You and him have been together for a while now, the two of you are in love, talking about a bright future together, but something is bothering you a little bit. He’s been tired lately and it seems it’s been ages since you last had sex. Real sex, I mean, like you had with your ex you’re starting to dream of again. Not that you miss him, it’s just that with him everything was an excuse for sex : from going to the movies, to driving at night …
The key with all of this is figuring out what method works best for you and your man. It will take a lot of experimentation and a little bit of frustration, but if you keep going, you’ll eventually arrive at a point where you know his every kink, turn on and fantasy. This way you will always know how to totally and completely pleasure your man every time.

"I like it when she straddles my penis as I'm sitting in a chair or on the couch. I can see and touch everything, including her breasts and clit. I know a lot of guys like reverse cowgirl and it's hot to see a girl's ass and everything, but I always feel like it bends my penis to the point where it might break." — Peter C., 31, Asheville, North Carolina
To stand apart from the average, you’ll be required to do something wild, one he won’t stop pondering over the following day. If you are adept in some special technique which is greatly hot and separate, his mind will carry the imprint of the whole erotic experience. You can use the old tweak of shifting within oral sex & intercourse while he is blindfolded. You can also try out your novel mouth action. Like your ex-girlfriend may switch between the flat portion of the tongue and then use the tip over the same place which can impart an entirely new sensation.
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Drive him wild: "If you're with a man who enjoys this, start by stroking around the aureole and gently tweaking the nipple with your fingers," Cavanah says. "Lick around it and suck on it, increasing pressure and gently biting it. Nipples can be twisted and pulled to great effect, too." She also suggests trying a pair of nipple clamps when he's really turned on. It will keep blood flow in the area, increasing sensitivity and keeping them at attention. Or try sucking on an ice cube and then sucking on his nipples. "The contraction of his nipples due to the cold can heighten the sensations," Michaels says.
And no, it doesn’t take away from the sexiness of your dirty talk if you check in with them. It’s a sign of respect. It’s the same well-spring of respect that makes you think to ask your partner if their penis/clitoris prefers softer or firmer stimulation. It doesn’t ruin the mood to check in… it enhances the feelings of safety, comfort, and connection.
Surprise him with a kiss. Not the standard peck on the lips you duly provide when he gets home from work, but a real, lingering, passionate, 15-second kiss. The trick here is to take him by surprise. Pull him aside when you're in line at the movies, plant one on him before he leaves for work or deliver that luscious lip-lock during a commercial break in front of the tube. A hot make-out session when he's expecting a cheek kiss will get his mojo going in a way scheduled sex just can't touch.
Sex can solve the stresses of a relationship, but it’s often where the stresses show up. If he complains about a lack of sex (or that she is doing certain things only on his birthday), the couple may be overlooking serious issues that underpin such withholding. But while it may be his responsibility to ask, it is her responsibility to be honest. He needs her to enlighten him. The male ego is often tied to sex, so it’s easy for him to dismiss bedroom problems as female disinterest rather than issues he may well have a part in. Avoiding these problems, however, only perpetuates whatever is getting in her way leading to his ongoing frustration.

Please your man in bed by being naughty in the bedroom (or by talking dirty to him) and watch his eyes widen In amazement when you show him a part of your personality that he never knew you had. Being naughty in the bedroom with your man is an entirely individual thing. You will come to learn what it is that turns you on the most. In a loving partnership you should be able to tell one another what particular naughty role play appealed to you the most. Once you are successful at being naughty in the bedroom, you can enjoy lots of romantic encounters with your partner. You will get that glint in your eye which lets him know you want him. He will recognise the look and be turned on instantly just by knowing what is to come later on in the bedroom.

Please your man in bed by not being a prude. Be open to all the excitement that you can have by being more adventurous. Maybe your man wants you to try something different and you are not sure if it will be right for you. Let him know how you feel and explain that you are feeling unsure of yourself because you haven't done this particular thing before. He will be happy that you have confided in him and he will love helping you discover a new pleasure that you both can share together. As time goes by you will grow closer together and trust in each other's company with full understanding of what it is that turns you both on.
This article was exactly what I needed to read. It was straight to the point but very in depth with how simple it is to keep your man into you. Right now I could use the help with my current relationship. Eric Charles, if there was any way to get your insight on my current situation I would greatly appreciate that. Thank you for the great insight above.
Getting in sync with what your partner likes and dislikes is important for any intimate act, dirty talk included. "The key to successful dirty talk is making sure everyone is on the same page," Backe says. "In theory, if someone says something extreme to their partner that the partner is not prepared for or doesn't expect, it could make for an uncomfortable situation."

