Related to the law of attraction is the concept of letting your heart shine. It’s about being a good person. When you do good things, good things come back to you. Starting giving back to your community –in small ways. Hold the door open for someone. Give change or food to those less fortunate. Pay things forward. The guy you seek might be watching you without you realizing. And those small acts of kindness won’t just draw him to you, but it will increase your positive vibration. After all, the main objective in life isn’t just to get any man, but the one that matches with your own heart vibration. Let your heart sing, and the one that’s singing the same tune will be sure to find yours in no time at all.
While male nipples are basically the same as human nipples, they might even be more sensitive than yours since guys aren’t used to having them touched so often. "For a lot of men, their nipples are uncharted territory — an erogenous zone they haven't experimented with," explains Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles-based clinical sexologist and author of the The Complete Idiot's Guide to Sensual Massage. Touch them, however, and you'll send shock waves of pleasure radiating through him, she adds.
Ever notice that your man looks a little different on warm days? His testicles have a built-in thermostat that causes them to rise and fall according to the outside temperature. Hot out? They’ll be hanging low. Chilly? They’ll retreat back into the warmth of his body. So don’t be surprised if your guy appears, ahem, more ample in July than in December.
Massaging your man’s scalp is one of those forgotten foreplay tips that feels wonderful for your man (and when your man does it to you, too!). You can do it while you are just sitting down beside each other, when you are lying in bed, when you are kissing each other or even while making love, too. But don’t just scrape his head with your nails! To massage his scalp, start from the bottom near the back of his neck or just above his ear.
If you've had a woman say something filthy during sex, you've probably noticed that it made whatever it was that you were doing feel even better. But why is that? According to Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist at Doctor On Demand, there's science behind why talking dirty feels good. "It taps into one of my favorite parts of the brain and psychology, our perceptual system," he explains.
Lying about what turns you on: I know you want to please your partner but lying to yourself isn’t the way to do it. If dirty talk doesn’t turn you on then tell your partner that. You can compromise and come to some type of agreement when it comes to things that you sexually like or don’t like. Don’t lie to yourself or your partner, pretending that you like things just to get their approval.
Unrequited love can be frustrating and stressful. Most people have experienced this feeling at some time. If you have encountered a guy that you envision being with but are not sure if he feels the same way about you, it can keep you up all night feeling lovelorn and lost. Take matters into your own hands to become the recipient of the affections of your number one guy.
First thing you need to work on is your tone of voice. You can use a deep and soft tone of voice to start building up the sexual tension prior to sex, or a more excited tone when you want to instigate a quickie let’s rip each other’s clothes off sex. As well as your tone of voice, you also need to work on the speed in which you are talking. I always recommend speaking more slowly than normal and even sound breathless (but not so obvious) when talking dirty, it is far more seductive than talking quickly.
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.
So Eric I’ve been talking to this guy almost 2 years. He says he likes me a lot but does not know what he wants we not in a relationship he enjoys my company a lot I like him too but need more.I think he’s confused some times it feels like he wants to and then next time he pulls away say he been hurt so much he’s not ready .Do u think it’s an excuse or what .I know he seeing other people but denies it .Please give me your opinion
"There are at least four major nerve complexes and six or more physiological pathways to drive her to orgasm. Most of these brain pathways can trigger a 'mindgasm' completely on their own. When you stimulate more than one orgasm trigger area at the same time (within the mind and the body), they magnify each other's’ effect and the threshold for orgasm is lowered. When enough of this input reaches the brain, the orgasm reflex is triggered. A good lover will provide several different types of orgasmic stimulation at the same time."
I did find one major irritant in this book. His advice to "ladies" on the subject of declining an offer included the words "Couch the refusal so as to make it clear the lack is in you rather than him". Perhaps the author and I have differing views on consent, but if I don't want to do something it does not necessarily mean there is a lack in me OR my partner - it just means I have no interest in a particular act. One can graciously refuse a gentleman's request without making either party feel "lacking", thankyouverymuch.

