Please your man in bed by taking the initiative because you know it's what he wants. He won't ask you to take the initiative because he won't want you to feel pressured. But deep down he would love it if you would take the initiative. Taking the initiative will show him that you want sex which means he hasn't got to second guess what mood you are in. Taking the initiative will show him that you care for him and want him to enjoy himself. Taking the initiative will show him that you have got a mind of your own and he will love you for this. Your relationship will feel like it's on an equal footing and you will both know where you stand with each other. When one of you suggests in the future something new to try you will both respond with gusto knowing or guessing who is going to take the initiative.
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.
Drive him wild: Have your man lie on his stomach and give him a massage by doing light, karate-chop type movements along his sacrum. "Doing this not only stimulates those sacral nerves, but also triggers the parasympathetic nervous system which is key for relaxing, letting go, and having an orgasm," Michaels says. (Related: 7 Tips for a Better Orgasm)

I really like this guy in my grade. And I don’t think he likes me back, but we do hold eye contact, and he does laugh with me, and has touched me before, but also he’s very popular and I feel like I cannot speak to him, outside of SS. He started a band not to long ago and told me that it would be great if I could write songs for him but..... I’m not sure if I should bc I dunno what to write bc I’m only good at love songs and that would be so awkward!!!!

“I’m so wet right now.” “I’m about to come.” “You feel incredible inside me.” These moment-by-moment updates help you tune into your own arousal—an often-difficult task for us—while giving him an erotic earful. “When you speak about what’s happening in your own body, you’re bringing awareness to it,” says Jaiya. “On top of that, you’re arousing him even more, because he’s thinking, ‘Yes! I’m turning her on.’ That makes him feel more confident.” We call that a win-win.


Trying to string together a full, filthy sentence can actually tamp down your desire, since you’re inside your head, says Jaiya. “When I do sexuality workshops, the word ‘yes’ is consistently one of people’s favorite words,” says Neustifter. Other sexy words that can stand alone: "faster," "harder," and "more." One-word directives let him know he’s doing a great job, says Jaiya. They're the verbal equivalent of a moan.

