If you're not usually one to speak up, Mintz suggests trying it solo first. "Next time you're masturbating, make some noise," she says. "You might find something is really fun, and then you can transfer that to partner sex." Otherwise, saying anything that's praising, instructive, and even a little dirty tends to go over well with men. Tell him exactly how you want to be touched (and where, and using what) and you'll his pleasure meter — and yours —through the roof.
There are a lot of different kinds of masculinity, but they all need room to thrive and be expressed. Give him room, both in your relationship and in your home, to express his masculinity. A lot of guys need permission to claim the space to be who they are. Give him the gift of acknowledging his need to be a dude once in awhile without being shamed for it.

I enjoy reading your articles. I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year. We dated before 6 years ago and the reason we stopped dating is because he said I was pushing for something he wasn’t ready for. I didn’t realize I was pushing. He’s saying now like he said before, he doesn’t want a girlfriend right now, he’s too busy. But yet he’s still interested. He has said things to me like, “I’ve been thinking about you a lot and there’s nothing I can do about”, “We are more than just friends”, and then he pulls away again. It’s been an emotional roller coaster ride with him. He lives an hour away, we only text once a week or so, and only see each other every 2 or 3 months. We get frustrated with each and have arguments but still want to see each other so there’s something there. We are both Scorpios so I’ve been reading articles about 2 Scorpios being in a relationship and reading your articles. I’ve tried very hard not to seem “pushy” and realize the relationship is what it currently is. But how long do I have to wait for him to want to see me more? What should I say to him?
Please your man in bed by being creative, creativeness will add an extra dimension to your relationship. I have a friend called Denise, she is a really fun person and is always laughing. Her tip for you for pleasing your man in bed is to be creative. She would like you to start being creative by reading some books or by going on line to see what you think you might like to try. She adds that it should be something you feel comfortable with, otherwise you won't enjoy it, and if you don't enjoy it... neither will he. When you are ready to go ahead with your creativeness in the bedroom she's sure your man will be very appreciative of your attempts to try and please him.

I’ve heard some so-called dating gurus tell women to dumb down their intellect or put a damper on their exuberant personalities. This is utter crap. If you do that, then the guy has one impression of who you are that is entirely inaccurate. Once you get to know each other and you start being real, he might be thrown off when he discovers that, whoa, you’re actually intelligent or opinionated.
Please your man in bed by mixing things up and he will never be bored. I have a friend called Leslie, she is 29 years old and she likes to go to the cinema with her boyfriend. She's got a vivid imagination and she reckons her and her boyfriend have a great time in bed together. They are always trying new things in the bedroom and she says she thinks this is why their relationship is so strong. Her advice to you is to try mixing things up in the bedroom so that your man is always on his toes, waiting for you to create another exciting encounter with him. Make it Impossible for him to be bored in the bedroom and enjoy a strong relationship just like she does.
Ladies (okay, men too) let's get real. You need to learn how to please your man with your mouth. Different men like different things, and there are a variety of techniques and positions that will both please him and make it comfortable for you. Remember, be safe. If this is your first time, make sure that you are aware of any possible sexually transmitted diseases that your man may have. You can use a condom while performing oral, although men and women mostly opt out of this option. The main thing to keep in mind is yes, you are out to excite your man, but keep your comfort in mind as well. Oral should be just as pleasurable for you as it is for your man. If you are serious about learning to please your husband or boyfriend, use these 20 tips and tricks to get the (blow) job done right!

Hi, He sounds as if he has a lot of his own insecurities and is deflecting them onto you. He is constantly trying to change you, and tell you that you aren’t enough. You sound to me as if you are not comfortable in being yourself around him. You can’t petend to be someone else to please jom forever, so picture this you are trying to adapt yourself to who he wanrlts and he is still finding flaws. Aren’t you tired already,? he is damaging your self-esteem. There is someone out there , who you may or may not have met, that will adore you flaws and all, bit you have to love yourself enough to know when you are being tolerated , and ” handled”, not loved. This guy you are with, needs you a lot more than you need him, be careful not to allow him to force you to change into someone nobody wants, so thy he can keep you all to himself, while he used you. By that, I mean an insecure, unhappy person that doesn’t feel worthy of anything.