5. Don’t Force It. This goes with being yourself. A forced dirty phrase will never effectively get his blood moving, and his desire amped up. Even if you giggle, or mess up a “dirty phrase,” if this is authentically you, it’s going to be way hotter than some automatic, shake-and-bake phrase that you just regurgitate. Don’t force dirty talk before you or he are ready, and it will be a hit. Through trial and error, you will also learn what turns both him and you on. Then you can elaborate on that. Any emotional connection that comes from physical bonding will also be more real, and less contrived.
Iam impressed with this article.well i am a boy , i would like to say its true .the staring tricks really works such staring of agirl can influence him more than u know it even if he has a girlfriend i know this b’caz ihad similar experience i am suprised that almost all part of this article was done to me by a girl exept that i didn’t fall for her yet….. Who knows one day i might .she has a beatiful staring which is enough to take my breath away so girls if you just love a guy whoes worthy i suggest you to follow these steps.
Don’t just think about handjobs as a lame substitute for intercourse — your hands are the best sex tools ever invented and can give him sensations unavailable in any other sex act. Skilled handjobs are also the key to learning how to extend his pleasure so he can last longer in bed, as you create peaks and valleys of arousal and keep him suspended in pleasure.
Try this: Overstreet suggests kissing your partner across his shoulder, up his neck, and stopping right before you hit his ear. Do this to both sides, because asymmetry is for the lazy. When he’s right about to lose it, start kissing his earlobe, and use your tongue to bring his earlobe into your mouth. Play around with gentle nibbles, tongue, etc. Be careful not to touch any other part of his body while doing this and see how wild he gets from you just touching his earlobes.
Married men are frequently concerned of becoming bored from engaging in sex with only a single woman. So role-playing gets important. Besides yourself-his great wife-your spouse can also become lively with maid & barista. Going into erotic mode naturally elevates dopamine concentrations, the stimulating hormone, increasing your feeling of attachment. Thus even after completing with the other person, your mutual closeness will increase for achieving something unique together.
"Through dirty talking, individuals are capable of giving voice to secret and potentially shameful desires. Sharing those desires with a partner indicates a deep level of trust and intimacy which can only help to foster strong feelings and further trust. By opening up to someone about our deepest thoughts, through dirty talk, we can achieve a deeper connection."
Remember the early days when you were in the first throes of lust when it was hard to keep your hands of each other? Most couples remember their initial years with affectionate nostalgia, so try and recreate those memories. Plan a nice dinner, reminisce about the first time you saw each other, what attracted you initially, and your first date. Recall the sexual connection, the pet names, personal jokes. Put on some sensuous music and dance around your living room to the song you first danced to. Recreate the thrill of having sex by doing it somewhere you might get caught! You share a rich history, so indulge in it a little - those that do are the couples that stay connected.
Please your man in bed by teasing him with your sexiness. I have a friend called Wendy, she is a hairdresser and she works in the local village salon. She is a minefield of information because she listens to her customers’ tales whilst she is doing their hair. One of the tips she heard from one of her customers has helped her greatly in the bedroom. That tip was to tease. Teasing your man in the bedroom will bring out in him an animal passion that even he didn't know he had. Let him know you want him by teasing him and Wendy guarantees that he will want you forever more. She says that by teasing him you are letting him know you want to play sexy games, and knowing that you want to play sexy games will be very exciting for him.

You could also download a couple of erotic-romance books to get yourself all heated up. A great tool to get you inspired to deliver the dirty talk at the perfect level for your guy. Don’t be afraid either to push yourself over the line a little, because you are just practicing. That will make it a heck of a lot easier to deliver when you’ve got yearning ears listening.


