As soon as the game is over, go for it. Did his team win? Help him celebrate. Did they lose? Ask him if there is anything you can do to cheer him up. Think about how you like sex initiated and then give him the same respect — pay attention to his moods and offer intimacy in a way that lets him know that you see and appreciate what is going on in his world.
The next time you're looking for a little action, you may want to spend the day volunteering together—or at least share a few photos of yourself doing good. According to an August 2016 study in the British Journal of Psychology, people who help others appear more desirable to the opposite sex and have more frequent sex. "It appears that altruism evolved in our species, in part, because it serves as a signal of other underlying desirable qualities, which helps individuals reproduce," said lead study author Steven Arnocky of Nipissing University in a statement.
Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!

You have given the best advice that I have ever read from any article or book out there and trust I have read MANY. I see where I have been going wrong with my relationships and I see that I am putting too much of what I want them to be for me in it. I see where my negative thoughts have failed me and how I can go about changing me to be a better me for a relationship. Your views are so on point and I completely understand exactly where you are coming from. I will continue to read and reread your advice until I get myself where I need to be physically and emotionally. I definitely dont live in the moment with the man I have been with and I have gotten the I dont want a relationship thing from him but I definitely see where I went wrong because this man was interested in me from the beginning and he is still here. So I see where I went wrong. I see where I need to change just from reading your articles. I am seeing clearly. Now just to adjust my behavior and actions. I believe I will see a change in him. You cant expect people to change if you dont change yourself first… Thanks for all the great advice :)


This isn’t a staring contest. In fact, according to research, looking away and then briefly glancing back a few times is another signal that lets a guy know you want him to approach. (Ashley Fox explains the process really well here.) You don’t have to overthink it or be weird about it. When you see a cute guy and wish he would come say hi, make eye contact with him, smile, look back at the person you were talking to, and then glance back at him. Repeat one or two times. If you are worried it will be creepy, don’t. When we interviewed guys on how they know a woman likes them, Charles said, “Things like [when] eye contact is made and then avoided and then made again.”
The predator model of love leads to a hunter's way of dating: Seek large gatherings of your prey, dangle a false self as bait, wait for an individual to stray from the herd, then pounce on him with all the wit and wile it takes to bring him down. Internet matchmaking services, singles bars, speed dating, personal ads and even blind dating all borrow from this "statistical mass" logic. I've seen clients spend years dating this way, entering one briefly exciting, painfully doomed relationship after another. This is not a numbers game. It's a soul search.
There are so many ways in which you can flirt to make your partner crave you more. Words are powerful tools, so whispering something dirty to his ear, asking dirty questions, saying something in front of other people that only he will understand in a sexual manner (some code name for something sexual only two of you know) and also using body language can work wonders when flirting is involved.
Thank u so much your email and articles I have been reading are great.! That are helping me realize that the relationship I’m in is not healthy. I meet this guy from a really good friend of mine.! He is a retired marine he is very different from the guys I’ve dated. Which is very different me, my parents like him a lot. But we argue alott. He says I have no discipline in my life he blames me for all the arguments we have, and its always my fault. I feel happy at moments but it seems I have to be very careful of what I say and do or how I act when I’m with him. He has left the house like 6 times.He says he really loves me but I don’t think he does. Or maybe I’m just trying to hard for this relationship to work which is not going to go anywere! Any advice will be greatly appreciated thank u very much.:)
There’s this guy we met in summer school and had a thing but fell out , now he hit me up again and we’ve been talking for 1 year and 5 months but he hasn’t came to see me even once. Everytime I ask him he says he does like me he’s just been really busy with school and work and hasn’t the free time but makes promises to make the time soon, idk what to do if I should continue waiting or give up cuz it’s been so long, now it feels like we talk even less he replies once a day if I get lucky and I asked him if he’d just like me to leave I have no problem with it but he insists he’s just mad busy idk what to do plz help
#16 A tease. Every guy is turned on by a tease. Walk right up to the guy while staring at him, but instead of talking to him, just say ‘excuse me’ and walk right past him with a teasing smile. And as you pass him, stare into his eyes, smile and say ‘thank you’. It’ll boost his ego, and make you irresistible to him! [Read: 16 lusty signs of sexual attraction between a guy and a girl]
So this boy likes me he's always staring at me but he's going out with someone quit like the year then they break up then I asked him to go out and he said later just because they had just broke up then he goes out with another girl so I'm confused on Like how to deal with this and it feels like he's just playing with my feelings and he starts ignoring me .
New places – Camping, going on vacation, staying in a hotel or even staying in a new place in your town make spontaneous sex much more likely to happen. It’s all because, being in a new location automatically makes you more susceptible to trying new things. Psychologically, you are removed from your routine, making spontaneous sex all the more likely.

