Wow! What a fantastic article! As I was reading through it, I was mentally ticking which of the qualities I already possess or things I’m already doing that are being mentioned in the article. I am very happy to say that in my current relationship, I’m either already doing all 4 things or one of them, I had already thought of doing that yesterday but have to wait until at least tonight to put it into motion. It’s only been 6 months and those have been fraught with obstacles, but so far, we seem to have survived all of them and I’m positive that we will survive the latest devastating thing that has come up just recently.


"It doesn't matter what position we're in because all positions have pros and cons (mostly pros!), but when my girlfriend starts to tell me about this fantasy she has where she comes home and finds her best friend giving me a blowjob and then joins in, I have to stop myself from having an orgasm in seconds. She describes every detail and looks me in the eye while she's doing it — it just makes me want to thrust harder or do whatever I have to do to make her come. It took her a long time to add her friend into the fantasy (she used to leave out the person's identity), but I told her men are visual and instead of being intimidated by that, she went with it. And that makes her and the sex even hotter." — Justin R., 29, Raleigh, North Carolina
If you feel like you’ll explode if you don’t profess your love for him, heed this advice.  Tell a friend how you feel. She’ll support you but also help you analyze whether your lovegush will be reciprocated or not. If she doesn’t feel like he’s exhibiting the signs of being in love with you yet, she’ll tell you and you can save yourself from the embarrassment of a one-sided love profession (the worst!).
Being open about what you like, even if you're worried about what someone might think, is the best way to connect with each other ~in bed~. Don’t be ashamed that he might think it’s “weird” that you need a vibrator to get off, or if you’ve always wanted to go dutch on a set of bed restraints. "Women are often afraid to get naughty in a relationship, because they don't want to shatter any 'good girlfriend' image he has or they don't want him to think they're weird," explains Brame. "But men want to see that no-holds-barred side of you — they just don't want to offend you by asking for it."
Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!
The predator model of love leads to a hunter's way of dating: Seek large gatherings of your prey, dangle a false self as bait, wait for an individual to stray from the herd, then pounce on him with all the wit and wile it takes to bring him down. Internet matchmaking services, singles bars, speed dating, personal ads and even blind dating all borrow from this "statistical mass" logic. I've seen clients spend years dating this way, entering one briefly exciting, painfully doomed relationship after another. This is not a numbers game. It's a soul search.
Closely linked to your smile and heart space your authentic self. Don’t try to change for him. This happens to often. Women get caught up in their partners and quickly forget about self. They lose self in another self. The guys interests and habits become theirs. We’ve all been guilty of this. And it happens one too many times. Giving into him won’t make him want you more. Actually, it will make him see you as someone who’s not strong or sure of what she wants or who she is. If you don’t like something he likes, that’s fine. You don’t have to reflect each other on every level. Having differences is a great way to learn about each other and life. Stay true to yourself and you’ll magnetize him without much effort.

Sounds great...but what should you say that won't seem ridiculous? (Unless you're a porn star, "Do me hard, bad boy!" probably doesn't roll off the tongue.) "Most women aren't sure what sounds sexy, so they don't say anything," says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a sexologist in New York City. As a result, you're missing out on pleasure — which is so not right.
Seriously, one of the most attractive things about any human is a level of pure confidence. This can get tricky. The line between confidence and arrogance is often skewed. With a little knowledge, you can apply your own sense of confidence with success. Don’t brag, but talk passionately about your qualities or achievements. Be sure you don’t only talk about yourself either. A good, healthy sense of confidence also lies in wanting to know others. Don’t act like the world revolves around you. The last thing a guy wants is a princess who feels entitled or someone high maintenance. Be proud, but humble. Listen closely and be attentive. Confidence is an attitude that’s best worn with discretion. A little goes a long way, use sparingly, but apply to your best parts.
I was in a situation that still confuses me. Maybe you can help. I know long distance is hard, but I was in one for 4 months. I showed up great – warm, joyous, playful. We had seen each other 3 times and were planning on a visit at the holidays. Due to previous things that were planned for both of us – international travel and grad school exams, we knew it would be 8 weeks to see each other. He travelled and we spoke 4 times over 12 days for 2-3 hours, just having fun. When he got back, he called 10 times in 6 days, emailed, texted, and wrote me a letter about what an amazing influence I was and how we had this great chemistry. He started saying “love you” at the end of a few calls, and I said “love you too”, but never initiated it as I knew we were falling and needed to see each other. I went on an international vacation for 2 weeks and common times to talk were difficult (and I was having fun). We spoke twice by Skype with him asking when we could speak again. We scheduled a third and I emailed him once or twice telling him what fun stuff was happening and wishing him well on his studying. The last call he was late for, which it felt dispointed as I had asked if he just wanted to talk when I was home and he insisted we set up a time. I only said it once, he apologized and we let it go.
