy/sex party and that overtly sexual context has already been set between the two of you). As with most things to do with eroticism, it’s often the least politically correct things that are some of the biggest turn ons behind closed bedroom doors.
Try this: reverse finger job. Make two tight rings around his penis with your thumb and index finger (like you’re doing the okay hand symbol 👌), stacking them one on top of the other, in the middle of his shaft. Twist the rings in opposite directions moving from middle to the top and base of his shaft at the same time. Cox calls this a “torrid twist” the the typical one-handed uppy-downey handy. Remember to use lube, though!
Talking during sex stimulates more than our ears, as Mintz says heavy breathing, groaning, and moaning are all sounds that we make when we're feeling free, and studies have shown that it's erotic for all parties involved to hear. It's also a great way to really express what you want, which is a huge turn-on for men when they know they're doing exactly what you need to have an orgasm.

"I like it when she straddles my penis as I'm sitting in a chair or on the couch. I can see and touch everything, including her breasts and clit. I know a lot of guys like reverse cowgirl and it's hot to see a girl's ass and everything, but I always feel like it bends my penis to the point where it might break." — Peter C., 31, Asheville, North Carolina


Sexting is one of the first and most effective ideas that come to mind. There are many directions in which sexting can go. It can vary from subtle vanilla dirty talk to something hardcore. It depends on your preferences, so let that be your guideline. In any case, sexts are bound to blow his mind and make him eager to see you and rip your clothes off of you. One of the great perks of sexting is that you have a lot of time to think about what you are going to say.

Positions that tend to allow men full control of penetration (this can mean depth, rhythm, etc.) tend to give men more pleasure. “This typically means that rear-entry positions allow for the most access as he is in control and her body allows deeper penetration in these positions, whether it's doggy style or some other variation,” says Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a licensed marriage and sex therapist and resident sex expert for www.AdamandEve.com. 


But what exactly do you have to be doing in order for the two of you to be doing foreplay the correct way? First, it’s important to establish what REAL foreplay is supposed to look like so that you can gain a better understanding of what it really is. The first thing that you have to keep in mind is that foreplay doesn’t always have to be a routine. Yes, you can have your go-to moves, but you don’t have to stick to them if you want to play around. In fact, it’s always encouraged that you be brave and creative enough to mix things up a little bit every once in a while.
Another misunderstanding that trips up many women when figuring out how to pleasure your man is thinking that all men are the same. Both you and I know that everyone is different. We all have different kinks, fantasies and peculiarities. Some guys love nothing more than to eat your ass for hours, while others would wretch at the thought. So if you previously got great results with a certain hand job technique, don’t expect it to work equally well on your new man.
Please your man in bed by teasing him with your sexiness. I have a friend called Wendy, she is a hairdresser and she works in the local village salon. She is a minefield of information because she listens to her customers’ tales whilst she is doing their hair. One of the tips she heard from one of her customers has helped her greatly in the bedroom. That tip was to tease. Teasing your man in the bedroom will bring out in him an animal passion that even he didn't know he had. Let him know you want him by teasing him and Wendy guarantees that he will want you forever more. She says that by teasing him you are letting him know you want to play sexy games, and knowing that you want to play sexy games will be very exciting for him.

Please your man in bed with mystery and let him solve the puzzle. Don't reveal everything about yourself in one go. Save somethings about yourself that will be revealed as time goes by. When you are in bed with him and feeling close, its nice to have pillow talk, a time when you can both nestle into each others arms and plan your dreams together. It would be lovely if you could reveal a part of yourself that would fascinate him. A part of you that would make him look at you in a whole different way, his response that he never thought you could do anything as daring or as adventurous as that, would be lovely for you to hear. A piece of the puzzle regarding you would have been solved. All of your revelations will be be very interesting to him and as each part of you is unfolded it will bring you so much closer together.


