Most men love when women initiate sex. But at the same time, be aware that he might not always be in the mood. So pay attention to his cues and when you sense he might be in the mood, seize the moment and initiate intimacy. It takes a lot of courage to initiate sex, but if your relationship is strong enough, you can get vulnerable and choose not to take it personally if he isn’t up for sex when you are.
This position is rawer than it is intimate. It doesn’t provide you with eye contact or that feeling of closeness. But that doesn’t make it any less pleasurable. It gives him a great view of your behind and if he is an ass man, he will love this position—and you can always look back at him for a moment while you are riding him. That fast look will throw both of you over the top.
Confront any issues that are holding you back from enjoying oral pleasure and then invite him to go down more often. Guys love seeing women in the throes of pleasure, so it is up to you to discover how you are most able to get aroused and experience climaxes so you can then share that pleasure with him. A fully satisfying sex life is possible for everyone. You just need to take the time and energy to focus on your own pleasure. You are worth it!
Chances are, your guy has a specific term for his penis—as well as for sexual acts, like intercourse and oral—that turn him on the most. Jaiya calls these trigger words, since the mere sound of them is often enough to crank up his arousal. “Start by sending dirty text messages back and forth,” suggests Ruth Neustifter, Ph.D., author of The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty. “This is a great way to figure out what words he likes.” Your line: “I can’t to see you tonight. Tell me all the places you want me to touch you.” He’ll use the words he finds most erotic, helping you create your bedroom vocab.
One of the most common erotic fantasies is having sex with someone who is not your regular partner. Some women condemn such "mental unfaithfulness," but if visions of an old flame heat your blood, there's no harm in daydreaming. Many men — including older guys struggling with arousal — get turned on by pornography (men over 45 constitute 41 percent of the Internet porn audience). Again, no harm in that, as far as I'm concerned — so long as your viewing of X-rated material to get aroused doesn't grow compulsive.
You can worry that sometime your husband will find you less attractive because your looks have changed since your marriage day. Still men don’t pay much attention to your self-conceived defects but begin to notice them only if you highlight them or do an extreme cover up. Their only concern is on how joyous they can keep you in bed and not on your alterations. So let him view you completely.
Of course, we all know that a bit of teasing now and then will get his wheels turning. The secret behind the tease is suggestion. It’s about letting him get a peak, but then pulling back. Some guys complain about the tease, but it’s only because they don’t have patience for the art of suggestion. Teasing is also about waiting and not giving into desires the minute they strike. Holding out tests our limits and how long we’re willing to wait. Let your blouse pop open only to close it quickly, bend over to pick something up while wearing something provocative, get close then pull away, let your body brush his as you squeeze past him, or go in for a kiss then retract. You’ll see him quiver before your very eyes.
well, i agreed (how could i not, he’s cute ;) ). i wasn’t sure if he’d show up. but he did. he did cook n it was awesome. during the party he asked me not to leave the city. when i told him i had no reason to stay back. he said there may be now. so we saw each other everyday after that. went out . he really took care of me, shared about his family. we really like each other. he even said lotta times he really liked me and that he was sad i was leaving. asked me to stay, coupla times. but i really needed to leave. he even came to see me off. things changed totally after i left. he did not call. when i did, he spoke normally and said he had been caught up. later after a week or two, he did nt show any interest to call. so i stopped calling too. once i called him n asked what was goin on. to my surprise he said we enjoyed together. but he cant do long distance. I’m flabbergasted how can anyone just shut off things just like that. was he pretending all the while?
I could list hundreds different sex tips, techniques and positions that you could try on your man, whether that’s a particular position helps you orgasm, a certain technique for giving your man a good blow job, or a new way to stimulate his prostate. Most of these techniques will work fine, some will not work at all and only a few will truly please your man so much so, that he’ll be fantasizing about it for years to come.
Great article (as usual!). What are some ways women can inspire a guy to realize his ultimate potential as a man? My go to was to go to the deep, dark secrets, but from reading your articles that is a no-no and I should leave his issues alone. Asking questions seems to put guys on guard and make him and me feel like I am an investigator. You have previously said to let guys open up to you, does that go for sharing their hopes/dreams as well? Or how can I reach him on a deeper level?
Be relaxed and cool. Most guys hate it when their partners are possessive, moody, clingy, controlling, etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have too much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance "drama queen". Having someone around who makes life more difficult than enjoyable will make a man lose interest. If you do things like show genuine concern when the man has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and go toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate. Remember that most men, especially the good ones, are looking for someone with whom they can be comfortable, and not someone who is always intense.
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