Firstly, you must understand that there is no one, perfect technique. There is no magic pill. You won’t reach bedroom Shangri-La through whispering one powerful, filthy line in his ear. The true key to pleasuring your man like he’s never experienced, is understanding that you are relying on a combination of factors in your control and outside your control. I’m talking about what you physically do, how well you communicate with your man, your state of mind, your man’s state of mind, how long since the last time your man ejaculated and so much more.
Hi Eric,i really need ur advice thrs a guy whom i love i ve alrdy askd him out we’ve meet twice bt iam very serious about him..he said he does not want to b in a relationship..as he just had a break up wth smbdy…bt he also sayss that he will never let me go things would be the same as wen ur in relationship just it wont be official..but niwdays i feel he gets irritated while speakn online…i want him to be mine forevr…wat should i do to get him commit nd love me….
The prostate might be new territory for you, or it might be new territory for you and your guy, or maybe he's been too shy to ask for a finger up his butt, but don't leave the prostate unattended. It's time to show your guy how much pleasure he is missing in his derrière. "A lot of the penis is internal; it almost looks like a boomerang," explains Fleming. With back-door play, "you're massaging these internal nerve endings and that can feel really good." Start by adding a finger when you're both highly aroused. Soon enough, he'll be wondering why he wasn't already experimenting with prostate play. "It's definitely worth testing those waters," says Fleming.
Try this: Suck his lower lip into your mouth the next time you’re making out and use the tip of your tongue to stroke this under-lip area. "That motion stimulates the whole erogenous zone in a teasing way, which will put him on the erotic edge," says Paget. "And by keeping his lower lip inside yours, you magnify the sensation. It'll feel as if electric currents are shooting from his mouth straight to his member."
In the interest of full disclosure, I should tell you I don’t have a penis. But I’ve had enough favorable encounters with male genitalia to make me a die-hard fan. From the beginning of my sexual experience I’ve been driven to figure out just how all those magical man parts work—and I know you've been curious about how to please your man, too. And yet so many of my female friends—even those who consider themselves very sexually skilled—have scant understanding of what makes their men tick in bed, either because they’re daunted by the otherness of the male equipment or because they don’t find it as “beautiful” as what we have. Just trust me, ladies: penises are gorgeous and fascinating, and knowing how they work will make sex so much more incredible for both you and your partner.
In the past few weeks, we're not as flirty as we used to be and we still do not talk outside of work. I have texted him a few times and he has replied but it never really turned into a conversation as I felt like I was becoming too pushy. He has said to me that he's "not in any rush" but he seems to be stalling. During the drinks, he seemed very interested, back at work he has become distant.
I was wondering. I have a friend that says he don’t ever want to be an a relationship ever again because of the pain that he has experienced in the past from passed relationships but yet he wants me to open up to him which I did and he wants me to continue to open up to him. Why would a man want you to open up to them if they don’t plan on having a future with you.
"Here’s what happens: Dirty talk stimulates and engages senses that may be overlooked or under used when in a sexual situation — our imagination, thought and hearing. We are engaged with touch and smell by definition, but dirty talk engages the senses that are not as commonly used or thought to be used when having sex. These are powerful senses and thus make the sexual experience that much more exciting and fulfilling. The areas of the brain engaged are the frontal cortex where the pleasure, judgement and imagination areas of the brain are."
I have a bone to pick with you ladies. Guys, at least a considerable majority, end up literally 'studying' the female anatomy and physiology in order to get you that elusive orgasms. We try to hunt for the G spot, many times, unsuccessfully. However, We do not give up. How many of you can claim of doing the same - trying to find out what works for your man? I do not blame you though - showing up naked works out pretty well. 
"Doggy, all the way. I'm an ass man so, for me, there's nothing better than watching her ass come straight at me. My current girlfriend isn't into anal sex, which is fine, but doggy makes me feel like we're having anal, but better: there's no chance I'll wind up with an strange 'surprise' on my penis when we're finished." — Brian S., 27, Richmond, Virginia
Everyone has a mental highlight reel when it comes to their history of making whoopee. But, please, for the love of all things delicate (like our fragile male egos), when the sex deed is already underway, do him a favor and spare him the play-by-play of your sex life leading up to that moment. There will be plenty of time to get into all that during the honeymoon.
#5 Use description. Men are visual, so, you want to make sure that when your dirty talking, you use a lot of description. Don’t be scared to go into detail of what you’d like him to do to you or you do to him. With description, he’ll be able to have a visual in his mind of you and that’s exactly what you want. Now, this doesn’t mean to use big words, keep it simple.
Hi, He sounds as if he has a lot of his own insecurities and is deflecting them onto you. He is constantly trying to change you, and tell you that you aren’t enough. You sound to me as if you are not comfortable in being yourself around him. You can’t petend to be someone else to please jom forever, so picture this you are trying to adapt yourself to who he wanrlts and he is still finding flaws. Aren’t you tired already,? he is damaging your self-esteem. There is someone out there , who you may or may not have met, that will adore you flaws and all, bit you have to love yourself enough to know when you are being tolerated , and ” handled”, not loved. This guy you are with, needs you a lot more than you need him, be careful not to allow him to force you to change into someone nobody wants, so thy he can keep you all to himself, while he used you. By that, I mean an insecure, unhappy person that doesn’t feel worthy of anything.