What Real Women Say: "My husband uses dirty talk to give me a preview of what he's going to do to me next," says Isabel, 29. "He'll be fingering me and tell me, as he's doing so, that he can't wait to be inside me like this, or he'll run his tongue along my ear and say that he's going to do that while going down on me. Then he'll take his time getting there – but my mind is already on him following through with those promises, which makes even the smallest thing he's doing to me feel more intense."
Hi. I have a huge crush on this guy I've been sleeping with for the past week. He's a mutual friend and we've planned to hang out before, but just recently did so. He's everything I need and I had no idea he would be in my heart so fast. Problem is, he and I both share the 'I'm single' lifestyle, not necessarily looking for a relationship but not really erasing the idea either. We've expressed that we like each other, and we act like a couple does occasionally, but I can't understand the vibe he gives out. He makes me feel special, calls me beautiful and will even tickle me just so he can see my genuine smile. I want a relationship with him more than anything. I mean he's 24, I'm 23. We both own your own property. We both are unable to have children and are okay with that. We're both cancers and like anime. We have the same hobbies and same concepts while still maintaining individuality. I think we'd be perfect, and I've never been more willing to work on forming the best relationship for us. I was wanting to know, how would I likely be able to make a guy think of me as much as I think of him? How do I show him my feelings without coming off as clingy, desperate, or just lonely? Please help at your latest convenience.
I remember the first time a girlfriend started talking dirty to me, I was so shocked at first, but in a good way, a very good way! I was shocked mainly because I just wasn’t expecting it as she otherwise usually came across so sweet and innocent, lol! However, I found it a huge turn on, which soon led to a rather raunchy sex session once we were alone together. Ah, fond memories…
This is related to what psychologists call an irregular schedule of reinforcement. The sudden withdrawal of reward paradoxically makes the subject try harder and get even more invested. In dolphins, when you suddenly stop giving fish for a jump, they start to jump higher for their reward. (If you stop giving fish altogether, you get extinction, and they jump less.)
It turns out, research shows that, in reality, women are the ones who make the first move. . . but not the way you might think. According to research revealed in The Man’s Guide to Women by Dr. John Gottman et al., “Whether or not men are interested in a woman is not strongly related to her objective attractiveness but instead to the nonverbal signals she sends out. In fact, when scoring women’s nonverbal behaviors, researchers were able to predict a man’s approach to her with 90 percent accuracy.”
The more risqué fantasies you suggest, the dirtier the talk will be. Think of Chandler and Monica from Friends who couldn't keep their hands off each at the hospital and had sex in a closet room and tried to have sex in one of the hospital beds. They were working each other up with a lot of steamy talk which is what led to them not being able to wait. This is what you want to try and recreate.
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#3 Be you. When it comes to learning how to talk dirty to your man, please don’t make the mistake of trying to act like you like certain things because they like it. No, no, no. You need to be you and when you’re dirty talking your man, if you aren’t vibing with what they’re saying, then don’t go along with it. Make sure you speak your mind because they do not read minds. [Read: How to unfake your life and embrace you]
Tip #4: Be easy to approach, hard to obtain. Although we're torn on whether playing hard to get is a good thing or not—for the record, Adam says that men DO want a challenge when it comes to winning you over—it's common sense that most men are terrified to make the move. So save the challenge for later, Adam advises: "Make it easy for them, open up your body, make eye contact and give them the clear signal that it's cool to break the ice. One the ice is broken, now you can tease him, test him and make him work for it...just the way he likes it."
Some women — and men — might find this a tad embarrassing, but hear us out. "Watching a confident woman fully connect to her sexuality is a huge turn-on for us," says Mendez. It's like giving your husband a private peep show, and being able to see the pleasure on your face and get a better understanding of exactly how you like to be touched is both a turn-on and a valuable lesson.
Of course, you’re going to be shown how to dirty talk, but there’s one thing about dirty talking that is the most important factor. When dirty talking, you need to feel comfortable and natural. If not, you’re going to show that you’re uncomfortable and uneasy with it. You don’t have to be a specific type of girl in order to dirty talk, you simply need to feel comfortable.
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The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derrière. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," says Fleming.
Of course, these are all just examples. You could take dirty talking in infinite directions. As long as you are true to your own sexuality, you’ll never do it “wrong.” The trick is to switch on that part of his brain that is hard-wired to think of sex, but to put your face and body, your voice and personality into those neuronal connections he’s making that translate to: hot sex = this woman. This will make him yearn for you even when you aren’t together, and ramp up your sex life by creating sexual tension.
The next time you're looking for a little action, you may want to spend the day volunteering together—or at least share a few photos of yourself doing good. According to an August 2016 study in the British Journal of Psychology, people who help others appear more desirable to the opposite sex and have more frequent sex. "It appears that altruism evolved in our species, in part, because it serves as a signal of other underlying desirable qualities, which helps individuals reproduce," said lead study author Steven Arnocky of Nipissing University in a statement.
"This leaves them with a terribly limited repertoire that often excludes the highly personal element of individual fantasy. The content of mainstream porn also suggests that all dirty talk must be raunchy, hard core, and deeply rooted in gendered stereotypes of sexual experience. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. Dirty talk does not need to be rough, naughty, or even sexual to be erotic. The most enticing chatter can be romantic, teasing, alluring, and flirtatious according to your personal preferences."
We also know that there are exceptions. There are relationships that probably should not stay together, such as those with physical violence, cruel and ongoing verbal abuse, extreme anger management issues, or long-term unaddressed substance abuse, for example. If you're in a situation like that, please eek the help of your local crisis management center.
Please your man in bed by taking the initiative because you know it's what he wants. He won't ask you to take the initiative because he won't want you to feel pressured. But deep down he would love it if you would take the initiative. Taking the initiative will show him that you want sex which means he hasn't got to second guess what mood you are in. Taking the initiative will show him that you care for him and want him to enjoy himself. Taking the initiative will show him that you have got a mind of your own and he will love you for this. Your relationship will feel like it's on an equal footing and you will both know where you stand with each other. When one of you suggests in the future something new to try you will both respond with gusto knowing or guessing who is going to take the initiative.
If you’re here for the first time, allow me to introduce myself. My name is Adam LoDolce, and I have helped thousands of women find true love. I’ve worked as a dating coach for both men and women, and I’ve spoken at dozens of universities, where every single person in the audience walked away with tangible advice they could apply to dating and relationships.
I would have to write a “War and Peace” sized book:), to express my feelings of admiration, appreciation, inspiration, and overall feeling of being grateful to run across you and Sabrina! I think I actually owe it to myself to put it all into words how I feel (i am not very strong at putting my feelings into words) and what an amazing experience it has been to read you articles every day!!! You almost seemed as unreal, virtual relationship guru, that doesn’t actually exist, lol, yet, you are real, lol, and actually from Boston, I live in Peabody, near Boston.
28. Yes. A high-quality man recognizes the difference between turning down a request from rejecting him. It’s invigorating for us to take initiative and lead, but also hearing “no” also allows us to show the tender side of consideration. And when the “no” becomes a “yes,” the feeling inside is something indescribable. She becomes even more precious to me.
These 'tricks' surprised me as most of them seemed to be things that most couples would have already tried without prompting. For those new to experimenting with pleasing a male partner, this book might be a boost to the imagination but for anyone who has a penis or who has been around one for more than a brief while, many of these tricks are tame stuff, indeed. Most of the hints about masturbation involve nothing more than hand movements other than "up and down, repeat" and the oral sex hints are along the lines of "let him watch" or "put a piece of chocolate in your mouth".
Never stop flirting – Flirting is sexual tension’s cousin. It’s very similar and it can help to dramatically intensify the build up with your man. Watching two people flirt is very much like watching two puppies play-fight. There’s lots of jumping around, theatrics and joking. Just remember that the aim of flirting is not to hurt your man, just to play with him.
Please your man in bed by setting the scene, and you will both enjoy being in the zone when you enter the bedroom together. You can set the scene way before it comes to the time when you go to bed. You can set the scene by building up to the grand finale by having dinner out at a nearby restaurant, or you could go to the cinema and watch a romantic movie, knowing what is coming later all adds to the build up of anticipation. When it comes to the bedroom itself you can have the lights turned down low, you can have new satin sheets to climb into, you can have your favourite album playing in the background. All of these things will set the scene beautifully.
Sometimes, it just pays to ask. Just like no two women are the same, no two men are the same — and neither are their fantasies. Ask your partner what his ultimate sexy wish is, and then indulge exactly that. Whether he's been dying to see you in a certain type of lingerie or have you dominate him, you'll only know if you ask. Assuming you're in a healthy, honest relationship, he'll be happy to open up.
Even if you completely trust your partner and believe that you will never break up, understand that if something goes wrong in the relationship, you might not be able to get those pictures back, and you won’t have control over who sees them — it’s possible that he could share them with others. It’s not fair, and ultimately it’s not your fault, but it’s a reality that you need to acknowledge.

