The best way for you to free yourself from the stereotype that foreplay is only about pleasuring the woman, you can do your part to tease your man; you can be spicing up the experience for him as well. There are plenty of ways in which you can really get your man into the mood for doing it. Remember that sex is just as much mental as it is physical and emotional. You have to be able to play with his senses and stimulate him in ways that he never would have imagined.
This sex position demands female control, so don’t be afraid to take charge. The man, in this case, represents the chair in a manner of speaking. He is sitting with his legs outstretched in front of him, using his hands as support. The woman is on his male partner with her back to him, leaning close to his body. You sit on top of him, attaching your arms on his hips by leaning your head slightly back and slightly moving up and down.

Even if you completely trust your partner and believe that you will never break up, understand that if something goes wrong in the relationship, you might not be able to get those pictures back, and you won’t have control over who sees them — it’s possible that he could share them with others. It’s not fair, and ultimately it’s not your fault, but it’s a reality that you need to acknowledge.
Please your man in bed by being playful because he will enjoy the fun side of your nature. I have a friend called Janet, she is 52 years old and she is still as playful in the bedroom with her partner as she was when they first met in 1992. Her advice for you is to do what she does and be playful in the bedroom. Dressing up is one way to be playful. Acting out roles is another way to be playful. Playing strip poker is another way to be playful. Whatever it is that you decide to do to be playful in the bedroom, make sure you are comfortable doing it. It won't please either of you if you are not comfortable with what you are doing.
Knowing how to talk dirty to a guy is definitely a useful skill that’ll come in handy when you’re wanting to turn him on. When you know how to dirty talk a guy, you have the power and ability to focus the attention on what matters which is your sexual chemistry. Now, there are levels of dirty talk, but, just like sex, everyone gets turned on to different things. Therefore, your dirty talk may vary between partners.
Really, this should all happen rather naturally, but sometimes when a guy makes you nervous, it can be easy to clam up. If this sounds like you, pay special attention to your posture. How are you seated or standing? If your hips, feet, and shoulders are 100 percent aligned with your girlfriend at the bar, and the cute guy who caught your eye is to the left, right, or behind you, you are sending him the wrong signals. According to research, women who face their chairs out toward the man they are interested in or open their stance when standing have the most success signaling men to approach. Don’t just take it from me. We also talked to real guys who say they notice this, among other things.
This takes a certain level of trust, so a few questions to ask yourself before throwing it out there: How well do you know this guy? Is he the sort of person who’s going to be baffled by too many options? Can you confirm just how far “whatever you want” might go? Are you cool with that? If he checks all the good boxes, let the show go on. Just proceed with caution, and know that firm directions (like: “I want you to do X to Y”) are a solid backup.
I want to feel you on top of me – It’s one of the dirty things to say to your man that is guaranteed to get a strong reaction from him. Every guy wants their women to tell them what they dream of doing with their partners. They want women to share their fantasies and share them everything they feel for them. Telling him this phrase will surely blow his mind. He will be surprised to see a new you. Show him your wild side and make him yours forever.
Masturbate. If you just want to talk dirty just for fun or practice, then you can get off the phone and get off on your own. But if you really want to commit to talking dirty, then you and your lover should touch yourselves until you orgasm. If you want to keep things hot and heavy, you can announce your orgasm, and tell your lover that you're about to come. This will build anticipation and will turn both of you on even more. Once you've both orgasmed, you can say goodbye and look forward to your next dirty talk date.
It’s often believed that men are so consumed by their libido that they have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered before reaching the bedroom (give them the once-over and tell them how manly they look), as well as after (give them the once-over and tell them how manly they look naked!). Along those lines, men worry about the size of their guts (and other more measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Just like women, men need to be told they are appreciated, sexy, desirable….and really good at what they are doing. Try to be extra affirming about those sensitivities.

