If during sex you are making very strange facial expressions or are screaming with pleasure but he hasn't even hardly touched you yet, he is going to know you are faking. If he knows you are faking then you will damage his ego as he may think that you are faking to hide that he can’t pleasure when it isn't true. All you need to do to let him know that what he is doing is pleasuring you is make soft gentle gasps and moans.
These sexy dirty talk phrases can really turn up the heat and spice up the passion in your love life, but in any relationship there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if you get to live happily ever after or if it all ends in heartbreak so pay attention because this next step is vitally important. At some point the man you want is going to ask himself is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? And the answer to that determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…
The sexy views of doggy style and (especially) reverse cowgirl can be great for ass men, who get to view (and touch) the ass as much as they like.  “When physical limitations do not intrude, there’s also a lot to be said for the excitement of lifting his partner up (legs around his waist for stability, and up against a wall for even more stability),” says Queen. 

To dip your toe into Fifty Shades for Beginners territory, Dr. Kristie Overstreet PhD suggests telling your partner that he can’t talk, touch, or even move unless he’s told to. Tell him if he disobeys you or doesn’t follow your directions, he’ll be punished. Boss him around a little, and tell him how you want him to touch you, what to say, and direct his every move. Watch him squirm and remind him from time to time that you’re in control.

Please your man in bed by not being a prude. Be open to all the excitement that you can have by being more adventurous. Maybe your man wants you to try something different and you are not sure if it will be right for you. Let him know how you feel and explain that you are feeling unsure of yourself because you haven't done this particular thing before. He will be happy that you have confided in him and he will love helping you discover a new pleasure that you both can share together. As time goes by you will grow closer together and trust in each other's company with full understanding of what it is that turns you both on.


Please your man in bed by being happy and the relationship you're in will be greatly cherished. Everybody wants to be happy, especially your man. When you are happy it makes it easier for him to be happy. Any stresses you both may have felt in the day will be quickly banished when you are in bed together enjoying each other's company. It's nice to have an upbeat relationship where you can both feed off the other person’s happiness. Happiness is like an infection, it's catching. So when you are happy in bed with him, he will catch the infection from you and he will be happy too.
You may not know where the boundaries are until you test them out. But it’s important that you do test the limits and see where the line is. Setting boundaries in sex is extremely important. If he likes dirty talking in a vulgar manner, however, you don’t like it, then you know where the boundary is. You don’t like it, so that’s where the line gets marked.

Of course, you’re going to be shown how to dirty talk, but there’s one thing about dirty talking that is the most important factor. When dirty talking, you need to feel comfortable and natural. If not, you’re going to show that you’re uncomfortable and uneasy with it. You don’t have to be a specific type of girl in order to dirty talk, you simply need to feel comfortable.


#5 Use description. Men are visual, so, you want to make sure that when your dirty talking, you use a lot of description. Don’t be scared to go into detail of what you’d like him to do to you or you do to him. With description, he’ll be able to have a visual in his mind of you and that’s exactly what you want. Now, this doesn’t mean to use big words, keep it simple.
Knowing how to please your man in bed will give you a fabulous feeling of satisfaction. When he is happy you are happy and that has got to be one of life's ultimate goals. There are many differing aspects of ways to please your man in bed. I have spoken to several of my friends regarding this topic and they have all contributed with their own take on what it is that pleases their men in bed.