Yes, the clitoris is the obvious place to focus your attention. Still, many men do wrong by it. “Direct stimulation of the clitoris can actually be painful,” says Cathy Winks, author of The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-spot. “It’s much better to rub the clitoral hood [where the tops of the labia meet] or to rub along the side of the clitoris than it is to go straight for the head of it.”


New places – Camping, going on vacation, staying in a hotel or even staying in a new place in your town make spontaneous sex much more likely to happen. It’s all because, being in a new location automatically makes you more susceptible to trying new things. Psychologically, you are removed from your routine, making spontaneous sex all the more likely.
28. Yes. A high-quality man recognizes the difference between turning down a request from rejecting him. It’s invigorating for us to take initiative and lead, but also hearing “no” also allows us to show the tender side of consideration. And when the “no” becomes a “yes,” the feeling inside is something indescribable. She becomes even more precious to me.
Hi, He sounds as if he has a lot of his own insecurities and is deflecting them onto you. He is constantly trying to change you, and tell you that you aren’t enough. You sound to me as if you are not comfortable in being yourself around him. You can’t petend to be someone else to please jom forever, so picture this you are trying to adapt yourself to who he wanrlts and he is still finding flaws. Aren’t you tired already,? he is damaging your self-esteem. There is someone out there , who you may or may not have met, that will adore you flaws and all, bit you have to love yourself enough to know when you are being tolerated , and ” handled”, not loved. This guy you are with, needs you a lot more than you need him, be careful not to allow him to force you to change into someone nobody wants, so thy he can keep you all to himself, while he used you. By that, I mean an insecure, unhappy person that doesn’t feel worthy of anything.
Don't lead with this (it can feel like you're skipping to the finish line), but this sort of positive reinforcement makes a difference. When these three words are lustfully strung together in the midst of sex, they sound like the human equivalent of a mating call. If you’ve already finished, it never hurts to let him know that you’re getting something out of him having an orgasm, too. Your wish is his command—or, more accurately, his come-mand.
Ladies (okay, men too) let's get real. You need to learn how to please your man with your mouth. Different men like different things, and there are a variety of techniques and positions that will both please him and make it comfortable for you. Remember, be safe. If this is your first time, make sure that you are aware of any possible sexually transmitted diseases that your man may have. You can use a condom while performing oral, although men and women mostly opt out of this option. The main thing to keep in mind is yes, you are out to excite your man, but keep your comfort in mind as well. Oral should be just as pleasurable for you as it is for your man. If you are serious about learning to please your husband or boyfriend, use these 20 tips and tricks to get the (blow) job done right!
Tip #3: The Vibrant Vibe. According to Adam, the law of attraction is that like attracts like. By this he means if you want to attract fun and exciting guys, you've got to be fun and exciting yourself. He says, "if you have the stink face' look all night and appear miserable, guess who you'll be attracting? You guessed it, the creepers." Ugh, we all know the ones right? The ones who are all, "I bet I could make you smile, girl." Ew. On the other hand, if you're enjoying yourself, you're more likely to attract great guys. According to Adam, "women who get approached by quality guys always have the vibe that projects I'm loving my night regardless!'" On a non-guy-related note, having fun is always superior to not having fun.
The goal of talking dirty is to enhance the pleasure for both of you, so relax, be real, and leave it for another time if it feels contrived or you’re self-conscious in the moment. Moans of appreciation can be good to hear, but screaming isn’t so great. And remember, you don’t have to use any words you wouldn’t normally use to infuse a shot of passion and excitement during sex.
Finally I get it - I'm precious as a woman and to get a quality man, I have to set boundaries and act like I believe it. This book made so much sense and was even better than the last dating book I read which I gave five stars to. The book was written simply without too much fanfare and hype, but it certainly got the message across. I'm changing my way of doing things and it makes me feel good about myself. I also understand the male psyche better now.
How to find it: The sacrum is the triangular bone located at the base of his spine in between his hips (think: the small of his back). There are nerves in the sacrum that are linked to the genitals, so stimulating these nerves can send sensations to his manly parts. In fact, some studies show that electrical stimulation of these nerves can trigger orgasm.
"There are at least four major nerve complexes and six or more physiological pathways to drive her to orgasm. Most of these brain pathways can trigger a 'mindgasm' completely on their own. When you stimulate more than one orgasm trigger area at the same time (within the mind and the body), they magnify each other's’ effect and the threshold for orgasm is lowered. When enough of this input reaches the brain, the orgasm reflex is triggered. A good lover will provide several different types of orgasmic stimulation at the same time."
He preceded to tell me about how she kept going for a few minutes without even realizing that she was actually having the opposite effect. Before long, he was totally cold to the idea of having sex with her, so the rest of the evening was just spent in a mediocre cuddle on the sofa while they watched a movie. They didn’t last very long as he just didn’t find her very attractive after that, despite her actually being what I would call quite a hot young lady. I’m sure that he probably had a few other reasons for not wanting to continue seeing her besides this, but her attempt at dirty talk certainly didn’t help!

