What Real Women Say: "I was seeing my now boyfriend for a few months, and we already had sex a decent amount of times," says Lisa, 25. "One night when we were starting to fool around he stopped in the middle of it and whispered, 'What's off limits?' It was really intimate and made me feel comfortable being open with him about what I liked and what I didn't. As far as dirty talk specifically, I don't like the name calling that goes on in porn so I told him that, so he's stayed away from that which I think helped me be more open to it."
Of course, you want to know what to say, but before you even get there, you need to learn how to say it. When it comes to dirty talking, there’s more to it than what you say. You need to know how to say it the right way in order to get the right reaction. For example, if you sit on top of your man, start giggling and then tell him that you want him, well, you probably aren’t going to get a hot and steamy reaction. Now, this isn’t to say that you won’t get a reaction, you will, but it depends on the reaction you’re looking for. But you’re going to learn now how to dirty talk to your man the right way.

Everyone has a mental highlight reel when it comes to their history of making whoopee. But, please, for the love of all things delicate (like our fragile male egos), when the sex deed is already underway, do him a favor and spare him the play-by-play of your sex life leading up to that moment. There will be plenty of time to get into all that during the honeymoon.
It’s time you start looking in the mirror in a whole different way. If you and your partner decide to have sex in front of the mirror, you will probably do it standing up, with your hands pressed on the wall on both sides of the mirror. You will bend slightly so he can penetrate you. You will hold your head up so he can see your facial expressions and the level of your enjoyment.
Try this: Overstreet suggests kissing your partner across his shoulder, up his neck, and stopping right before you hit his ear. Do this to both sides, because asymmetry is for the lazy. When he’s right about to lose it, start kissing his earlobe, and use your tongue to bring his earlobe into your mouth. Play around with gentle nibbles, tongue, etc. Be careful not to touch any other part of his body while doing this and see how wild he gets from you just touching his earlobes.
Getting into dirty talk with your boyfriend or husband can be a very sexually satisfying experience for the both of you, strengthen the bond the two of you have and bring you closer together. When you both start to get really comfortable talking dirty to each other and make it a frequent part of your sex life, you should bear in mind that talking dirty usually involves role-playing. You’re assuming a fantasy role to tease and excite your boyfriend, and inviting him to do the same.
Lying about what turns you on: I know you want to please your partner but lying to yourself isn’t the way to do it. If dirty talk doesn’t turn you on then tell your partner that. You can compromise and come to some type of agreement when it comes to things that you sexually like or don’t like. Don’t lie to yourself or your partner, pretending that you like things just to get their approval.