A good time to do this is if you are driving home from somewhere and want to work up his appetite for sex so you lean over and whisper in his ear “as soon as we get home, I want you to…”. The more you go into details about what it is you want him to do you or what you want to do to him, the more eager he will be and the more electrifying excitement will be in the air.
#5 Use description. Men are visual, so, you want to make sure that when your dirty talking, you use a lot of description. Don’t be scared to go into detail of what you’d like him to do to you or you do to him. With description, he’ll be able to have a visual in his mind of you and that’s exactly what you want. Now, this doesn’t mean to use big words, keep it simple.
Making eye contact makes a difference. But so does looking away. This is a technique that’s tried and true. It’s one that’s lasted for generations and one that will continue to flourish in the future. Coy looks dominate the flirtatious game. First, look at him, slightly intensely, even from the corner of your eye for this method is the real winner. Wait until he catches your glance. Hold the eye contact for no more than three seconds, then look away slowly. To make an impact, took another glance in under thirty seconds. Don’t worry, if he’s not looking, he’ll sense your eyes on him again. That first coy look already got his attention and he’s waiting to see if you’ll look again. Now go in for the kill because he’s gone from predator to prey.
Ladies…all I can say is if you feel insecure about your looks then make yourself more attractive for YOU! Not for a man. There’s nothing that increases a woman’s feelings of insecurity more than doing something to herself FOR a man, or for the purpose of attracting men. It may make you feel confident and powerful in the short term, but that feeling doesn’t last if your focus is on doing it for him. Your purpose should be feeling better about yourself and increasing your own confidence regardless of men. What men seem to forget is that women are not on this earth solely for their pleasure. How you feel about yourself should be totally independent of what men think.
So, you have just started giving him the best oral sex ever. Now what? There are three types of men. Some men will get quickly excited when you perform oral and will climax quickly. Some men will take forever to climax and you may end up getting tired or frustrated, jumping into intercourse to get him off. Or, you have the perfect in-between when he will climax before your mouth, neck, throat, and hands tire. Regardless of the time it takes, he may eventually climax. The question is...do you spit or swallow when he finally reaches that point? Tip #15: Be prepared for a variety of outcomes. He may climax, he may not. He may stay hard, he may not. Despite the number of possibilities, you need to be prepared. There is nothing worse than if your man starts to lose his mojo and you react with frustration. He'll be frustrated and there is nothing worse for a man's ego than seeing a negative emotion on your face. Have a game plan. If he goes soft, start using your hands more, or explore other options (or blame it on yourself that your mouth or other areas of your body hurt). Sometimes taking the blame will ease the tension. Tip #16: If your man is about to climax, know the signs. This may be difficult if this is the first time you have ever performed oral, or if this is the first time that you have performed oral on this particular person. Most men will get extremely hard just before they are about to climax. Some will ejaculate with pre-cum just before they are ready to let loose. Their bodies will tense up. No matter what, don't stop! If he is about to get off from your amazing oral sex, don't drop the ball no matter what! Tip #17: Spit it out. If the option presents itself to spit or swallow, many women will opt to spit. This doesn't mean you have to be insanely gross about it. There are many women who do not particularly like the taste of ejaculation. Let it run down his member while you finish him off. This is particularly sexy to men, seeing it drip from your lips and tongue. Tip #18: Gobble gobble and swallow it up! This is for you girls who are a little more experienced. The more versed you are in the art of oral, the more you will tolerate or even enjoy swallowing at this point of performing. You can either swallow a little at a time or keep going and swallow it all at once. Again, the main thing to remember is not to stop. Use your hand to help get him completely off. It will only be like a tablespoon, so when it starts to hit your mouth, don't stop to swallow. Use your hands to keep the motion going so that he can climax completely.
A good time to do this is if you are driving home from somewhere and want to work up his appetite for sex so you lean over and whisper in his ear “as soon as we get home, I want you to…”. The more you go into details about what it is you want him to do you or what you want to do to him, the more eager he will be and the more electrifying excitement will be in the air.

Believe it or not, every guy loves to be with confident, independent and passionate women. They want a woman who can drive them crazy with their hot dirty talk, looks and style. And the best way to attract your partner and to intensify your sex life is to learn some dirty things to whisper in his ear. Filthy talk seems fun to some whereas a daunting task to other people, but with a little practice, you can surely master the art of talking dirty to your boyfriend. Trust me, adding a bit of spice and Vavoom to your partner’s day with dirty talks will make him go crazy for you. He will think of nothing but you. Use these 20 hot dirty talk phases to make him crazy over you.
A close second, highly powerful, signal that a guy should make a move is a smile. A smile tells a wary man you like him and, more importantly, you aren’t going to humiliate him by shutting him down if he risks approaching you. It’s not that you need to go around smiling all the time, but when you make eye contact, flash him a smile too, and he should get the message. The message is nicely delivered with very little effort on your part—there doesn’t even have to be a break in the friendly banter you were engaging in. Which brings me to our third signal.
28. Yes. A high-quality man recognizes the difference between turning down a request from rejecting him. It’s invigorating for us to take initiative and lead, but also hearing “no” also allows us to show the tender side of consideration. And when the “no” becomes a “yes,” the feeling inside is something indescribable. She becomes even more precious to me.