Oh yeah, like that baby, don’t stop – Whether it is work or sex, everyone loves motivation. So make sure that you motivate your guy by using dirty sentences that make him want more. While sex, keep telling him that he is doing good and you are enjoying sex with him. This is one of those dirty things to say to boyfriend that will arouse him even more. 


Confront any issues that are holding you back from enjoying oral pleasure and then invite him to go down more often. Guys love seeing women in the throes of pleasure, so it is up to you to discover how you are most able to get aroused and experience climaxes so you can then share that pleasure with him. A fully satisfying sex life is possible for everyone. You just need to take the time and energy to focus on your own pleasure. You are worth it!
The following dirty talk examples are not for the faint of heart and these phrases probably shouldn’t be attempted within the first month of your new relationship (unless you met your partner at an orgy/sex party and that overtly sexual context has already been set between the two of you). As with most things to do with eroticism, it’s often the least politically correct things that are some of the biggest turn ons behind closed bedroom doors.
While there are obvious exceptions—like the dinner table rules of never mentioning family, politics or religion—it’s actually kind of tough to say the wrong thing when talk turns dirty in bed. But, in the throes of passion, mental hang-ups happen. No one who’s kind will blame you for saying something offbeat in the heat of the moment. You’re only human. It happens to everyone. And the worst case scenario is that you and your partner laugh it off together.
5. Embrace the new. What makes the early months of a love affair so passionate? Dopamine. This brain chemical, a neurotransmitter, spikes when people fall in love. But your dopamine levels return to normal after a year or so; this may make arousal problematic for an older man. To reclaim the ever-ready excitability of early romance, use novelty to boost your dopamine levels (and thus enhance arousal). This is why sex therapists urge couples to add new elements to their sex lives, such as making love in a new way, or at a different time, or in a different place. A romantic weekend getaway might present the perfect opportunity to achieve all three.
Please your man in bed by being romantic and you will enjoy a dream partnership. Being romantic is a lovely way to show your man how much you care about him. He will know that you don't just see him as a partner but as a lover as well. You make him feel like a special human being. A lovely romantic gesture you can try is to put roses on the pillows, this conjures up a very special image of romance indeed. It turns an ordinary bedroom into a romantic haven, somewhere you would expect to find in a posh hotel. The look in your eyes will tell him at a glance that you've thought of everything that will give him the wonderful experience that is yet to come. The anticipation will be a very powerful emotion for both of you.
"Most guys have 'things' that they are into, but almost all of us have an overwhelming desire to please — if we know you're into it, we're into it. I was talking to a woman once and casually/sarcastically mentioned that people looking at their phone during conversation made me want to choke them; her response was to immediately take out her phone, and whisper, 'Promises, promises.'" — Greg O., 34, Chicago, Illinois
Please your man in bed with mystery and let him solve the puzzle. Don't reveal everything about yourself in one go. Save somethings about yourself that will be revealed as time goes by. When you are in bed with him and feeling close, its nice to have pillow talk, a time when you can both nestle into each others arms and plan your dreams together. It would be lovely if you could reveal a part of yourself that would fascinate him. A part of you that would make him look at you in a whole different way, his response that he never thought you could do anything as daring or as adventurous as that, would be lovely for you to hear. A piece of the puzzle regarding you would have been solved. All of your revelations will be be very interesting to him and as each part of you is unfolded it will bring you so much closer together.
Men wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to their sex life. We all move through life at the speed of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. It’s easy to allow demands on our time and energy to rob us of the joy, pleasure and opportunity that sex affords us.  If that doesn’t make you want to “seize the day” (or something else), consider the health benefits: Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called the “bonding hormone,” bringing couples closer together while it alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.
So what's a woman to do? First, understand that your guy's hasty retreat post-sex may be because he doesn't understand how much he craves a connection with you. Then, it's time for another kitchen table sex talk, Mintz says. "If he's been jumping in the shower right after sex for the last 10 years, he's going to be really taken off guard if, the next time he goes into the shower, you all of a sudden say it upsets you," she explains. "Instead, set aside a time to talk when the situation has passed."

