We also know that there are exceptions. There are relationships that probably should not stay together, such as those with physical violence, cruel and ongoing verbal abuse, extreme anger management issues, or long-term unaddressed substance abuse, for example. If you're in a situation like that, please eek the help of your local crisis management center.

Drive him wild: "Gently flicking the raphe with your tongue feels great to most men," Cavanah says. "Let him guide you on how much pressure he likes, because the amount varies depending on the guy." To get him really hot, sip on very warm tea and then flick your heated tongue over this sensitive area. He'll lose himself in the new feelings, and novelty can make for more powerful orgasms.  
Sure, guys are visual creators. That’s what society tries to sell us. But women are equally visual. We like a nice piece of eye candy now and again. The idea that we must flaunt our bodies to get the guy we want isn’t just erroneous, but it’s down right embarrassing. We are so much more than our bodies. We have personalities and interests, we have talent and we have spirits. Flaunt all of those characteristics about yourself that make you feel proud of yourself. When you display your best side, not just your backside, you become more than an objectified piece of meat, you become a living, breathing person with things to offer the world. Here is where the guy you want will really fall for you hard. Seeing you embrace your inner self is equally as attractive as a body that’s hit the gym for hours.

Trying to string together a full, filthy sentence can actually tamp down your desire, since you’re inside your head, says Jaiya. “When I do sexuality workshops, the word ‘yes’ is consistently one of people’s favorite words,” says Neustifter. Other sexy words that can stand alone: "faster," "harder," and "more." One-word directives let him know he’s doing a great job, says Jaiya. They're the verbal equivalent of a moan.


If your house doesn’t have enough room to make space for a "man cave" then make sure he has a say in how your home is decorated. Maybe there is room for one bookshelf where he can proudly display his collections. Give him time as well as space. Make sure he knows you support him in spending nights out with his guy friends (giving you time for cherished alone time or a night with your girls!).
#4 Give head. This is something that, for some reason, a lot of women don’t prefer to do. However, men really, really enjoy receiving oral sex. You’ll know this if you go down on him and do it. Just make sure you’re being enthusiastic about it. He’ll be super pleased if you actually want to make him feel good. [Read: 15 blowjob moves that’ll blow his mind]
Hi Deborah. I think you should respect his commitment to his long term relationship. His integrity is obviously one of the things you like about him. I think you should ask him if he’ll help you find a nice man like him. Maybe one of his friends might be perfect for you. From day one don’t let them take you for granted. And if your friend is their friend, he’ll be setting them a good example.

Now, I’m bit bummed because I can’t seem to find any advice about the opposite situation: what if the guy is showing you more commitment than you can handle? Not in a creepy first-date-“let’s marry and have babies”, but in a solid 3-months-“I care about you and want to see where this is going, and I’d like to move in together and five it a try”. I want that too, just… not for another year or so (it’s actually a LD relationship, I put the details in a recent forum post called “Anxious about playing house”). Any advice? :)


When you follow this as outlined, it all adds up to something magical. When you embody a love of his Masculinity with your Appreciation for who he is, add in some Gratitude, a Nurturing spirit, an Easy-going nature, an ability to be Trustworthy, and honor his Independence all while captivating him — it all adds up to one thing. The final S is for Soulmate because that's what you'll have found.
This takes a certain level of trust, so a few questions to ask yourself before throwing it out there: How well do you know this guy? Is he the sort of person who’s going to be baffled by too many options? Can you confirm just how far “whatever you want” might go? Are you cool with that? If he checks all the good boxes, let the show go on. Just proceed with caution, and know that firm directions (like: “I want you to do X to Y”) are a solid backup.
Just like women, men have their sweet spots, and stimulating them manually or orally will make your guy writhe with pleasure. The frenulum (the ridge right under the tip of the penis), base (right above the testicles), and perineum (right under the testicles) are all incredibly sensitive and feel really, really, really good when you touch them with your tongue or fingers. Every man is different, so make sure you talk to your man openly about what he likes, but you generally want to pay some very special attention to these important areas.
Copying porn because you think he’ll like it: we all know how influential porn is to our sex lives. Most of us have watched porn since our teenage years and have a large understanding of sex because of porn. But porn isn’t sex. Okay, physically, it’s sex, however, it’s not what actually happens between couples on a daily basis. Porn is acting. If you’re watching porn and copying how they dirty talk to each other, well, most people won’t feel comfortable because it’s not natural. Instead, focus on what feels natural to you.
And not all girls can get the thigh triangle naturally, because it depends a lot on the body shape. The curvier the body and the wider the hips, the easier it is to have the triangle thigh gap. So if you don’t have it, don’t fret it because there are so many other things that matter too! [Read: Why inner beauty and confidence play a bigger part than outer beauty]
Nothing is a bigger turnoff than someone who is dishonest. This does not mean white lies, withholding information for a more appropriate moment, or minor exaggerations –these are all normal parts of human connections and conversations. But falling into the trap of becoming someone or something your not will get you into trouble later. Honesty is the best policy. Not only because you avoid complications, but you allow yourself to be vulnerable. That part of yourself, that innocence, is attractive because it’s authentic. Let him see those parts of you and be as honest as you can be about yourself and your expectations –that way you both are on the same page which is facilitate you getting what you want. Even being candid about what you want can be a big turn-on.
Communication is the most important thing in any relationship, especially when you want your relationship to go smooth and filled with passion. This might surprise you, but erotic talks are equally important for any relationship to not only strengthen the bond but to make things get better in the bedroom as well. Talking erotic to your partner can also grow your bond with your partner and can add emotional closeness and increased communication in your relationship. Isn’t it amazing? Talking dirty to your man will improve your whole relationship not just your sex life. Dirty sex talk works!
Ever heard the saying that a many wants a lady in public but a whore in the bedroom? Using vulgar language in your texts will go a long way towards fulfilling his needs in this area. So use those really dirty words instead of regular romantic language to really get him fired up and horny for you! Sexting is not about romance but about turning him on and getting yourself excited.
One of the top ways to rile a partner up is to tap into the feeling they most strongly associate with arousal. “Some people need to feel safe in order to be turned on. Others want to feel challenged. Some need to feel sexy or desire. Others want to feel a little frightened. Find out how she likes to feel and intensify those feelings,” says Dr. Jess, Astroglide’s resident sexologist.
How you feel with the person you’re with is the best indication of whether you’re with someone who’s compatible or not. How much you want it to work is the worst indicator of a good relationship (in fact, usually the people who tell me how desperately they want something to work are highlighting how incompatible they really are from their partner).

