You only just met this guy, and he made it clear he wasn’t leaving. You were still in the honeymoon/ infatuation phase when you left. He sounds like he really liked you, but he was right o keep it light when that’s where you two were when you left. Had you stayed and got to know each other better, you would have found out whether you two were really compatible/ on the same level, etc.

When you put all your energy into hearing what he’s saying, you are actually listening on two levels: on the first, you’re hearing his words, but you’re also taking in what he’s communicating nonverbally. And since 60-80% of our communication is nonverbal,  this is incredibly important to pick up on, especially if you want to learn how to make a man fall in love with you madly.


You could also download a couple of erotic-romance books to get yourself all heated up. A great tool to get you inspired to deliver the dirty talk at the perfect level for your guy. Don’t be afraid either to push yourself over the line a little, because you are just practicing. That will make it a heck of a lot easier to deliver when you’ve got yearning ears listening.
If you feel like you’ll explode if you don’t profess your love for him, heed this advice.  Tell a friend how you feel. She’ll support you but also help you analyze whether your lovegush will be reciprocated or not. If she doesn’t feel like he’s exhibiting the signs of being in love with you yet, she’ll tell you and you can save yourself from the embarrassment of a one-sided love profession (the worst!).

The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derrière. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," says Fleming.
This is a great book! It gives some basic tips as well as some creative ideas to make him moan and beg you for more. Whether you want to take charge of the bedroom for awhile, initiate things for a change, or just be able to give him a better handjob - it is in there. I tried some of the tips already, and they met with very favorable results. *big grin* I look forward to "testing" more of them, as does my boyfriend. For those who haven't had much experience, or worry that he might be a little bored with the same-old-same-old (and don't know how to change that), this book is a treasure chest of ideas and information. Whether your man just isn't the type to try and tell you what to do OR doesn't know the possibilities out there, he will most likely be thrilled with many of the tricks Mr. Wiseman provides.
#16 A tease. Every guy is turned on by a tease. Walk right up to the guy while staring at him, but instead of talking to him, just say ‘excuse me’ and walk right past him with a teasing smile. And as you pass him, stare into his eyes, smile and say ‘thank you’. It’ll boost his ego, and make you irresistible to him! [Read: 16 lusty signs of sexual attraction between a guy and a girl]

Lying about what turns you on: I know you want to please your partner but lying to yourself isn’t the way to do it. If dirty talk doesn’t turn you on then tell your partner that. You can compromise and come to some type of agreement when it comes to things that you sexually like or don’t like. Don’t lie to yourself or your partner, pretending that you like things just to get their approval.

While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, unbridled passion, the pressure of jobs, children, and managing domestic chores leaves us with no time for sex. Try to give him hints that you are looking forward to a romp. Send suggestive and naughty texts and emails throughout the day. Spontaneity is a great mood builder and the anticipation and build up of something planned can be lots of fun.


What Real Women Say: "I was seeing my now boyfriend for a few months, and we already had sex a decent amount of times," says Lisa, 25. "One night when we were starting to fool around he stopped in the middle of it and whispered, 'What's off limits?' It was really intimate and made me feel comfortable being open with him about what I liked and what I didn't. As far as dirty talk specifically, I don't like the name calling that goes on in porn so I told him that, so he's stayed away from that which I think helped me be more open to it."

You have a serious problem if he is too shy to talk with you. How will you ever communicate about all the important issues you are likely to face in a long-term relationship? I'm not sure what kind of a relationship you're in or how long you've been together, but if you can't convince him to trust you enough to open up and communicate with you, I genuinely believe you'd be better off with someone else. And I suspect he'd be happier if he waits until he finds a partner better suited to him. Either someone who is happy and comfortable with the silence or someone who has the unique qualities he needs to allow him to feel comfortable enough to be open and communicative.