"Women are often uncomfortable using a vibrator in front of their partners for fear he will feel extraneous or offended," says Sue W. Goldstein, health educator and program coordinator for San Diego Sexual Medicine, a healthcare facility. But many men find it incredibly arousing to watch their partner use sexual enhancement products. Men operate visually, so watching you please yourself is a turn-on, whether he's involved or not. So don't feel shy bringing props into the bedroom.


One of the most common erotic fantasies is having sex with someone who is not your regular partner. Some women condemn such "mental unfaithfulness," but if visions of an old flame heat your blood, there's no harm in daydreaming. Many men — including older guys struggling with arousal — get turned on by pornography (men over 45 constitute 41 percent of the Internet porn audience). Again, no harm in that, as far as I'm concerned — so long as your viewing of X-rated material to get aroused doesn't grow compulsive.
Sometimes, it just pays to ask. Just like no two women are the same, no two men are the same — and neither are their fantasies. Ask your partner what his ultimate sexy wish is, and then indulge exactly that. Whether he's been dying to see you in a certain type of lingerie or have you dominate him, you'll only know if you ask. Assuming you're in a healthy, honest relationship, he'll be happy to open up.
Forget the Chanel No. 5, ladies. Chicago's Smell and Taste Research Center found the scent of pumpkin pie mixed with lavender increased men's penile blood flow more than 23 other fragrances. Why? The combination might conjure up memories of a pleasure-filled meal or simply make men feel extra-relaxed. Thanksgiving desserts and potpourri may seem innocent enough, but bake a pie next to a sprig of lavender, and your hubby may suddenly want to take a trip to the bedroom.

Even if you’re not into bondage, when it comes to roll play, it may be a good idea to briefly discuss an emergency plan together before you start exploring your fantasies. Have a clear, decidedly non-sexy phrase you can both use if things are getting out of control. It’s not a fun way to end a session of dirty pillow talk, but it’s infinitely preferable to causing permanent disgust or offence.

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This takes a certain level of trust, so a few questions to ask yourself before throwing it out there: How well do you know this guy? Is he the sort of person who’s going to be baffled by too many options? Can you confirm just how far “whatever you want” might go? Are you cool with that? If he checks all the good boxes, let the show go on. Just proceed with caution, and know that firm directions (like: “I want you to do X to Y”) are a solid backup.
If you see foreplay as something that the both of you just need to get over with, then you’re definitely doing it wrong. Foreplay is a fantastic tool that the two of you can use to really build up the romantic energy and passion that you have just before you engage in sex. In fact, foreplay can do wonders for your sex life if you just know how to make the most out of it. Remember that the strongest and happiest couples are always capitalizing on opportunities to get intimate with one another. And if you’re not one of those couples, then you should be ashamed of yourselves.
Talking dirty is another one of my pre-foreplay tips to use on your man throughout the day, before you are both alone together, as well as during foreplay itself. This is to build the sexual tension and have your man salivating for you. Many people believe that talking dirty involves you using various expletives and bad language on your partner. They believe that the crazier they sound, the better. This, thankfully, isn’t true. It’s much easier than that!
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.

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