Please your man in bed by taking the initiative because you know it's what he wants. He won't ask you to take the initiative because he won't want you to feel pressured. But deep down he would love it if you would take the initiative. Taking the initiative will show him that you want sex which means he hasn't got to second guess what mood you are in. Taking the initiative will show him that you care for him and want him to enjoy himself. Taking the initiative will show him that you have got a mind of your own and he will love you for this. Your relationship will feel like it's on an equal footing and you will both know where you stand with each other. When one of you suggests in the future something new to try you will both respond with gusto knowing or guessing who is going to take the initiative.

Intercourse is an intense sexual act — you have to really be in the mood for penetration to enjoy it. But master the art of using your hands to suspend your man in pure pleasure, and you’ll be able to satisfy him way more often. A lot of women scoff at handjobs because we aren’t very confident. We assume men know how to touch themselves way better than we’ll ever be able to, so we just avoid it.

You may want to give your gams a break and focus on toning your arms instead. Researchers at the University of New South Wales in Sydney, Australia, showed male volunteers videos of women. Men consistently rated those with long armsamong the most attractive, whereas ladies with lengthy legs didn't even make the list. The theory behind the results: Long arms may make a woman look slimmer, indicate that she's highly functional or suggest she gives great hugs.


The authors of The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right emphasize that in order to get a guy, a woman should always act busy—for instance, when a desirable man calls, it's wise to set a timer to go off a few minutes later, then recite a memorized exit line, such as "Sorry, gotta go. I have a million things to do." Here's my crazy idea: How about actually having a million things to do? How about actually filling your life with interesting activities? If you want to attract a partner, identify what you love to do, and do it—a lot. Involved, busy people really are more attractive, so if you want to get engaged to your soul mate, start by being engaged in activities that fascinate you—especially those that have nothing to do with dating and that make you forget to go love hunting.
#13 Practice makes perfect. No one said this will just fly out of your mouth like a stick of butter. You must practice, especially if you’re not comfortable. You may want to practice even prior to dirty talking your man. You can always talk to him and tell him that you’re not experienced with dirty talking. That way, he helps you out and guides you.

Believe it or not, every guy loves to be with confident, independent and passionate women. They want a woman who can drive them crazy with their hot dirty talk, looks and style. And the best way to attract your partner and to intensify your sex life is to learn some dirty things to whisper in his ear. Filthy talk seems fun to some whereas a daunting task to other people, but with a little practice, you can surely master the art of talking dirty to your boyfriend. Trust me, adding a bit of spice and Vavoom to your partner’s day with dirty talks will make him go crazy for you. He will think of nothing but you. Use these 20 hot dirty talk phases to make him crazy over you.


"There are at least four major nerve complexes and six or more physiological pathways to drive her to orgasm. Most of these brain pathways can trigger a 'mindgasm' completely on their own. When you stimulate more than one orgasm trigger area at the same time (within the mind and the body), they magnify each other's’ effect and the threshold for orgasm is lowered. When enough of this input reaches the brain, the orgasm reflex is triggered. A good lover will provide several different types of orgasmic stimulation at the same time."
"The reality of the situation is that dirty talk never seems as hot to us as it does in the heat of the moment. In order to capitalize on those feelings, men should speak their mind about dirty talk with their partner while the juices are flowing. It will allow the partner to see where the man is coming from in a sexual and safe way. By introducing dirty talk during a mundane exchange, men risk coming off as weird or too strong."
The best way for you to free yourself from the stereotype that foreplay is only about pleasuring the woman, you can do your part to tease your man; you can be spicing up the experience for him as well. There are plenty of ways in which you can really get your man into the mood for doing it. Remember that sex is just as much mental as it is physical and emotional. You have to be able to play with his senses and stimulate him in ways that he never would have imagined.

A man takes pleasure in any number of things and, contrary to popular belief, they don't all revolve around the bedroom. Please your man and he'll soon wonder how he got along without you in his life. Most relationships go through ups and downs, but make sure your ups are more frequent than your downs by doing the little things it takes to please a man.

It's no secret that women have some very specific pleasure points on their body, and hopefully, your guy is no stranger to the clitoris and G-spot. Yet you might be surprised to know that the male body also has particular erogenous zones, or trigger spots, that—when stimulated—will make his orgasms more powerful and your sex life better than ever. "Orgasm is the release of sexual tension, and tension is created through gradually increasing and varying touch and pressure on his passion points," says Claire Cavanah, cofounder of Babeland, a national chain of women-owned sex shops, and coauthor of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex and Sex Toys 101. "Licking and biting with your mouth, then adding in heat or cold sensations by sucking on an ice cube or drinking hot tea will drive him wild." To find out where to touch him to make his toes curl, click through our hot list. (Related: The 4 Simple Things You Need for Amazing Sex) 