While your mouth is preoccupied, other parts of your body are available to assist you while you perform oral sex. Tip #9: Use your hand to help stabilize your husband or boyfriend's member. By using your hand(s) to surround the base, you will help keep the blood flow in the organ, which will help keep it hard. Tip #10: If you want to please your man, then use your hand to stroke while your mouth is focused on the tip. If he feels movement at the base of his genitals while your mouth is working the top, then there is extra stimulation. Don't be shy - use some pressure. You aren't looking to tickle him, you are looking to keep him stimulated! Many women prefer to give a hand job as they are giving a blowjob because it helps to keep the blood flowing. Since you need to be cautious about how much your jaw is used because it may begin to ache, your hands will be an excellent substitute and time filler. Also, because you can use a little more pressure with your hands, it will help to keep him hard. Make sure you spit on your hand so that there is no chafing.
Whatever you do, don’t bust out an X rated text in the middle of a normal conversation as it won’t look natural. Lead up to the X rated by starting with something more subtle like “wish you were here”. This should then get the conversation moving towards how much you want each other. You want him to reciprocate before starting a fully-fledged dirty talking text campaign.
You have given the best advice that I have ever read from any article or book out there and trust I have read MANY. I see where I have been going wrong with my relationships and I see that I am putting too much of what I want them to be for me in it. I see where my negative thoughts have failed me and how I can go about changing me to be a better me for a relationship. Your views are so on point and I completely understand exactly where you are coming from. I will continue to read and reread your advice until I get myself where I need to be physically and emotionally. I definitely dont live in the moment with the man I have been with and I have gotten the I dont want a relationship thing from him but I definitely see where I went wrong because this man was interested in me from the beginning and he is still here. So I see where I went wrong. I see where I need to change just from reading your articles. I am seeing clearly. Now just to adjust my behavior and actions. I believe I will see a change in him. You cant expect people to change if you dont change yourself first… Thanks for all the great advice :)
#16 A tease. Every guy is turned on by a tease. Walk right up to the guy while staring at him, but instead of talking to him, just say ‘excuse me’ and walk right past him with a teasing smile. And as you pass him, stare into his eyes, smile and say ‘thank you’. It’ll boost his ego, and make you irresistible to him! [Read: 16 lusty signs of sexual attraction between a guy and a girl]
Despite popular advice telling women to take charge and ask a guy out, there are a lot of women who don’t feel empowered by making the first move. I know I don't. Most women I know want to feel desired and pursued, not just from the very beginning of the relationship, but throughout their entire love story. The trouble is, women who feel this way too often get caught in the trap of waiting for a guy to make the first move, which is both disempowering and really not the way the old-school courtship process even works.
I found this book and thought it would be fun little gift for my girlfriend and I can honestly say that it has improved her dirty talk. I have always liked talking dirty and after getting her this book she is enjoying it too. The book is a pretty quick read but contains a ton of useful tips and tricks to build up her confidence and loads of info on where to get ideas and how to fine tune your dirty talk.

8. ABSOLUTELY: This is the kind of woman I crave. A high-quality woman can influence a man without words. As Bryans writes in Attract the Right Girl: “When a graceful woman enters the room, we simply know. She doesn’t need to say anything or even reveal her presence with words. Her very essence is magnetic. She communicates with her body language in a way that says that she is comfortable with her sexuality, and that she expects to be appreciated and adored. She appreciates the fact that she is the fairer of the sexes, and she lives passionately. . . The graceful woman wants freedom from masculine responsibilities and masculine expectations. She desires freedom to display her emotions as they come to her, and the freedom to express her sexuality in her own unique way with modesty and enthusiasm.


