While there are obvious exceptions—like the dinner table rules of never mentioning family, politics or religion—it’s actually kind of tough to say the wrong thing when talk turns dirty in bed. But, in the throes of passion, mental hang-ups happen. No one who’s kind will blame you for saying something offbeat in the heat of the moment. You’re only human. It happens to everyone. And the worst case scenario is that you and your partner laugh it off together.


Couples so often get into a sex routine — same time of night, same place, same position. And while your husband may not make an active move to change things, men want to have the power to switch up patterns and take total control, says Haltzman. Get out one of his silk ties, have him bind your hands together, and let him take it from there. We suspect you won't regret it.
There is something quite intimate about performing oral on your boyfriend or husband. It is a completely different feel from having standard intercourse. Make sure that you take some time to look up at your man if you are on your knees or on top performing oral. There is nothing better than for your man to look down and see your big eyes looking up at him sensually. This will really get his mojo rising. The great thing about oral is that it can be performed out of the blue. It doesn't always have to be used as a method of foreplay - it can be an action all in itself. Especially when a female is going through that time of the month. You can always spark excitement and respect when you provide oral at the most random of times. It's great giving oral in the shower, while he is watching a movie or football game (especially if he is laying down and can see the curve of your butt in the light of the television), or while he is eating. Another positive about oral is that his ejaculation only amounts to about ten calories per serving and is an excellent source of protein! If you are not quite ready to jump in the sack, oral is a great way to round that corner. It is a little more personal than just using your hands. There are women who do not enjoy giving oral. Have your man take a shower beforehand, so that it will decrease any "fum-munda" scent that may be lingering. Be prepared for a salty taste - that is the best way to describe it. Also, ejaculation is creamy, not watery. The texture is what can throw a woman off more than anything. Men really enjoy having oral performed on them, but once again, don't be shy. Add some pressure, but watch out for your teeth. Men like a tight vagina because they can feel it, and the same goes for oral. If you experiment with different positions, different scenarios, and a variety of techniques, you will find out what will be the best for your man and for your own comfort level. One size does not fit all, so get creative and have fun!

The best way for you to free yourself from the stereotype that foreplay is only about pleasuring the woman, you can do your part to tease your man; you can be spicing up the experience for him as well. There are plenty of ways in which you can really get your man into the mood for doing it. Remember that sex is just as much mental as it is physical and emotional. You have to be able to play with his senses and stimulate him in ways that he never would have imagined.


What Real Women Say: "My husband uses dirty talk to give me a preview of what he's going to do to me next," says Isabel, 29. "He'll be fingering me and tell me, as he's doing so, that he can't wait to be inside me like this, or he'll run his tongue along my ear and say that he's going to do that while going down on me. Then he'll take his time getting there – but my mind is already on him following through with those promises, which makes even the smallest thing he's doing to me feel more intense."
Please your man in bed by relaxing and your time together will flow with a natural vibe. I have a friend called Helen, she is so laid back that nothing seems to phase her. What we would think of as a crisis she would think of as a minor hiccup. Her advice for you is to let things move along at their own pace. Don't try to force a situation just because it's what you want. Your man will relax and be himself when you too are relaxed. She says he won't like it if you are constantly acting stressed. When you are in bed together just let things take their natural course, relax and enjoy the closeness you can share together.

Drive him wild: "Gently flicking the raphe with your tongue feels great to most men," Cavanah says. "Let him guide you on how much pressure he likes, because the amount varies depending on the guy." To get him really hot, sip on very warm tea and then flick your heated tongue over this sensitive area. He'll lose himself in the new feelings, and novelty can make for more powerful orgasms.  
#4 Give head. This is something that, for some reason, a lot of women don’t prefer to do. However, men really, really enjoy receiving oral sex. You’ll know this if you go down on him and do it. Just make sure you’re being enthusiastic about it. He’ll be super pleased if you actually want to make him feel good. [Read: 15 blowjob moves that’ll blow his mind]
A smile may be worth a thousand words, but all-out chuckles could earn you a hot night in the bedroom. According to Maria Sophocles, MD, an assistant professor at the University of Basel in Switzerland and member of the Intimina Medical Advisory Board, men are subconsciously aroused by a woman's laugh, possibly because the sound reminds them of the moans they may hear during sex, explains Dr. Sophocles. One more motivator to find a man who's funny.