Sure, binging Planet Earth might not be the hottest thing around, but there’s something to be said about looking to the animal kingdom for a little #inspo. Dave, 24, was totally psyched when a woman he was seeing asked to get a little wild. "An ex-girlfriend lay down on the bed and begged me to rip off her clothes, which I did. The sex was great, but letting me tear her shirt in half was the best part because it was passionate and intense."


4. Be patient — with yourself and with her. Sex therapists have a saying: "What young men want to do all night takes older men all night to do." Reframe that truism just a bit, however, and you discover a boon to older sex: A perennial complaint of younger women has to do with young men who rush into genital play before the woman feels warmed up and receptive. An older man's slower pace of arousal dovetails nicely with what women prefer, enhancing erotic compatibility. So before either of you reaches for your partner's undercarriage, cuddle and kiss playfully: Use slow, sensual massage to touch each other all over, from scalp to toes. After 30 minutes or so, she's likely to feel sufficiently aroused to enjoy genital play. (And chances are good that you will, too.)
But what exactly do you have to be doing in order for the two of you to be doing foreplay the correct way? First, it’s important to establish what REAL foreplay is supposed to look like so that you can gain a better understanding of what it really is. The first thing that you have to keep in mind is that foreplay doesn’t always have to be a routine. Yes, you can have your go-to moves, but you don’t have to stick to them if you want to play around. In fact, it’s always encouraged that you be brave and creative enough to mix things up a little bit every once in a while.
The thing to realize is that people with great relationships don’t have the great relationships because they know great relationship secrets or psychological loopholes of the male mind. Fundamentally, people in the best relationships all have one thing in common: they don’t have relationships with people who are not a good match for them. They don’t let them into their life.
#7 Don’t swear too much. When it comes to knowing how to talk dirty to your man, maybe I’m biased but if you swear too much, it kinda kills the sensuality between you. For sure, you can swear but don’t overdo it. There are certain words which actually turn people off when you use them in a sexual manner. Not everyone likes being called a bitch or whore, so if you’re going to say these words, check in with them if they’re okay with it.
Men highly underestimate the power of a woman's mind over her body. “If her mind isn't present within the sexual experience then her ability to become aroused will be difficult,” says Tyomi Morgan, sex educator/sexuality coach. The brain is the largest sex organ there is so stimulate her mind first before moving to the erogenous zones of her body. Making her feel safe and comfortable is the first step to arousing the mind and then securing her trust. “Once safety and trust are established it's a matter of helping her unwind from the stresses of the day and drawing into her emotionally. Allow her to vent her frustrations, be empathetic and then move into giving her a back rub. Show her you are interested in more than just getting into her vagina before you move into intercourse,” says Morgan. When her mind is relaxed and free of stress her body will follow.
Not only does talking dirty to your husband (or boyfriend) keep your partner thinking about you, but it also makes sex more enjoyable and hotter. More than anything, it is fun to learn and use dirty talk in bed. You can say dirty sentences while making out with your partner in bed, via texts, or via indulging in a phone sex (use telephone sex words), the choice is all yours. And there are plenty of dirty things to text your boyfriend or whisper in his ear. This might surprise you, but dirty sex talk works best in boosting a man’s ego in bed. If you were wondering what men want in bed, well dirty talking is one of those things.
Tip #3: The Vibrant Vibe. According to Adam, the law of attraction is that like attracts like. By this he means if you want to attract fun and exciting guys, you've got to be fun and exciting yourself. He says, "if you have the stink face' look all night and appear miserable, guess who you'll be attracting? You guessed it, the creepers." Ugh, we all know the ones right? The ones who are all, "I bet I could make you smile, girl." Ew. On the other hand, if you're enjoying yourself, you're more likely to attract great guys. According to Adam, "women who get approached by quality guys always have the vibe that projects I'm loving my night regardless!'" On a non-guy-related note, having fun is always superior to not having fun.

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