Yes, the clitoris is the obvious place to focus your attention. Still, many men do wrong by it. “Direct stimulation of the clitoris can actually be painful,” says Cathy Winks, author of The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-spot. “It’s much better to rub the clitoral hood [where the tops of the labia meet] or to rub along the side of the clitoris than it is to go straight for the head of it.”
Hello well .. This guy has Been pursuing me for almost 3yrs. We were intimate, spent all of our time together. He does for me, we go out in public. We talked about marriage and kids together everthing.. He knew that i wasnt emotionally ready at the time yet he assured me it was safe to open up and be kind…Then when i finally do and say lets do this he tells me no and starts to pull away… Now he says he not ready and not intrested anymore…what happened?
There’s this common misconception that’s going around which says that foreplay only ever really benefits the ladies. Mainstream chatter dictates that foreplay is a tool that girls use to get their guys to pleasure them and the man is just going to have to put up with it if she’s going to put out for him. But that’s not always the case. If this is how couples use foreplay in their relationships, then they are definitely doing things wrong. First of all, you and your partner should always be making the most out of every opportunity to get intimate with one another.
A smile may be worth a thousand words, but all-out chuckles could earn you a hot night in the bedroom. According to Maria Sophocles, MD, an assistant professor at the University of Basel in Switzerland and member of the Intimina Medical Advisory Board, men are subconsciously aroused by a woman's laugh, possibly because the sound reminds them of the moans they may hear during sex, explains Dr. Sophocles. One more motivator to find a man who's funny.
A man wants a woman who just "gets" him. He wants her radiance and femininity to draw him in the way his masculine energy attracts her. He wants a woman who appreciates his ability to protect, provide and solve problems. He wants her to admire him for his steadiness and sense of calm under pressure. He doesn't want to feel emasculated because he's way more logical and analytical and doesn't (necessarily) cry at sappy movies.
I’ve heard some so-called dating gurus tell women to dumb down their intellect or put a damper on their exuberant personalities. This is utter crap. If you do that, then the guy has one impression of who you are that is entirely inaccurate. Once you get to know each other and you start being real, he might be thrown off when he discovers that, whoa, you’re actually intelligent or opinionated.
Rachel, I’m a lot older than you. I’ve been through serious relationships, local and long distance. Bottom line, long distance doesn’t work. It’s not a relationship. I would say the only exception to this is if you’re already truly married, nothing else is wrong, and one of you has to travel for work. Still, that can only be temporary – the two of you have to reunite, want to reunite, and it happens.
When it comes to sexual desire, some women find a hard time to sexually arouse and seduce their husbands. They don't know how to get them in the mood for sex, and what to do to make them horny. Here's a guide on how to sexually arouse and seduce your husband. Don't worry ladies, all you need is confidence, and some tips and tricks, so read on to know how to sexually tease your man, and leave him wanting more.
I want to give you the best Oral SEX, you’ve ever had – You wanted some dirty things to tell your boyfriend? Well, this is it. It is undoubtedly the thing that all men want to hear from you. Guys love oral sex and if you are good at it, then there is nothing else you need to drive him crazy. Just give him a good oral sex and he will devote himself to you no matter what. Try it and don’t forget to thank us later.
Jay Wiseman (Jay Joseph Wiseman)(born 1949) is an American BDSM writer and speaker. In 1991, Wiseman started the Greenery Press publishing house with his partner Janet Hardy, author "Lady Green" of The Sexually Dominant Woman. The publishing house grew to the point of publishing several titles a year, and they hired two other employees. As of 2006, Wiseman has written 11 books and dozens of articles in magazines from Playboy to Redbook.
I have had a lot of female relationship coaching clients who, in their 20s and in their first serious relationship, pretty much gave up all friendships and interests for a guy. It wasn’t like he asked her to do it, but it’s a common thing. And when you get older, this pattern continues. If this describes you, it’s important to understand that one of the best ways to discover how to make a man fall in love with you is to be independent and keep on doing the things you love with the people you care about.
If you're a couple who does it missionary on the bed a few nights a week, your partner is probably craving something different every now and then. After all, part of the reason hotel sex is so damn appealing is that humans crave novelty. No one is suggesting you go out of your comfort zone just to please some dude. But hey, if the idea occurs to you that it might be hot to have him spin you around and fuck you from behind against your kitchen counter.... well... then.... do that.
“I’m so wet right now.” “I’m about to come.” “You feel incredible inside me.” These moment-by-moment updates help you tune into your own arousal—an often-difficult task for us—while giving him an erotic earful. “When you speak about what’s happening in your own body, you’re bringing awareness to it,” says Jaiya. “On top of that, you’re arousing him even more, because he’s thinking, ‘Yes! I’m turning her on.’ That makes him feel more confident.” We call that a win-win.