In the interest of full disclosure, I should tell you I don’t have a penis. But I’ve had enough favorable encounters with male genitalia to make me a die-hard fan. From the beginning of my sexual experience I’ve been driven to figure out just how all those magical man parts work—and I know you've been curious about how to please your man, too. And yet so many of my female friends—even those who consider themselves very sexually skilled—have scant understanding of what makes their men tick in bed, either because they’re daunted by the otherness of the male equipment or because they don’t find it as “beautiful” as what we have. Just trust me, ladies: penises are gorgeous and fascinating, and knowing how they work will make sex so much more incredible for both you and your partner.
There’s nothing worse than spending a hot, sexy weekend together, and then as soon as your man goes off to work, he starts to forget all that incredible love making. By making it extra vivid, and involving all his senses, he won’t be able to forget. You can also keep that sexual vibe going by sending him dirty text messages or leaving him naughty voicemails. This will ensure that he is fantasizing about you all day, every day, no matter where he happens to be in the world. It might be 3 A.M. on the other side of the world, but he’ll wake up in the idle of the night dreaming of being inside you again.
Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.
Please your man in bed with new tricks and enjoy the praise you will receive each and every day for keeping your man entertained. Adding a new dimension to your bedroom escapades will give you the opportunity to express yourself in an entirely individual way. Enjoy each other's company a lot more by talking about what new tricks you will get up to together. You will find that you will be giving one another secret looks that mean something very special is going to happen when you are in the bedroom together later. Only the two of you will understand what is to come and this knowledge will give you a powerful and trusting bond.
In my personal life, I meet all sorts of people.  Some people are easy and fun to be around … I can spend hours with them, talking about things, laughing about things, and just genuinely enjoying their company. Being around them doesn’t require effort and I don’t want anything from them. I would have just as much fun driving in the car with them and chatting as I would doing something “exciting.”
Really, this should all happen rather naturally, but sometimes when a guy makes you nervous, it can be easy to clam up. If this sounds like you, pay special attention to your posture. How are you seated or standing? If your hips, feet, and shoulders are 100 percent aligned with your girlfriend at the bar, and the cute guy who caught your eye is to the left, right, or behind you, you are sending him the wrong signals. According to research, women who face their chairs out toward the man they are interested in or open their stance when standing have the most success signaling men to approach. Don’t just take it from me. We also talked to real guys who say they notice this, among other things.

To stand apart from the average, you’ll be required to do something wild, one he won’t stop pondering over the following day. If you are adept in some special technique which is greatly hot and separate, his mind will carry the imprint of the whole erotic experience. You can use the old tweak of shifting within oral sex & intercourse while he is blindfolded. You can also try out your novel mouth action. Like your ex-girlfriend may switch between the flat portion of the tongue and then use the tip over the same place which can impart an entirely new sensation.