When going down on a man, remember that his penis shouldn’t. If a man is erect, it’s incredibly painful for him to point his penis in any other direction than out or up. And don’t ever try to bend it! You can actually break a penis the same way you would break the cartilage in your nose. (I’m crossing my legs in sympathy pains just thinking about it!)
I know this may seem like an odd thing to read right now, considering you want to learn how to dirty talk but the thing is, you don’t need to actually say anything dirty in order to turn him on. I know, I know, this whole time you thought you had to say some overly graphic and vulgar things, but you don’t have to. Dirty talking isn’t necessarily about saying vulgar and graphic words, of course, you can say these things, but it’s important to know that you don’t have to. Dirty talking can be as subtle as “I love when you touch me.” It’s soft, it’s sweet, and it’s gentle, yet, it’s a little spicey at the same time.
Massaging your man’s scalp is one of those forgotten foreplay tips that feels wonderful for your man (and when your man does it to you, too!). You can do it while you are just sitting down beside each other, when you are lying in bed, when you are kissing each other or even while making love, too. But don’t just scrape his head with your nails! To massage his scalp, start from the bottom near the back of his neck or just above his ear.
Please your man in bed by being confident and together you will reach the stars. I have a friend called Alison, she knows what she wants and she knows how to get it. Her advice for you is to know that clothes matter, you absolutely will not feel confident in the bedroom when you are wearing an old tattered nightgown with a washed out pair of knickers on underneath. In fact you will positively cringe inside if he reaches over for you because you definitely won't want him to see what you've got on. Alison wants you to know that being confident in the bedroom will come naturally the more you practice. Alison's motto is ‘practice makes perfect’, and make sure you treat yourself to some lovely new lingerie.
I would have to write a “War and Peace” sized book:), to express my feelings of admiration, appreciation, inspiration, and overall feeling of being grateful to run across you and Sabrina! I think I actually owe it to myself to put it all into words how I feel (i am not very strong at putting my feelings into words) and what an amazing experience it has been to read you articles every day!!! You almost seemed as unreal, virtual relationship guru, that doesn’t actually exist, lol, yet, you are real, lol, and actually from Boston, I live in Peabody, near Boston.

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