Try this: reverse finger job. Make two tight rings around his penis with your thumb and index finger (like you’re doing the okay hand symbol 👌), stacking them one on top of the other, in the middle of his shaft. Twist the rings in opposite directions moving from middle to the top and base of his shaft at the same time. Cox calls this a “torrid twist” the the typical one-handed uppy-downey handy. Remember to use lube, though!
Pick the right time to talk dirty. If you want to have a flawless dirty talk phone date, then you have to make sure that both you and your partner are alone and ready to start having a sexy conversation. Your dirty talk won't go very far if you're ready in bed while your partner is having dinner with his mom. Plan your dirty talk date in advance so both of you are free and alone at home or in your rooms.
When you are performing oral, the thing to remember is that there is a lot more to a man's anatomy. There are lots of options, rather than just going up and down. Tip #19: Focus on the balls. That's right ladies. Don't forget that the testicles are part of a man's anatomy as well. Take some time to lick, suck, and rub his testicles as well to provide some extra stimulation. Especially use your hand(s) while you are performing oral with your mouth. If you rub his testicles while you are giving him oral, it will give an even more intense feeling of pleasure. Tip #20: Focus on the tip. The tip (or head) of your man's member is the most sensitive part. This is why using your mouth, tongue, and especially throat are so important. If he feels the tip of his member hitting the back of your throat, it will be much more intense for him. Yes, moving up and down on his shaft provides a lot of stimulation, but focusing on the head is what will make him curl his toes the most.
One of the top ways to rile a partner up is to tap into the feeling they most strongly associate with arousal. “Some people need to feel safe in order to be turned on. Others want to feel challenged. Some need to feel sexy or desire. Others want to feel a little frightened. Find out how she likes to feel and intensify those feelings,” says Dr. Jess, Astroglide’s resident sexologist.
While he is on top of you, you can run your fingers through his hair, grab his arms or caress them or grab his back, making an imprint of your fingers on it all out of pleasure. Those subtle moves will let him know that you are enjoying yourself and that if he keeps it going, you will come really hard really soon and that will be all he needs to proceed.
Like I said in #2: having a little space in your relationship is healthy. And so is having things that you do on your own. Even if you just want to spend all Saturday afternoon reading by yourself, if that’s what nurtures you, that’s what’s right for the relationship. The right guy won’t have any problem with that, and in fact will be glad that you’re so independent.
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You and him have been together for a while now, the two of you are in love, talking about a bright future together, but something is bothering you a little bit. He’s been tired lately and it seems it’s been ages since you last had sex. Real sex, I mean, like you had with your ex you’re starting to dream of again. Not that you miss him, it’s just that with him everything was an excuse for sex : from going to the movies, to driving at night …
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#8 Accidental grazes. If a guy grazes your boobs or your butt accidentally, he can’t help but recollect the moment and get turned on by it. If you want to seduce a guy, make sure he *accidentally* gets to brush past your body now and then, be it while hugging him, while standing in an elevator, or even while pointing out something to him. [Read: 20 sexy questions to ask a guy and seduce him]
5. Don’t Force It. This goes with being yourself. A forced dirty phrase will never effectively get his blood moving, and his desire amped up. Even if you giggle, or mess up a “dirty phrase,” if this is authentically you, it’s going to be way hotter than some automatic, shake-and-bake phrase that you just regurgitate. Don’t force dirty talk before you or he are ready, and it will be a hit. Through trial and error, you will also learn what turns both him and you on. Then you can elaborate on that. Any emotional connection that comes from physical bonding will also be more real, and less contrived.
The following dirty talk examples are not for the faint of heart and these phrases probably shouldn’t be attempted within the first month of your new relationship (unless you met your partner at an orgy/sex party and that overtly sexual context has already been set between the two of you). As with most things to do with eroticism, it’s often the least politically correct things that are some of the biggest turn ons behind closed bedroom doors.
Massaging your man’s scalp is one of those forgotten foreplay tips that feels wonderful for your man (and when your man does it to you, too!). You can do it while you are just sitting down beside each other, when you are lying in bed, when you are kissing each other or even while making love, too. But don’t just scrape his head with your nails! To massage his scalp, start from the bottom near the back of his neck or just above his ear.
You’re both 18 so you’re not really into the ‘adult’ stage of relationships that comes after being burned a few times and having your hearts broken. To be honest, you might be on the brink of your first big disappointment. But that’s okay, we all go through being broken hearted and live to face another day ... and fall in love again. So here’s what I think.
#8 You can start by texting. Texting is usually the easiest way to get into dirty talking if you’re not used to doing it. Plus, you have more time to think about what you want to say and reply back to them, so, overall, it’s a less stressful situation. And, you can test the waters by doing it via text. Make a comment about having a shower, or how you can’t stop thinking about them. Curving into the dirty talk from there. [Read: How to learn to send your boyfriend steamy texts]

You could also download a couple of erotic-romance books to get yourself all heated up. A great tool to get you inspired to deliver the dirty talk at the perfect level for your guy. Don’t be afraid either to push yourself over the line a little, because you are just practicing. That will make it a heck of a lot easier to deliver when you’ve got yearning ears listening.


"Hey, honey, do you want me to help you with something? What would you like me to do? Do you want to hang out, just the two of us? I want to buy you something for Christmas/Valentine's Day - could you tell me exactly what you would like? I see you're hanging out with your friends today, but I'd like to get to know them better - can I hang out with you all today, or not? I really like that shirt/necklace/purse - could you buy it for me, please? I'm going to be hanging out with my friends this afternoon - would you rather I not discuss you?"

