First thing you need to work on is your tone of voice. You can use a deep and soft tone of voice to start building up the sexual tension prior to sex, or a more excited tone when you want to instigate a quickie let’s rip each other’s clothes off sex. As well as your tone of voice, you also need to work on the speed in which you are talking. I always recommend speaking more slowly than normal and even sound breathless (but not so obvious) when talking dirty, it is far more seductive than talking quickly.
Men, like all other animals, are driven by scent. The force that connects men and women starts in the olfactory zone –it’s 100% all about pheromones. Naturally, we are drawn to each other based on these chemicals. The attraction is subtle, but science has proven that pheromones dominate our level of attractiveness in face-to-face situations. It’s scent that is the secret ingredient to our sexual desires. So just sit a little closer and see if he becomes a bit savage by your hormones. Also wear a scent that you know will get his attention. Men have been known to like smells like licorice, vanilla, orange, chocolate, and pumpkin pie have been proven to stimulate men. Find scents that use these notes and be prepared to have him on his knees.
9. Unfortunately, in the past, when I was emotionally interested in a woman who I know was not right for me, I also felt like a selfish fraud. I wasn’t authentic and felt more a needy boy than a man. Furthermore, even PUAs (Pick Up Artists), even those who promote being an authentic and being respectful guy, acknowledge that he can get a women to do anything as long as her emotions are triggered and her thinking brain distracted, not exactly authentic or respectful.
Everyone has a mental highlight reel when it comes to their history of making whoopee. But, please, for the love of all things delicate (like our fragile male egos), when the sex deed is already underway, do him a favor and spare him the play-by-play of your sex life leading up to that moment. There will be plenty of time to get into all that during the honeymoon.
Please your man in bed by being confident and together you will reach the stars. I have a friend called Alison, she knows what she wants and she knows how to get it. Her advice for you is to know that clothes matter, you absolutely will not feel confident in the bedroom when you are wearing an old tattered nightgown with a washed out pair of knickers on underneath. In fact you will positively cringe inside if he reaches over for you because you definitely won't want him to see what you've got on. Alison wants you to know that being confident in the bedroom will come naturally the more you practice. Alison's motto is ‘practice makes perfect’, and make sure you treat yourself to some lovely new lingerie.
Eric, although I think you might be “spot on” on your theories, I can tell you for a fact that at age 67 I’ve had a lot more experience. Here really is the very bottom line in finding a good relationship, “it has to be cultivated and tended to”. After 40 yrs of marriage, loss due to death, we had to grow up together, we changed as we grew, we had to adjust, we became grown ups, our ideas, needs and desires changed. No matter how hard times are, no matter how much you share in common, or laugh or cry together, the one thing—“the only thing that keeps you together through thick and thin, till death do you part” Is a high regard for the other persons “person”, and a hell of magnetic physical attraction. Easy as that. It takes YEARS for the former to develop—and you can only hope that the latter remains. There is no magic wand. It is hard work that can pay you back with a lifetime of wonderful memories.
Another misunderstanding that trips up many women when figuring out how to pleasure your man is thinking that all men are the same. Both you and I know that everyone is different. We all have different kinks, fantasies and peculiarities. Some guys love nothing more than to eat your ass for hours, while others would wretch at the thought. So if you previously got great results with a certain hand job technique, don’t expect it to work equally well on your new man.
A scientific study showed that people like people who ask questions, particularly followup questions. Followup questions show that you’re paying attention and that you’re genuinely interested. So don’t stop with simply asking him how that fishing trip went. If he tells you that he caught a tuna, ask him what fresh tuna tastes like. Ask who he went fishing with. Ask what kind of bait he uses. Especially if you don’t know a lot about his hobby, he’d be happy to teach you if you’re express curiosity.