Well, the truth is, talking dirty to your man is a way to use your “feminine powers” for good: you’re going to make a man feel so desired, wanted, and lusted after, that the fact he is also with you makes him feel like he just won the lottery. A big part of the “art” of seduction is how you make others feel, and the other half is about how you feel about yourself.


There isn’t much you can really do to engineer this kind of love. A man is attracted to a certain physique, face, hair, smell, cultural background, or any other number of elements of which even he himself is not fully aware. You could resemble his first girlfriend. You could be wearing that one perfume that drives him nuts (because his first girlfriend used to wear it). Whatever it is, this is the love that cannot be planned. If it happens, great. If not, read on.

I bet you’ve never thought about your dude’s Adam’s apple as an erogenous zone, huh? If you have, congrats, you should probably be writing this instead of me. But for the normies out there, the thought behind this stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is “closely linked to the sex organs, according to ancient Chinese medicine,” according to reflexologist Mantak Chia, author of Sexual Reflexology.
Please your man in bed by taking the initiative because you know it's what he wants. He won't ask you to take the initiative because he won't want you to feel pressured. But deep down he would love it if you would take the initiative. Taking the initiative will show him that you want sex which means he hasn't got to second guess what mood you are in. Taking the initiative will show him that you care for him and want him to enjoy himself. Taking the initiative will show him that you have got a mind of your own and he will love you for this. Your relationship will feel like it's on an equal footing and you will both know where you stand with each other. When one of you suggests in the future something new to try you will both respond with gusto knowing or guessing who is going to take the initiative.
I really like this guy in my grade. And I don’t think he likes me back, but we do hold eye contact, and he does laugh with me, and has touched me before, but also he’s very popular and I feel like I cannot speak to him, outside of SS. He started a band not to long ago and told me that it would be great if I could write songs for him but..... I’m not sure if I should bc I dunno what to write bc I’m only good at love songs and that would be so awkward!!!!
The nice thing about this guide is that it understands the secret to talking dirty is to have confidence. So it gives advice that is, for the most part, centered around building up your confidence in order to talk dirty. It provides you with tons of ideas and tips on how to do it better for once you have acquired the confidence to do it in the first place.
And not because men are picky about colors or fabrics. Rather, guys prefer coordinating lingerie because it shows the woman put extra money and energy into clothes no one gets to see but him, says relationship expert April Masini, author of Think & Date Like a Man. So consider springing for a new set of matching unmentionables next time you want to give your spouse a sexy surprise. For a double dose of allure? Choose a pair in red.
Take off your clothes -- and talk about it. Don't just start stripping -- let your lover in on the peep show, button by button. If you're taking off your shirt, let him know that it's sliding over your head. If you're taking off your belt, let your lady know that you're dropping your belt to the floor. Paint a picture of your body that will turn on your lover even more.

Analyse your sexual regimen. Is it highly predictable? Is it more of a race to reach an orgasm? If so then perhaps you are in the midst of a sexual rut. So, get up and try breaking the sexual norm by doing the opposite of what you normally do. If you're having sex in darkness, try it in the morning or in the afternoon. If you're always getting down and dirty in the bedroom, enjoy a quickie on the kitchen counter or under the shower. If your man is always on top, surprise him by taking charge. Change your sexual POA to inject freshness into your sex life.


It’s often believed that men are so consumed by their libido that they have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered before reaching the bedroom (give them the once-over and tell them how manly they look), as well as after (give them the once-over and tell them how manly they look naked!). Along those lines, men worry about the size of their guts (and other more measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Just like women, men need to be told they are appreciated, sexy, desirable….and really good at what they are doing. Try to be extra affirming about those sensitivities.


