Well, the truth is, talking dirty to your man is a way to use your “feminine powers” for good: you’re going to make a man feel so desired, wanted, and lusted after, that the fact he is also with you makes him feel like he just won the lottery. A big part of the “art” of seduction is how you make others feel, and the other half is about how you feel about yourself.
At some point, he will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit myself to? The answer will determine whether the relationship deepens or ends. Do you know how a man decides a woman is girlfriend or wife material? Do you know what inspires a man to want to commit? If not, you need to read this article next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
There’s this guy we met in summer school and had a thing but fell out , now he hit me up again and we’ve been talking for 1 year and 5 months but he hasn’t came to see me even once. Everytime I ask him he says he does like me he’s just been really busy with school and work and hasn’t the free time but makes promises to make the time soon, idk what to do if I should continue waiting or give up cuz it’s been so long, now it feels like we talk even less he replies once a day if I get lucky and I asked him if he’d just like me to leave I have no problem with it but he insists he’s just mad busy idk what to do plz help

Try this: Give him a lipstick blowjob — AKA where you brush your closed but relaxed lips against the head of his penis, like you’re applying lipstick. Hold his shaft with your fingers, but not in a fist (avoid holding his penis like a microphone, but do approach it with the same blind confidence of a mediocre stand up act). Keesling suggests varying the sensations by opening your mouth a bit and rubbing his head between them.
I’m including it because I don’t believe any woman in her right mind would use this procedure consciously. However, through circumstance and sheer cluelessness, a woman could end up using this procedure unconsciously (also known as ‘being in your twenties’). And then she’s got a man who’s borderline stalking her, and she doesn’t understand why. Now that you know how this works, it’s more likely that you can prevent this inconvenience (which is also true for the men who are reading this).

First of all, you should not turn and twist your man because he is not designed as a drag-roll for you. You should really know the keystones to put your man on the altitudes of sexual climax and you need to know that you are not the only one who needs to enjoy sex; he is also there with you to enjoy this natural and the most needed physical activity.


Men like women who are in touch with their sexuality. So, he will be more than happy if you start the movements that gradually lead to sex. You initiating sex will make him feel wanted. Be direct but take it slow. For instance, you can put your hand on his leg and work your way up to his tool, ask him to join you, take his hand and guide it to your butt or boobs. He will take it from there—or simply take him to the bedroom and start kissing him. There are a lot of options to use your imagination and you will most definitely shake his.
Confront any issues that are holding you back from enjoying oral pleasure and then invite him to go down more often. Guys love seeing women in the throes of pleasure, so it is up to you to discover how you are most able to get aroused and experience climaxes so you can then share that pleasure with him. A fully satisfying sex life is possible for everyone. You just need to take the time and energy to focus on your own pleasure. You are worth it!
That said, sometimes it’s a special occasion and your partner may want to try a position that is extra-awesome for you. Whether it’s your birthday, anniversary, or you got a promotion at work, sometimes they just want to do something special just for you. And who are you to say no? While this may mean an opportunity to try something previously off limits (like a threesome), it can also mean that rare treat.
To dip your toe into Fifty Shades for Beginners territory, Dr. Kristie Overstreet PhD suggests telling your partner that he can’t talk, touch, or even move unless he’s told to. Tell him if he disobeys you or doesn’t follow your directions, he’ll be punished. Boss him around a little, and tell him how you want him to touch you, what to say, and direct his every move. Watch him squirm and remind him from time to time that you’re in control.
First (and most important), promise not to judge the other. Then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized you and place them in a box. Next time you're feeling hot and heavy, pull one out. Either jump right into fulfilling that fantasy or, if you need a little more time to adjust, ask what it is about that fantasy that your partner likes, Dr. Kort says. "Sometimes, its themes can be addressed in different scenarios that feel comfortable for both of you," he adds.
Being open about what you like, even if you're worried about what someone might think, is the best way to connect with each other ~in bed~. Don’t be ashamed that he might think it’s “weird” that you need a vibrator to get off, or if you’ve always wanted to go dutch on a set of bed restraints. "Women are often afraid to get naughty in a relationship, because they don't want to shatter any 'good girlfriend' image he has or they don't want him to think they're weird," explains Brame. "But men want to see that no-holds-barred side of you — they just don't want to offend you by asking for it."