Masturbate. If you just want to talk dirty just for fun or practice, then you can get off the phone and get off on your own. But if you really want to commit to talking dirty, then you and your lover should touch yourselves until you orgasm. If you want to keep things hot and heavy, you can announce your orgasm, and tell your lover that you're about to come. This will build anticipation and will turn both of you on even more. Once you've both orgasmed, you can say goodbye and look forward to your next dirty talk date.
If you're a couple who does it missionary on the bed a few nights a week, your partner is probably craving something different every now and then. After all, part of the reason hotel sex is so damn appealing is that humans crave novelty. No one is suggesting you go out of your comfort zone just to please some dude. But hey, if the idea occurs to you that it might be hot to have him spin you around and fuck you from behind against your kitchen counter.... well... then.... do that.
A smile is worth much more than we realize. A smile lights up a room, it illuminates our faces, and it lets our best come forward. Don’t just smile to smile. Don’t fake it. A fake smile is almost worse than not smiling at all. Let a genuine smile appear and you’ll attract more than you expect to –it’s about being true to self and letting your beauty be your happiness. Smile when he compliments you. Smile when he touches you. Smile when he smiles at you. When you give into your happiness in natural ways, nothing is more attractive. It’s the best make-up we can wear. A smile goes a long, long way –see what happens when you let your smile be your best asset.
If you’re still stuck in feeling needy and out of control, you’re not going to see the necessity of bringing that value to the relationship because you’ll still be fixated on your own worries, your fears, your insecurities. And with that fixation, you won’t be able to put energy into the relationship, you’ll have wasted all your energy needlessly worrying about stuff.

With men, everything is obvious, including the arousal. However, there are arousals and then, there are arousals. You will be surprised that just like you, even your partner has varying degrees of arousals. It is not just an on-off switch. Granted, an erection is an indicator of arousal. However, that does not mean that your man is fully aroused. In fact, in the seven levels of arousal, erection would just indicate the second. 
This takes a certain level of trust, so a few questions to ask yourself before throwing it out there: How well do you know this guy? Is he the sort of person who’s going to be baffled by too many options? Can you confirm just how far “whatever you want” might go? Are you cool with that? If he checks all the good boxes, let the show go on. Just proceed with caution, and know that firm directions (like: “I want you to do X to Y”) are a solid backup.
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Please your man in bed by being playful because he will enjoy the fun side of your nature. I have a friend called Janet, she is 52 years old and she is still as playful in the bedroom with her partner as she was when they first met in 1992. Her advice for you is to do what she does and be playful in the bedroom. Dressing up is one way to be playful. Acting out roles is another way to be playful. Playing strip poker is another way to be playful. Whatever it is that you decide to do to be playful in the bedroom, make sure you are comfortable doing it. It won't please either of you if you are not comfortable with what you are doing.
Try this: Britton suggests having him lie on his back and slowly licking from his areola inwards, like an ice cream cone, but never touching tongue to nip. Get closer and closer until you flick his nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it. Britton says, “Men love when you slowly build up the pressure like that, so don’t be afraid to nip him harder than you would like to be,” If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.
Give him a FULL-body embrace. Not a gentle, polite, two-point shoulder pat, but a real pressing-up-against-his-body bear hug (from the front or behind will do just fine). "Men have told me they spend their entire lives looking for that person that will touch them they way they love," says Paget. So don't hold back. Cuddle him in a way he won't forget.

Firstly, you must understand that there is no one, perfect technique. There is no magic pill. You won’t reach bedroom Shangri-La through whispering one powerful, filthy line in his ear. The true key to pleasuring your man like he’s never experienced, is understanding that you are relying on a combination of factors in your control and outside your control. I’m talking about what you physically do, how well you communicate with your man, your state of mind, your man’s state of mind, how long since the last time your man ejaculated and so much more.
With men, everything is obvious, including the arousal. However, there are arousals and then, there are arousals. You will be surprised that just like you, even your partner has varying degrees of arousals. It is not just an on-off switch. Granted, an erection is an indicator of arousal. However, that does not mean that your man is fully aroused. In fact, in the seven levels of arousal, erection would just indicate the second. 
Men want a woman that makes him feel good about himself. Make him feel like a stud and he will come running back for more. This article has quite a few good flirting techniques but these techniques only succeed to the extent that they make a guy feel desirable. Ladies, I see guys leave 10s for 5s who realize the key to a mans heart is through his ego…GL
Getting in sync with what your partner likes and dislikes is important for any intimate act, dirty talk included. "The key to successful dirty talk is making sure everyone is on the same page," Backe says. "In theory, if someone says something extreme to their partner that the partner is not prepared for or doesn't expect, it could make for an uncomfortable situation."
If there is a particular raunchy memory you remember such as doing the dirty in the car or giving him oral while he is driving then whisper in his ear “I’m getting turned on just thinking about when we…”. This will get starting to think of the same thing which will lead to him also being aroused. You could even suggest living out the memory again to give your relationship a bit of a boost in the bedroom department if you’ve been together a long time.

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