Eye contact is the most powerful of all the signals. It is the universal sign to any man that you have noticed him and are possibly (there are a few accompanying signals that will be looked to for further evidence) open to an introduction. Healthy (read: non-predatory) men will interpret the cold shoulder or avoidance as a sign you are not interested and therefore will not approach. Like it or not, this is a fact.
Of course, it won’t hurt you to know how to dirty talk whether your man likes it or not. But, you’re not going to be using this much if your man isn’t into it. IT could be that your man likes vulgar dirty talking or it could be that he prefers more subtle dirty talk. But, the point is, you won’t know if he likes it or not unless you either ask him or test it out during sex. In all honesty, it’s better you ask him straight up whether or not he likes dirty talking and if so, what type of dirty talking he prefers. Now, if you’re shy to ask him, then why not suggest he talks dirty to you? That way, you see the way he dirty talks and are able to understand the level of dirty talking he feels comfortable with.
Never stop flirting – Flirting is sexual tension’s cousin. It’s very similar and it can help to dramatically intensify the build up with your man. Watching two people flirt is very much like watching two puppies play-fight. There’s lots of jumping around, theatrics and joking. Just remember that the aim of flirting is not to hurt your man, just to play with him.
As soon as the game is over, go for it. Did his team win? Help him celebrate. Did they lose? Ask him if there is anything you can do to cheer him up. Think about how you like sex initiated and then give him the same respect — pay attention to his moods and offer intimacy in a way that lets him know that you see and appreciate what is going on in his world.
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As with any sexual fantasy, it’s best to discuss details beforehand. Open up the dialogue by discussing one of your fantasies first. This makes it more comfortable for him to talk about his own fantasies, and will establish a baseline trust and safe space. Overstreet says this also can help the two of you discover which fantasies you may have in common, and if so, which would be easiest to turn into reality.

The goal of talking dirty is to enhance the pleasure for both of you, so relax, be real, and leave it for another time if it feels contrived or you’re self-conscious in the moment. Moans of appreciation can be good to hear, but screaming isn’t so great. And remember, you don’t have to use any words you wouldn’t normally use to infuse a shot of passion and excitement during sex.
Saying something as simple as, “I had a very fun dream about you last night” or “I was thinking about you last night before I went to sleep” are both fantastic ways to keep his mind racing and obsessed with you. The fact that these messages aren’t explicit actually makes them more powerful. His mind will naturally fill in the blanks, wondering exactly how dirty your dream was and what you were doing in bed before you fell asleep.

Women, on the other hand, want something less basic than bacon. What Kerner suggests: "I love it when you [verb] my [body part]," such as "I love it when you rub my thigh/kiss my neck/lick my breasts." He explains, "Verbalizing the sensation brings your attention to it, which reinforces the pleasure you're experiencing." It's like eating a yummy meal — talking about how delicious it is can make it even tastier.


there is this guy that i like and hes a twin. i really like him a lot. everyone tells me that it looks like he likes me but when we talk about it he says that hes still not over his ex. he compliments me in every way possible but this girl told me that he said he only liked me as a friend and that it looked like his brother was the one that liked me. what can i do to find out if he likes me even if hes still not over his ex. And what can i do to make him like me? thanks for reading
I enjoy reading your articles. I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year. We dated before 6 years ago and the reason we stopped dating is because he said I was pushing for something he wasn’t ready for. I didn’t realize I was pushing. He’s saying now like he said before, he doesn’t want a girlfriend right now, he’s too busy. But yet he’s still interested. He has said things to me like, “I’ve been thinking about you a lot and there’s nothing I can do about”, “We are more than just friends”, and then he pulls away again. It’s been an emotional roller coaster ride with him. He lives an hour away, we only text once a week or so, and only see each other every 2 or 3 months. We get frustrated with each and have arguments but still want to see each other so there’s something there. We are both Scorpios so I’ve been reading articles about 2 Scorpios being in a relationship and reading your articles. I’ve tried very hard not to seem “pushy” and realize the relationship is what it currently is. But how long do I have to wait for him to want to see me more? What should I say to him?
Sometimes the relationship started out well and then over time disintegrated into something that resembles resentment and abuse rather than love or respect.  Sometimes the relationship was never good to begin with, but the woman wants me to show her “relationship magic” to “make it work.”  This is what I equate to trying to shove a square peg into a round hole. (If this situation sounds familiar to you, be sure to read this article on Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship.)

