In a perfect world, everyone would be totally transparent about what they want in bed and no one would ever be left wondering. But until then, it's okay to have some questions. If you’re to believe everything you see in pop culture, you'd think men fantasize about sex 25/8 and are literally always down to do it. But in practice, having your partner open up about his fantasies is always a little bit harder than it would seem. Here, 11 of the most common sex *~cravings~* every guy has, and a non-awk way of bringing them up:
The goal of talking dirty is to enhance the pleasure for both of you, so relax, be real, and leave it for another time if it feels contrived or you’re self-conscious in the moment. Moans of appreciation can be good to hear, but screaming isn’t so great. And remember, you don’t have to use any words you wouldn’t normally use to infuse a shot of passion and excitement during sex.
If there is one area I see women mess up time and again, it's in trying to define a relationship or tie a man down too soon. That's because her need to feel "safe" is in direct contrast to his innate desire for freedom and not being tied down. If you think about it, every soldier anywhere who has ever been killed in action has died trying to defend their idea of freedom.
Take a good look at yourself. Psychological studies have shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes these voids are unhealthy; for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention and feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so badly, be truly honest with yourself, and, if need be, talk to a therapist about this. Someone with issues only attracts a guy with issues as well, and a good, real man doesn't want anything to do with someone who has more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.

there is this guy that i like and hes a twin. i really like him a lot. everyone tells me that it looks like he likes me but when we talk about it he says that hes still not over his ex. he compliments me in every way possible but this girl told me that he said he only liked me as a friend and that it looked like his brother was the one that liked me. what can i do to find out if he likes me even if hes still not over his ex. And what can i do to make him like me? thanks for reading
I am feeling so horny right now – If you’re looking out for ways to intensify your sex life, then trust me you need to show a little passion and lust. Wear your favorite piece of lingerie, learn some dirty things to whisper in his ear, and tell him you are feeling horny tonight. Trust me, doing so will make him lose all his control and you both will enjoy rocking sex.
The last thing you want to do in bed is make your man feel any less of a man. Be sure you don’t pound on his sensitive spots verbally if you can help it. Perhaps he is extremely cautious of his “size” and not getting enough depth to satisfy you. So try and make sure you don’t say anything when you are all riled up that’s going to make him think about his insecurities.
Please your man in bed by not being shy and see what a difference it makes to you own self worth. It's ok to feel shy at certain times because maybe you don't know what you are doing. Try you're best to overcome the shyness and you will feel much more self assured, which in turn will give you the opportunity to express yourself in a more positive way. By not being shy you will portray a sexy confident woman in the bedroom. It will please your man to see that you can overcome your shyness in his company. It will allow both of you to move forward in the relationship in a loving and trusting manner. You will both have a little chuckle together In years to come when you look back at how shy you were, it will seem hard to believe that you could have felt like that at one time because you've gotten to know each other intimately over the years and nothing will make you feel that shy again.

Throw this line out there and a man will bite, so to speak (though you could also be into the actual biting part). Sure, it feels a bit rudimentary, and maybe it’s even a bit mundane and overdone, but it’s also a classic. Some extra advice? Steer clear of substituting with a PG-version, like Do me!” or, “Give it to me!” Censorship is lame. Part of what makes this great dirty talk is that it’s dirty.
The key with all of this is figuring out what method works best for you and your man. It will take a lot of experimentation and a little bit of frustration, but if you keep going, you’ll eventually arrive at a point where you know his every kink, turn on and fantasy. This way you will always know how to totally and completely pleasure your man every time.
One thing about getting what you want is acting like it’s already yours. It’s a headspace and an attitude. It’s about convincing yourself of something and believing that you have the capacity to obtain that which your heart desires. Addressing things like the law of attraction and universal timing come into play here. Do some online investigation to learn more. The main point is that attention goes where energy flows. So if you put out good vibes for the guy you want, then he’ll come to you. You can apply this theory with a specific guy in mind or in general. Manifestation takes place in the mind, the spiritual realm, before it touches the physical world. Start thinking he’s yours and soon enough he will be –guaranteed. That is, if universe sees it fit for you.
How you feel with the person you’re with is the best indication of whether you’re with someone who’s compatible or not. How much you want it to work is the worst indicator of a good relationship (in fact, usually the people who tell me how desperately they want something to work are highlighting how incompatible they really are from their partner).
I, ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for quite sometime,,,,the problem with him is that he replies to my texts whenever he feels like,,,he doesn't pick my calls,,,,when he finds missed calls he doesn't call back,,,,we had an argument the other day and i went as far as abusing him,,,then it was yesterday when i apologised to him and he forgave me but he hasn,t change,,,,he still ignores my texts and doesn't pick my calls,,,,what should i do,,,i love him so much,,,,i Don,t want to loose him,,,,,
Out of all other advice out there that I was reading, your information is the most that made perfect sense to me, you, at your young age, you have a lot of experience that you were able to collect, organize perfectly and,…help people! It’s an incredible collection that is easy to read, relate and understand, material, which is fun, no BS:), freely given, not always trying to sell another product, deep, personal, open, detailed, incredibly valuable, abundant and helpful not only in relationships between man and woman, but in life in general. When you write about having a particular mindset, you talk about things that was a missing ingredient for me when it came to decide that you really are above a lot of other so called relationship gurus!
This article is surprisingly well written considering that most refer to manipulation of some sort. Yet, I would like to take a middle ground here in the positions taken by Eric Charles and Jennie. I think a fifth point, but moved to the top of the post should be on finding your own self love, and source of fulfillment independent of relationships, which helps you then do the second point say no to those who are not a good fit for you — i.e. know how to choose those compatible to you so that you can be yourself and also add value to his/her life. And yes, such relationships are reciprocal. It is not only the woman adding value, the man reciprocates as well. Both partners benefit. And commitment is a natural result, without having to manipulate the situation in any way. Thanks for offering different points of view.