Masturbate. If you just want to talk dirty just for fun or practice, then you can get off the phone and get off on your own. But if you really want to commit to talking dirty, then you and your lover should touch yourselves until you orgasm. If you want to keep things hot and heavy, you can announce your orgasm, and tell your lover that you're about to come. This will build anticipation and will turn both of you on even more. Once you've both orgasmed, you can say goodbye and look forward to your next dirty talk date.
Drive him wild: Have your man lie on his stomach and give him a massage by doing light, karate-chop type movements along his sacrum. "Doing this not only stimulates those sacral nerves, but also triggers the parasympathetic nervous system which is key for relaxing, letting go, and having an orgasm," Michaels says. (Related: 7 Tips for a Better Orgasm)
This position is rawer than it is intimate. It doesn’t provide you with eye contact or that feeling of closeness. But that doesn’t make it any less pleasurable. It gives him a great view of your behind and if he is an ass man, he will love this position—and you can always look back at him for a moment while you are riding him. That fast look will throw both of you over the top.
I really like this guy in my grade. And I don’t think he likes me back, but we do hold eye contact, and he does laugh with me, and has touched me before, but also he’s very popular and I feel like I cannot speak to him, outside of SS. He started a band not to long ago and told me that it would be great if I could write songs for him but..... I’m not sure if I should bc I dunno what to write bc I’m only good at love songs and that would be so awkward!!!!

He preceded to tell me about how she kept going for a few minutes without even realizing that she was actually having the opposite effect. Before long, he was totally cold to the idea of having sex with her, so the rest of the evening was just spent in a mediocre cuddle on the sofa while they watched a movie. They didn’t last very long as he just didn’t find her very attractive after that, despite her actually being what I would call quite a hot young lady. I’m sure that he probably had a few other reasons for not wanting to continue seeing her besides this, but her attempt at dirty talk certainly didn’t help!


There’s nothing quite like kissing when engaging in foreplay. Starting with the lips is a choice where you can’t go wrong. Making out increases sexual desire. Redirect your kisses to his neck and stay there for a while. Then slowly nibble his ear, going back to the neck and finding your way down. Kiss every inch of his body. The anticipation of a blow job will be something that will make his manhood hard as wood.
The power of words and how you say those words work to heighten each of his senses and will drive him to perform at his best. Couples and lovers use dirty talking mostly during sex when they can tell each other what they want while in the heat of the moment. However dirty talk can also be used prior to sex to build sexual tension which will then explode once your man gets you in the bedroom...or whatever room.
"Men fantasize about having sex in different places," says Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. While routine sex has its place, he sometimes wants to do something different—and that's good for you too. One day, head to Ikea in search of a faux bear-skin rug (spare him the trip) and get wild in front of your fireplace. Or simply straddle him on the couch while the kids are at a sleepover — just make sure the TV is turned off behind you.

Nothing is a bigger turnoff than someone who is dishonest. This does not mean white lies, withholding information for a more appropriate moment, or minor exaggerations –these are all normal parts of human connections and conversations. But falling into the trap of becoming someone or something your not will get you into trouble later. Honesty is the best policy. Not only because you avoid complications, but you allow yourself to be vulnerable. That part of yourself, that innocence, is attractive because it’s authentic. Let him see those parts of you and be as honest as you can be about yourself and your expectations –that way you both are on the same page which is facilitate you getting what you want. Even being candid about what you want can be a big turn-on.
I did find one major irritant in this book. His advice to "ladies" on the subject of declining an offer included the words "Couch the refusal so as to make it clear the lack is in you rather than him". Perhaps the author and I have differing views on consent, but if I don't want to do something it does not necessarily mean there is a lack in me OR my partner - it just means I have no interest in a particular act. One can graciously refuse a gentleman's request without making either party feel "lacking", thankyouverymuch.
And you don’t have to use a deep, throaty voice. “Your tone can be funny and joking. It can be cute or teasing, innocent, or absolutely naughty,” says Neustifter. “I encourage women to think about times when they feel the most confident and carefree.” If you feel your best giving presentations at work, for example, a powerful bedroom vibe may be your go-to; if you love laughing with your friends, a fun approach may be better.
"My girlfriend and I like it when she's submissive so the move that always gets me is her laying flat on her belly and me on top of her from behind. It feels more intimate than doggy because I can wrap my hands around her breasts or rub her clit at the same time. I also like being able to cover her body with mine and holding her hands down. It always feels like my penis is as deep inside of her as possible in this position." — Stefan, 31, Hawthorne, New Jersey