#7 Don’t swear too much. When it comes to knowing how to talk dirty to your man, maybe I’m biased but if you swear too much, it kinda kills the sensuality between you. For sure, you can swear but don’t overdo it. There are certain words which actually turn people off when you use them in a sexual manner. Not everyone likes being called a bitch or whore, so if you’re going to say these words, check in with them if they’re okay with it.


4. Be patient — with yourself and with her. Sex therapists have a saying: "What young men want to do all night takes older men all night to do." Reframe that truism just a bit, however, and you discover a boon to older sex: A perennial complaint of younger women has to do with young men who rush into genital play before the woman feels warmed up and receptive. An older man's slower pace of arousal dovetails nicely with what women prefer, enhancing erotic compatibility. So before either of you reaches for your partner's undercarriage, cuddle and kiss playfully: Use slow, sensual massage to touch each other all over, from scalp to toes. After 30 minutes or so, she's likely to feel sufficiently aroused to enjoy genital play. (And chances are good that you will, too.)
I bet you’ve never thought about your dude’s Adam’s apple as an erogenous zone, huh? If you have, congrats, you should probably be writing this instead of me. But for the normies out there, the thought behind this stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is “closely linked to the sex organs, according to ancient Chinese medicine,” according to reflexologist Mantak Chia, author of Sexual Reflexology.
Here's a revelation: On a Sirius Cosmo Radio show about talking sexy in bed, tons of guys called in to share the phrase that gets them hotter than any other. By a landslide, it was "I'm coming." Yup, that's it. And what about women? Are there words with similar superpowers for us? We turned to Kerner, who divulged a sentence tailored to maximize your satisfaction.

Please your man in bed by being happy and the relationship you're in will be greatly cherished. Everybody wants to be happy, especially your man. When you are happy it makes it easier for him to be happy. Any stresses you both may have felt in the day will be quickly banished when you are in bed together enjoying each other's company. It's nice to have an upbeat relationship where you can both feed off the other person’s happiness. Happiness is like an infection, it's catching. So when you are happy in bed with him, he will catch the infection from you and he will be happy too.


Give your lover a few compliments. You don't have to say anything X-rated right away. Just start with a few basic compliments. Tell your special someone how much you've missed him, and how amazing his body is. You can even remind him of the last time you had sex and how hot it was. Just start saying nice things to your lover to get into the mood. Here are some things you can say:
Hey.. I’m in love with this guy for almost 6 months now and we are in a long distance relationship..since from the day we met he treated me like I’m the only girl in the world he respect me like I’m around him always he calls me day and night.. And we hardly see each other because of his work and the distance between us.. Few days back I visited him where he stays and he introduced me to everyone around him and everything was good until I hold his phone while he was asleep.. I found out that his cheating for me which changed everything ..I’m a Moody person.. Then I asked him everything and he answered me some not everything.. Then he apologized about his doings and promise me that he will short everything out soon.. And I did forgiven him but sometimes i feel like I have done a wrong thing it will happen again and we are living miles apart so I’m afraid.. Please I need an advice on what to do!
If you've had a woman say something filthy during sex, you've probably noticed that it made whatever it was that you were doing feel even better. But why is that? According to Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist at Doctor On Demand, there's science behind why talking dirty feels good. "It taps into one of my favorite parts of the brain and psychology, our perceptual system," he explains.
This decoupling confounds many men (understandably!). Some seek relief through erection drugs, believing that if the mechanics are in place, the motive will be, too. They pop the pill, then feel betrayed when it doesn't make them feel turned on. Here's why: Erection medications simply boost blood flow into the penis. They have no effect on arousal, which is subjective. That's one reason why more than half of men who get an initial prescription for an erectile dysfunction drug never refill it.
I have been seeing a guy for almost 3 months. From the start he said he wasn’t interested in a “full on serious relationship” and at that stage I wasn’t either. He then told me 5 weeks ago that he had feelings for me but wasn’t ready to commit to them yet. I was intoxicated and my reaction was “okay we should stop sleeping together/talking etc.” Up until this point it had been really perfect and he always replies asap, initiates to hang out etc. After this conversation he came back really strong without even a day in between where there was no contact and kept initiating plans e.g., going away together and paying for it. We didn’t sleep together for 2 weeks but as he lives with 4 of my best friends, we fell back into a sleeping together arrangement again and things pretty much went back to where they stopped. I had a conversation with him this week because I really wanted to know where I stand. He pretty much said that he didn’t want “rules” i.e., you can’t sleep with someone else, however for this time we would only sleep with each other and if we did sleep with someone else then we would have to tell each other and it would change what we have. I was happy with this. When it came to kissing other people, he said that because I wasn’t his girlfriend, I wouldn’t need to tell him if I kissed someone else because it would hurt him but if i were his girlfriend, he would want to know. I pretty much said I disagree and coming from a place of security that it would be nice to know that he wasn’t out kissing other girls. He doesn’t’ go out much either which he used to try and reassure me. I told him that due to the living situation and fear of getting hurt I may want to remove myself from the situation.
Sexting is one of the first and most effective ideas that come to mind. There are many directions in which sexting can go. It can vary from subtle vanilla dirty talk to something hardcore. It depends on your preferences, so let that be your guideline. In any case, sexts are bound to blow his mind and make him eager to see you and rip your clothes off of you. One of the great perks of sexting is that you have a lot of time to think about what you are going to say.
The next time you're looking for a little action, you may want to spend the day volunteering together—or at least share a few photos of yourself doing good. According to an August 2016 study in the British Journal of Psychology, people who help others appear more desirable to the opposite sex and have more frequent sex. "It appears that altruism evolved in our species, in part, because it serves as a signal of other underlying desirable qualities, which helps individuals reproduce," said lead study author Steven Arnocky of Nipissing University in a statement.

