Run into him "by accident." Make him feel like your connection is kismet. It is no secret that men enjoy the thrill of the chase, so instead of making it obvious that you are pursuing him, find ways to bump into him "by chance." For instance, if you know he likes to spend his weekday afternoons studying at the local coffee shop, consider stopping by there yourself. When you see him, feign genuine surprise and see if you can strike up a conversation.
Run into him "by accident." Make him feel like your connection is kismet. It is no secret that men enjoy the thrill of the chase, so instead of making it obvious that you are pursuing him, find ways to bump into him "by chance." For instance, if you know he likes to spend his weekday afternoons studying at the local coffee shop, consider stopping by there yourself. When you see him, feign genuine surprise and see if you can strike up a conversation.
In a perfect world, everyone would be totally transparent about what they want in bed and no one would ever be left wondering. But until then, it's okay to have some questions. If you’re to believe everything you see in pop culture, you'd think men fantasize about sex 25/8 and are literally always down to do it. But in practice, having your partner open up about his fantasies is always a little bit harder than it would seem. Here, 11 of the most common sex *~cravings~* every guy has, and a non-awk way of bringing them up:
One of the best ways to feel comfortable about talking dirty is through role play. Find out what scenario arouses both him and you and get to work on setting the fantasy in motion. This could be something like acting out a one night stand. Usually with one night stands, things happen fast and a lot of passion is involved. You can act out this scenario by pretending you and your guy are having a one night stand.
So to keep from sending out the wrong signals to men, be more mindful of your actions. On the other hand, if this is how you wish to nab Mr. Right, be aware that you’re playing with fire. The result of your efforts will be infatuation, which is different from love. And without a real three-chakra connection at the head, heart and sexual center, you’ll have to keep up the game indefinitely to keep him interested.
Your smell makes me weak in the knees – Dirty talk for dummies 101. This dirty phrase always works best for men and should be used whenever talking dirty to a man. It’s no secret that all men want their girl to be sexy and wild. They want her to say things that can turn him on in no time. So next time you are dirty talking in bed to your man and feel like indulging in super hot sex with your guy, use this phrase.
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The penis gets all the press, but men have many erogenous zones, just like women, says psychologist Melodie Schaefer, PsyD. They just don't tell you to move your hands elsewhere because they're afraid that if they do, women will shut down and not touch them at all, she explains. "But there are many places a woman should touch, like the chest, inner thighs, and face," Schaefer adds. Another key move: Gently gripping a man's testicles, as it can be a real turn-on that blends control with release. You can also stimulate the perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, which heightens pleasure during oral sex.
Ever heard the saying that a many wants a lady in public but a whore in the bedroom? Using vulgar language in your texts will go a long way towards fulfilling his needs in this area. So use those really dirty words instead of regular romantic language to really get him fired up and horny for you! Sexting is not about romance but about turning him on and getting yourself excited.
We women make men so insecure about the lengths and girths of their penises when, in reality, satisfaction can’t be measured. In my sexual salad days I would rant to my girlfriends about facing both baby carrot-size equipment and slabs of man meat the size of hangar steaks, as I believed both extremes were equally no-gos. But now that I’ve had enough experiences with penises of all different lengths, girths, and shapes, I realize that it really just comes down to using what your mama gave you. There are so many different sexual positions. Experiment with all of them and find out which ones accommodate you and your partner and maximize pleasure for both. Size ain’t nothin’ but a number.
I am feeling so horny right now – If you’re looking out for ways to intensify your sex life, then trust me you need to show a little passion and lust. Wear your favorite piece of lingerie, learn some dirty things to whisper in his ear, and tell him you are feeling horny tonight. Trust me, doing so will make him lose all his control and you both will enjoy rocking sex.
The power of words and how you say those words work to heighten each of his senses and will drive him to perform at his best. Couples and lovers use dirty talking mostly during sex when they can tell each other what they want while in the heat of the moment. However dirty talk can also be used prior to sex to build sexual tension which will then explode once your man gets you in the bedroom...or whatever room.
At the tender age of 24 I’ve met 2 10/10 kinda guys, they had the looks, the charm, the intelligence, etc, they were a “catch”. However, long story short, the sad fact is that neither of them wanted me. The point is that no matter how much of a catch a guy can be, if he doesn’t want you move on. Like I’ve said in a previous comment, if he’s not giving you a “hell yeah!” vibe, you best be moving onto the guy who will want you. You can never trick or convince a guy to fall for you. And usually you only find this out after seriously losing yourself in the chase.