there is this guy that i like and hes a twin. i really like him a lot. everyone tells me that it looks like he likes me but when we talk about it he says that hes still not over his ex. he compliments me in every way possible but this girl told me that he said he only liked me as a friend and that it looked like his brother was the one that liked me. what can i do to find out if he likes me even if hes still not over his ex. And what can i do to make him like me? thanks for reading

Please your man in bed with mystery and let him solve the puzzle. Don't reveal everything about yourself in one go. Save somethings about yourself that will be revealed as time goes by. When you are in bed with him and feeling close, its nice to have pillow talk, a time when you can both nestle into each others arms and plan your dreams together. It would be lovely if you could reveal a part of yourself that would fascinate him. A part of you that would make him look at you in a whole different way, his response that he never thought you could do anything as daring or as adventurous as that, would be lovely for you to hear. A piece of the puzzle regarding you would have been solved. All of your revelations will be be very interesting to him and as each part of you is unfolded it will bring you so much closer together.
When you are performing oral, the thing to remember is that there is a lot more to a man's anatomy. There are lots of options, rather than just going up and down. Tip #19: Focus on the balls. That's right ladies. Don't forget that the testicles are part of a man's anatomy as well. Take some time to lick, suck, and rub his testicles as well to provide some extra stimulation. Especially use your hand(s) while you are performing oral with your mouth. If you rub his testicles while you are giving him oral, it will give an even more intense feeling of pleasure. Tip #20: Focus on the tip. The tip (or head) of your man's member is the most sensitive part. This is why using your mouth, tongue, and especially throat are so important. If he feels the tip of his member hitting the back of your throat, it will be much more intense for him. Yes, moving up and down on his shaft provides a lot of stimulation, but focusing on the head is what will make him curl his toes the most.
How to find it: The sacrum is the triangular bone located at the base of his spine in between his hips (think: the small of his back). There are nerves in the sacrum that are linked to the genitals, so stimulating these nerves can send sensations to his manly parts. In fact, some studies show that electrical stimulation of these nerves can trigger orgasm.
You may want to actually have a good idea on what you’re talking about before making conclusions about people. One of the things Eric stresses in many of his articles is that a woman needs to be happy with her own life and love herself before she can truly be happy in a relationship. He also points out that if a woman is happy on her own, she will attract love and that it is then up to her to decide if a man is right for her. Kinda sounds like she’s the one in control of her own happiness. How is that sexist? In order to learn, you need to read the entire articles, not just pick out the parts that you can twist into being offensive. However, it’s quite clear that you have some serious anger issues towards men, in which case, how can you possibly expect to be in a happy relationship with one?
I’m including it because I don’t believe any woman in her right mind would use this procedure consciously. However, through circumstance and sheer cluelessness, a woman could end up using this procedure unconsciously (also known as ‘being in your twenties’). And then she’s got a man who’s borderline stalking her, and she doesn’t understand why. Now that you know how this works, it’s more likely that you can prevent this inconvenience (which is also true for the men who are reading this).
This is a great book! It gives some basic tips as well as some creative ideas to make him moan and beg you for more. Whether you want to take charge of the bedroom for awhile, initiate things for a change, or just be able to give him a better handjob - it is in there. I tried some of the tips already, and they met with very favorable results. *big grin* I look forward to "testing" more of them, as does my boyfriend. For those who haven't had much experience, or worry that he might be a little bored with the same-old-same-old (and don't know how to change that), this book is a treasure chest of ideas and information. Whether your man just isn't the type to try and tell you what to do OR doesn't know the possibilities out there, he will most likely be thrilled with many of the tricks Mr. Wiseman provides.
Trying to string together a full, filthy sentence can actually tamp down your desire, since you’re inside your head, says Jaiya. “When I do sexuality workshops, the word ‘yes’ is consistently one of people’s favorite words,” says Neustifter. Other sexy words that can stand alone: "faster," "harder," and "more." One-word directives let him know he’s doing a great job, says Jaiya. They're the verbal equivalent of a moan.
well, i agreed (how could i not, he’s cute ;) ). i wasn’t sure if he’d show up. but he did. he did cook n it was awesome. during the party he asked me not to leave the city. when i told him i had no reason to stay back. he said there may be now. so we saw each other everyday after that. went out . he really took care of me, shared about his family. we really like each other. he even said lotta times he really liked me and that he was sad i was leaving. asked me to stay, coupla times. but i really needed to leave. he even came to see me off. things changed totally after i left. he did not call. when i did, he spoke normally and said he had been caught up. later after a week or two, he did nt show any interest to call. so i stopped calling too. once i called him n asked what was goin on. to my surprise he said we enjoyed together. but he cant do long distance. I’m flabbergasted how can anyone just shut off things just like that. was he pretending all the while?