Ladies, before you become an expert, you need to practice. People laugh when the thought of giving a banana, Popsicle, or sex toy oral pleasure comes to mind, but if you don't get your throat in shape, you may be in for an awful surprise. Tip #6: Practice. Practice. Practice. His member is going to hit the back of your throat. Either your gag reflex is going to act up, or you will have no problems. Gag reflex can lead to vomiting, so practicing can help train your throat to tolerate the intrusion. Tip #7: Go deep. There is nothing better for a guy (be careful of the teeth) than when you go deep. When I say deep...I mean all the way down your throat. Sounds like it hurts, right? Again, that is where practice comes in handy. Tip #8: Go deep and then rock it from there. Just like when it feels like it is all the way down your throat, bob your head from there. There is something about the tip of your man's member hitting that stopping point and knocking against it that will drive him crazy.
People who have affairs do a lot of risqué things such as doing the dirty in the office, at a hotel or in the car. You can use this scenario by suggesting risqué places to have sex to your partner. To get him to join you in this fantasy, you could say something like “if I was having an affair with you, I’d pull you in there and…” This will get his mind racing at thought of whisking into the nearby cubicle or room.
But what exactly do you have to be doing in order for the two of you to be doing foreplay the correct way? First, it’s important to establish what REAL foreplay is supposed to look like so that you can gain a better understanding of what it really is. The first thing that you have to keep in mind is that foreplay doesn’t always have to be a routine. Yes, you can have your go-to moves, but you don’t have to stick to them if you want to play around. In fact, it’s always encouraged that you be brave and creative enough to mix things up a little bit every once in a while.
Before you dive straight into it and start writing down all the naughty things you want to say to your man, try and find out whether this is actually something that would arouse him. Not all men are the same and so some will like dirty talking and some will cringe and could possibly even turn them off. Don’t let this scare you though and put you off; you just need to test the waters a little before diving right in.
1. Understand why things have changed. Blame it on evolution: The biological mission of life is to reproduce life. Over the eons, humans evolved to take full advantage of their reproductive opportunities. That's why young men are hot to trot. After age 50 or so, however, the nervous system becomes less excitable, and erotic urgency cools. At a certain point, even once-randy billy goats may have this inconceivable thought: Gee, I don't want to — I'm not turned on.
It’s easy to fall into a rut, but there’s nothing like spontaneity to keep things fresh in a hookup. You may also want to do something unexpected, like initiating a new position or trying a passion prop. "My girlfriend and I were out shopping when she suggested we check out this sex-toy shop," Nick, 27, says. "We ended up buying this thing called a penis sleeve, which is basically a thick, bumpy condom. Not only was it fun to use, but I loved how eager she was to try it."
Before I found a loving and patient partner to explain exactly how his equipment works, I was scared to touch men the wrong way. The penis hangs out there so uncovered and vulnerable, I thought. What if I hurt it? This is another situation in which communication is key. Like a skilled masseuse, you want to make sure the pressure’s right; you want a grip that is tight, but not overly so. And once you get comfortable, don’t be afraid to take charge.
You have given the best advice that I have ever read from any article or book out there and trust I have read MANY. I see where I have been going wrong with my relationships and I see that I am putting too much of what I want them to be for me in it. I see where my negative thoughts have failed me and how I can go about changing me to be a better me for a relationship. Your views are so on point and I completely understand exactly where you are coming from. I will continue to read and reread your advice until I get myself where I need to be physically and emotionally. I definitely dont live in the moment with the man I have been with and I have gotten the I dont want a relationship thing from him but I definitely see where I went wrong because this man was interested in me from the beginning and he is still here. So I see where I went wrong. I see where I need to change just from reading your articles. I am seeing clearly. Now just to adjust my behavior and actions. I believe I will see a change in him. You cant expect people to change if you dont change yourself first… Thanks for all the great advice :)

The next time you're looking for a little action, you may want to spend the day volunteering together—or at least share a few photos of yourself doing good. According to an August 2016 study in the British Journal of Psychology, people who help others appear more desirable to the opposite sex and have more frequent sex. "It appears that altruism evolved in our species, in part, because it serves as a signal of other underlying desirable qualities, which helps individuals reproduce," said lead study author Steven Arnocky of Nipissing University in a statement.


I bet you’ve never thought about your dude’s Adam’s apple as an erogenous zone, huh? If you have, congrats, you should probably be writing this instead of me. But for the normies out there, the thought behind this stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is “closely linked to the sex organs, according to ancient Chinese medicine,” according to reflexologist Mantak Chia, author of Sexual Reflexology.
When you follow this as outlined, it all adds up to something magical. When you embody a love of his Masculinity with your Appreciation for who he is, add in some Gratitude, a Nurturing spirit, an Easy-going nature, an ability to be Trustworthy, and honor his Independence all while captivating him — it all adds up to one thing. The final S is for Soulmate because that's what you'll have found.

Men want to be the hunter. That’s why flirting and using dirty talk sayings can work so well. It lets a man know you’re interested and attracted to him. It teases him in a way that makes him want to chase you. And, best of all, you can do it in a way that makes him think that he is the one responsible for your sexual advances, when in reality you are in complete control of the situation.


Realize differences in communication. Men can often miss the subtle messages that people send in their body language. Don't judge a guy because of this; it's just the way men are. Subtle body language like smiles only make a man think that you might like him; he can't assume it means you're interested without being accused of being a self-absorbed jerk. To drive the point home, gradually introduce more "obvious" body language like playful touches on the arm, playful banter and teasing, winks, inside jokes, playfulness, or (when you know him better) attempts to find a man's ticklish spots. (Don't be afraid to kindly tease him over minor things - people who pretend a man is perfect are regarded as weak in their eyes.) Flirting will not only show him you like him enough to get that physical and playful, but also help to break the physical barrier and allow a man to feel more comfortable making a few advances to you. But don't forget to look at how he is reacting to you.

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