You have given the best advice that I have ever read from any article or book out there and trust I have read MANY. I see where I have been going wrong with my relationships and I see that I am putting too much of what I want them to be for me in it. I see where my negative thoughts have failed me and how I can go about changing me to be a better me for a relationship. Your views are so on point and I completely understand exactly where you are coming from. I will continue to read and reread your advice until I get myself where I need to be physically and emotionally. I definitely dont live in the moment with the man I have been with and I have gotten the I dont want a relationship thing from him but I definitely see where I went wrong because this man was interested in me from the beginning and he is still here. So I see where I went wrong. I see where I need to change just from reading your articles. I am seeing clearly. Now just to adjust my behavior and actions. I believe I will see a change in him. You cant expect people to change if you dont change yourself first… Thanks for all the great advice :)
Tip #3: The Vibrant Vibe. According to Adam, the law of attraction is that like attracts like. By this he means if you want to attract fun and exciting guys, you've got to be fun and exciting yourself. He says, "if you have the stink face' look all night and appear miserable, guess who you'll be attracting? You guessed it, the creepers." Ugh, we all know the ones right? The ones who are all, "I bet I could make you smile, girl." Ew. On the other hand, if you're enjoying yourself, you're more likely to attract great guys. According to Adam, "women who get approached by quality guys always have the vibe that projects I'm loving my night regardless!'" On a non-guy-related note, having fun is always superior to not having fun.
If there is one area I see women mess up time and again, it's in trying to define a relationship or tie a man down too soon. That's because her need to feel "safe" is in direct contrast to his innate desire for freedom and not being tied down. If you think about it, every soldier anywhere who has ever been killed in action has died trying to defend their idea of freedom.
#4 Ease into it. Don’t just all of a sudden start with dirty talking, especially if it’s your first time doing it with your partner. Start by flirting and then slowly building up the intensity. For example, if he says he’s in bed, you can reply by saying, “You know what I’d do if I was there beside you?” This alerts him what he’s in for, so he has a moment to prepare. It’ll catch him off guard, but he’ll get into the mood.
Freud once called female sexuality "the dark continent," and if that's true, then male sexuality might as well be the dark planet. Because when it comes to sex, men are far from simple. (As much as they may try to convince us otherwise.) The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, so what you see on TV is typically far from what can (and should) be delivered in reality. That's why sex experts chimed in with more accurate insight about what guys really want you to know when the two of you climb into bed.
For ladies on a love-hunt, the Propinquity Theory of Attraction suggests looking no further than your current locale. "Men can be drawn to women, not just based on commonalities, but more so on a regular shared proximity," explains Kailen Rosenberg, a relationship expert and founder of matchmaking firm Kai-len Love and Life Architects. Rosenberg notes that male coworkers are more likely to pursue female colleagues who frequent the same restaurants they do. "As much as men feel they want change, they actually respond strongest to stability and familiarity," she adds.
Not only can talking dirty benefit your experience in the bedroom, but Caleb Backe, health and wellness expert at Maple Holistics says that it can actually help improve your relationship with your partner. "Trust is one of the most important elements to any successful relationship, and believe it or not dirty talk can foster better trust," he says.
I am feeling so horny right now – If you’re looking out for ways to intensify your sex life, then trust me you need to show a little passion and lust. Wear your favorite piece of lingerie, learn some dirty things to whisper in his ear, and tell him you are feeling horny tonight. Trust me, doing so will make him lose all his control and you both will enjoy rocking sex.

Married men are frequently concerned of becoming bored from engaging in sex with only a single woman. So role-playing gets important. Besides yourself-his great wife-your spouse can also become lively with maid & barista. Going into erotic mode naturally elevates dopamine concentrations, the stimulating hormone, increasing your feeling of attachment. Thus even after completing with the other person, your mutual closeness will increase for achieving something unique together.


What Real Women Say: "My husband uses dirty talk to give me a preview of what he's going to do to me next," says Isabel, 29. "He'll be fingering me and tell me, as he's doing so, that he can't wait to be inside me like this, or he'll run his tongue along my ear and say that he's going to do that while going down on me. Then he'll take his time getting there – but my mind is already on him following through with those promises, which makes even the smallest thing he's doing to me feel more intense."
The best way for you to free yourself from the stereotype that foreplay is only about pleasuring the woman, you can do your part to tease your man; you can be spicing up the experience for him as well. There are plenty of ways in which you can really get your man into the mood for doing it. Remember that sex is just as much mental as it is physical and emotional. You have to be able to play with his senses and stimulate him in ways that he never would have imagined.
"This is going to make me sound lame, but sometimes there's nothing better than good, old-fashioned missionary sex. I get to be in complete control over the tempo and rhythm, I can slide my hands under my wife's ass and it feels like I have her entire body in my hands. I think a lot of women underestimate how much some guys like to kiss them and rub up against their breasts and bodies when we're having sex — and missionary is intimate enough to allow that." —Thomas K., 33, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

Tip #1: Show them pearly whites. Adam's first tip is a simple and easy one--smile at the guy you're hoping will approach you. He say, "Men are total wusses when it comes to approaching women. If they don't feel confident that you want them to come over, then they'll almost never make the move." Evidently, male clients are always asking how to be sure that a woman actually wants them to come over, and Adam advises that a smile gives them "a solid 80% chance" since "there is no 100% certainty when it comes to dating". If you take the tiny little initiative to smile his way, it will encourage him to make a move.

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