Remember, guys are visual by nature. They get turned on by what they see. So, taking care of how you look is a high priority if you want to turn your man on and arouse him. Think of this as a ‘pre’ foreplay tip to use before you even begin touching him. If you are both going to a party together, dressing up in something sexy and hot is going to start turning your man on hours before you start getting physically intimate. This is great for building sexual tension with him.


The penis gets all the press, but men have many erogenous zones, just like women, says psychologist Melodie Schaefer, PsyD. They just don't tell you to move your hands elsewhere because they're afraid that if they do, women will shut down and not touch them at all, she explains. "But there are many places a woman should touch, like the chest, inner thighs, and face," Schaefer adds. Another key move: Gently gripping a man's testicles, as it can be a real turn-on that blends control with release. You can also stimulate the perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, which heightens pleasure during oral sex.


28. Yes. A high-quality man recognizes the difference between turning down a request from rejecting him. It’s invigorating for us to take initiative and lead, but also hearing “no” also allows us to show the tender side of consideration. And when the “no” becomes a “yes,” the feeling inside is something indescribable. She becomes even more precious to me.

Now when it comes to "getting" your man, there is one thing you must not do if you want a man to see a future with you. Do not treat him like some kind of project that needs to be fixed because it immediately brings up the walls. If you have the urge to try to change his clothes, his circle of friends, the way he talks, what he loves to do — don't do it!
The wham-bam days are over. Today's man wants slow, skillful pleasure and plenty of it... to all the usual places, and a few new ones. Based on bestselling sex author/educator Jay Wiseman's underground bestselling Tricks series - "how to make good sex better" - this compilation of juicy ways to spice up your bedroom play has been harvested from sexual experts all over the U.S. New essays on up-to-the-minute safer-sex techniques, the changing sexual roles of men in the new millennium, and male psychology and physiology round out this must-have manual for anyone who's ever wanted to make a man beg for more!
I’ve been separated for 2 years now and was always trying to read about relationships, and understand what went wrong in my situation. So one after another, and onother so so book purchase lead me finally to your book! I pushed myself and finally started dating again. I’m dating this guy for one month now and your articles are absolutely priceless and of a high value to me! I would even really like to have a session of your advice in person, if it’s possible:), maybe you visit Boston any time soon?:)
Please your man in bed by taking control and he will forever be in your gratitude. Somewhere along the journey of life there seems to be an unwritten rule that the man is the one who should take control in the bedroom. This is definitely not true. In fact there are a lot of men who really enjoy it when their partners take control. They can really enjoy the pleasure of sex when it is not them who has to initiate the moment all of the time. They will love the fact that you are confident enough to take control and will enjoy all that you have to offer them. It might seem a bit daunting at first to be the one taking control in the bedroom but the more you do it the more you will get used to it and the more natural it will become.
"This leaves them with a terribly limited repertoire that often excludes the highly personal element of individual fantasy. The content of mainstream porn also suggests that all dirty talk must be raunchy, hard core, and deeply rooted in gendered stereotypes of sexual experience. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth. Dirty talk does not need to be rough, naughty, or even sexual to be erotic. The most enticing chatter can be romantic, teasing, alluring, and flirtatious according to your personal preferences."