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Iam impressed with this article.well i am a boy , i would like to say its true .the staring tricks really works such staring of agirl can influence him more than u know it even if he has a girlfriend i know this b’caz ihad similar experience i am suprised that almost all part of this article was done to me by a girl exept that i didn’t fall for her yet….. Who knows one day i might .she has a beatiful staring which is enough to take my breath away so girls if you just love a guy whoes worthy i suggest you to follow these steps.
This is a great book! It gives some basic tips as well as some creative ideas to make him moan and beg you for more. Whether you want to take charge of the bedroom for awhile, initiate things for a change, or just be able to give him a better handjob - it is in there. I tried some of the tips already, and they met with very favorable results. *big grin* I look forward to "testing" more of them, as does my boyfriend. For those who haven't had much experience, or worry that he might be a little bored with the same-old-same-old (and don't know how to change that), this book is a treasure chest of ideas and information. Whether your man just isn't the type to try and tell you what to do OR doesn't know the possibilities out there, he will most likely be thrilled with many of the tricks Mr. Wiseman provides.

A close second, highly powerful, signal that a guy should make a move is a smile. A smile tells a wary man you like him and, more importantly, you aren’t going to humiliate him by shutting him down if he risks approaching you. It’s not that you need to go around smiling all the time, but when you make eye contact, flash him a smile too, and he should get the message. The message is nicely delivered with very little effort on your part—there doesn’t even have to be a break in the friendly banter you were engaging in. Which brings me to our third signal.
Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them.  Similarly, men wish women would reveal their imaginings. Want to open yourselves to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. First, and most important, promise not to judge each other; then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized each of you and place them in a box. When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you’re both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, try asking the author a key question: What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, it’s themes can be addressed in different, more comfortable scenarios.
I could list hundreds different sex tips, techniques and positions that you could try on your man, whether that’s a particular position helps you orgasm, a certain technique for giving your man a good blow job, or a new way to stimulate his prostate. Most of these techniques will work fine, some will not work at all and only a few will truly please your man so much so, that he’ll be fantasizing about it for years to come.
There’s lots of ways to make always-great sex even greater, and there are some specific sex positions that, when explored, can lead to extra excitement. There are various ways to look at what a specifically male pleasure position may mean to you — for starters, though, it should be one that gives greater than average physical pleasure or one that’s especially exciting. From there, the possibilities are endless, but here are some great ways to get started! 

Don't force issues, feelings or sex ever. Roll with it. Read her energy. “Learn how to communicate with and read body language. Don't ever plan on having sex. If it happens on the first night, it's totally fine but it is usually better to wait until you're both sure about the situation. Your goals should be to earn her trust and respect instead of thinking what's the next move to get into her bed. It will be different with all women,” says Hawk. Desperation and neediness are major turn-offs.
I refuse to admit my own feelings till I know he's completely done with her. My biggest fear is what to do once he is done, if that happens. I've been in plenty of relationships, but I wouldn't know how to be in one with him because he's the longest, closest, male friendship I've ever had and at the same time, and we're deeply attracted to each other.
The thing to realize is that people with great relationships don’t have the great relationships because they know great relationship secrets or psychological loopholes of the male mind. Fundamentally, people in the best relationships all have one thing in common: they don’t have relationships with people who are not a good match for them. They don’t let them into their life.

Even if you completely trust your partner and believe that you will never break up, understand that if something goes wrong in the relationship, you might not be able to get those pictures back, and you won’t have control over who sees them — it’s possible that he could share them with others. It’s not fair, and ultimately it’s not your fault, but it’s a reality that you need to acknowledge.