Never ever underestimate the power of a see-through teddy to get your guy standing tall. "Anything that makes a woman feel good in her body and sexually confident is very sexy," says sex and relationship therapist Megan Fleming, Ph.D. And nothing is sexier to your guy than confidence. I can personally attest to this fact; my man cannot resist this sexy little (and I emphasize little) red nightie that a nonchalantly stroll around in on occasion. But it's not even just wearing the lingerie. It's the tease, the sexy text you send him letting him know you bought some lingerie but he has to wait until the evening. Take your time and take charge, because the ball is in your court and your man wants it all.
Please your man in bed by being honest and there will never be any doubt in his mind that what you are saying and doing is totally truthful. Your man will want reassurance from you that what he is doing is right for you, if it is then tell him so. If on the other hand what he is doing isn't right for you then you really must tell him. You might feel that you are being critical of him, you are not, you are being incredibly helpful. Your relationship will not work without honesty. You cannot move forward when you are lying to him. You will be doing yourself no favours if you don't let him know what it is that you like or dislike. In the long run he will appreciate your honesty and the trust that comes with it.
The best way for you to free yourself from the stereotype that foreplay is only about pleasuring the woman, you can do your part to tease your man; you can be spicing up the experience for him as well. There are plenty of ways in which you can really get your man into the mood for doing it. Remember that sex is just as much mental as it is physical and emotional. You have to be able to play with his senses and stimulate him in ways that he never would have imagined.
Freud once called female sexuality "the dark continent," and if that's true, then male sexuality might as well be the dark planet. Because when it comes to sex, men are far from simple. (As much as they may try to convince us otherwise.) The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, so what you see on TV is typically far from what can (and should) be delivered in reality. That's why sex experts chimed in with more accurate insight about what guys really want you to know when the two of you climb into bed.

Copying porn because you think he’ll like it: we all know how influential porn is to our sex lives. Most of us have watched porn since our teenage years and have a large understanding of sex because of porn. But porn isn’t sex. Okay, physically, it’s sex, however, it’s not what actually happens between couples on a daily basis. Porn is acting. If you’re watching porn and copying how they dirty talk to each other, well, most people won’t feel comfortable because it’s not natural. Instead, focus on what feels natural to you.
You may have heard that certain facial and body proportions can make a woman more attractive to men. But men's own faces may affect this, since they fall for women whose features are similarly proportioned to their own, says Rosenberg. Homogamy, a theory that we mate with people who are similar to us in some way, may be what's going on here. Maybe the old adage that opposites attract deserves a second look!
Let her be your teacher and the tour guide of her body. “Many men assume they know exactly how a woman likes it based on past experiences or what he has seen performed in films, but every woman is different and is aroused by various sets of sexual triggers,” says Morgan. Have a conversation with her before entering into any sexual activity to give her the opportunity to tell you what does it for her. Not only does this place her pleasure first, but it also makes her feel comfortable in knowing that you care about her satisfaction as much as you care about yours. And that is the ultimate turn on.
To keep him deeply attracted to you, you need to be sure that the dirty little things you say to him are both authentic , and coming from a place of sexual and emotional confidence. Talking dirty can build sexual tension, be an incredible way to stoke the fires of a lackluster relationship, or even take a new relationship to a whole new level of sexual intimacy, but if you just talk the talk without walking the walk, these phrases will fall flat. They won’t be effective.
He preceded to tell me about how she kept going for a few minutes without even realizing that she was actually having the opposite effect. Before long, he was totally cold to the idea of having sex with her, so the rest of the evening was just spent in a mediocre cuddle on the sofa while they watched a movie. They didn’t last very long as he just didn’t find her very attractive after that, despite her actually being what I would call quite a hot young lady. I’m sure that he probably had a few other reasons for not wanting to continue seeing her besides this, but her attempt at dirty talk certainly didn’t help!