At the tender age of 24 I’ve met 2 10/10 kinda guys, they had the looks, the charm, the intelligence, etc, they were a “catch”. However, long story short, the sad fact is that neither of them wanted me. The point is that no matter how much of a catch a guy can be, if he doesn’t want you move on. Like I’ve said in a previous comment, if he’s not giving you a “hell yeah!” vibe, you best be moving onto the guy who will want you. You can never trick or convince a guy to fall for you. And usually you only find this out after seriously losing yourself in the chase.
Out of all other advice out there that I was reading, your information is the most that made perfect sense to me, you, at your young age, you have a lot of experience that you were able to collect, organize perfectly and,…help people! It’s an incredible collection that is easy to read, relate and understand, material, which is fun, no BS:), freely given, not always trying to sell another product, deep, personal, open, detailed, incredibly valuable, abundant and helpful not only in relationships between man and woman, but in life in general. When you write about having a particular mindset, you talk about things that was a missing ingredient for me when it came to decide that you really are above a lot of other so called relationship gurus!
Walk away from him, Bhavya. Do you really want to plan settling down with a guy who takes you for granted? He’s expecting you to hang around for three years before he makes up his mind. That’s crazy and cruel. Either you’ll find another guy or he’ll chase you because he sees how much he misses you. Either option has got to be better than where you’re at now. If you do nothing, you’re telling him it is okay to treat you badly. Not a good message to send if you’re looking for a long term relationship.
Women, on the other hand, want something less basic than bacon. What Kerner suggests: "I love it when you [verb] my [body part]," such as "I love it when you rub my thigh/kiss my neck/lick my breasts." He explains, "Verbalizing the sensation brings your attention to it, which reinforces the pleasure you're experiencing." It's like eating a yummy meal — talking about how delicious it is can make it even tastier.
Hi, I am a 61 year old widow and dating a 62 year old man for going on 2 years now, he has never been married or in a serious relationship for any length of time before. He tells me randomly that he loves me and we spend almost all our time together. He is hesitant to move in with me because he says he wants to be 100% sure of his feelings. He says that sometimes he doesn’t feel love or attraction and then other times he does. He hasn’t been with anyone else since we met and we are neighbors and friends and enjoy doing multiple things together. I am trying not to push too hard because I have the feeling he does love me and maybe this will go somewhere. Other times, I doubt his love for me because he doesn’t just come out and make a commitment to me. Am I being too needy in wanting a commitment and him to move in with me after almost 2 years of dating? What advice would you give me in regards to this relationship? I have met his entire family and we spend holidays together with them and I get along great with them. He asks my advice on things and shares details of his past life and relationships and mistakes he has made in life. He also shares all his goals and dreams with me and asks me to help him make decisions on things because he has a hard time making decisions on things. I don’t want to hang on if there will never be love but at the same time I don’t want to let go of something good because he does treat me with respect and will randomly say I love you and is always hugging me and kissing me and doesn’t only demand sex out of the relationship.
"Many married men worry they're going to get bored of having sex with just one woman," says Haltzman. That's why role-playing is so effective. In addition to having you — his fabulous wife —your husband can also get feisty with the "barista" or "maid." "Entering into fantasy-mode automatically increases levels of dopamine, the arousal hormone, and elevates your sense of attachment," adds Haltzman. So even after you're through getting down with the "cop" or "pirate," you'll feel closer to each other for having done something novel together.
1. Start Off Slow. If you’ve never talked dirty to your man before, or it’s been a long time since you were both horny teenagers, start slow, without being extremely explicit. You don’t want to freak him out, or make him think you’re having an affair because your sexual behavior suddenly changes so drastically. Tease him a little. Don’t go all the way to the extreme with your dirty phrases. Say something like, “you are so sexy to me,” and go from there.

Couples so often get into a sex routine — same time of night, same place, same position. And while your husband may not make an active move to change things, men want to have the power to switch up patterns and take total control, says Haltzman. Get out one of his silk ties, have him bind your hands together, and let him take it from there. We suspect you won't regret it.