Blindfold her and tease around her entire body while avoiding her hot spots. “Use the backs of your hands to very SLOWLY caress her legs, back, hips, face and neck. When you pass over her breasts, let your fingertips linger an inch from the surface so that she can feel your warmth hovering above,” says Dr. Jess. Take your time. Get closer to her hot spots (you’ll have to communicate to identify these, as they’re different for every body) and then pull away to rile her into a fit of desire. “Holding out for longer can create a more intense reaction once you finally touch the spots that are craving your hands, lips and tongue,” says Dr. Jess.


While I have given you plenty of different scenarios and tips on how to talk dirty to your man, sometimes it just helps to have a few lines to get you started. I have listed 50 lines that you can use and mix up. Remember though that it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it that will turn him on so follow up each dirty line with how you feel rather than just saying a bunch of random dirty lines. Here is my list of dirty lines:
The next time you're looking for a little action, you may want to spend the day volunteering together—or at least share a few photos of yourself doing good. According to an August 2016 study in the British Journal of Psychology, people who help others appear more desirable to the opposite sex and have more frequent sex. "It appears that altruism evolved in our species, in part, because it serves as a signal of other underlying desirable qualities, which helps individuals reproduce," said lead study author Steven Arnocky of Nipissing University in a statement.
Please your man in bed by being romantic and you will enjoy a dream partnership. Being romantic is a lovely way to show your man how much you care about him. He will know that you don't just see him as a partner but as a lover as well. You make him feel like a special human being. A lovely romantic gesture you can try is to put roses on the pillows, this conjures up a very special image of romance indeed. It turns an ordinary bedroom into a romantic haven, somewhere you would expect to find in a posh hotel. The look in your eyes will tell him at a glance that you've thought of everything that will give him the wonderful experience that is yet to come. The anticipation will be a very powerful emotion for both of you.
2. Take the Pressure Off. Similarly, you should start an erotic conversation in the bedroom if he isn’t in the habit of getting naughty texts from you. It might be too off-putting or strange if you suddenly start sending him texts telling him that his cock is harder than any man’s you’ve ever seen. If he responds positively in the bedroom, send him a dirty message the next day, or tell him something kinky over coffee in the morning. Then start to make this more or a habit so that you are flirting with him all day every day. After a while, you can whisper something obscene in his ear while you’re dining at a fine restaurant or if you really want to get dirty, tell him to meet you in the bathroom.
Ever notice that your man looks a little different on warm days? His testicles have a built-in thermostat that causes them to rise and fall according to the outside temperature. Hot out? They’ll be hanging low. Chilly? They’ll retreat back into the warmth of his body. So don’t be surprised if your guy appears, ahem, more ample in July than in December.
There are multiple ways that you can position your body in order to perform the best oral sex. Tip #11: The way that most people envision giving oral is with the woman on her knees. This allows for your man to use his lower body to push and pull while you use your mouth. The longer that you do it, the more tired your knees are going to get, and your neck will tire also if you are on the shorter side. Tip #12: Let him be on top. You know when you sixty-nine? Most women are on top, allowing for them to control the oral sex being performed on the man. Feeling a little more daring? Let him be on top. Remember when I said to make sure that you get your throat in shape? This is a really good position to allow him to slide all the way down. Make sure you have some way of letting him know (other than biting him of course) if you can't breathe or need to take a break. Allowing him to be on top gives him the feeling it would if you were having sex, but it is a lot more sensual and kinky. If you allow him to control the speed and the depth, it may be hard on you if you are not used to it, but boy-oh-boy does it give him the best oral sex ever! Tip #13: Lay on the bed while he is standing at the end of the bed. This is a little hard on his end because he will need to bend his knees or lean into the bed, but it gives the same effect as if he was on top while performing oral. This position allows him a sense of control (many men totally dig that) and allows him to slide down your throat a lot more easily. Tip #14: The old-fashioned way of performing oral is with your man laying down while you are straddling him and conducting business. There are pros and cons to this method. The pro to this position is that you have the control and can use all of the tips (yes, pun intended) you want to. The downside is that you can't quite get the depth. This is a great position if you have a bad gag reflex because you can control how far your head goes down. The other downside is if he is getting ready to climax, you are more likely to pull away and he will not get the full effect of good oral sex.