Men want to be the hunter. That’s why flirting and using dirty talk sayings can work so well. It lets a man know you’re interested and attracted to him. It teases him in a way that makes him want to chase you. And, best of all, you can do it in a way that makes him think that he is the one responsible for your sexual advances, when in reality you are in complete control of the situation.
If you're young, Tori, I think you're best to just keep being special friends as you are now. Wait and see what happens in the future. You don't want to make him feel awkward and under pressure. Besides, both you and him are going to change as you get older. I think you should wait and see if you still find him interesting and attractive when he's a bit older.
Hard to get pisses me off, i dislike it when girls flirt with other guys unless she’s not into me. Things that are written by women, especially topics like this say that guys are more into you if you flirt with other guys, truth is it pushes us away. We prefer up front women or a little hard to get types of women, as long as you show that you like him by flirting with him and only him a little bit should let him know that u like him.
If you try dirty talking with your partner and you turn out to be a natural at it, that’s great. But for some of us, it’ll take a little bit longer to get comfortable with it. It’s not a race so don’t feel bad, this just means you’ll have to practice. It may sound weird at first, plus, you’ll probably want to play around with your tones and words you use. So, don’t be shy about it, just practice. You and your man will have a couple of laughs until you find the right feeling and style for you.
We also know that there are exceptions. There are relationships that probably should not stay together, such as those with physical violence, cruel and ongoing verbal abuse, extreme anger management issues, or long-term unaddressed substance abuse, for example. If you're in a situation like that, please eek the help of your local crisis management center.
The single women I know are frequently advised, "Stop being so picky," "Have a better attitude," and "Lower your standards," perhaps to the point where they'll date anyone with a penis and a pulse. I believe this is precisely the wrong approach. Why? Consider our statistical friend, the bell curve. The great bulge in the middle represents areas where you are, well, average. This is also the part of you that could easily be mixed and matched with the largest number of potential mates. The skinnier upper end represents your greatest gifts, the areas where you are most talented and extraordinary. The few people who share your most exceptional characteristics are your tribe, the population that is most likely to contain your heart's partner.
Seems like a no-brainer, right? Unfortunately, not all women realize how sensitive this area of the body is on a man. If you just happen to scrape your teeth across the head or shaft...the pleasure may be gone right then and there. Tip #4: Your jaw may get tired. Pay attention to how wide your mouth is. Surround his member, but give some room in case your jaw starts to close out of exhaustion. Practice and experience will help you to develop your jaw muscles so that they won't get tired as quickly. If you accidentally scrape your man with your teeth, he will be sure to let you know. Whatever you do, don't bite him. It is not erotic, and it will hurt him. Use your tongue and some spit to help relieve the sting if you happen to nibble by accident. Tip #5: If you have dentures...take them out. Yes, older women and women with dentures have this advantage. It can really make a difference. Self-conscious or not, your husband or boyfriend will truly appreciate the gesture. Oral is meant to feel good, not hurt.
In all positions, their pleasure threshold is partially dependent on, simply, what we may be most into. For this one, his ass is accessible to her for full anal and/or prostate play. He gets to enjoy a whole new angle of penetration while also having access to her feet if he's into a little foot/shrimping play. “She lies flat on her back. He mounts her in the reverse and lies flat on top of her with his head at her feet. He inserts his erect penis into her vagina by scooting back towards her,” says Dr. Kat.  