To stand apart from the average, you’ll be required to do something wild, one he won’t stop pondering over the following day. If you are adept in some special technique which is greatly hot and separate, his mind will carry the imprint of the whole erotic experience. You can use the old tweak of shifting within oral sex & intercourse while he is blindfolded. You can also try out your novel mouth action. Like your ex-girlfriend may switch between the flat portion of the tongue and then use the tip over the same place which can impart an entirely new sensation.

Day after day, as I hear single women bemoan the lack of available men, I wish ethics allowed me to set them up with my wonderful male clients who are searching, with equal frustration, for the right woman. Instead, I end up simply witnessing singles of both sexes failing to find each other. I believe this failure has much to do with the model of love-seeking most popular in our culture: the idea of romantic pursuit as a type of predation, a hunting expedition the goal of which is capture. In my experience, the way of thinking that leads to successful relationships is altogether different. It's focused on the idea that the way to find love is to become so much yourself that you find others of your own kind, with whom you can share freedom.


Knowing how to please your man in bed will give you a fabulous feeling of satisfaction. When he is happy you are happy and that has got to be one of life's ultimate goals. There are many differing aspects of ways to please your man in bed. I have spoken to several of my friends regarding this topic and they have all contributed with their own take on what it is that pleases their men in bed.
There’s this common misconception that’s going around which says that foreplay only ever really benefits the ladies. Mainstream chatter dictates that foreplay is a tool that girls use to get their guys to pleasure them and the man is just going to have to put up with it if she’s going to put out for him. But that’s not always the case. If this is how couples use foreplay in their relationships, then they are definitely doing things wrong. First of all, you and your partner should always be making the most out of every opportunity to get intimate with one another.
Finally I get it - I'm precious as a woman and to get a quality man, I have to set boundaries and act like I believe it. This book made so much sense and was even better than the last dating book I read which I gave five stars to. The book was written simply without too much fanfare and hype, but it certainly got the message across. I'm changing my way of doing things and it makes me feel good about myself. I also understand the male psyche better now.
"Women are often uncomfortable using a vibrator in front of their partners for fear he will feel extraneous or offended," says Sue W. Goldstein, health educator and program coordinator for San Diego Sexual Medicine, a healthcare facility. But many men find it incredibly arousing to watch their partner use sexual enhancement products. Men operate visually, so watching you please yourself is a turn-on, whether he's involved or not. So don't feel shy bringing props into the bedroom.
Pick the right time to talk dirty. If you want to have a flawless dirty talk phone date, then you have to make sure that both you and your partner are alone and ready to start having a sexy conversation. Your dirty talk won't go very far if you're ready in bed while your partner is having dinner with his mom. Plan your dirty talk date in advance so both of you are free and alone at home or in your rooms.
This isn’t a staring contest. In fact, according to research, looking away and then briefly glancing back a few times is another signal that lets a guy know you want him to approach. (Ashley Fox explains the process really well here.) You don’t have to overthink it or be weird about it. When you see a cute guy and wish he would come say hi, make eye contact with him, smile, look back at the person you were talking to, and then glance back at him. Repeat one or two times. If you are worried it will be creepy, don’t. When we interviewed guys on how they know a woman likes them, Charles said, “Things like [when] eye contact is made and then avoided and then made again.”
"Women are often uncomfortable using a vibrator in front of their partners for fear he will feel extraneous or offended," says Sue W. Goldstein, health educator and program coordinator for San Diego Sexual Medicine, a healthcare facility. But many men find it incredibly arousing to watch their partner use sexual enhancement products. Men operate visually, so watching you please yourself is a turn-on, whether he's involved or not. So don't feel shy bringing props into the bedroom.

In the past few weeks, we're not as flirty as we used to be and we still do not talk outside of work. I have texted him a few times and he has replied but it never really turned into a conversation as I felt like I was becoming too pushy. He has said to me that he's "not in any rush" but he seems to be stalling. During the drinks, he seemed very interested, back at work he has become distant.

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