Since we are getting serious here, we are going to work anatomically, versus chronologically. Since these tips are designed to help you get your boyfriend or husband to climax, it is important to understand how each part of your body affects the process. Some of these tips are just pure common sense, but they are all important! Tip #1: Make sure your mouth is moist. Yes, I said it. Moist. There is nothing worse than giving your man pleasure with your mouth and it being as dry as sandpaper. If water just isn't cutting it, try out some flavored lubricant. They don't exactly taste like candy, but it will make your lips and tongue slide with ease. You don't HAVE to go down this route, but if anything, make sure that you cure your cotton mouth beforehand. Tip #2: Drool happens. Actually, it helps. Spit is one of the best natural lubricants. If you are providing oral sex for your man, spit on that sucker! He will not only find it erotic, it will help the process along. There is nothing wrong with a little sloppy oral sex! Tip #3: Use that tongue. Swirl it. Slide it. Use it on all parts of his member. Don't just let it lie there in your mouth - get it moving. The more action that he feels, the higher the chance that he will be begging for you not to stop! Your tongue will be your best friend during oral sex. This is the strongest muscle in your body based on size, so use it to your advantage. When your mouth begins getting tired, use your tongue as a filler so you can catch your breath. He will enjoy it and it will give you a bit of a break.
In a perfect world, everyone would be totally transparent about what they want in bed and no one would ever be left wondering. But until then, it's okay to have some questions. If you’re to believe everything you see in pop culture, you'd think men fantasize about sex 25/8 and are literally always down to do it. But in practice, having your partner open up about his fantasies is always a little bit harder than it would seem. Here, 11 of the most common sex *~cravings~* every guy has, and a non-awk way of bringing them up:
Drive him wild: Have your man lie on his stomach and give him a massage by doing light, karate-chop type movements along his sacrum. "Doing this not only stimulates those sacral nerves, but also triggers the parasympathetic nervous system which is key for relaxing, letting go, and having an orgasm," Michaels says. (Related: 7 Tips for a Better Orgasm)
There is something quite intimate about performing oral on your boyfriend or husband. It is a completely different feel from having standard intercourse. Make sure that you take some time to look up at your man if you are on your knees or on top performing oral. There is nothing better than for your man to look down and see your big eyes looking up at him sensually. This will really get his mojo rising. The great thing about oral is that it can be performed out of the blue. It doesn't always have to be used as a method of foreplay - it can be an action all in itself. Especially when a female is going through that time of the month. You can always spark excitement and respect when you provide oral at the most random of times. It's great giving oral in the shower, while he is watching a movie or football game (especially if he is laying down and can see the curve of your butt in the light of the television), or while he is eating. Another positive about oral is that his ejaculation only amounts to about ten calories per serving and is an excellent source of protein! If you are not quite ready to jump in the sack, oral is a great way to round that corner. It is a little more personal than just using your hands. There are women who do not enjoy giving oral. Have your man take a shower beforehand, so that it will decrease any "fum-munda" scent that may be lingering. Be prepared for a salty taste - that is the best way to describe it. Also, ejaculation is creamy, not watery. The texture is what can throw a woman off more than anything. Men really enjoy having oral performed on them, but once again, don't be shy. Add some pressure, but watch out for your teeth. Men like a tight vagina because they can feel it, and the same goes for oral. If you experiment with different positions, different scenarios, and a variety of techniques, you will find out what will be the best for your man and for your own comfort level. One size does not fit all, so get creative and have fun!