Please your man in bed by mixing things up and he will never be bored. I have a friend called Leslie, she is 29 years old and she likes to go to the cinema with her boyfriend. She's got a vivid imagination and she reckons her and her boyfriend have a great time in bed together. They are always trying new things in the bedroom and she says she thinks this is why their relationship is so strong. Her advice to you is to try mixing things up in the bedroom so that your man is always on his toes, waiting for you to create another exciting encounter with him. Make it Impossible for him to be bored in the bedroom and enjoy a strong relationship just like she does.
Turn your bedroom into an erotic boudoir by adding loads of silk, satin sheets and colours that make you feel sexy. Cook aphrodisiacal meals together with naughty ingredients that really s-excite the taste buds, or share a candlelit bath with fragrant bubbles and scented oils. Make the time to indulge your senses and you'll soon your libido replenished.
You have given the best advice that I have ever read from any article or book out there and trust I have read MANY. I see where I have been going wrong with my relationships and I see that I am putting too much of what I want them to be for me in it. I see where my negative thoughts have failed me and how I can go about changing me to be a better me for a relationship. Your views are so on point and I completely understand exactly where you are coming from. I will continue to read and reread your advice until I get myself where I need to be physically and emotionally. I definitely dont live in the moment with the man I have been with and I have gotten the I dont want a relationship thing from him but I definitely see where I went wrong because this man was interested in me from the beginning and he is still here. So I see where I went wrong. I see where I need to change just from reading your articles. I am seeing clearly. Now just to adjust my behavior and actions. I believe I will see a change in him. You cant expect people to change if you dont change yourself first… Thanks for all the great advice :)
While I have given you plenty of different scenarios and tips on how to talk dirty to your man, sometimes it just helps to have a few lines to get you started. I have listed 50 lines that you can use and mix up. Remember though that it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it that will turn him on so follow up each dirty line with how you feel rather than just saying a bunch of random dirty lines. Here is my list of dirty lines:
Hi Eric,i really need ur advice thrs a guy whom i love i ve alrdy askd him out we’ve meet twice bt iam very serious about him..he said he does not want to b in a relationship..as he just had a break up wth smbdy…bt he also sayss that he will never let me go things would be the same as wen ur in relationship just it wont be official..but niwdays i feel he gets irritated while speakn online…i want him to be mine forevr…wat should i do to get him commit nd love me….
Also a final word of warning because this will destroy even the strongest relationship if you’re not careful: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
Men want to be the hunter. That’s why flirting and using dirty talk sayings can work so well. It lets a man know you’re interested and attracted to him. It teases him in a way that makes him want to chase you. And, best of all, you can do it in a way that makes him think that he is the one responsible for your sexual advances, when in reality you are in complete control of the situation.

28. Yes. A high-quality man recognizes the difference between turning down a request from rejecting him. It’s invigorating for us to take initiative and lead, but also hearing “no” also allows us to show the tender side of consideration. And when the “no” becomes a “yes,” the feeling inside is something indescribable. She becomes even more precious to me.
Dirty talk is a great way to enhance good sex, and to turn it into ecstatic sex. When you talk to him like a wild banshee, completely unabashed, he’ll go crazy for you. Screaming profanities like, “fuck me harder,” or “I want to watch you cum all over me,” or “you’re cock is throbbing, baby” takes the sexual experience from one level (a decent one) to the next level (the toe-curling, I can’t wait to fuck you again level).
Dirty talk should make your blush or feel naughty but it should never offend you which are what crude words can do. If you’re comfortable in using crude words prior or during sex then before you go full force into it, you need to make sure that your man is also comfortable and enjoys using crude words such as “bitch” or “dog” otherwise you could turn him off or completely offend him.
Men wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to their sex life. We all move through life at the speed of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. It’s easy to allow demands on our time and energy to rob us of the joy, pleasure and opportunity that sex affords us.  If that doesn’t make you want to “seize the day” (or something else), consider the health benefits: Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called the “bonding hormone,” bringing couples closer together while it alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.
Before you dive straight into it and start writing down all the naughty things you want to say to your man, try and find out whether this is actually something that would arouse him. Not all men are the same and so some will like dirty talking and some will cringe and could possibly even turn them off. Don’t let this scare you though and put you off; you just need to test the waters a little before diving right in.
Believe it or not, sex can be more amazing for you just by slowing down. Amp up your orgasm by letting yourself get to the edge, slowing down and pausing, and then starting up again. And don’ t forget to breathe. Breathing naturally will speed up when we are about to orgasm. By letting yourself slow down and just simply breathe, you’ll control our orgasm. That’ll ultimately make it even stronger. 

I don't know whether I like this guy or not and one of my friend also have crush on him but he doesn't like this girl and he alsof told me notrim to friend with her.Whenever he sees me he tried to smile at me and of course I also smile back at him and sometimes he really feel so shyam that his face turned very red and he looks really cute.Everyday I text with him but not everyday whenever I have free time.

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