If there is a particular raunchy memory you remember such as doing the dirty in the car or giving him oral while he is driving then whisper in his ear “I’m getting turned on just thinking about when we…”. This will get starting to think of the same thing which will lead to him also being aroused. You could even suggest living out the memory again to give your relationship a bit of a boost in the bedroom department if you’ve been together a long time.

Sex is an important part of a marriage. Who does not miss the rush of the early days together? However, with time, it becomes almost clinical. And after having children, it becomes increasingly difficult to find time and energy to have sex. And whenever you do, it ends up being a 10-minute sprint as against the hours spent in exploring each other during the early days.


Have a sexy goodbye. Don't start transitioning into talking about how your days went; don't start telling goofy jokes, either. Just as you would cuddle after real sex, say some sweet, soft words to your lover and let him know how amazing he makes you feel. Get off the phone after a little while -- if you want to have a normal conversation with your lover, do it a bit later, so you can enjoy the sexy feeling after your dirty talk date.


#3 Be you. When it comes to learning how to talk dirty to your man, please don’t make the mistake of trying to act like you like certain things because they like it. No, no, no. You need to be you and when you’re dirty talking your man, if you aren’t vibing with what they’re saying, then don’t go along with it. Make sure you speak your mind because they do not read minds. [Read: How to unfake your life and embrace you]
It's easy for any couple to get in a sexual rut. "What happens in a relationship is everything you like and your partner like stays on the menu, but anything either of you doesn't like, isn't tried," explains Fleming. "So make a list of yes/no/not for now and over time as you develop the intimacy, the safety, and the connection, then you can be like 'OK, why don't we go back and visit role play or go back and revisit anal play.'" It's that simple! Think of all the fun you'll have writing the list out together. (And how much easier your sex life will be when the two of you aren't scrambling to think of new sex positions in the heat of the moment.)

Don't lead with this (it can feel like you're skipping to the finish line), but this sort of positive reinforcement makes a difference. When these three words are lustfully strung together in the midst of sex, they sound like the human equivalent of a mating call. If you’ve already finished, it never hurts to let him know that you’re getting something out of him having an orgasm, too. Your wish is his command—or, more accurately, his come-mand.
Take a good look at yourself. Psychological studies have shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes these voids are unhealthy; for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention and feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so badly, be truly honest with yourself, and, if need be, talk to a therapist about this. Someone with issues only attracts a guy with issues as well, and a good, real man doesn't want anything to do with someone who has more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.

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