i have been dating this guy for almost six months now, we have not started having sex, because i told him i am not ready we have talked about it and he agreed. But of late i feel he is pulling away, sometimes he will not call or text me unless if i call him or text him first, he is always postponing our dates and its like he does not want to see me, when i ask him he says he is just busy with work or he could not call me because he had no credit in his phone, i don’t really know what to do? should i just leave him alone or i continue calling or texting him first all the time…, does it mean he has lost interest in me? please help ,
Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!
"I mentioned to a girl that I had been hooking up with that when she wore strappy heels it drove me crazy. She immediately picked up on the fact that it was something I was into. The next time we were in bed, missionary position, nothing crazy, she wrapped her legs around me in such a way that the arches of her soles were pressed against my hips/butt, almost pulling me toward her, and when she was close to orgasm I could feel her toes clenching … my body temp just rose 5 degrees thinking about it." — Kenneth M., 36, Hoboken, New Jersey
Talking during sex stimulates more than our ears, as Mintz says heavy breathing, groaning, and moaning are all sounds that we make when we're feeling free, and studies have shown that it's erotic for all parties involved to hear. It's also a great way to really express what you want, which is a huge turn-on for men when they know they're doing exactly what you need to have an orgasm.
Thank u so much your email and articles I have been reading are great.! That are helping me realize that the relationship I’m in is not healthy. I meet this guy from a really good friend of mine.! He is a retired marine he is very different from the guys I’ve dated. Which is very different me, my parents like him a lot. But we argue alott. He says I have no discipline in my life he blames me for all the arguments we have, and its always my fault. I feel happy at moments but it seems I have to be very careful of what I say and do or how I act when I’m with him. He has left the house like 6 times.He says he really loves me but I don’t think he does. Or maybe I’m just trying to hard for this relationship to work which is not going to go anywere! Any advice will be greatly appreciated thank u very much.:)
You can worry that sometime your husband will find you less attractive because your looks have changed since your marriage day. Still men don’t pay much attention to your self-conceived defects but begin to notice them only if you highlight them or do an extreme cover up. Their only concern is on how joyous they can keep you in bed and not on your alterations. So let him view you completely.
Talking about specific sexual acts can be uber-intimidating. “It’s oftentimes easier to talk about attributes or objects—how sexy a piece of underwear is, or that you really like his beard stubble,” says Neustifter. So start with descriptive statements of what turns you on about him. Most people like to be complimented. Plus, it’s almost impossible to flop when you’re telling him how much his body excites you.

It turns out, research shows that, in reality, women are the ones who make the first move. . . but not the way you might think. According to research revealed in The Man’s Guide to Women by Dr. John Gottman et al., “Whether or not men are interested in a woman is not strongly related to her objective attractiveness but instead to the nonverbal signals she sends out. In fact, when scoring women’s nonverbal behaviors, researchers were able to predict a man’s approach to her with 90 percent accuracy.”


Follow the Golden Rule. That means apply the same rules to yourself that you'd apply to others, including him. Real men do in fact notice this; they just don't scream it out. For example, if he tells you he has a girlfriend and things are not working out, Stop! and think ladies and gentlemen that this could be a "test" on how you would handle the situation, so stand your ground and cut off communication (hint: "Golden Rule"). Don't go on about how you "don't NEED no man!" or about "men this, men that" if you don't want him treating you the same way. DO, on the other hand, treat him--and others--with respect, dignity, and honor. Others will notice, too, and who knows--if they know you want a good, real man but don't yet have one, they just might introduce you to one!
Three rounds of give and withdraw should reduce any man to putty — assuming putty is what you’re looking for. The key to making this work is to give genuinely when you’re giving. You really are into him. It’s just that something unexpected comes up every time he’s on the brink of being on solid ground with you, and you withdraw completely, yanking the rug out from under him decisively, only to restore it later.

Once you're in the bedroom (and aware of his insecurities), remind him of how much you enjoy being intimate. For example, if he's worried about his weight, maybe give him a sexy once-over and tell him how how buff he looks naked. Other key areas to compliment: His gut, as men often worry about the size of it (and other measurable parts), and their hair, as guys tend to feel self-conscious once they start losing it.