Having time apart is healthy for couples. It gives you each time to do things on your own or spend time with friends (don’t be that chick who abandons her friends whenever she’s in a relationship). It gives you something to talk about when you are together. Having time apart provides balance in the relationship, and it gives you both the opportunity to miss one another.
Consider that little red dress for your next date. In a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers instructed men to rate pictures of women wearing different colored clothing. Guys said the ladies in crimson were most attractive, even more than the exact same women donning other tints! Cultural conditioning, thanks to red-light districts and rosy Valentine's Day hearts, could play a part in the appeal. But biology may be to blame, too: Female humans and other primates go red in the face before ovulating, which attracts males during this most fertile time.
Some women feel a little nervous or shy when it comes to sending a dirty text message to a guy. However, just remember that most, if not all guys enjoy flirting and being naughty with a woman they are sexually attracted to and tend to think about sex fairly frequently throughout the day. So sending him a dirty text message is highly likely to be well received.
The wham-bam days are over. Today's man wants slow, skillful pleasure and plenty of it... to all the usual places, and a few new ones. Based on bestselling sex author/educator Jay Wiseman's underground bestselling Tricks series - "how to make good sex better" - this compilation of juicy ways to spice up your bedroom play has been harvested from sexual experts all over the U.S. New essays on up-to-the-minute safer-sex techniques, the changing sexual roles of men in the new millennium, and male psychology and physiology round out this must-have manual for anyone who's ever wanted to make a man beg for more!
Well, I’ve never made a man fall in love with me, so that’s not a recipe in my cookbook. However, I’ve fallen hard for women before and remember exactly what they did. From those experiences and forays into the scientific literature, I’ve come up with three ways that a man will fall in love with you. Straight out of the dating bible for smart women, here they are:
But what exactly do you have to be doing in order for the two of you to be doing foreplay the correct way? First, it’s important to establish what REAL foreplay is supposed to look like so that you can gain a better understanding of what it really is. The first thing that you have to keep in mind is that foreplay doesn’t always have to be a routine. Yes, you can have your go-to moves, but you don’t have to stick to them if you want to play around. In fact, it’s always encouraged that you be brave and creative enough to mix things up a little bit every once in a while.
Please your man in bed by being sensual because sensuality creates an atmosphere all of its own in the bedroom. I have a friend called Patricia, she is a girly girl and loves everything that sparkles and glitters. Her advice to you is that whilst sensuality can enhance things sexually, it can also enhance your relationship in other ways as well. Patricia says feeding each other strawberries dipped in chocolate can be a very sensual thing to try, she also however says that being sensual in your everyday life and enjoying the world around you, is a sure fire way to enhance the sensuality you will both feel in the bedroom whenever you are in each other's arms.
i really liked your page ..im a lady who's been dating guys whom have been taking me for granted but I have this friend of mine who's a guy I often talk with bout everything he understands me well I like him very much n adore him cause he's different ..he feels hurt each time I breaks up with another guy m actually falling for him but he is in a long term relationship ...sometimes he tels m all his problem and even wishes I was the one he was dating but the unfortunate part is he's says he's commited to his lady ...donno wat to do
Please your man in bed by being creative, creativeness will add an extra dimension to your relationship. I have a friend called Denise, she is a really fun person and is always laughing. Her tip for you for pleasing your man in bed is to be creative. She would like you to start being creative by reading some books or by going on line to see what you think you might like to try. She adds that it should be something you feel comfortable with, otherwise you won't enjoy it, and if you don't enjoy it... neither will he. When you are ready to go ahead with your creativeness in the bedroom she's sure your man will be very appreciative of your attempts to try and please him.

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