When you think about what makes sex good, the physical factors most likely come to mind: how you touch each other, the positions you try, and the body parts you focus on. But there's another key contributor that is often overlooked: the words you utter. "Speaking or hearing erotically charged words stimulates dopamine transmission, which plays a huge role in sexual excitement," explains Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Passionista. "They can enhance the emotional and physical intensity of the experience."
"Anything in front of a mirror — literally — anything in front of a mirror is 100,000 times better than without a mirror. Watching my girlfriend give me a blow job on her knees in front of a mirror is the hottest thing I've ever seen, but so is looking over and watching her ride me. Mirrors give us a chance to go where our eyes can't and it's the closest analog to both acting in and watching a dirty movie." — Andrew A., 37, New York, New York
The Language of Desire was created through hours of research by Felicity Keith in order to be able to understand the sexual psychology of men and unlock the secret erotic language of the masculine mind. Felicity found that once she was able to do this she could give her man a more intense, connected and erotic experience, which would not only drive him crazy for her, but would also put her at the center of his erotic obsessions.
If you enjoyed learning these ways to arouse your man, but want a true sex masterclass, then you should check out this video that will teach you how to give your man perfect oral sex. Want to learn how to talk dirty to your man to build massive amounts of sexual tension and turn him on? This powerful instructional video will show you exactly what to do.
Please your man in bed by setting the scene, and you will both enjoy being in the zone when you enter the bedroom together. You can set the scene way before it comes to the time when you go to bed. You can set the scene by building up to the grand finale by having dinner out at a nearby restaurant, or you could go to the cinema and watch a romantic movie, knowing what is coming later all adds to the build up of anticipation. When it comes to the bedroom itself you can have the lights turned down low, you can have new satin sheets to climb into, you can have your favourite album playing in the background. All of these things will set the scene beautifully.
OMG…I think we’re in the same exact place. And after reading this article, I think I know exactly what to do. I’ve been so consumed with getting hurt again, that I’ve totally missed the fact that the guy I was previously dating kept wanting to hold on to me, even though he keeps saying he doesn’t want a relatinship. THAT’S A CLEAR TED FLAG FOR ME. I recently broke it off with him because he refused to commit, but the next time, I’ll get it right….THIS ARTICLE IS SO PROFOUND!
#7 Don’t swear too much. When it comes to knowing how to talk dirty to your man, maybe I’m biased but if you swear too much, it kinda kills the sensuality between you. For sure, you can swear but don’t overdo it. There are certain words which actually turn people off when you use them in a sexual manner. Not everyone likes being called a bitch or whore, so if you’re going to say these words, check in with them if they’re okay with it.
Talking dirty to your man doesn't just have the sole purpose of making him feel aroused. One of the main benefits is that it keeps him thinking of you and keeps him interested in you; especially if you indulge in role play. By using different dirty talking lines and scenarios,it will keep him on his toe sand will have him constantly thinking about what you said and how you made him felt. Having this level of interest will keep him attracted to you.
Set the mood. Would you have sex with your dirty laundry all over your room and empty takeout containers all over your desk? Hopefully not. You shouldn't talk dirty until you're in a romantic atmosphere either. Just clean up your space, dim the lights and light some candles, and lie in your clean, welcoming bed. Do whatever you would do to prepare to get it on for real.

Please your man in bed with praise and his confidence will grow. I have a friend called Beverley, she is incredibly beautiful and thankfully she's also modest. Her advice to you is to praise your man in the bedroom because if you don't he will lose his prowess. Beverley is used to being praised by her man because of her good looks, she also knows that it gives her confidence to know she looks good. She is mindful of the fact that her man also needs praise. When she gives her man praise in the bedroom she knows it will benefit them both because he will be much more settled in the knowledge that what he's doing is the right thing for her. Praise him on his sexual prowess and tell him what you think he's really good at, he will respond by wanting to improve his technique even more.


Tip #3: The Vibrant Vibe. According to Adam, the law of attraction is that like attracts like. By this he means if you want to attract fun and exciting guys, you've got to be fun and exciting yourself. He says, "if you have the stink face' look all night and appear miserable, guess who you'll be attracting? You guessed it, the creepers." Ugh, we all know the ones right? The ones who are all, "I bet I could make you smile, girl." Ew. On the other hand, if you're enjoying yourself, you're more likely to attract great guys. According to Adam, "women who get approached by quality guys always have the vibe that projects I'm loving my night regardless!'" On a non-guy-related note, having fun is always superior to not having fun.

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