Remember, guys are visual by nature. They get turned on by what they see. So, taking care of how you look is a high priority if you want to turn your man on and arouse him. Think of this as a ‘pre’ foreplay tip to use before you even begin touching him. If you are both going to a party together, dressing up in something sexy and hot is going to start turning your man on hours before you start getting physically intimate. This is great for building sexual tension with him.
So, you have just started giving him the best oral sex ever. Now what? There are three types of men. Some men will get quickly excited when you perform oral and will climax quickly. Some men will take forever to climax and you may end up getting tired or frustrated, jumping into intercourse to get him off. Or, you have the perfect in-between when he will climax before your mouth, neck, throat, and hands tire. Regardless of the time it takes, he may eventually climax. The question is...do you spit or swallow when he finally reaches that point? Tip #15: Be prepared for a variety of outcomes. He may climax, he may not. He may stay hard, he may not. Despite the number of possibilities, you need to be prepared. There is nothing worse than if your man starts to lose his mojo and you react with frustration. He'll be frustrated and there is nothing worse for a man's ego than seeing a negative emotion on your face. Have a game plan. If he goes soft, start using your hands more, or explore other options (or blame it on yourself that your mouth or other areas of your body hurt). Sometimes taking the blame will ease the tension. Tip #16: If your man is about to climax, know the signs. This may be difficult if this is the first time you have ever performed oral, or if this is the first time that you have performed oral on this particular person. Most men will get extremely hard just before they are about to climax. Some will ejaculate with pre-cum just before they are ready to let loose. Their bodies will tense up. No matter what, don't stop! If he is about to get off from your amazing oral sex, don't drop the ball no matter what! Tip #17: Spit it out. If the option presents itself to spit or swallow, many women will opt to spit. This doesn't mean you have to be insanely gross about it. There are many women who do not particularly like the taste of ejaculation. Let it run down his member while you finish him off. This is particularly sexy to men, seeing it drip from your lips and tongue. Tip #18: Gobble gobble and swallow it up! This is for you girls who are a little more experienced. The more versed you are in the art of oral, the more you will tolerate or even enjoy swallowing at this point of performing. You can either swallow a little at a time or keep going and swallow it all at once. Again, the main thing to remember is not to stop. Use your hand to help get him completely off. It will only be like a tablespoon, so when it starts to hit your mouth, don't stop to swallow. Use your hands to keep the motion going so that he can climax completely.

Drive him wild: Ease into it slowly. "Use your hand to stroke him, run your fingernails over the area, then build up to a gentle slap," Cavanah says. Or, when he is lying on his stomach, try kissing a trail down his back, over his buttocks, and then gently nibbling along this fold and flicking it with your tongue before moving on to his inner thighs.
"Here’s what happens: Dirty talk stimulates and engages senses that may be overlooked or under used when in a sexual situation — our imagination, thought and hearing. We are engaged with touch and smell by definition, but dirty talk engages the senses that are not as commonly used or thought to be used when having sex. These are powerful senses and thus make the sexual experience that much more exciting and fulfilling. The areas of the brain engaged are the frontal cortex where the pleasure, judgement and imagination areas of the brain are."
Make him go wild: Your best bet is to talk to your guy outside of the bedroom before you try to finger his anus so he doesn't get any unwanted surprises. Try bringing it up during a romantic dinner by saying you love making love with him, and want to experiment even more. You might say that you heard stimulating his prostate can trigger a really intense orgasm, and see if he would be down to try it later on. If your guy isn't comfortable with you using your fingers to gently penetrate the area, there are other ways to stimulate his prostate. One way to do this is to give some loving to his perineum, or the smooth strip of skin between his testicles and anus. The prostate is internally located between the base of his penis and his anus so touching him on the outside of that area can externally stimulate the gland. "Have him lie on his back with his knees bend and legs spread apart, and then use your fist to apply even pressure to the area with quick vibration-like motions," Michaels says.   
Look your best. That doesn't mean changing yourself to impress another person. Take pride into your appearance to give yourself an aura of confidence that can be highly attractive to someone you want to attract. Make a point to always be well-groomed and clean, from your hair to your teeth. Dress and accessorize to accentuate your finest feature, whether it's your hair or your height.
This book is pathetic. It reads like it was written by someone who failed 8th grade English composition. Not only is the writing style juvenile but it's full of grammatical errors as well. The content of the book is as pitiful as the writing style. I'm going to contact Amazon about getting my money back. I only gave it 1 star because I couldn't put in a negative rating. Don't waste your money on this garbage.
Me and this guy have been friends since middle school.. we're 18 now. We were inseparable. Then I moved to another city and then I realized I really loved him. The only one I ever miss is him. In school we helped each other get over breakups school tests friendship issues everything. When I told him he said he loved me only as a friend or "sister".
