A scientific study showed that people like people who ask questions, particularly followup questions. Followup questions show that you’re paying attention and that you’re genuinely interested. So don’t stop with simply asking him how that fishing trip went. If he tells you that he caught a tuna, ask him what fresh tuna tastes like. Ask who he went fishing with. Ask what kind of bait he uses. Especially if you don’t know a lot about his hobby, he’d be happy to teach you if you’re express curiosity.
Unrequited love can be frustrating and stressful. Most people have experienced this feeling at some time. If you have encountered a guy that you envision being with but are not sure if he feels the same way about you, it can keep you up all night feeling lovelorn and lost. Take matters into your own hands to become the recipient of the affections of your number one guy.
How do you do this? Energy flows where attention goes, so address your attention to the best part of a man’s character. These are the aspects of him you want to see flourish: strength, courage, compassion, loyalty, generativity. Want for him more than he wants for himself. By consciously directing your energy, you help him along his path of evolution. And if the man you’ve picked is indeed worthy of your attention, he will have no choice but to love you for it.
We also know that there are exceptions. There are relationships that probably should not stay together, such as those with physical violence, cruel and ongoing verbal abuse, extreme anger management issues, or long-term unaddressed substance abuse, for example. If you're in a situation like that, please eek the help of your local crisis management center.
Finally I get it - I'm precious as a woman and to get a quality man, I have to set boundaries and act like I believe it. This book made so much sense and was even better than the last dating book I read which I gave five stars to. The book was written simply without too much fanfare and hype, but it certainly got the message across. I'm changing my way of doing things and it makes me feel good about myself. I also understand the male psyche better now.
Couples so often get into a sex routine — same time of night, same place, same position. And while your husband may not make an active move to change things, men want to have the power to switch up patterns and take total control, says Haltzman. Get out one of his silk ties, have him bind your hands together, and let him take it from there. We suspect you won't regret it.
It’s time you start looking in the mirror in a whole different way. If you and your partner decide to have sex in front of the mirror, you will probably do it standing up, with your hands pressed on the wall on both sides of the mirror. You will bend slightly so he can penetrate you. You will hold your head up so he can see your facial expressions and the level of your enjoyment.
Forget the Chanel No. 5, ladies. Chicago's Smell and Taste Research Center found the scent of pumpkin pie mixed with lavender increased men's penile blood flow more than 23 other fragrances. Why? The combination might conjure up memories of a pleasure-filled meal or simply make men feel extra-relaxed. Thanksgiving desserts and potpourri may seem innocent enough, but bake a pie next to a sprig of lavender, and your hubby may suddenly want to take a trip to the bedroom.
Getting in sync with what your partner likes and dislikes is important for any intimate act, dirty talk included. "The key to successful dirty talk is making sure everyone is on the same page," Backe says. "In theory, if someone says something extreme to their partner that the partner is not prepared for or doesn't expect, it could make for an uncomfortable situation."
Hello. How can I arrange a phone consultation with you, Eric? Your straight-forward advice sounds reasonable and sound to me. I am in a 4-month old relationship with my boyfriend. I love him and he says he loves me, but he says he is afraid of hurting me. He confessed that he loves the excitement and euphoria when a relationship is new but gets bored and dissatisfied when the newness wears off. He is afraid that this will happen again and he will hurt me. He said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him, that I treat him better than any other woman he’s ever been with and that he wants me in his life forever, even if that mean just being friends later. He hasn’t asked me to move in, hasn’t discussed marriage, but says he wants a future a with me. I don’t get this at all. My gut tells me he loves me but not enough. I want a future with him, including the whole ball of wax of marriage, but he says he doesn’t know if he wants to marry me or not, that we should just enjoy each other and live day to day. Sounds like bs to me. But I find it hard to be objective. He has been hurt deeply by past women who have betrayed and used him. I need help figuring this all out. Thank you very much.
There’s nothing worse than spending a hot, sexy weekend together, and then as soon as your man goes off to work, he starts to forget all that incredible love making. By making it extra vivid, and involving all his senses, he won’t be able to forget. You can also keep that sexual vibe going by sending him dirty text messages or leaving him naughty voicemails. This will ensure that he is fantasizing about you all day, every day, no matter where he happens to be in the world. It might be 3 A.M. on the other side of the world, but he’ll wake up in the idle of the night dreaming of being inside you again.
The key is simple - try and appeal to all of his senses - sight, smell, hearing, taste, and touch. I will touch upon the erogenous zones in a separate article, but for now, let's go with the ones that you already know about. Essentially, you don't have to do anything different. Just do things differently. Just one small thing - you cannot do it all in 5 minutes. So choose a day when you don't have to get up early, or just wake up early and enjoy morning sex.
Dirty talk is a great way to enhance good sex, and to turn it into ecstatic sex. When you talk to him like a wild banshee, completely unabashed, he’ll go crazy for you. Screaming profanities like, “fuck me harder,” or “I want to watch you cum all over me,” or “you’re cock is throbbing, baby” takes the sexual experience from one level (a decent one) to the next level (the toe-curling, I can’t wait to fuck you again level).
You may be worried about what your husband thinks of your post-breast-feeding boobs, your C-section scar, or that at some point, he'll stop being attracted to you because you look a little — OK, a lot—different than you did on your wedding day. But men rarely notice your self-perceived flaws — they only become aware of them if you're preoccupied with them or go out of your way to cover up. "It's true, men are very visual," says relationship expert Bernardo Mendez. "But it's really about wanting to be able to actually see you move, preferably with no clothes on. We're validated by how happy we can make you in bed, and that's what we're focused on—not on how much you may have changed." So allow him see you. All of you.
Be relaxed and cool. Most guys hate it when their partners are possessive, moody, clingy, controlling, etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have too much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance "drama queen". Having someone around who makes life more difficult than enjoyable will make a man lose interest. If you do things like show genuine concern when the man has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and go toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate. Remember that most men, especially the good ones, are looking for someone with whom they can be comfortable, and not someone who is always intense.
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