Please your man in bed with encouragement and let his confidence grow. Maybe you've just met or maybe you've been a couple for several years, however long you've been together doesn't come into it when it comes to giving your man encouragement. He will want to know he's doing everything right for you, especially in the bedroom. Keep giving him the encouragement he needs and you will see him gain in confidence every time you are together. He will know that you care for him because you are always helping and praising him.
I’m including it because I don’t believe any woman in her right mind would use this procedure consciously. However, through circumstance and sheer cluelessness, a woman could end up using this procedure unconsciously (also known as ‘being in your twenties’). And then she’s got a man who’s borderline stalking her, and she doesn’t understand why. Now that you know how this works, it’s more likely that you can prevent this inconvenience (which is also true for the men who are reading this).
A good time to do this is if you are driving home from somewhere and want to work up his appetite for sex so you lean over and whisper in his ear “as soon as we get home, I want you to…”. The more you go into details about what it is you want him to do you or what you want to do to him, the more eager he will be and the more electrifying excitement will be in the air.
There is something quite intimate about performing oral on your boyfriend or husband. It is a completely different feel from having standard intercourse. Make sure that you take some time to look up at your man if you are on your knees or on top performing oral. There is nothing better than for your man to look down and see your big eyes looking up at him sensually. This will really get his mojo rising. The great thing about oral is that it can be performed out of the blue. It doesn't always have to be used as a method of foreplay - it can be an action all in itself. Especially when a female is going through that time of the month. You can always spark excitement and respect when you provide oral at the most random of times. It's great giving oral in the shower, while he is watching a movie or football game (especially if he is laying down and can see the curve of your butt in the light of the television), or while he is eating. Another positive about oral is that his ejaculation only amounts to about ten calories per serving and is an excellent source of protein! If you are not quite ready to jump in the sack, oral is a great way to round that corner. It is a little more personal than just using your hands. There are women who do not enjoy giving oral. Have your man take a shower beforehand, so that it will decrease any "fum-munda" scent that may be lingering. Be prepared for a salty taste - that is the best way to describe it. Also, ejaculation is creamy, not watery. The texture is what can throw a woman off more than anything. Men really enjoy having oral performed on them, but once again, don't be shy. Add some pressure, but watch out for your teeth. Men like a tight vagina because they can feel it, and the same goes for oral. If you experiment with different positions, different scenarios, and a variety of techniques, you will find out what will be the best for your man and for your own comfort level. One size does not fit all, so get creative and have fun!
The more risqué fantasies you suggest, the dirtier the talk will be. Think of Chandler and Monica from Friends who couldn't keep their hands off each at the hospital and had sex in a closet room and tried to have sex in one of the hospital beds. They were working each other up with a lot of steamy talk which is what led to them not being able to wait. This is what you want to try and recreate.
Men want to be the hunter. That’s why flirting and using dirty talk sayings can work so well. It lets a man know you’re interested and attracted to him. It teases him in a way that makes him want to chase you. And, best of all, you can do it in a way that makes him think that he is the one responsible for your sexual advances, when in reality you are in complete control of the situation.