Talking about specific sexual acts can be uber-intimidating. “It’s oftentimes easier to talk about attributes or objects—how sexy a piece of underwear is, or that you really like his beard stubble,” says Neustifter. So start with descriptive statements of what turns you on about him. Most people like to be complimented. Plus, it’s almost impossible to flop when you’re telling him how much his body excites you.
Also a final word of warning because this will destroy even the strongest relationship if you’re not careful: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
Tip #4: Be easy to approach, hard to obtain. Although we're torn on whether playing hard to get is a good thing or not—for the record, Adam says that men DO want a challenge when it comes to winning you over—it's common sense that most men are terrified to make the move. So save the challenge for later, Adam advises: "Make it easy for them, open up your body, make eye contact and give them the clear signal that it's cool to break the ice. One the ice is broken, now you can tease him, test him and make him work for it...just the way he likes it."
Sex is an important part of a marriage. Who does not miss the rush of the early days together? However, with time, it becomes almost clinical. And after having children, it becomes increasingly difficult to find time and energy to have sex. And whenever you do, it ends up being a 10-minute sprint as against the hours spent in exploring each other during the early days.
"Say something like, 'Hey, I read this article on AskMen.com about dirty talk and I was thinking it might be fun to try it. Does that sound appealing to you?' If they say yes, then have a conversation about it. If they say no, ask for more information – is it feeling embarrassed to say things out loud? Is it having no idea what to say or where to start? If it's 'I'm just not into that' then drop it. If it's only a 'no' because they have shame or anxiety around 'doing it right' then that can be an opportunity for dialogue and negotiation."
Hard to get pisses me off, i dislike it when girls flirt with other guys unless she’s not into me. Things that are written by women, especially topics like this say that guys are more into you if you flirt with other guys, truth is it pushes us away. We prefer up front women or a little hard to get types of women, as long as you show that you like him by flirting with him and only him a little bit should let him know that u like him.
"This is going to make me sound lame, but sometimes there's nothing better than good, old-fashioned missionary sex. I get to be in complete control over the tempo and rhythm, I can slide my hands under my wife's ass and it feels like I have her entire body in my hands. I think a lot of women underestimate how much some guys like to kiss them and rub up against their breasts and bodies when we're having sex — and missionary is intimate enough to allow that." —Thomas K., 33, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
"Doggy, all the way. I'm an ass man so, for me, there's nothing better than watching her ass come straight at me. My current girlfriend isn't into anal sex, which is fine, but doggy makes me feel like we're having anal, but better: there's no chance I'll wind up with an strange 'surprise' on my penis when we're finished." — Brian S., 27, Richmond, Virginia
What Real Women Say: "I was seeing my now boyfriend for a few months, and we already had sex a decent amount of times," says Lisa, 25. "One night when we were starting to fool around he stopped in the middle of it and whispered, 'What's off limits?' It was really intimate and made me feel comfortable being open with him about what I liked and what I didn't. As far as dirty talk specifically, I don't like the name calling that goes on in porn so I told him that, so he's stayed away from that which I think helped me be more open to it."
Hi, He sounds as if he has a lot of his own insecurities and is deflecting them onto you. He is constantly trying to change you, and tell you that you aren’t enough. You sound to me as if you are not comfortable in being yourself around him. You can’t petend to be someone else to please jom forever, so picture this you are trying to adapt yourself to who he wanrlts and he is still finding flaws. Aren’t you tired already,? he is damaging your self-esteem. There is someone out there , who you may or may not have met, that will adore you flaws and all, bit you have to love yourself enough to know when you are being tolerated , and ” handled”, not loved. This guy you are with, needs you a lot more than you need him, be careful not to allow him to force you to change into someone nobody wants, so thy he can keep you all to himself, while he used you. By that, I mean an insecure, unhappy person that doesn’t feel worthy of anything.
So, I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. we have known eachother for awhile though but never talked to each other till recently. He was dating this girl for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago , he messgaed me on instagram asking if i wanted to hangout sometime so i gave him my number! well we started texting for awhile but he isn't very consistent with texting and when we finally hung out i brought up how i always tect him for and he leaves me on read but then reply's to what i said couple days later. his reason was with school and work he has to work off his phone and my messages get pushed back and he would forget to reply, when he realized he forgot he had said it was too late to respond so i wouldnt bother. the next week he didnt talk much saying he had been, which i new he would be with what he had going on and moving out of his apartment that week. well he was active on snapchat at some concert so i thought i text him again and he never replied but still active on social media. i don't know if i shouldn't worry about it and text him again or just forget about it, maybe he isn't interested. i need help everyone i ask doesn't carer they just tell me i don't know. and i really need help figuring out what should i do.

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