3. Tailor Your Dirty Talk to His Preferences. Some guys will be turned on if your dirty talk has an air of innocence to it. If you say, for instance, “I really want to taste you, but I’m embarrassed to tell you.” Other guys are good with you being as explicit and raunchy as you could possibly be. They might be about to explode if you say, “I’ve been dreaming of your thick cock oozing in my mouth all day.” Just be sure to tailor your dirty talk to his particular desires. He may also respond better to simple dirty talk questions like, “Do you like it when I lick your balls, lover?”
A good time to do this is if you are driving home from somewhere and want to work up his appetite for sex so you lean over and whisper in his ear “as soon as we get home, I want you to…”. The more you go into details about what it is you want him to do you or what you want to do to him, the more eager he will be and the more electrifying excitement will be in the air.
Sometimes the relationship started out well and then over time disintegrated into something that resembles resentment and abuse rather than love or respect.  Sometimes the relationship was never good to begin with, but the woman wants me to show her “relationship magic” to “make it work.”  This is what I equate to trying to shove a square peg into a round hole. (If this situation sounds familiar to you, be sure to read this article on Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship.)
Nothing in the world is new. Alot of the ideas in here I've found in other places, but really for the price, even 3 or 4 new discoveries would have made my day. Many of his tricks are subtle. (not holding back on vocalizing being a simple example that helped our love life dramaticly. not faking, but just not restraining myself) Others are a bit more involved (various substances to be aquired beforehand etc)
"I really like it when we're on our sides, facing each other, because it's intimate but we can also be aggressive. We can look at each other while we're f*cking, but this position also lets us both have control over the speed and intensity and my thrusting. My girlfriend tells me there's something about sideways sex that targets her clit in the right way — it doesn't hurt that she comes a lot quicker this way." — James P., 35, Brooklyn, New York
This article will outline all the important points of talking dirty to a guy. However, if you really want to learn this art of naughty seduction properly and completely avoid any risk of embarrassment in front of him, but instead, be able to turn any man on as and when you choose, or to spice up your relationship with your boyfriend or husband to the point where you can get him wanting you like crazy, then click here now.
Try this: Have him lay on his back while you straddle him and give him what he really wants: a view of your scalp as you make your way down on him. Starting from his belly button, use your fingers and nails to trace a line down from his happy trail stopping before you hit total groin. Then retrace your steps, but use your tongue to trace a “V” shape from his hips to right above his penis. Draw it out and really tease him until he can’t take it any longer.
"There are at least four major nerve complexes and six or more physiological pathways to drive her to orgasm. Most of these brain pathways can trigger a 'mindgasm' completely on their own. When you stimulate more than one orgasm trigger area at the same time (within the mind and the body), they magnify each other's’ effect and the threshold for orgasm is lowered. When enough of this input reaches the brain, the orgasm reflex is triggered. A good lover will provide several different types of orgasmic stimulation at the same time."
Think of dirty talk as an intimate experience. A way of strengthening your connection with your boyfriend. A fun and integral part of bonding. If you are shy, make sure to bring up the topic with your guy and get his thoughts. Chances are he’s going to be totally thrilled you’re ready to push the boundaries of your comfort zone, sexually speaking, and see what comes “up.”
Nice points, also liked the links within the articles. This website is like a gold mine for all things related to understanding guys and impressing them. Even as I was reading this article, I couldn’t stop myself from clicking all the links I came across because all of them were so interesting. Each new page I open gives me so many new ideas to learn. I especially love the articles where the authors confess about their own love experiences. It helps the reader realize that even authors who know so much about love can still make mistakes and learn from it.
There are so many ways in which you can flirt to make your partner crave you more. Words are powerful tools, so whispering something dirty to his ear, asking dirty questions, saying something in front of other people that only he will understand in a sexual manner (some code name for something sexual only two of you know) and also using body language can work wonders when flirting is involved.
When you put all your energy into hearing what he’s saying, you are actually listening on two levels: on the first, you’re hearing his words, but you’re also taking in what he’s communicating nonverbally. And since 60-80% of our communication is nonverbal,  this is incredibly important to pick up on, especially if you want to learn how to make a man fall in love with you madly.
#16 A tease. Every guy is turned on by a tease. Walk right up to the guy while staring at him, but instead of talking to him, just say ‘excuse me’ and walk right past him with a teasing smile. And as you pass him, stare into his eyes, smile and say ‘thank you’. It’ll boost his ego, and make you irresistible to him! [Read: 16 lusty signs of sexual attraction between a guy and a girl]

Three rounds of give and withdraw should reduce any man to putty — assuming putty is what you’re looking for. The key to making this work is to give genuinely when you’re giving. You really are into him. It’s just that something unexpected comes up every time he’s on the brink of being on solid ground with you, and you withdraw completely, yanking the rug out from under him decisively, only to restore it later.


Sexting is one of the first and most effective ideas that come to mind. There are many directions in which sexting can go. It can vary from subtle vanilla dirty talk to something hardcore. It depends on your preferences, so let that be your guideline. In any case, sexts are bound to blow his mind and make him eager to see you and rip your clothes off of you. One of the great perks of sexting is that you have a lot of time to think about what you are going to say.
Okay I need some guy advice. I started a new job about 6 months and was immediately attracted to a guy that works there. We do not work for the same company, rather my company works for the company that he works for. I admired him from afar for about a month, simply exchanging hello's when we pass each other in the hallway, until I decided to dive in and let him know that I was interested in getting to know him. We became very flirty and would talk about little things here and there every time we would see each other, which is a lot since it's a small building.

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