Hi, I am a 61 year old widow and dating a 62 year old man for going on 2 years now, he has never been married or in a serious relationship for any length of time before. He tells me randomly that he loves me and we spend almost all our time together. He is hesitant to move in with me because he says he wants to be 100% sure of his feelings. He says that sometimes he doesn’t feel love or attraction and then other times he does. He hasn’t been with anyone else since we met and we are neighbors and friends and enjoy doing multiple things together. I am trying not to push too hard because I have the feeling he does love me and maybe this will go somewhere. Other times, I doubt his love for me because he doesn’t just come out and make a commitment to me. Am I being too needy in wanting a commitment and him to move in with me after almost 2 years of dating? What advice would you give me in regards to this relationship? I have met his entire family and we spend holidays together with them and I get along great with them. He asks my advice on things and shares details of his past life and relationships and mistakes he has made in life. He also shares all his goals and dreams with me and asks me to help him make decisions on things because he has a hard time making decisions on things. I don’t want to hang on if there will never be love but at the same time I don’t want to let go of something good because he does treat me with respect and will randomly say I love you and is always hugging me and kissing me and doesn’t only demand sex out of the relationship.
Something I wondered about until it was finally explained to me is how pee and semen can come out of the same hole. The answer proves that men’s equipment is biologically sophisticated and just plain awesome. The penis actually knows when to switch pipes between urine and semen when a man is aroused. After ejaculation, it switches back, but sometimes the transition isn’t seamless. That’s why men often have trouble aiming after sex and may choose to sit down and pee instead.
My bf an I have been dating for the past year an a half we don’t live together nor live in the same city, we only really see each other on weekends, it was amazing at first for the first part of the year of being together then all of a sudden he started accusing me of cheating on him with others guys let alone my daughter’s dad that I haven’t been with for 6 plus years, that im using drugs.. so tired of being accused of stupid things I’m ready to start doing them.. do you have any advice?
Blindfold her and tease around her entire body while avoiding her hot spots. “Use the backs of your hands to very SLOWLY caress her legs, back, hips, face and neck. When you pass over her breasts, let your fingertips linger an inch from the surface so that she can feel your warmth hovering above,” says Dr. Jess. Take your time. Get closer to her hot spots (you’ll have to communicate to identify these, as they’re different for every body) and then pull away to rile her into a fit of desire. “Holding out for longer can create a more intense reaction once you finally touch the spots that are craving your hands, lips and tongue,” says Dr. Jess.
For ladies on a love-hunt, the Propinquity Theory of Attraction suggests looking no further than your current locale. "Men can be drawn to women, not just based on commonalities, but more so on a regular shared proximity," explains Kailen Rosenberg, a relationship expert and founder of matchmaking firm Kai-len Love and Life Architects. Rosenberg notes that male coworkers are more likely to pursue female colleagues who frequent the same restaurants they do. "As much as men feel they want change, they actually respond strongest to stability and familiarity," she adds.
Try this: Have your partner take his shirt off and lay on his stomach with his arms by his side. Hot tip: keep his pants on, but pull them down a few inches for a tantalizing never-nude experience ;). Lightly run your fingers and or anxiety-ravaged cuticles down across his lower back, stopping before you hit ass cheek. Do not pass ‘Go’, collect $200, or go past his crack.

The compliments are not there just to boost his ego. They are also there so that he knows that even if you haven’t reached orgasm, you had a good time. Usually, women need more time than men to climax and that’s something natural. So, don’t make a big deal out of it. One of the next times you will get there, so don’t lower his self-esteem by saying you weren’t satisfied.


Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!


Plus, nothing makes a man feel worse than to feel stuck in a problem he just can't solve so if you're unhappy too often, at some level, he's failed and he will try to distance himself from feeling like a failure. By contrast, nothing makes a man feel successful like you when you are happy — which is why a positive, happy and radiant woman is so appealing.
FROM AROUND THE WEB26 Walmart Shoppers You Can't UnseeWoahWorldNew Card Offer: $200 Bonus After $500 SpendWise BreadEarn profits from premium commercial properties in India.PROPERTY SHAREMORE FROM THE TIMES OF INDIA 22 arrested after police bust cricket betting in VijayawadaDarshan Raval: Navaratra feels like DiwaliINIFD Bandra presents L.I.T at BTFW 2018
Making eye contact makes a difference. But so does looking away. This is a technique that’s tried and true. It’s one that’s lasted for generations and one that will continue to flourish in the future. Coy looks dominate the flirtatious game. First, look at him, slightly intensely, even from the corner of your eye for this method is the real winner. Wait until he catches your glance. Hold the eye contact for no more than three seconds, then look away slowly. To make an impact, took another glance in under thirty seconds. Don’t worry, if he’s not looking, he’ll sense your eyes on him again. That first coy look already got his attention and he’s waiting to see if you’ll look again. Now go in for the kill because he’s gone from predator to prey.
"Here’s what happens: Dirty talk stimulates and engages senses that may be overlooked or under used when in a sexual situation — our imagination, thought and hearing. We are engaged with touch and smell by definition, but dirty talk engages the senses that are not as commonly used or thought to be used when having sex. These are powerful senses and thus make the sexual experience that much more exciting and fulfilling. The areas of the brain engaged are the frontal cortex where the pleasure, judgement and imagination areas of the brain are."