Masturbate. If you just want to talk dirty just for fun or practice, then you can get off the phone and get off on your own. But if you really want to commit to talking dirty, then you and your lover should touch yourselves until you orgasm. If you want to keep things hot and heavy, you can announce your orgasm, and tell your lover that you're about to come. This will build anticipation and will turn both of you on even more. Once you've both orgasmed, you can say goodbye and look forward to your next dirty talk date.
Well, the truth is, talking dirty to your man is a way to use your “feminine powers” for good: you’re going to make a man feel so desired, wanted, and lusted after, that the fact he is also with you makes him feel like he just won the lottery. A big part of the “art” of seduction is how you make others feel, and the other half is about how you feel about yourself.
I used to keep my mouth firmly close during intimate times but with time and once I felt comfortable enough, I practiced what I preached and started to say out loud the naughty thoughts that were passing through my mind such as what I wanted him to do more off or how aroused I was feeling. I quickly realized how much more thrilling this made our sex life.
Hi Deborah. I think you should respect his commitment to his long term relationship. His integrity is obviously one of the things you like about him. I think you should ask him if he’ll help you find a nice man like him. Maybe one of his friends might be perfect for you. From day one don’t let them take you for granted. And if your friend is their friend, he’ll be setting them a good example.
With men, everything is obvious, including the arousal. However, there are arousals and then, there are arousals. You will be surprised that just like you, even your partner has varying degrees of arousals. It is not just an on-off switch. Granted, an erection is an indicator of arousal. However, that does not mean that your man is fully aroused. In fact, in the seven levels of arousal, erection would just indicate the second. 

Still, it's tough not to take it personally when he's getting off by looking at another woman. To help tamper that, Dr. Kort recommends taking the secrecy out of pornography and discussing it. "Ask him what about it turns him on, and [express without anger] what turns you off," he says. That way, a dialogue is created that allows for honesty, dignity, and closeness without him feeling like he's doing something shameful, while you can figure out what you're OK with accepting and what you're not.
Pick the right time to talk dirty. If you want to have a flawless dirty talk phone date, then you have to make sure that both you and your partner are alone and ready to start having a sexy conversation. Your dirty talk won't go very far if you're ready in bed while your partner is having dinner with his mom. Plan your dirty talk date in advance so both of you are free and alone at home or in your rooms.
"Doggy, all the way. I'm an ass man so, for me, there's nothing better than watching her ass come straight at me. My current girlfriend isn't into anal sex, which is fine, but doggy makes me feel like we're having anal, but better: there's no chance I'll wind up with an strange 'surprise' on my penis when we're finished." — Brian S., 27, Richmond, Virginia
Don't be afraid to make a move. Let's be real: a good man doesn't desperately need any person; he would like to meet a good person. If he's a good man, he will appreciate the compliment to his attractiveness, at the very least. But remember that compliments are usually given to acquaintances - people who are intimate usually have a more honest connection, with playful teasing and banter. Think of good relationships between brothers and sisters, parents and children, especially couples - they're always joking, laughing, teasing, flirting in a positive way. A woman who is always complimenting may simply be boring and look desperate. Even if you are old-fashioned and never want to be the woman who asks a man for a date, you can still go out of your way to talk to him, and arrange to be with him. Don't overdo this, however; unless he is already attracted to you before the encounter, the more obvious it is that you've put a ton of time into the encounter without his direct encouragement, the more desperate and less attractive you look. Work on building attraction first.

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