Julie, i’m glad you responded to my comment. Thank you! i needed a perspective of a third person, which you did n i really appreciate it. What you said does make sense, we had indeed just met. i only wished i had stayed longer to get to know him better. but my family said they needed me and I moved without even thinking twice. Funny thing is, after i did move, my mom was like she felt sad for me that i moved quitting my job and all and that i should’ve stayed back if i wanted to. i was like in my mind, are you serious?! lol
You can make him go crazy and put him through a memorable experience with foreplay alone if you know the right moves to pull. If you want your man to be on full submission; if you want him to be eating out of your hands as you’re doing it, then perhaps you should do yourself a favor and try out some of these moves. Of course, you don’t have to limit yourselves to the stuff that’s listed on here. You can branch out and experiment a little bit. You can just use this as inspiration; or at the very least, a starting point:
We're not suggesting frighteningly fake porn star-moans, butmen want to know when you're enjoying yourself. "That doesn't necessarily mean you need to talk dirty," says Valentine. "Commands — like 'f--- me harder' — can make us freeze up. Telling us when you like something—'I love it when you f--- me hard'— is far better." You might wonder the point of "oohs" and "ahhs" after all these years — after all, he likely knows what works by now. But if you let yourself go and gasp a little like old times, you may be surprised by how he respond to that validation — and what his renewed excitement will do to you.
"I like it when she straddles my penis as I'm sitting in a chair or on the couch. I can see and touch everything, including her breasts and clit. I know a lot of guys like reverse cowgirl and it's hot to see a girl's ass and everything, but I always feel like it bends my penis to the point where it might break." — Peter C., 31, Asheville, North Carolina
Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them.  Similarly, men wish women would reveal their imaginings. Want to open yourselves to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. First, and most important, promise not to judge each other; then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized each of you and place them in a box. When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you’re both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, try asking the author a key question: What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, it’s themes can be addressed in different, more comfortable scenarios.

Always, ask the guy questions about himself. This always lets the guy know that you are interested in him and not just worried about yourself. Every time I speak with a woman who engages me with questions relative to my life, I can tell that she is interested in learning more and for good reason. If the girl looks put together and attractive then she is always worth engaging, I speak more about engaging men here and discuss other tactics for attracting men that most ladies will find beneficial. Attracting men


How often do you feel that your partner is no more interested in you? Does he ignore you and takes you for granted? Well, if that’s the case with you then you really need to do something about it and learning some dirty sex talk may do the trick. We all know that every relationship fades with time and becomes frustrating and traumatizing. We feel restricted, bored, and lacks interest in each other. But that situation can be easily avoided if you are willing to put little efforts in your relationship to bring back the romance and charisma. Now you must be thinking what should you do to get the attention of the guy you love.
"I mentioned to a girl that I had been hooking up with that when she wore strappy heels it drove me crazy. She immediately picked up on the fact that it was something I was into. The next time we were in bed, missionary position, nothing crazy, she wrapped her legs around me in such a way that the arches of her soles were pressed against my hips/butt, almost pulling me toward her, and when she was close to orgasm I could feel her toes clenching … my body temp just rose 5 degrees thinking about it." — Kenneth M., 36, Hoboken, New Jersey
The thing to realize is that people with great relationships don’t have the great relationships because they know great relationship secrets or psychological loopholes of the male mind. Fundamentally, people in the best relationships all have one thing in common: they don’t have relationships with people who are not a good match for them. They don’t let them into their life.
Talking about specific sexual acts can be uber-intimidating. “It’s oftentimes easier to talk about attributes or objects—how sexy a piece of underwear is, or that you really like his beard stubble,” says Neustifter. So start with descriptive statements of what turns you on about him. Most people like to be complimented. Plus, it’s almost impossible to flop when you’re telling him how much his body excites you.

I don't know about you guys, but I hardly ever meet guys in regular life situations. You may have noticed that most of the dating escapades I tell you about are of the online persuasion. Which is fine, and I'll continue to try that angle, but it would be nice once in a while to just meet a guy the old-fashioned way, right? (By old-fashioned I mean like, at a bar. Not an arranged marriage or anything.)

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