#16 A tease. Every guy is turned on by a tease. Walk right up to the guy while staring at him, but instead of talking to him, just say ‘excuse me’ and walk right past him with a teasing smile. And as you pass him, stare into his eyes, smile and say ‘thank you’. It’ll boost his ego, and make you irresistible to him! [Read: 16 lusty signs of sexual attraction between a guy and a girl]

A smile is worth much more than we realize. A smile lights up a room, it illuminates our faces, and it lets our best come forward. Don’t just smile to smile. Don’t fake it. A fake smile is almost worse than not smiling at all. Let a genuine smile appear and you’ll attract more than you expect to –it’s about being true to self and letting your beauty be your happiness. Smile when he compliments you. Smile when he touches you. Smile when he smiles at you. When you give into your happiness in natural ways, nothing is more attractive. It’s the best make-up we can wear. A smile goes a long, long way –see what happens when you let your smile be your best asset.


If you’re not comfortable with vulgar dirty talk, then don’t do it. If you’re forcing something that doesn’t feel comfortable for you, then it’s not going to come off as sexy. If anything, he’s going to feel the awkwardness and it’ll ruin the moment for the both of you. In other words, test out dirty talking with your man and see what makes you feel sexy and what crosses your own personal boundaries.
Another thing you can do to build up to it is touch him more often. Couples can be very touchy in the bedroom but hardly ever touch outside of the bedroom. If you’re one of these couples then start increasing how much you touch him outside of the bedroom. This could be holding hands when out and about, sneaking in a quick hug in the supermarket, slapping him on the butt when he’s walking past you in the house, or sit on his lap to ask a question or to talk.
While intimacy and post-sex cuddling can be wonderful for many men, sometimes a little "throw-me-down sex" is exactly what they want, plain and simple. "Men want their wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally," says Joe Kort, Ph.D, a psychotherapist and sexologist in Royal Oak, Michigan. "It's not [always] about dominating a woman, but rather ravishing her." On occasion, don't be afraid to let him do just that. (So long as it's something you're comfortable with, of course.)
3. Savor the build. Psychologically, there's a good reason to wrap a gift: The time it takes to unwrap it builds anticipation and adds zing to both the giving and the receiving. Looking forward to sex likewise heightens arousal. That's why sex therapists urge couples who have progressed a bit beyond the hot-and-heavy stage to make sex dates in advance: When older adults wait to feel spontaneously aroused, sex may not happen. (Here's one form of "gift-wrapping the present" that's almost certain to arouse an older man: Take your honey lingerie shopping.)
Please your man in bed by slowing down and revel in the warmth that your lovemaking brings. I have a friend called Gemma, she was single for several years before she met Matt. Because she'd been single for a while before she met Matt she thought that she should go all out in the bedroom to please him, she admits she quite often approached sex as though it was a race. When she was settled in the relationship and trusted Matt she stopped racing along in the bedroom with poor Matt on tow. Her advice to you is slow down, you don't have to race to the finish line to enjoy the togetherness that lovemaking brings.
I was staggered by my first encounter with an uncircumcised penis. All the parts I knew what to do with were hiding from me. Turns out it’s not that hard. You just tug the skin back a little and you’re good to go. Circumcised penises are actually a little more complex. Not every man is cut the same way, and if your guy doesn’t have enough of his foreskin left to move around, you’ll have to use lube when stroking him to replace the natural lubricant the foreskin provides.
Please your man in bed with mystery and let him solve the puzzle. Don't reveal everything about yourself in one go. Save somethings about yourself that will be revealed as time goes by. When you are in bed with him and feeling close, its nice to have pillow talk, a time when you can both nestle into each others arms and plan your dreams together. It would be lovely if you could reveal a part of yourself that would fascinate him. A part of you that would make him look at you in a whole different way, his response that he never thought you could do anything as daring or as adventurous as that, would be lovely for you to hear. A piece of the puzzle regarding you would have been solved. All of your revelations will be be very interesting to him and as each part of you is unfolded it will bring you so much closer together.