You can make him go crazy and put him through a memorable experience with foreplay alone if you know the right moves to pull. If you want your man to be on full submission; if you want him to be eating out of your hands as you’re doing it, then perhaps you should do yourself a favor and try out some of these moves. Of course, you don’t have to limit yourselves to the stuff that’s listed on here. You can branch out and experiment a little bit. You can just use this as inspiration; or at the very least, a starting point:
You might fall in love fast. He might be slow. But once you’re there, if you use these strategies for how to make a man fall in love with you, you might speed up the process for him. I’m not suggesting you do anything other than be authentic, but do be aware of how you can communicate how much he means to you, even if you’re not yet saying those three little words.
Take off your clothes -- and talk about it. Don't just start stripping -- let your lover in on the peep show, button by button. If you're taking off your shirt, let him know that it's sliding over your head. If you're taking off your belt, let your lady know that you're dropping your belt to the floor. Paint a picture of your body that will turn on your lover even more.
Please your man in bed with communication because without communication you will never know what he’s thinking or feeling. Even worse is that he won't know what your thinking or feeling. If you don't know what each other is thinking or feeling you won't know if things are going well in your relationship. Communicating to each other what your wants and needs are is a great way to have a secure partnership. You will trust in each other to know that if one of you is not feeling right with something you will let the other person know. Likewise if one of you particularly likes something you will be able to let the other person know.
Please your man in bed by slowing down and revel in the warmth that your lovemaking brings. I have a friend called Gemma, she was single for several years before she met Matt. Because she'd been single for a while before she met Matt she thought that she should go all out in the bedroom to please him, she admits she quite often approached sex as though it was a race. When she was settled in the relationship and trusted Matt she stopped racing along in the bedroom with poor Matt on tow. Her advice to you is slow down, you don't have to race to the finish line to enjoy the togetherness that lovemaking brings.
The next time you're looking for a little action, you may want to spend the day volunteering together—or at least share a few photos of yourself doing good. According to an August 2016 study in the British Journal of Psychology, people who help others appear more desirable to the opposite sex and have more frequent sex. "It appears that altruism evolved in our species, in part, because it serves as a signal of other underlying desirable qualities, which helps individuals reproduce," said lead study author Steven Arnocky of Nipissing University in a statement.
Some women feel a little nervous or shy when it comes to sending a dirty text message to a guy. However, just remember that most, if not all guys enjoy flirting and being naughty with a woman they are sexually attracted to and tend to think about sex fairly frequently throughout the day. So sending him a dirty text message is highly likely to be well received.
When you think about what makes sex good, the physical factors most likely come to mind: how you touch each other, the positions you try, and the body parts you focus on. But there's another key contributor that is often overlooked: the words you utter. "Speaking or hearing erotically charged words stimulates dopamine transmission, which plays a huge role in sexual excitement," explains Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Passionista. "They can enhance the emotional and physical intensity of the experience."
If you feel like you’ll explode if you don’t profess your love for him, heed this advice.  Tell a friend how you feel. She’ll support you but also help you analyze whether your lovegush will be reciprocated or not. If she doesn’t feel like he’s exhibiting the signs of being in love with you yet, she’ll tell you and you can save yourself from the embarrassment of a one-sided love profession (the worst!).
well i like this guy but some days hes saying stuff like i love you and being nice and playful and those days where he is just quiet. his friend who is a girl helps me to find more about him and he only has ever had 1 girlfriend and he hasn't dated anyone since they broke up which was last year. The girl who is talking to him for me (btw she is only mentioning me in conversations to see what he says she is not asking him out for me..thats weak.) she said that one of her other friends had a crush on him and he said he isn't into her and is not wanting to be in a relationship and this was a while ago not far. But its so hard to tell because she also said that when this guy talks to girls, but not like that she says that to the girl it feels like he likes her to but hes only being friendly. i'm losing hope and i have no idea if we can ever be a thing. i think he is only being friendly but thinking back of all the things he said to me i think he is kind of interested i guess.
Hello well .. This guy has Been pursuing me for almost 3yrs. We were intimate, spent all of our time together. He does for me, we go out in public. We talked about marriage and kids together everthing.. He knew that i wasnt emotionally ready at the time yet he assured me it was safe to open up and be kind…Then when i finally do and say lets do this he tells me no and starts to pull away… Now he says he not ready and not intrested anymore…what happened?

3. Savor the build. Psychologically, there's a good reason to wrap a gift: The time it takes to unwrap it builds anticipation and adds zing to both the giving and the receiving. Looking forward to sex likewise heightens arousal. That's why sex therapists urge couples who have progressed a bit beyond the hot-and-heavy stage to make sex dates in advance: When older adults wait to feel spontaneously aroused, sex may not happen. (Here's one form of "gift-wrapping the present" that's almost certain to arouse an older man: Take your honey lingerie shopping.)


As well as knowing what’s good to say to your man when dirty talking, it is also good to know what lines not to use when dirty talking to your man. I have listed some examples of lines you should really try and avoid using unless he specifically likes it. If you have any more you feel should be added to the list then feel free to leave your comments at the end of this vlog post. Here are some of the lines to avoid when dirty talking:

There are plenty of ways to expand your oral sex repertoire, and you should always be looking to add new moves and mix things up. For starters, trying lying perpendicular to her body and stroking her clitoris with your tongue in a horizontal motion, rather than up and down. She’ll appreciate the change in stimulation, hopefully enough to return the favor.