I have been in love with the same guy for about three years,in the beginning he told me he did not want anything serious …so I did distance my self for a little while, however now we spend all are time together…going to the gym, going to his friends place cooking together …he keeps contact with me through out the day…it seems very much like a relationship with out a title…


Hi Eric,i really need ur advice thrs a guy whom i love i ve alrdy askd him out we’ve meet twice bt iam very serious about him..he said he does not want to b in a relationship..as he just had a break up wth smbdy…bt he also sayss that he will never let me go things would be the same as wen ur in relationship just it wont be official..but niwdays i feel he gets irritated while speakn online…i want him to be mine forevr…wat should i do to get him commit nd love me….
This takes a certain level of trust, so a few questions to ask yourself before throwing it out there: How well do you know this guy? Is he the sort of person who’s going to be baffled by too many options? Can you confirm just how far “whatever you want” might go? Are you cool with that? If he checks all the good boxes, let the show go on. Just proceed with caution, and know that firm directions (like: “I want you to do X to Y”) are a solid backup.
Touch yourself -- and describe how it feels. You can do this at any point while you're talking dirty. But the earlier you do it, the more turned on you'll be. Start gently stroking your own body and let your lover know what you're doing. Then, ask him or her to touch his or her own body and be detailed about what you want him to do. Just like real foreplay, you don't have to touch yourselves anywhere too untoward -- just start with a light touch that turns you on.
"This is going to make me sound lame, but sometimes there's nothing better than good, old-fashioned missionary sex. I get to be in complete control over the tempo and rhythm, I can slide my hands under my wife's ass and it feels like I have her entire body in my hands. I think a lot of women underestimate how much some guys like to kiss them and rub up against their breasts and bodies when we're having sex — and missionary is intimate enough to allow that." —Thomas K., 33, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
Jay has written a number of "tricks" books over the years and as he would say "they have taken on a life of their own." This book which if you read it cover to cover takes maybe an hour has 125 such tricks, with names like the "climbing the mountain" trick, "do the twist," "a fistful of fun," and "don't choke in the clutch." The book's tricks are divided into five main sections: basic tricks, manual tricks, oral tricks, enhanced tricks, and anal tricks. So depending on your mood, there's a variety here to choose from.

Take off your clothes -- and talk about it. Don't just start stripping -- let your lover in on the peep show, button by button. If you're taking off your shirt, let him know that it's sliding over your head. If you're taking off your belt, let your lady know that you're dropping your belt to the floor. Paint a picture of your body that will turn on your lover even more.
Please your man in bed by being sensual because sensuality creates an atmosphere all of its own in the bedroom. I have a friend called Patricia, she is a girly girl and loves everything that sparkles and glitters. Her advice to you is that whilst sensuality can enhance things sexually, it can also enhance your relationship in other ways as well. Patricia says feeding each other strawberries dipped in chocolate can be a very sensual thing to try, she also however says that being sensual in your everyday life and enjoying the world around you, is a sure fire way to enhance the sensuality you will both feel in the bedroom whenever you are in each other's arms.
Ever notice that your man looks a little different on warm days? His testicles have a built-in thermostat that causes them to rise and fall according to the outside temperature. Hot out? They’ll be hanging low. Chilly? They’ll retreat back into the warmth of his body. So don’t be surprised if your guy appears, ahem, more ample in July than in December.
Sure, binging Planet Earth might not be the hottest thing around, but there’s something to be said about looking to the animal kingdom for a little #inspo. Dave, 24, was totally psyched when a woman he was seeing asked to get a little wild. "An ex-girlfriend lay down on the bed and begged me to rip off her clothes, which I did. The sex was great, but letting me tear her shirt in half was the best part because it was passionate and intense."
We've all been there: You're totally exhausted and trying to get it over with or you're simply caught up in what's happening and your body naturally goes fast. But decelerating can be powerful. "Men like being able to feel everything and to have time to explore," says Valentine. "For example, if you're performing oral sex, take him all the way in and out very slowly so he's just barely touching your mouth." Once you're done teasing him you can go full throttle, but in the beginning, a light technique goes a long way.

So, I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. we have known eachother for awhile though but never talked to each other till recently. He was dating this girl for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago , he messgaed me on instagram asking if i wanted to hangout sometime so i gave him my number! well we started texting for awhile but he isn't very consistent with texting and when we finally hung out i brought up how i always tect him for and he leaves me on read but then reply's to what i said couple days later. his reason was with school and work he has to work off his phone and my messages get pushed back and he would forget to reply, when he realized he forgot he had said it was too late to respond so i wouldnt bother. the next week he didnt talk much saying he had been, which i new he would be with what he had going on and moving out of his apartment that week. well he was active on snapchat at some concert so i thought i text him again and he never replied but still active on social media. i don't know if i shouldn't worry about it and text him again or just forget about it, maybe he isn't interested. i need help everyone i ask doesn't carer they just tell me i don't know. and i really need help figuring out what should i do.

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