This is a great book! It gives some basic tips as well as some creative ideas to make him moan and beg you for more. Whether you want to take charge of the bedroom for awhile, initiate things for a change, or just be able to give him a better handjob - it is in there. I tried some of the tips already, and they met with very favorable results. *big grin* I look forward to "testing" more of them, as does my boyfriend. For those who haven't had much experience, or worry that he might be a little bored with the same-old-same-old (and don't know how to change that), this book is a treasure chest of ideas and information. Whether your man just isn't the type to try and tell you what to do OR doesn't know the possibilities out there, he will most likely be thrilled with many of the tricks Mr. Wiseman provides.
"Through dirty talking, individuals are capable of giving voice to secret and potentially shameful desires. Sharing those desires with a partner indicates a deep level of trust and intimacy which can only help to foster strong feelings and further trust. By opening up to someone about our deepest thoughts, through dirty talk, we can achieve a deeper connection."
Try this: Suck his lower lip into your mouth the next time you’re making out and use the tip of your tongue to stroke this under-lip area. "That motion stimulates the whole erogenous zone in a teasing way, which will put him on the erotic edge," says Paget. "And by keeping his lower lip inside yours, you magnify the sensation. It'll feel as if electric currents are shooting from his mouth straight to his member."

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A lot of women worry that they are not attractive to men. Some of them are looking for their partners for their entire life and fail. The reason is poor self-presentation since they need to give pleasure, not just get it. Kisses, embraces, caress, and walks give women a lot of pleasure and positive emotions. This article will tell how to arouse a guy while kissing.
Drive him wild: "Gently flicking the raphe with your tongue feels great to most men," Cavanah says. "Let him guide you on how much pressure he likes, because the amount varies depending on the guy." To get him really hot, sip on very warm tea and then flick your heated tongue over this sensitive area. He'll lose himself in the new feelings, and novelty can make for more powerful orgasms.  
What Real Women Say: "I was seeing my now boyfriend for a few months, and we already had sex a decent amount of times," says Lisa, 25. "One night when we were starting to fool around he stopped in the middle of it and whispered, 'What's off limits?' It was really intimate and made me feel comfortable being open with him about what I liked and what I didn't. As far as dirty talk specifically, I don't like the name calling that goes on in porn so I told him that, so he's stayed away from that which I think helped me be more open to it."
How do couples strike this tricky balance? By allowing each partner to have what he calls "separate sexuality," or a sex life that doesn't include (or betray) the other. "For him, that might mean allowing his wife to use sex toys or letting other men look at her," Dr. Kort says. "For her, it might be permitting him to watch pornography in order to experience a fantasy." Such indulgences help maintain the balance of desire and devotion for both parties, so talk to your partner outside of the bedroom and see if this is something one (or both of you) might be interested in.
The following dirty talk examples are not for the faint of heart and these phrases probably shouldn’t be attempted within the first month of your new relationship (unless you met your partner at an orgy/sex party and that overtly sexual context has already been set between the two of you). As with most things to do with eroticism, it’s often the least politically correct things that are some of the biggest turn ons behind closed bedroom doors.

It will both surprise and amaze him. He will probably not expect it and maybe he never had anybody touch his manhood from that position—except himself obviously. The rest of the shower activities will evolve on their own. Let him make the next move. You will probably have sex standing up while not just parts of your body are wet but your entire body, too.
I really like this guy in my grade. And I don’t think he likes me back, but we do hold eye contact, and he does laugh with me, and has touched me before, but also he’s very popular and I feel like I cannot speak to him, outside of SS. He started a band not to long ago and told me that it would be great if I could write songs for him but..... I’m not sure if I should bc I dunno what to write bc I’m only good at love songs and that would be so awkward!!!!
Try this: Have your partner take his shirt off and lay on his stomach with his arms by his side. Hot tip: keep his pants on, but pull them down a few inches for a tantalizing never-nude experience ;). Lightly run your fingers and or anxiety-ravaged cuticles down across his lower back, stopping before you hit ass cheek. Do not pass ‘Go’, collect $200, or go past his crack.
Relationships need a lot of effort, but sometimes it’s not easy to figure out where you should be directing that effort. Want to be more successful in dating? Then you’ll want to follow these simple steps for how to make a man fall in love with you, because believe it or not, there is actually a formula. It might not be magic, but it’s as close to a magic as you can get — and it’s also far more reliable.
The Language of Desire was created through hours of research by Felicity Keith in order to be able to understand the sexual psychology of men and unlock the secret erotic language of the masculine mind. Felicity found that once she was able to do this she could give her man a more intense, connected and erotic experience, which would not only drive him crazy for her, but would also put her at the center of his erotic obsessions.