"My girlfriend is uninhibited in the bedroom and one of the things she does that makes me crazy is, instead of asking for oral sex or dropping hints, she'll come up to me when I'm sitting on the couch, lift up her nightgown, and sit on my face and force me to start licking her. I mean, she isn't really 'forcing' me because I love it, but you get the point." — Jeff J., 37, Hudson Valley, NY
Your smell makes me weak in the knees – Dirty talk for dummies 101. This dirty phrase always works best for men and should be used whenever talking dirty to a man. It’s no secret that all men want their girl to be sexy and wild. They want her to say things that can turn him on in no time. So next time you are dirty talking in bed to your man and feel like indulging in super hot sex with your guy, use this phrase.
The wham-bam days are over. Today's man wants slow, skillful pleasure and plenty of it... to all the usual places, and a few new ones. Based on bestselling sex author/educator Jay Wiseman's underground bestselling Tricks series - "how to make good sex better" - this compilation of juicy ways to spice up your bedroom play has been harvested from sexual experts all over the U.S. New essays on up-to-the-minute safer-sex techniques, the changing sexual roles of men in the new millennium, and male psychology and physiology round out this must-have manual for anyone who's ever wanted to make a man beg for more!
Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!
Why are you supposed to be moving in with your crush, Miss 12? Are you a foster kid moving in with his family? You know you're going to have to wait for at least four years before making any kind of move on him, don't you? If you do anything stupid like sneaking into his room, you could both end up in a heap of trouble. He could be charged if he's intimate with you in any way before you're 16 ... and you'll be ruining your own chance at having happy teenage years. So please, either accept that nothing should be happening with him for a long time yet, or ask to be placed with a different family.
There are so many humans on this planet that one who might not be interested only means it’s his loss. Remind yourself that the guy you want might not want you and that’s fine –it’s how the law of attraction works and it’s how the universe protects us, too. Closing a door on one guy only means another door will open up, one that’s more suited to your needs and one that will be much better for you in the long run. Take a look at a few ways to help you score points with that coveted boy toy. And remember, if it doesn’t work out, you can try these tricks on the next one because there’s always a next one.

The first step in being someone she’s going to want to get naked with is to take care of yourself. Put some good healthy creative thought into determining your style and what brings out the best you. “Groom and dress yourself like you care. Obviously the healthier you eat and the more you workout plays directly into this as well. You really are what you eat,” says Nick Hawk, star of Showtime’s reality show Gigolos.


There’s this common misconception that’s going around which says that foreplay only ever really benefits the ladies. Mainstream chatter dictates that foreplay is a tool that girls use to get their guys to pleasure them and the man is just going to have to put up with it if she’s going to put out for him. But that’s not always the case. If this is how couples use foreplay in their relationships, then they are definitely doing things wrong. First of all, you and your partner should always be making the most out of every opportunity to get intimate with one another.
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Just like women, men have their sweet spots, and stimulating them manually or orally will make your guy writhe with pleasure. The frenulum (the ridge right under the tip of the penis), base (right above the testicles), and perineum (right under the testicles) are all incredibly sensitive and feel really, really, really good when you touch them with your tongue or fingers. Every man is different, so make sure you talk to your man openly about what he likes, but you generally want to pay some very special attention to these important areas.