I was in a fwb relationship with a man that I’m compatible with. But his ex wife and ex gf of 14 years both cheated on him. He never wants to date or have a relationship again. He says he’s un loveable too. It breaks my heart because I’m very much in love with him. He brok up with me 2 years ago because he knew I was in love with him without saying. We hadn’t talked again til last week. We had wonderful exciting sex. He said he hadn’t been with anyone in a long time.
Day after day, as I hear single women bemoan the lack of available men, I wish ethics allowed me to set them up with my wonderful male clients who are searching, with equal frustration, for the right woman. Instead, I end up simply witnessing singles of both sexes failing to find each other. I believe this failure has much to do with the model of love-seeking most popular in our culture: the idea of romantic pursuit as a type of predation, a hunting expedition the goal of which is capture. In my experience, the way of thinking that leads to successful relationships is altogether different. It's focused on the idea that the way to find love is to become so much yourself that you find others of your own kind, with whom you can share freedom.
This article is surprisingly well written considering that most refer to manipulation of some sort. Yet, I would like to take a middle ground here in the positions taken by Eric Charles and Jennie. I think a fifth point, but moved to the top of the post should be on finding your own self love, and source of fulfillment independent of relationships, which helps you then do the second point say no to those who are not a good fit for you — i.e. know how to choose those compatible to you so that you can be yourself and also add value to his/her life. And yes, such relationships are reciprocal. It is not only the woman adding value, the man reciprocates as well. Both partners benefit. And commitment is a natural result, without having to manipulate the situation in any way. Thanks for offering different points of view.
Plus, nothing makes a man feel worse than to feel stuck in a problem he just can't solve so if you're unhappy too often, at some level, he's failed and he will try to distance himself from feeling like a failure. By contrast, nothing makes a man feel successful like you when you are happy — which is why a positive, happy and radiant woman is so appealing.
There’s this guy we met in summer school and had a thing but fell out , now he hit me up again and we’ve been talking for 1 year and 5 months but he hasn’t came to see me even once. Everytime I ask him he says he does like me he’s just been really busy with school and work and hasn’t the free time but makes promises to make the time soon, idk what to do if I should continue waiting or give up cuz it’s been so long, now it feels like we talk even less he replies once a day if I get lucky and I asked him if he’d just like me to leave I have no problem with it but he insists he’s just mad busy idk what to do plz help
Drive him wild: Ease into it slowly. "Use your hand to stroke him, run your fingernails over the area, then build up to a gentle slap," Cavanah says. Or, when he is lying on his stomach, try kissing a trail down his back, over his buttocks, and then gently nibbling along this fold and flicking it with your tongue before moving on to his inner thighs.
If you've had a woman say something filthy during sex, you've probably noticed that it made whatever it was that you were doing feel even better. But why is that? According to Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist at Doctor On Demand, there's science behind why talking dirty feels good. "It taps into one of my favorite parts of the brain and psychology, our perceptual system," he explains.

If you've had a woman say something filthy during sex, you've probably noticed that it made whatever it was that you were doing feel even better. But why is that? According to Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist at Doctor On Demand, there's science behind why talking dirty feels good. "It taps into one of my favorite parts of the brain and psychology, our perceptual system," he explains.

Tip #4: Be easy to approach, hard to obtain. Although we're torn on whether playing hard to get is a good thing or not—for the record, Adam says that men DO want a challenge when it comes to winning you over—it's common sense that most men are terrified to make the move. So save the challenge for later, Adam advises: "Make it easy for them, open up your body, make eye contact and give them the clear signal that it's cool to break the ice. One the ice is broken, now you can tease him, test him and make him work for it...just the way he likes it."

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