"There are at least four major nerve complexes and six or more physiological pathways to drive her to orgasm. Most of these brain pathways can trigger a 'mindgasm' completely on their own. When you stimulate more than one orgasm trigger area at the same time (within the mind and the body), they magnify each other's’ effect and the threshold for orgasm is lowered. When enough of this input reaches the brain, the orgasm reflex is triggered. A good lover will provide several different types of orgasmic stimulation at the same time."
I want to start off by saying thank you for adding a guys input Eric! My question is how do know if your inspiring him to be his best self and inspire him in his lifes mission if you dont know what that is? The guy im kind of seeing has only initiated deep conversation once and it was to ask what i thought about us. Am i supposed to ask him out right or am i supposed to try and figure it out all on my own?
I bet you’ve never thought about your dude’s Adam’s apple as an erogenous zone, huh? If you have, congrats, you should probably be writing this instead of me. But for the normies out there, the thought behind this stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is “closely linked to the sex organs, according to ancient Chinese medicine,” according to reflexologist Mantak Chia, author of Sexual Reflexology.
While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, unbridled passion, the pressure of jobs, children, and managing domestic chores leaves us with no time for sex. Try to give him hints that you are looking forward to a romp. Send suggestive and naughty texts and emails throughout the day. Spontaneity is a great mood builder and the anticipation and build up of something planned can be lots of fun.
We women make men so insecure about the lengths and girths of their penises when, in reality, satisfaction can’t be measured. In my sexual salad days I would rant to my girlfriends about facing both baby carrot-size equipment and slabs of man meat the size of hangar steaks, as I believed both extremes were equally no-gos. But now that I’ve had enough experiences with penises of all different lengths, girths, and shapes, I realize that it really just comes down to using what your mama gave you. There are so many different sexual positions. Experiment with all of them and find out which ones accommodate you and your partner and maximize pleasure for both. Size ain’t nothin’ but a number.
Hey.. I’m in love with this guy for almost 6 months now and we are in a long distance relationship..since from the day we met he treated me like I’m the only girl in the world he respect me like I’m around him always he calls me day and night.. And we hardly see each other because of his work and the distance between us.. Few days back I visited him where he stays and he introduced me to everyone around him and everything was good until I hold his phone while he was asleep.. I found out that his cheating for me which changed everything ..I’m a Moody person.. Then I asked him everything and he answered me some not everything.. Then he apologized about his doings and promise me that he will short everything out soon.. And I did forgiven him but sometimes i feel like I have done a wrong thing it will happen again and we are living miles apart so I’m afraid.. Please I need an advice on what to do!
Sometimes words don’t even have to be said in order to talk dirty. Being vocal, by moaning while making love, will be a massive turn on for your man. If he knows you are enjoying it, then he will enjoy it. If you’re silent, he won’t know what you’re thinking or whether you are enjoying it which will make him over think and under perform. Massage his ego a little bit but don’t go as far as to moan so loudly and ridiculously that you’re putting it on as this will also make him think that you aren't enjoying it.
“I’m so wet right now.” “I’m about to come.” “You feel incredible inside me.” These moment-by-moment updates help you tune into your own arousal—an often-difficult task for us—while giving him an erotic earful. “When you speak about what’s happening in your own body, you’re bringing awareness to it,” says Jaiya. “On top of that, you’re arousing him even more, because he’s thinking, ‘Yes! I’m turning her on.’ That makes him feel more confident.” We call that a win-win.
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Hey.. I’m in love with this guy for almost 6 months now and we are in a long distance relationship..since from the day we met he treated me like I’m the only girl in the world he respect me like I’m around him always he calls me day and night.. And we hardly see each other because of his work and the distance between us.. Few days back I visited him where he stays and he introduced me to everyone around him and everything was good until I hold his phone while he was asleep.. I found out that his cheating for me which changed everything ..I’m a Moody person.. Then I asked him everything and he answered me some not everything.. Then he apologized about his doings and promise me that he will short everything out soon.. And I did forgiven him but sometimes i feel like I have done a wrong thing it will happen again and we are living miles apart so I’m afraid.. Please I need an advice on what to do!
It's easy for any couple to get in a sexual rut. "What happens in a relationship is everything you like and your partner like stays on the menu, but anything either of you doesn't like, isn't tried," explains Fleming. "So make a list of yes/no/not for now and over time as you develop the intimacy, the safety, and the connection, then you can be like 'OK, why don't we go back and visit role play or go back and revisit anal play.'" It's that simple! Think of all the fun you'll have writing the list out together. (And how much easier your sex life will be when the two of you aren't scrambling to think of new sex positions in the heat of the moment.)
I really like this guy in my grade. And I don’t think he likes me back, but we do hold eye contact, and he does laugh with me, and has touched me before, but also he’s very popular and I feel like I cannot speak to him, outside of SS. He started a band not to long ago and told me that it would be great if I could write songs for him but..... I’m not sure if I should bc I dunno what to write bc I’m only good at love songs and that would be so awkward!!!!
It turns out men actually get annoyed when women don't say thank you, according to Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher, founders of the matchmaking company Project Soulmate. "Even the most confident guy needs a thank you," said Zucher. You don't even have to say it in person — grab his number and text it after he buys you a drink. "Something about seeing it in writing feels better, and it's such an easy way to appreciate somebody."

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