Find your "dirty talk" voice. It should still sound like you -- but like a sexier, slower-talking version of you. Don't use the same voice you would use to ask your honey how his day went. Instead, talk a bit lower and more slowly -- you can even lower your voice to a near-whisper if you want to. Just make sure it still sounds like you to an extent.
You may not know where the boundaries are until you test them out. But it’s important that you do test the limits and see where the line is. Setting boundaries in sex is extremely important. If he likes dirty talking in a vulgar manner, however, you don’t like it, then you know where the boundary is. You don’t like it, so that’s where the line gets marked.
"Many married men worry they're going to get bored of having sex with just one woman," says Haltzman. That's why role-playing is so effective. In addition to having you — his fabulous wife —your husband can also get feisty with the "barista" or "maid." "Entering into fantasy-mode automatically increases levels of dopamine, the arousal hormone, and elevates your sense of attachment," adds Haltzman. So even after you're through getting down with the "cop" or "pirate," you'll feel closer to each other for having done something novel together.
Please your man in bed by relaxing and your time together will flow with a natural vibe. I have a friend called Helen, she is so laid back that nothing seems to phase her. What we would think of as a crisis she would think of as a minor hiccup. Her advice for you is to let things move along at their own pace. Don't try to force a situation just because it's what you want. Your man will relax and be himself when you too are relaxed. She says he won't like it if you are constantly acting stressed. When you are in bed together just let things take their natural course, relax and enjoy the closeness you can share together.
"There are at least four major nerve complexes and six or more physiological pathways to drive her to orgasm. Most of these brain pathways can trigger a 'mindgasm' completely on their own. When you stimulate more than one orgasm trigger area at the same time (within the mind and the body), they magnify each other's’ effect and the threshold for orgasm is lowered. When enough of this input reaches the brain, the orgasm reflex is triggered. A good lover will provide several different types of orgasmic stimulation at the same time."
While there are obvious exceptions—like the dinner table rules of never mentioning family, politics or religion—it’s actually kind of tough to say the wrong thing when talk turns dirty in bed. But, in the throes of passion, mental hang-ups happen. No one who’s kind will blame you for saying something offbeat in the heat of the moment. You’re only human. It happens to everyone. And the worst case scenario is that you and your partner laugh it off together.
Finding a spouse using pornography is a top reason couples seek counsel, but it shouldn't be overreacted to or pathologized, Dr. Kort says. First of all, sex addicts only represent 3-6% of the population, so it's unlikely your man is one. Plus, because childhood experiences influence sexuality as an adult, people are very idiosyncratic about what turns them on, Dr. Kort says. "So no woman can, nor should be, everything to a man."
#6 Make use of the five senses. You have five of them for a reason, so make sure you use every one of them. If you want to get the vibe between you two, then you should be using multi-sensory descriptive words. Of course, you’ll use sight and touch, but those aren’t the only senses you have. Talk about sounds, taste, and smell. Don’t leave anything out.
#5 Use description. Men are visual, so, you want to make sure that when your dirty talking, you use a lot of description. Don’t be scared to go into detail of what you’d like him to do to you or you do to him. With description, he’ll be able to have a visual in his mind of you and that’s exactly what you want. Now, this doesn’t mean to use big words, keep it simple.
I, ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for quite sometime,,,,the problem with him is that he replies to my texts whenever he feels like,,,he doesn't pick my calls,,,,when he finds missed calls he doesn't call back,,,,we had an argument the other day and i went as far as abusing him,,,then it was yesterday when i apologised to him and he forgave me but he hasn,t change,,,,he still ignores my texts and doesn't pick my calls,,,,what should i do,,,i love him so much,,,,i Don,t want to loose him,,,,,

Affiliate Disclosure: There are links on this site that can be defined as affiliate links. This means that I may receive a small commission (at no cost to you) if you purchase something when clicking on the links that take you through to a different website. By clicking on the links, you are in no way obligated to buy.

Copyright © sexualobserver.com
Please Note: The material on this site is provided for informational purposes only and is not medical advice. Always consult your physician before beginning any diet or exercise program.

×