Please your man in bed with a massage and you will both enjoy the sensation. I have a friend called Barbara, she goes on lots of holidays with her husband. Whenever her and her husband go on holiday he always heads straight to the spa because he really enjoys a nice massage. Barbara's advice to you is give your man a massage. Barbara gives her husband a massage because she knows how much he likes them. She says if you are not sure how to give a massage, go to a spa and have a massage yourself, that way you will know what to do and also you will know how lovely it feels. Over time you will find out which areas are particularly sensitive to him, it is knowing about these intimacies about your man that will cement your relationship together for a very long time.
#1 The lingering kiss. If you want a turn a guy on while saying goodbye to him, just try this. Give him a goodbye hug, and as you kiss his cheek, let your kiss linger just a second longer than normal. You’ll definitely leave him visualizing the kiss in his mind and wishing he could get some more. [Read: 6 naughty ways to accidentally kiss a friend and get away with it]
"It doesn't matter what position we're in because all positions have pros and cons (mostly pros!), but when my girlfriend starts to tell me about this fantasy she has where she comes home and finds her best friend giving me a blowjob and then joins in, I have to stop myself from having an orgasm in seconds. She describes every detail and looks me in the eye while she's doing it — it just makes me want to thrust harder or do whatever I have to do to make her come. It took her a long time to add her friend into the fantasy (she used to leave out the person's identity), but I told her men are visual and instead of being intimidated by that, she went with it. And that makes her and the sex even hotter." — Justin R., 29, Raleigh, North Carolina
Contrary to popular belief, foreplay isn’t just some kind of optional warm up. It’s one way for couples to really feel each other out; to gauge what kind of moods or mindsets they’re in during that particular time. It’s always a different experience every time and so foreplay can become a kind of self-discovery for both people in the relationship – regardless if you’re male or female. The more effective your foreplay is, then the better sex you’re going to have. It’s just that simple.
It’s often believed that men are so consumed by their libido that they have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered before reaching the bedroom (give them the once-over and tell them how manly they look), as well as after (give them the once-over and tell them how manly they look naked!). Along those lines, men worry about the size of their guts (and other more measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Just like women, men need to be told they are appreciated, sexy, desirable….and really good at what they are doing. Try to be extra affirming about those sensitivities.
Whatever you do, don’t bust out an X rated text in the middle of a normal conversation as it won’t look natural. Lead up to the X rated by starting with something more subtle like “wish you were here”. This should then get the conversation moving towards how much you want each other. You want him to reciprocate before starting a fully-fledged dirty talking text campaign.
I hope you can help me with this. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now. Things started out great but the last couple of weeks I’ve been kind of moody and on edge due to stressing over finding a job. This weekend I tried to get him to stay with me but he said he would have to work, but wasn’t sure about Saturday due to a possible lack of a ride. So I asked him if I could pick him up Saturday or if he wanted to wait to see me till Sunday. He told me he would just see me Sunday that he didn’t know if he had stuff to do Saturday. Is it possible that I’ve been pushing him away and he’s wanting space or looking to break up with me, or am I just over thinking this whole thing?
Seems like a no-brainer, right? Unfortunately, not all women realize how sensitive this area of the body is on a man. If you just happen to scrape your teeth across the head or shaft...the pleasure may be gone right then and there. Tip #4: Your jaw may get tired. Pay attention to how wide your mouth is. Surround his member, but give some room in case your jaw starts to close out of exhaustion. Practice and experience will help you to develop your jaw muscles so that they won't get tired as quickly. If you accidentally scrape your man with your teeth, he will be sure to let you know. Whatever you do, don't bite him. It is not erotic, and it will hurt him. Use your tongue and some spit to help relieve the sting if you happen to nibble by accident. Tip #5: If you have dentures...take them out. Yes, older women and women with dentures have this advantage. It can really make a difference. Self-conscious or not, your husband or boyfriend will truly appreciate the gesture. Oral is meant to feel good, not hurt.

Please your man in bed with passion because without passion you can't have a meaningful and loving relationship. Passion is what lights up your day, it's what makes you walk through life with a spring in your step. It's a lovely feeling when you can look into each other's eyes and see the passion reflected back. A million words could not be said, that would mean as much as that one passionate glance toward each other. You will both know in an instant that the passion you both share is there all the time when you look into each other's eyes.
You may not know where the boundaries are until you test them out. But it’s important that you do test the limits and see where the line is. Setting boundaries in sex is extremely important. If he likes dirty talking in a vulgar manner, however, you don’t like it, then you know where the boundary is. You don’t like it, so that’s where the line gets marked.
A lot of women worry that they are not attractive to men. Some of them are looking for their partners for their entire life and fail. The reason is poor self-presentation since they need to give pleasure, not just get it. Kisses, embraces, caress, and walks give women a lot of pleasure and positive emotions. This article will tell how to arouse a guy while kissing.
Being open about what you like, even if you're worried about what someone might think, is the best way to connect with each other ~in bed~. Don’t be ashamed that he might think it’s “weird” that you need a vibrator to get off, or if you’ve always wanted to go dutch on a set of bed restraints. "Women are often afraid to get naughty in a relationship, because they don't want to shatter any 'good girlfriend' image he has or they don't want him to think they're weird," explains Brame. "But men want to see that no-holds-barred side of you — they just don't want to offend you by asking for it."
The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derrière. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," says Fleming.
If during sex you are making very strange facial expressions or are screaming with pleasure but he hasn't even hardly touched you yet, he is going to know you are faking. If he knows you are faking then you will damage his ego as he may think that you are faking to hide that he can’t pleasure when it isn't true. All you need to do to let him know that what he is doing is pleasuring you is make soft gentle gasps and moans.
Take a good look at yourself. Psychological studies have shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes these voids are unhealthy; for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention and feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so badly, be truly honest with yourself, and, if need be, talk to a therapist about this. Someone with issues only attracts a guy with issues as well, and a good, real man doesn't want anything to do with someone who has more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.

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