Unrequited love can be frustrating and stressful. Most people have experienced this feeling at some time. If you have encountered a guy that you envision being with but are not sure if he feels the same way about you, it can keep you up all night feeling lovelorn and lost. Take matters into your own hands to become the recipient of the affections of your number one guy.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. This isn’t something that only happens between people, but we miss things that we haven’t had in a long time. We miss things that are out of sight or out of mind. We are capricious in that way. When thinking about something that’s been absent for a while, we fantasize. And we augment our cravings. The same happens between people. If we are too much in someone’s face, they have a tendency to get sick of us. We need to disappear for a while, then reappear out of nowhere. If you’re willing to do this, not only will you surprise the guy, but you’ll have left him with some naughty fantasies to play with in your absence. And those fantasies will rise to the surface once he sees your face again.
Firstly, you must understand that there is no one, perfect technique. There is no magic pill. You won’t reach bedroom Shangri-La through whispering one powerful, filthy line in his ear. The true key to pleasuring your man like he’s never experienced, is understanding that you are relying on a combination of factors in your control and outside your control. I’m talking about what you physically do, how well you communicate with your man, your state of mind, your man’s state of mind, how long since the last time your man ejaculated and so much more.
Please your man in bed by being feminine and your femininity will capture his heart forever. Being feminine is loving every inch of your body. Your body is what makes you female. Don't dismiss your curves, your curves are feminine, they make you the woman you are, they make you the woman he first felt attracted to. Your man will be happy for you that you are happy in your own skin. He will respect you for embracing your figure and being yourself rather than what somebody else expects you to be. Being graceful and having good manners will also enhance your femininity. Your man will be proud to be seen with you and he will love the fact that when you are alone together in the bedroom he's the one that will be enjoying all of your feminine charms.
Wow!! All I can say is thank you for writing. You have an awesome way of saying things, straight to the point no BS. This is what people need I tell all my friends about anew mode, lol I even quote some things you say on Facebook. I’ve been married for twelve years and I love reading your articles because it makes me a better person, wife lover!! Thanks again!
Finding a spouse using pornography is a top reason couples seek counsel, but it shouldn't be overreacted to or pathologized, Dr. Kort says. First of all, sex addicts only represent 3-6% of the population, so it's unlikely your man is one. Plus, because childhood experiences influence sexuality as an adult, people are very idiosyncratic about what turns them on, Dr. Kort says. "So no woman can, nor should be, everything to a man."
When you are performing oral, the thing to remember is that there is a lot more to a man's anatomy. There are lots of options, rather than just going up and down. Tip #19: Focus on the balls. That's right ladies. Don't forget that the testicles are part of a man's anatomy as well. Take some time to lick, suck, and rub his testicles as well to provide some extra stimulation. Especially use your hand(s) while you are performing oral with your mouth. If you rub his testicles while you are giving him oral, it will give an even more intense feeling of pleasure. Tip #20: Focus on the tip. The tip (or head) of your man's member is the most sensitive part. This is why using your mouth, tongue, and especially throat are so important. If he feels the tip of his member hitting the back of your throat, it will be much more intense for him. Yes, moving up and down on his shaft provides a lot of stimulation, but focusing on the head is what will make him curl his toes the most.
Soothing strokes. Ask a family member if there was a type of touch that used to soothe your man when he was growing up. Or better yet, do your own "research" and find what works by trial and error. Some men love having their arms lightly stroked; others crave a woman who plays with their hair or rubs their scalp. This type of touch will already be downloaded in his system as soothing and may be one of the keys to connection for him.

And no, it doesn’t take away from the sexiness of your dirty talk if you check in with them. It’s a sign of respect. It’s the same well-spring of respect that makes you think to ask your partner if their penis/clitoris prefers softer or firmer stimulation. It doesn’t ruin the mood to check in… it enhances the feelings of safety, comfort, and connection.
Please your man in bed by being feminine and your femininity will capture his heart forever. Being feminine is loving every inch of your body. Your body is what makes you female. Don't dismiss your curves, your curves are feminine, they make you the woman you are, they make you the woman he first felt attracted to. Your man will be happy for you that you are happy in your own skin. He will respect you for embracing your figure and being yourself rather than what somebody else expects you to be. Being graceful and having good manners will also enhance your femininity. Your man will be proud to be seen with you and he will love the fact that when you are alone together in the bedroom he's the one that will be enjoying all of your feminine charms.
Men want to be the hunter. That’s why flirting and using dirty talk sayings can work so well. It lets a man know you’re interested and attracted to him. It teases him in a way that makes him want to chase you. And, best of all, you can do it in a way that makes him think that he is the one responsible for your sexual advances, when in reality you are in complete control of the situation.
Communication is the most important thing in any relationship, especially when you want your relationship to go smooth and filled with passion. This might surprise you, but erotic talks are equally important for any relationship to not only strengthen the bond but to make things get better in the bedroom as well. Talking erotic to your partner can also grow your bond with your partner and can add emotional closeness and increased communication in your relationship. Isn’t it amazing? Talking dirty to your man will improve your whole relationship not just your sex life. Dirty sex talk works!
#1 Figure out his fantasies. Most guys, just like women, have fantasies they’d love to try in the bedroom. You can usually just ask your man what he thinks about, but some guys can be sensitive about it. Meaning, you may have to weasel your way into his fantasies by trying things and seeing what he likes best. [Read: The black book of top male fantasies]
Why are you supposed to be moving in with your crush, Miss 12? Are you a foster kid moving in with his family? You know you're going to have to wait for at least four years before making any kind of move on him, don't you? If you do anything stupid like sneaking into his room, you could both end up in a heap of trouble. He could be charged if he's intimate with you in any way before you're 16 ... and you'll be ruining your own chance at having happy teenage years. So please, either accept that nothing should be happening with him for a long time yet, or ask to be placed with a different family.

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